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can’t believe shinji got beat out by a honest to god squid

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Absolutely nothing worse than finding out that you share interests with someone you hate. Has you thinking things like fuck you I'm better at enjoying star wars than you are

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imagine having a personality so morally bankrupt that the pope himself said "i'm telling god" and headed out

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Stolen from reddit kjjjj

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So... I didn't really want to make this post, but since nobody here knows who I am (except for one person) and this is a secret account, I want to ask something, hoping that someone with NPD might respond.

This is honestly so embarrassing (especially because one person who knows me follows me here), but I'm trying to figure some things out about myself.

I'm not writing this to make assumptions about myself — I know I'm not a therapist — but I've been suspecting for years that I might have been developing NPD or might have ADHD/ some type of anxiety disorder (and I know that NPD and ADHD can also be comorbid and that would explain many things, but I can't be sure unless stated by a professional). However, that's not the main point.

I've been in therapy for one year now, and my therapist often says or hints at things that seem to align with NPD, even though she's never directly told me I might have it.

For example, she’s mentioned many times that in my mind there’s an ongoing "fight" between two opposite self-images, with no in-between. She’s also hinted that I have black and white thinking (my inner monologue is always focused on who's best/worst, with, again no in between, even if thanks to therapy sometimes I rationally know that people are not best or worst, it's just my perception), a grandiose self-image, and that even my obsession with becoming a famous writer is more about needing validation and admiration than simply loving writing itself.

She constantly points out that my thought patterns revolve around external validation and admiration, that I have an unstable sense of self, and that I tend to think hierarchically — even over tiny things.

She says I often view love and even sometimes friendships in a "military-like" way, and that I struggle with axiety, anger issues and with empathy (I won't list examples here because I’m not comfortable sharing personal details right now, plus there are so many examples in my daily life that I can’t even keep track).

She also says that these thought patterns are leading me to sabotage myself and destroy my life but they're also self-defense (maybe because I was always treated as an inferior and I experienced bullying ).

Even though she’s never said explicitly that I may have a disorder, she often points out that these "schemas" of mine deeply impact my everyday life — basically hinting at a pathological pattern?. She keeps telling me that these mechanisms show up in almost everything I think, do, or say.

There’s way more I could say, but it would take hours to explain everything.

The point is: every day my suspicions grow stronger, and that's why I'm asking here.

Now, I know that asking online is risky and can trigger paranoia, but I'm not easily influenced.

MOST importantly, I'm not here asking if what I experience are "symptoms" — because objectively, according to the DSM, they are.

I'm more curious if these kinds of issues are common in other disorders too.

If you're a psychologist or someone officially diagnosed (not self-diagnosed), I would love to hear something from you.

If you’re neurotypical — and by that, I mean truly neurotypical (confirmed by a therapist, like normal to the point that even your therapist told you that you're perfectly fine and others are the problem, not just a self-claimed normal person who doesn't go to therapy 👹) — I’d appreciate if you could describe how you experience love, emotional empathy, relationships, emotions and morals because sometimes I think that what I do is normal and I'm just obsessing over nothing, so I want a real comparison.

Another thing: I never asked my therapist if I might be a narcissist because I'm scared it would influence her judgment .

And if she told me it's unlikely that I have a disorder, I would feel ashamed for even asking as it would make me appear to her eyes as I'm easily influenced by other people's experiences, or like I’m inventing a problem.

Also, if she said "there's nothing wrong with you," I would have an identity crisis, because then why has my life always been like this?

So, I'd like to ask people with NPD (expecially the self-aware/high functioning ones):

1. What kinds of things did your therapist tell you before diagnosing you?

2. Were they similar to the things my therapist says to me?

3. How many years did it take for you to be diagnosed?

4. How did you find out?

5. What led to your diagnosis?

6. Did you ever directly ask your therapist if you might have NPD?

7. Have you been diagnosed by a therapist/psychologist or by a psychiatrist?

Lastly, I don’t know if I should bring it up with my therapist. I’m almost 19 and maybe she’s waiting to see if my symptoms will "settle down" as I get older.

Also, I’ve read that sometimes therapists don’t tell patients they have NPD because of recent studies pointing out that the DSM-5 criteria are too broad or flawed, and now I’m getting even more paranoid.

Honestly, knowing if I have something would at least solve part of the confusion I feel.

I should've asked It anonymously on Reddit or smth but I don't have It for now, I'll try once! And don't worry, I won't self-diagnose just because of the things you'll tell me and I know that I listed the things my therapist told me in a generic way, but the main point of this was to ask these questions, not telling you all of what I experience for now?

And if there's someone out there with OCD, tell me about if and how you experience the obsession of being a narcissist, because I know that some of y'all had this problem before being diagnosed and I don't think mine Is an obsession, I'd just like to know!

And lastly, It would be cool to know if people with ADHD or anxiety disorder experience symptoms like this!

