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no one is responding to my texts but then again i’m pretty sure im miserable to talk to

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𝒽ow to live the shoujo romance life : a guide ୭ ˚. ᵎᵎ habits, skincare, haircare, makeup, friends, love life advices etc ++

do you ever wish you could just teleport into the world of the kdrama/shoujo romance anime you are watching? those soft scenes, where everything somehow looks so romanticised and beautiful. vibrant colours, flowers, cute outfits, electric personalities, yummy food, face masks, quick calls, cute texts, journalling, late night study sessions.. this can be your life. you just have to make a few adjustments here and there.

let's think about it. what is it that those main characters do that make their lives seem so exciting? they wake up, do their skincare, makeup, have a healthy breakfast, and do you see them mindlessly scrolling on their phones, going through reels? nope. excatly. then they leave for school, where maybe you'll see them listening to music while staring out the window. then at school, they pay attention in class, spend time with their friends talking about random stuff, walk around, sneak letters into their crush's locker.. then they come home, study, talk to their friends, go outside, put a facemask on, read comics... do you see them doomscrolling or procrastinating? no. EXACTLY!!!! so i hope you have figured out the first step. the first step is to take action and live in the real world rather than in your head.

small habits to include in your daily life (๑>؂•̀๑) :

start your mornings with some upbeat songs listen to any song, any genre, as long as it makes your soul dance with glee. dance a bit but ofc don't get too carried away.. u still have to get ready for school! personal tip : i like to listen to cute jpop and kpop songs while i get ready as it makes me feel sooo giddy and main character-ish. i also set alarms throughout my getting ready process to make sure that i don't get too carried away.

take cold showers in the morning (if u can) morning showers are wonderful, especially when it's hot and you have school. cold showers are even better. if you are someone who feels extremely groggy in the mornings, try taking a cold shower, it'll wake you up! healthier version of coffee ig hehe. also it doesn't have to be a full body everything shower, you can do that after school. but for the morning, put on a shower cap (don't wet ur hair or shampoo it unless it's necessary as overwashing ur hair can damage it), and just wash ur body. shave if necessary. esp wash the areas that are sweaty, cuz that's wear most of the evil bacteria resides!

have a signature scent pretty self explanatory, go to a store where you can get perfumes and pick one you like the most! it doesn't have to be overly expensive, just buy smth simple & subtle for daily use. smelling good is genuinely so so so attractive and will make you feel so confident.

if you like something, invest your time learning about it for eg, if you like listening to music a lot, try to not just mindlessly listen to music, but choose certain artists and go thru their entire discography or even check out where they are from, what languages they speak, when they started singing. know about what you love. be mindful of how you spend your time!

lastly, be mindful and observing + lessen ur screentime okay cutie, it's time to put your phone back into your purse or pocket or wtv. be where your feet are. observe your surroundings. where are you? how old are you? what's your favourite color? do you see anything that's in your favourite color? look at the sun shine between the leaves. go to a park and listen to the chattering of people. pet a stray animal. call yourself pretty. radiate love !!!!!!!!!!!!!

taking care of your appearance ⋆˚𝜗𝜚˚⋆

taking care of yourself and being well groomed is a crucial part of feeling like the main character that you already are. here are some tips for skincare and haircare. pls note that i am not an expert. 𝓈kincare - find a good simple skincare routine : cleanser, serum, moisturiser, sunscreen. make sure it suits ur skin type and skin concerns. don't just buy skincare simply because they are expensive, look at the reviews of real customers! + NEVER EVER SKIP SUNSCREEN. shave your skin properly, watch video tutorials before doing it. for normal skin types : have a light simple skincare which isn't too drying or too oily. cetaphil, cerave are good options. for dry skin types : focus on hydration for oily skin types : focus on oil control. use blotting papers. for combination skin type : choose skincare which is meant for your skin please, ik its confusing at times but check if the skincare product can be used by combination skin type before buying it. for sensitive skin : stay away from fragrances.

