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The reactions to The Batman part 2 announcements are always so funny on twt

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This is the largest mass killing of trans people in recorded history and “constitutes a grave breach of international humanitarian law.” Israeli Defense Minister Israel Katz confirmed the strike was intentional without going into further detail.

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Ultimately the reason why it makes me roll my eyes every time there's a post that makes fun of the way americans don't know shit about the world and someone adds a response about how it's not niceys to make fun of people for not knowing things and everyone has blindspots and you weren't born knowing everything and blah blah blah today's lucky 10.000 UwwwwwU etc. is because, ultimately, I don't think what's wrong with the average online american is that they're ignorant, ignorant people are everywhere, and everyone is ignorant about a lot of things.

What's wrong with the average online american is not that they're ignorant, it's that every time they have to confront the things they're ignorant about they immediately construct a narrative where their ignorance is the product of some uniquely and exclusively american disadvantage that they, and apparently no one else in the world, have to deal with ("our educative system doesn't teach us anything about the world, you don't understand how bad it is", "we're bombarded with propaganda since birth", "we're subjected to a culture that punishes curiosity instead of rewarding it", "we're so overworked and underpaid, you think we have the energy to try to learn anything in our spare time?", or my favorite I saw a couple months ago "well you might not know this but for the average american traveling abroad is not really accessible so it's not like we can visit other countries to learn about their culture" as if the average person outside the US is constantly taking international vacations or something) when, in reality, their ignorance is a product of immense cultural privilege, a product of the fact that they even have the ability to go through their entire life without needing to learn shit about anywhere else in the world, which is something that no one else in the world has (well people from other first world countries kinda have it too but not to the same degree as americans because in terms of cultural hegemony the U.S. is the first world's first world)

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when I say “Let me ask my husband”, one (or both) of these things is taking place:

1. I am in a loving, happy relationship where we value and respect each other’s opinion

2. I am using this as an excuse to get out of something I don’t want to do (sorry habibi)

what is not happening here: I am being oppressed

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listen, sometimes it's more powerful for a fictional relationship to be a friendship precisely because friendship is devalued in comparison to romance. anyone can sacrifice themself for the love of their life. but for a friend? if anything, that kind of devotion can be even more moving than if the relationship is romantic. there's a real dramatic power to prioritising friendship in your narratives sometimes.

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Alejandro Zambra, Ways of Going Home (translated by Megan McDowell)

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James Gunn’s thesis statement for his Superman is simple and effective: "Be good. Do good. Be human despite the bad things. That is the most punk rock thing in a world so stoic and cynical."

And that’s how it should be. That’s beautiful, the new Superman movie is beautiful.

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when you're totally normal and not an ethnostate

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— william wordsworth (via letsbelonelytogetherr)

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DID/OSDD Casually Explained: Masterpost

Here is a list of all my Casual Explanations about DID/OSDD. Please note that these are specific to the experiences of DID/OSDD and should not be attributed to anything else.

My casual explanations are a combination of academic research, personal experience, and community feedback. I am not a professional. I’m simply a person with dissociated parts, one of whom enjoys doing research. A lot.

If you would like to repost my work elsewhere, please include a link back to this post so others can see my sources!

DID/OSDD Casually Explained posts:

What Causes DID/OSDD?

How Alters/Parts are Experienced Internally

Parts In Control

Elaboration of Parts

What Is Integration?

Splits in Established Systems

Substitute Beliefs

One Person’s Experience of Having Dissociated Parts

Parts and Memories

Understanding Dissociated Parts:

Part 1: Belief and Appearance

Part 2: All About Introjects

Main Sources:

Books:

The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization by Onno van der Hart

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele, and Onno van der Hart

Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele, and Onno van der Hart

Treating Adult Survivors of Childhood Emotional Abuse and Neglect: Component-Based Psychotherapy by Hopper, Grossman, Spinazzola, and Zucker

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation by Janina Fisher

Helpful Links:

The Treatment of Structural Dissociation in Chronically Traumatized Patients by Janina Fisher (pdf)

International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (2011): Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder in Adults, Third Revision

Trauma-related Structural Dissociation of the Personality by Ellert Nijenhuis, Onno van der Hart, & Kathy Steele

PODS (Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors)

DIS-SOS

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Some restraint prompts!

Hands tied together in front of whumpee's back or in front!

Hands put above whumpee's head. Right above? Spread apart?

Hands tied tight to the body.

All in a net (merwhump?)

Magically restrained in an invisible way. Compulsion, stunning, pain if whumpee tries to escape...

Ankles bound together with minimal slack.

Rope? Metal? Leather? Plastic? Some sort of sci fi or magical hard light?

Complex shibori style knots that're meant to be humiliating or simple and practical.

Completely unnecessary collars.

Chained to something! A wall? A throne?

Tight enough to almost cut off circulation?

Seemingly excessive amounts of restraints for someone small. Is it really unnecessary?

Tie up your whumper! Are they really defeated? What are they telling the supposedly victorious whumpee from their position of "weakness"?

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this teen vogue article on necropolitics still relevant

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He just needed a bit of motivation.

From my story, The Fractured Urn. Previous part here!

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He just needed a bit of motivation.

From my story, The Fractured Urn. Previous part here!

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severus having to give harry the birds and the bees talk except they're both asexual so it's both 10x more awkward and kinda useless