Edit: I've asked my therapist in the end and she told me that I do show symptoms of npd (she sayid that I share a "thematic centre" or whatever the Italian saying is) but it's obviously not enough to state if I've got a disorder and everyone has traits of disorders. What I don't understand tough, it's if she meant that I'm "normal" or that I didn't tell enough to get to that (and that could be It as I never told her the worst things). That pretty left me confused and led me to a nervous break down because this means that I'll still have to search and I'm afraid It will take years and years (plus my parents are pressuring me into abandoning therapy because It costs ( as I'm still a student so I can't pay that much by myself) and they think I don't meed It that much, while I do need it. The only reason why I may appear as normal to people that know me (people that see me from afar think I'm weird, but that's another story💀) Is because I repress basically everything to the point that I don't even know if I'm actually just paranoid, or I really am not normal as my state of mind and my perception of me travels from opposite to opposite in even less than and hour so I don't understand anything anymore. I swear, I look so emo and stupid for making this post because I hate sharing how I feel but there's was no other ways since I obviously can't tell to ppl I know and I Hope It doesn't really come off as my trying to be edgy and diagnosing myself with things, because as I repeat It wasn't my intent, I only wanted to do an active research Ig.

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who up hating pop psychology

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the ummm...the uhhhh.....

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Same he's so me☠️☠️☠️

I feel like Meursault

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Girrrrrl

I feel like I'm dreaming

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OMG TOMODACHI LIFE ON SWITCH WAS JUST ANNOUNCED, I CAN'T BELIEVE IT LET'S GOOOOOOOOO

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I mean...Not to be politically correct but that's so real! They only complain when a White character Is replaced by a black one, or when there's no black representation, but what about other cultures? Why do they have the rights to make greek characters look american? I mean, you don't necessarily need to cast someone Greek, but at least cast someone who actually LOOKS super ass ancient and mediterranean! America Is full of half-italian actors, they could cast one of them for example as the skin of some of us is way more tanned, and our features are mediterranean. But no...Let's cast the fucking Brits with Germanic ancestors and americans only because they're famous! 👹

I don't really mind Anne Hathaway because her face is pretty versatile and I can kinda see her in a Greek ambience. I mean, she's not exactly the Greek standard but not everyone was the same and not everyone had the same nose so I don't think that choosing her Is so far from the reality (well, the Odissey is not actually real but it's part of the myth so it's important to make It accurate).

But anyways... MATT DAMON??? WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL?? HE'S THE MOST GERMAN LOOKING PERSON I'VE EVER SEEN EVEN IF HE'S NOT??? HE'S SO SAMSUNGUSERCORE??? I CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE????

Maybe women in Greece weren't supposed to be tan because most of them stayed at home, but heroes who fight under the mediterranean sunlight weren't usually pale + Ulysses Is described as having tanned skin and he's been represented as a man who 100% fits the Greek beauty standard for ages. I love you Nolan, but man...Why can't we just start making realistic representation, expecially when we're dealing with ancient material?

The skin here Is not the problem, the problem Is that I fucking hate when characters are not portrayed how they're described in books like Bro, be accurate for once, expecially in this case because we're literally talking about myths here.

If you want to make a different version of the myth you can, but making an inaccurate version of the Odissey and saying that you're trying to be as accurate as possibile Is just not coherent.

Man...now I understand how jews feel when they see Jesus being portrayed like a long haired white man for centuries, when he probably was tanned as hell.😭

Can we take a second to talk about the cast for the upcoming Odyssey by Nolan cause that's not it...

I knew from the start that it would just be a blatant Hollywood production of an adaptation that we do NOT need, but God, now I'm really just pissed off.

Like, can you seriously get a british twink to play Telemachus ??? And mind you, i have nothing against Tom Holland. I even had a fan account of him when I was younger😭😭💀, but it's so crazy to me that there's not even ONE actor in the whole production that's actually Mediterranean, don't even mind Greek. There is NO way that they got Anne hathaway to play PENELOPE, as much as I like her as an actress, penelope is a woman from thousands of years before Christ there's no way they got an American actress with a perfect 21st century face to play her. Like where are THE NOSES, WERES THE TAN. you cannot tell me that a SAILOR who has been at sea for 20 YEARS under the SUN for decades every single day is as pale as a vampire. STOP WHIWASHING PEOPLE IM SO MAD IM SO SICK OF IT. why does everyone always complain when a black actor is cast to play a former white character, but no one bats an eye when they get only the most American and British actors to play Mediterranean people that existed in a time where they didn't even know what Britain was. I'm. So. Mad. Like please you cannot make a movie set in ancient Greece and then have the characters look like they know what a microwave is .

Like I don't think that they realise that these people were 24/7 under the burning sun without sunscreen and that even if they are white they had to have some kind of tan going on 💀

Can we just stop americanizing every single piece of media existing in the world thank you

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Waiting for the Tomodachi Life sequel like:

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6/7 of the books in the list but 1984 Always the best

How many of these "Top 100 Books to Read" have you read?