𝒽aircare - again, find a suitable haircare routine : oil ur hair with coconut oil, use organic aloe vera gel, and find shampoos & conditioners which match ur hair types and concerns. personally i love Dove shampoos and conditioners, they leave my hair feeling so soft and frizz free and it's totally budget friendly. also conditioner tip : leave it on for atleast a minute. + scalp massage everyday. don't wash your hair with hot water, please please please use lukewarm / cold water instead. also do not overbrush your hair, even that can cause breakage. try braiding your hair before going to sleep, or sleep in a bonnet. don't use heat on ur hair w/o a heat treatment. there are many heatless hair curling tutorials on youtube and pinterest, so if you want cute beach waves, check them out! 𝓂akeup - find a cute, soft and natural looking makeup routine. smth that makes you look like a prettier YOU, without completely changing your features. focus more on skincare than makeup, because healthy skin is way way livelier than foundation or concealor. use a blush to achieve that flushed just-bumped-into-someone-cute look. curl your lashes, use a lash serum (optional) and then put on mascara, it makes a huge difference. use a blotting paper if your skin looks too oily at some places, it looks better (than using powder). check out youtube channels like dear peachie and even on pinterest there are amazing makeup tips and tutorials. have a true beauty moment and spend a week or a month perfectly your makeup skills. + also try facial massages, they really do make a difference. my fav channel for facial massages is DN Beauty Natural. imp !!! please do not sleep in your makeup, always remove it before going to bed. lifestyle : friends, academics, love life ( ˶°ㅁ°) !! having friends or people to talk to is an important part of your daily life. did you know that isolating yourself can cause many many problems to both your physical and mental wellbeing? so from now on, let us surround ourselves with lovely people, people who make us feel happy and let us not isolate ourselves anymore, okay? ★ try to compliment atleast one person daily. ★ if you end up making eye contact with someone, smile at them. ask a friend how they have been. ★ if you have the time, either plan an irl hangout date or an gameplay date night. ★ host a sleepover. it doesn't have to be fancy, just homely. ★ keep secrets and promises. ★ listen more, try not to make everything about yourself. ★ don't take things too personally. ★ to be cringe is to be free. so even if you think your true self is cringe or wtv, try not to mould yourself into someone you are not just to fit in. you'll end up attracting the wrong crowd and you'll later feel like you can't be yourself anymore and that'll just cause more problems.. ★ quietly cut off people who are rude, mean, put others down, takes behind everyone's backs, is racist etc etc u get me right? it doesn't have to be extremely dramatic and huge, just quietly mute them on social media and at school/work place just try to avoid them. but if you bump into them, greet them and move on.

maybe not all kdramas and animes have smart academics driven main characters BUT imagine being both pretty and smart. isn't that so cool? ★ find a study method that sticks with you. it could even be a totally new one that you come up with. ★ always attempt previous year questions or sample papers, they are going to save you, trust me. ★ ask teachers how a certain topic is going to be tested. that'll help you decide how much time you should dedicate to that topic and how to study. ★ if you're someone who doesn't feel like studying, make cute flashcards while blasting some fav music of yours. in a way, you are going to be learning atleast something, while being craftsy! and the flashcards that you just made will help you to revise during exam season! ★ make a study routine and stick to it for a week. then make required changes. then stick to it again for a week. and so on. boom! you've just created an amazing lil study routine that works perfectly for you <3

