#fearful avoidant attachment

[mysterious-sludge]

Self-aware of my self-destruction, yet unable to stop myself.

[avoidant-attachment-culture]

avoidant culture is feeling far more comfortable yearning for fictional people that don't exist because i never actually have to get close to them. i can just write alone and feel comfortable never divulging anything

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[neurantics-theythem]

Turns out, I had no idea how much I fear love until someone presented me with the real thing

[therapeutic007]

'' It’s not about changing who you are; it’s about embracing who you are while creating space for connection ''.

1. Dismissive-Avoidant

"It’s okay to lean in—strength is not about never needing anyone; it’s about knowing when to let others in."

"Your independence is your superpower, but connection is what makes it meaningful. Balance is where growth happens."

2. Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized Attachment)

"Your past does not define your capacity for love or trust. Healing happens one safe step at a time."

"You can hold fear and love at the same time—it's brave to try, even if it feels uncertain."

3. Avoidant-Restrictive

"It’s okay to let yourself be seen. Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s a doorway to deeper connection."

"You deserve a love that feels free and expansive, not confining or overwhelming."

4. Anxious-Avoidant

"You don’t have to choose between safety and closeness—healthy love offers both."

"You’re allowed to take things slow. Trust is built one moment, one step at a time." ________________ A Helpful Workbook on amazon to Work on Yourself :

The Fearful Avoidant Attachment

[wellhelloimstillalive]

"I can’t stand being loved. leave me, leave me, leave me."

Bruce Springsteen, Born to Run // Mitski, First Love / Late Spring // Black Sea Dahu, Rhizome

[undirectedenergy]

My partner, the secure one, is confusing me again. He like doesn't understand my pervasive fear of people? Like he genuinely thinks most people are good. Part of me is attracted to that extreme naivety, but another part is like disgusted by it. I'm trying to recognize that technically my view is the "pathological" one, but like... I mean it's been my life experience so wtf do you want from me?

I guess maybe it just shows like a lack of autism lol he didn't have a great childhood either so I don't think it's just that he's only been around good people, but ??????? It just feels very illogical and optimistic, how the fuck is that the "normal" perspective?

[dominicacreates]

Some of the things I've been learning to help me grow from being a fearful avoidant attacher to being more secure.

[mysterious-sludge]

I fear that I will always feel as if I have too much of you and not quite enough of you at the same time. I fear even more that I will always want you like this.

-A.M. 6/8/2023 5:24 pm

[avoidant-attachment-culture]

Just a psa – attachment styles are not severe in nature and do not affect life outside relationships with yourself and others. If your attachment style results in occupational, emotional or functional impairment, something else is going on. Attachment styles are not diagnostic for a reason.

[neurantics-theythem]

Omg wut. This makes too much sense 😭😭😭

Disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) attachment style is overanalyzing/overcorrecting when you think your partner might be pulling away from you, but then pulling away from them when they draw close to you.

It is both craving AND fearing intimacy so deeply that you grip people tight in your hands lest they leave you, but keep them at an arms length lest they love you.

[therapeutic007]

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[baddogmari]

i am genuinely so over myself and how i act and what i do. it makes me sick

[phosphenemoth]

I'm so tired of hurting myself and everyone else in the act of trying to avoid hurting myself and everyone else.

[cloud9doll]

louise glück, the white series // claude monet, houses in the snow // fyodor dostoyevsky, the gentle spirit // jane o. wayne, with solitude //reddit user artsykate, winter nocturne with lonely road // joseph brodsky, to m.b. // fyodor dostoevsky, poor folk // caspar david friedrich, winter landscape // audre lorde, the cancer journals // mahmoud darwish, memory for forgetfulness

[its-simply-just-krys]

i fear relationships and yet i want to be loved.

[pretendmynameispoetic]

i can never win