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I saw a thought experiment recently, which essentially asked "if you were alone on a desert island, and all your physical needs were met, would you still transition?" I'm aware I'm probably super late to this question, apologies if this is overdone, but I wanted to ponder it anyway.

I think the answer for me is yes, but probably very differently. Some people might use this to say "oh you're not really trans if you say no" or something similar, but that's not true.

(Short disclaimer, everything I'm about to say is only my own personal experience with my own gender, everyone's transitions are different and your experience is just as valid as mine.)

For me, I think I would, but I would feel far less confident or happy in it. Yes, the desert island is devoid of social constructs and pressures, and allows you to truly be yourself with no filters, and for some people that might be better, even ideal. For me though, I think I would be very lonely.

Before anyone says "but this is a theoretical about your transition, not your social needs" I disagree. For me, the two are so intrinsically tied together that they can't be separated. I didn't just transition to a woman, I transitioned from a social outcast and total shut-in to a friend, a partner, and a sister. I barely even talked to my own siblings as a kid, and I often found myself with no friends at all. I had no relationships or partners, and I never sought one out. Now, I have dozens, people I can rely on, who can rely on me, and who I can call "friends". I have a girlfriend who I love with all my heart, and I know she loves me back.

No, my transition is not reliant on social pressures or norms. No, I don't need external validation in order to see myself as valuable or beautiful. No, I don't care what some online transphobe or chaser is going to think of me, or what "category" of gender someone might put me in at first glance. What I do care about is how those I love see me. I want to share this journey with people I care about. I don't want to do this alone, not just because I am vulnerable and need the help of others sometimes, but also because I want them to see the joy that I get from it. I want them to be able to look at me and see how much happier I have become. And I want them to be able to do the same, I want to witness their joy too. I want my happiness to be infectious, so I can use it to be better to others around me.

For me, being trans isn't just about transitioning. It's about being me, the most real and true version of me. And my friends are a part of me, so without them I could never be whole.

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This one goes out to all the aro/ace people, you're pretty cool

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Why does it feel like half the problems that cis/straight people complain about in relationships could be solved by just starting an ethical polycule

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What they don't tell you about writing a ttrpg setting is how much retconning you're going to do. You'll write the setting, put everything into place, go 'yup, all set' and start the game. Then you'll immediately realize that you could have done this or that or the other thing and it would have been so much cooler.

The other thing they don't tell you is that you can just change it. If it hasnt happened yet? You can rewrite it and nobody will know. If it has happened yet? Your players aren't going to remember a one-line lore note you mention in the middle of dialog, so edit it. I rewrote the entire overarching plot of my series of campaigns and setting two years into running it and my players didn't even notice. Screw lore consistency, this is your world and you decide what happens in it, all that matters is that you and your players are having fun.

Never let consistency or 'lore' get in the way of your own fun as the writer.

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Second best part about hrt giving me boobs is the look on my transphobic family's faces when I wear a low-cut top around them. It's like they can't decide if they're mad because I'm a woman, or because I'm a slut

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Pictured above: a thirty second sketch of myself after my girlfriend comes around after work "just to say hi"

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In this crew, we use he/him pronouns for the ship because the figurehead is booked for top surgery in 6 months.

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Reblog if you stand against order, civilization, and goodness itself

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"love every trans woman you meet" means EVERY trans woman not just the cool and funny and hot ones

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Seriously.

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I had one of these near me a little while ago. Almost exactly what you're describing, it was run by three polyamorous people, and it was very queer. The first tuesday of every month they'd run a meetup night for queer people. That was the first place I ever went to proudly displaying my name and pronouns, and it helped me become more confident to be myself. I don't know what happened to it, but I looked up the website one day and it was just... gone. The cafe had been sold, and the meetups weren't on anymore. I have the contact info of one or two other people from there, but most of them I've completely lost contact with.

I want to go to a gay bar

However I do not want to go to a gay bar because I do not, nor will I ever, drink alcohol. I do not particularly want to be around drunks.

So instead of a gay bar, I propose a Queer Cat Cafe.

Non allergenic cats ofc

There's a section of the cafe where the cats can't go if you don't want cats near you. That section is the library.

There are lil pride flags everywhere, even the obscure ones.

They sell pride pins for £1.50ish each at the counter.

There are LED lights.

It's autism friendly, lights can be toned down if needed and everything is neatly spaced out

You can have a sticker to write your pronouns on

Mostly queer artists/songs played

feel free to add on

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Love how tumblr has its own folk stories. Yeah the God of Arepo we’ve all heard the story and we all still cry about it. Yeah that one about the woman locked up for centuries finally getting free. That one about the witch who would marry anyone who could get her house key from her cat and it’s revealed she IS the cat after the narrator befriends the cat.

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"Stop saying 15 year olds with weird interests are cringe, they're 15" this is true however you should also stop saying adults with weird interests are cringe because who gives a shit

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Someday I may get accused of using AI to draw for me, and I'm going to have to awkwardly explain that no, it's not AI generated, I'm just really shit at drawing hands

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Someone said "Are you really so stupid to think that Africa has the same technological advances as us? If they did they would probably have clean water and not live in houses made of sticks and mud. Get over yourself and stop being so ignorant."..... Below is a tiny collection of images of the Africa they refuse to show you..

ches

I’m sorry you’ve been made to believe that the whole of Africa is poor, I really am..

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Source

Want more info? Here ya go: 

This Biology Teacher Disproved Transphobia With Science 

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Sex redefined

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

More on anti-trans arguments as bad science

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To be trans is to change for the better.