LOVE LIFE ADVICES YIPPIE To attract a beautiful love life, you have to embody it first. Practice self-love unapologetically: write yourself love letters, take yourself out on cute solo dates, and learn to enjoy your own company. Strengthen your emotional intelligence too — understand what you want from love and what red flags to avoid. A shoujo heroine doesn’t chase, she glows — and in doing so, draws love to her naturally. The more you pour love into your own life, the more it reflects back in unexpected, magical ways. if you're single & u like someone - see first of all, become someone you would want to date. are you loyal? have you healed from ur past relationships and crushes? now obviously, you don't have to be mentally perfect in order to be loved, but how can you expect to be happy in a relationship if you are still bothered by your past? imagine your partner doing the same. you'd feel uncomfortable right? so don't be someone you wouldn't even want your partner to be like. once you do this, open yourself up. also please don't jump into relationships. take time. talk to people. think about from a future perspective : would i want this person to raise my kids? if no, they are not the one. choose someone who makes your inner child feel loved. also don't force relationships as well. if you like someone, find ways to enjoy it. if it's painfully unrequited then maybe you should try moving on.. let people know you. a vibrant soul is more attractive than just a pretty face. When it comes to love, don’t just go for appearances. Get to know people beyond surface-level charm. A beautiful connection is built on kindness, respect, and shared values — not just butterflies. Take your time before diving into anything serious. Observe how someone treats others, handles conflict, and talks about life. You don’t need to rush romance to feel loved. In fact, learning to enjoy solo dates, trying new hobbies, and creating moments of joy for yourself makes you naturally radiant.

Be approachable, but stay true to yourself. You don’t have to change your interests, personality, or boundaries to attract love. The right people will be drawn to your real self. Learn to set standards, notice red flags early, and walk away when something doesn’t feel right. Being single is not a waiting room — it’s a chapter filled with discovery, freedom, and growth. When you enjoy your own life fully, love will feel like a beautiful bonus, not a missing piece.

if you are in a relationship - here are just a few tips because everyone's relationships are different so i cant provide with any generalised advice.. these are stuff that worked for me : 𖹭.ᐟ you guys don't have to be in contact 24/7 to be in love 𖹭.ᐟ do not become codependent, you guys are two different people and don't lose that individuality 𖹭.ᐟ sometimes you'll have to compromise for your partner 𖹭.ᐟ you aren't always right! 𖹭.ᐟ don't focus too much on their past relationships or crushes. even you had some didn't you! aha! 𖹭.ᐟ if you guys have a fight, try to talk it out over a video or voice call or irl, it's so much better than through texts. 𖹭.ᐟ social media ruins the idea of relationships so pls don't compare yours to what you see on social media 𖹭.ᐟ create memories tg! take pictures, videos, make eachother DIY gifts, write letters etc 𖹭.ᐟ pass eachother cute love notes in school teehee 𖹭.ᐟ make playlists dedicated to eachother 𖹭.ᐟ do their makeup hehe!! 𖹭.ᐟ play roblox with them 𖹭.ᐟ have study dates

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In the end, living a shoujo romance or K-drama-like life is about falling in love with your own story. Romanticize your daily life — dress up for yourself, sip your favorite drink like it’s a ritual, and chase your dreams like they’re plot points. Make soft playlists, take pretty notes, laugh with friends, and cry when you need to. The goal isn’t to find someone — it’s to live beautifully, whether or not anyone is watching.

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the feminine urge to stay gone. be unseen, be unavailable, be unheard of. disappear.

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Are you single?

do these look like the posting habits of someone experiencing romance

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i hope whatever butch i land one day knows she’s already made me so happy i could cry and we haven’t even met yet

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Reblog if your tits are free-use stress balls for any lesbian who needs them

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can’t stop myself calculating the c4ls of what people are eating around me

literally just even in the street i’ll be thinking ‘shit babe do you know there’s 600 c4ls in that’ …

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Google doc with tips, tricks, and the science behind WL

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Chat, I’ve finally finished it, the doc with everything I’ve researched is somewhat complete, all the sciency bits with how to actually do WL and what helps and such are done and ready for reading. Enjoy, hope you learned something, and pls do share, and such I spent a lot of time on it :)

edit 2: I have updated the doc and am taking a little work break from it, I will update more tomorrow, poor later today if I have motivation. patch notes: how to not binge, protein why it's so important, cardio, and ana tips.

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Do you still regret it?

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Good luck!

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Good luck!