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Man POWER Monday - Bakari Sellers has "intellectual swag"

It is “Man POWER Monday”!!! This week I am featuring none other than Bakari Sellers. I am so digging his “intellectual swag” right now.  A native of South Carolina, Bakari Sellers was born on September 18, 1984. After earning his undergraduate degree from Morehouse College, Sellers went on to earn his Juris Doctorate degree from the University of South Carolina School of Law . While in law…

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Your Heart Wants You To Floss And Brush

Your Heart Wants You To Floss And Brush

If fresh breath is not enough incentive for you to want to brush and floss, I am here to offer another incentive. Studies have shown that people with gum disease have two to three times the risk of having a heart attack, stroke, or other serious heart issues. This has led scientists to conclude that gum disease and heart disease may be linked. I don’t know about you, but as a fifty-one-year-old…

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From Prison To Luxury Brand CEO

From Prison To Luxury Brand CEO

I oftentimes find inspiration where I least expect it.Tonza Lately, I have been uninspired. As a creative with career and mommy duties, it is easy to fall into this rut. Sometimes instead of pushing through, I decide to pause and tune in to the world around me. I was in my car for a couple of hours, so I scrolled through my podcast library and landed on Earn Your Leisure Episode #198, Former…

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How Caregivers Impact Attachment Styles

How Caregivers Impact Attachment Styles

Last week I shared the four attachment styles. In that post, I promised to share more about how a person’s attachment style develops. So, here we go. SECURE Secure attachment is the gold standard attachment style. As mentioned last week, a securely attached person can trust and be trusted, love and accept love, and get close to others with relative ease. According to some experts, there are…

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What Is Your Attachment Style

What Is Your Attachment Style

A person’s specific way of relating to others in relationships.Definition of Attachment Style Before you start reading, if you are a parent, please know this post will make you reflect and possibly travel down a rabbit hole full of guilty feelings. Stop yourself. There are numerous studies out there that focus on an individual’s attachment style. And, just as you guessed, how a child is reared…

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Spending Freeze Challenge

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have an unlimited supply of cash. Or, as my grandmother used to say, there are no money trees in my yard. Despite the lack of money trees, I love having financial freedom, which means I must “watch my coins”. I can think of no better way to “watch my coins” than implementing a spending freeze. Last night I invited one of my daughters and her friend to…

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Leave The World With Few Regrets

Leave The World With Few Regrets

We are all going to die. Sorry to be so blunt. While we all know that human existence is not permanent, the demands of our lives and fear often require us to turn a blind eye to the inevitable truth. Living without intention and turning that blind eye to the reality of our eventual non-existence has often led to people having many regrets. My unwillingness or inability to consider the inevitable…

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Watch That MindFu#%er

Someone that intentionally destabilizes, confuses, or manipulates the mind of another person.Definition of Mindfu#%er I hate to admit it, but it gives me great relief that I am not the only woman in the world that has experienced being mindfu#%ed. Of course, I do not want other women to experience the mental and emotional destabilization I experienced. It is just something about knowing you are…

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Pinky Cole Put The "Slut" In Vegan

Pinky Cole Put The “Slut” In Vegan

Every time I go to Atlanta, I try to have the Slutty Vegan experience. Unfortunately, the line is always so long that you have to wait hours to get in, which means I am sad to say, I have not had the Slutty Vegan experience yet. But if you know me, you know once I am determined to do something, it shall be done. Not to mention Slutty Vegan is growing by leaps and bounds, with at least 20…

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The School Year Is Officially Over

The School Year Is Officially Over

I don’t know about you guys, but I am that mom that is super excited about the last day of school every year! This year marked the end of my youngest daughter’s middle school career. I can’t believe she is headed to high school next year. Isn’t she adorbs? For those of you that don’t know, Gabby is not a dress girl, so when I tell you all of our family and friends were blown away when they saw…

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Mother Hunger

I am the mother of 3 daughters. I was 19 years old when I had my first daughter, 28 years old when I had my second daughter, and 38 years old when I had my third daughter. To say that my parenting style varied from child to child is an understatement. With my first child, I spent no time thinking about how my emotional and mental well-being played a significant role in how I parented. Remember,…

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There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman's Bills. There, I Said It

There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills. There, I Said It

Actually, I didn’t. I was just trying to get your attention! 🙂 I came across a post by Juicy J the other day that said, “There is nothing wrong with paying a woman’s bills; we gotta stop this bullshit.” Before I go further, for those of you trying to figure out who the heck Juicy J is, he is a 47-year-old American rapper from Memphis, Tennessee. Prior to coming across his statement, I, too, had…

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I Have No More Compassion To Give

I Have No More Compassion To Give

The pandemic, George Floyd’s public murder, our country trying to control the reproductive rights of women, constant mass shootings that our legislators are turning a blind eye to, a woman walking into a Chili’s restaurant and murdering another woman, over 20 years of exposure to violence and suffering as a criminal defense attorney. All of this negativity has taken a toll on me and forced me…

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The Hate Runs Deep

The Hate Runs Deep

I remember walking away from my family when we visited Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina. I was so overcome with sorrow as I walked around and thought about the nine people senselessly murdered during their worship service on June 17, 2015. I cried like a baby as I tried to make sense of this senseless act. The only thing I could come up with is that the…

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In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations

In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations

One thing that I have learned to embrace about myself; my mood dictates what I enjoy reading. For the past several months, my mood has been about all things fiction. Okay, you got me! I have gotten slightly sidetracked. I started off sharing my mood for fiction so that you would not ask me how my 2021 reading list was coming. Let’s just say 2022 gives me another opportunity to satisfy my curious…

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IV Hydration: I Did It!

IV Hydration: I Did It!

My digestive system is a “hot mess”. In addition to seeking medical care, I am making some dietary changes with the hopes of helping my body to heal. My biggest battle has been with my daily dark roast caffeinated cups of coffee. I am that two coffee maker owner kind of girl. The girl whose morning stretching exercises begin with me getting out of bed and taking long strides to the kitchen to get…

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Do It With Excellence Or Don't Do It At All: Words Fawn Weaver Lives By

Do It With Excellence Or Don’t Do It At All: Words Fawn Weaver Lives By

As the fog lifted and I slowly realized that I had been living under a rock for several months, I decided to return to one of my favorite pastimes, podcasts. Trying to expand my horizons, I searched for and included some new podcasts in my library. While some of the topics were intriguing, I found myself returning time and time again to two of my favorites, On Purpose with Jay Shetty and 9 to…