(633) 1984 - George Orwell

(616) The Great Gatsby - F. Scott Fitzgerald

(613) The Catcher In The Rye - J.D. Salinger

(573) Crime And Punishment - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

(550) Catch-22 - Joseph Heller

(549) The Adventures Of Tom And Huck - Series - Mark Twain

(538) Moby-Dick - Herman Melville

(534) One Hundred Years Of Solitude - Gabriel Garcia Marquez

(527) To Kill A Mockingbird - Harper Lee

(521) The Grapes Of Wrath - John Steinbeck

(521) Lolita - Vladimir Nabokov

(492) Pride And Prejudice - Jane Austen

(489) The Lord Of The Rings - Series - J.R.R. Tolkien

(488) Brave New World - Aldous Huxley

(480) Ulysses - James Joyce

(471) Jane Eyre - Charlotte Bronte

(459) Wuthering Heights - Emily Bronte

(398) The Brothers Karamazov - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

(396) Great Expectations - Charles Dickens

(395) To The Lighthouse - Virginia Woolf

(382) War And Peace - Leo Tolstoy

(382) The Sun Also Rises - Ernest Hemingway

(380) The Sound And The Fury - William Faulkner

(378) Alice's Adventures In Wonderland - Series - Lewis Carroll

(359) Frankenstein - Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley

(353) Heart Of Darkness - Joseph Conrad

(352) Middlemarch - George Eliot

(348) Animal Farm - George Orwell

(346) Don Quixote - Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra

(334) Slaughterhouse-Five - Kurt Vonnegut

(325) Les Misérables - Victor Hugo

(320) Harry Potter - Series - J.K. Rowling

(320) The Chronicles Of Narnia - Series - C.S. Lewis

(317) Anna Karenina - Leo Tolstoy

(308) Lord Of The Flies - William Golding

(306) Invisible Man - Ralph Ellison

(289) The Golden Bowl - Henry James

(276) Pale Fire - Vladimir Nabokov

(266) Gone With The Wind - Margaret Mitchell

(260) The Count Of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas

(255) The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy - Series - Douglas Adams

(252) The Life And Opinions Of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman - Laurence Sterne

(244) Madame Bovary - Gustave Flaubert

(237) Vanity Fair - William Makepeace Thackery

(235) The Trial - Franz Kafka

(233) Absalom, Absalom! - William Faulkner

(232) The Call Of The Wild - Jack London

(232) Emma - Jane Austen

(229) Beloved - Toni Morrison

(228) Little Women - Louisa May Alcott

(224) A Passage To India - E.M. Forster

(215) Dune - Frank Herbert

(215) A Portrait Of The Artist As A Young Man - James Joyce

(212) The Stranger - Albert Camus

(209) One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest - Ken Kesey

(209) The Idiot - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

(206) Dracula - Bram Stoker

(205) The Picture Of Dorian Gray - Oscar Wilde

(197) A Confederacy Of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole

(193) Mrs. Dalloway - Virginia Woolf

(193) The Age Of Innocence - Edith Wharton

(193) The History Of Tom Jones, A Foundling - Henry Fielding

(192) Under The Volcano - Malcolm Lowry

(190) The Odyssey - Homer

(189) Gulliver's Travels - Jonathan Swift

(188) In Search Of Lost Time - Marcel Proust

(186) Midnight's Children - Salman Rushdie

(185) An American Tragedy - Theodore Dreiser

(182) The Book Thief - Markus Zusak

(180) Siddhartha - Hermann Hesse

(179) The Magic Mountain - Thomas Mann

(178) Things Fall Apart - Chinua Achebe

(178) Tropic Of Cancer - Henry Miller

(176) The Outsiders - S.E. Hinton

(176) On The Road - Jack Kerouac

(175) The Little Prince - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

(173) The Giver - Lois Lowry

(172) Brideshead Revisited - Evelyn Waugh

(172) A Clockwork Orange - Anthony Burgess

(171) Charlotte's Web - E.B. White

(171) The Ambassadors - Henry James

(170) Infinite Jest - David Foster Wallace

(167) The Complete Stories And Poems - Edgar Allen Poe

(166) Ender's Saga - Series - Orson Scott Card

(165) In Cold Blood - Truman Capote

(164) The Wings Of The Dove - Henry James

(163) The Adventures Of Augie March - Saul Bellow

(162) As I Lay Dying - William Faulkner

(161) The Hunger Games - Series - Suzanne Collins

(158) Anne Of Greene Gables - L.M. Montgomery

(157) Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand

(157) Neuromancer - William Gibson

(156) The Help - Kathryn Stockett

(156) A Song Of Ice And Fire - George R.R. Martin

(155) The Good Soldier - Ford Madox Ford

(154) The Da Vinci Code - Dan Brown

(153) I, Claudius - Robert Graves

(152) Wide Sargasso Sea - Jean Rhys

(151) The Portrait Of A Lady - Henry James

(150) The Death Of The Heart - Elizabeth Bowen

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Jack Shepherd and Hugo 'Hurley' Reyes from Lost

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happy halloween