#self importance

[dreamdolldiary]

girl, lock in! 📓🍵🩰

UP your water intake! no more bloating here.

7-10k steps a day. move. your. body — walk, chores, park farther. don’t take shortcuts, do it all!

probiotics, protein, fiber.

prioritize whole foods.

educate yourself for an hour a day. NO EXCUSES. listen to podcasts/youtube videos/audiobooks. read an article or book. learn how to cook better or take care of your skin type. just learn something! don’t let your brain be wasted away. it CRAVES growth.

HAVE ADMIN DAYS. make your to do lists, set 3 priority tasks and set 15-20 minutes of uninterrupted time to tackle them. boom.

stop aimlessly shopping. you have everything to need to live. save up! your future self will thank you.

[prettieinpink]

HOW TO GET OUT OF A READING SLUMP

Inspired by how I'm currently trying to read again. 

START SHORTER. Try to read something manageable for you, and it doesn’t have to even be a full novel. It could be an essay on something that interests you or any short stories you find. Get into the habit of reading at your own pace, till you feel ready to take on something bigger. 

SET REALISTIC GOALS. Instead of wanting a goal like completing a book within a week, I would say 20 minutes of reading per day or at least 2 hours per week. You don’t have to track the time when you’re reading, but make mental notes of when you start reading and how long you read. 

EXPLORE. You may even be tired of reading certain genres, and not notice it. While in a slump, I would explore different books and see what interests me the most. For example, if you love reading romance books, try some action ones instead(or vice versa.)

REREAD FAVES. The familiarity of some books can help us get back into the swing of reading. Every time I reread a book, I always pick up on new details that I didn’t notice before. Reread one of your favourite books and try to spot details that you didn’t spot before. 

MAKE A LIST. Create a list of all the books that you want to read or reread. I feel like the process of seeing all the books you could, really encourages you to pick up that book. 

TRY A DIFFERENT FORMAT. For a lot of us, reading paperback or hard copy is the way to go. However, when I’m in a slump, I feel like opting for a different format helps me to get back into reading. For example, a digital book, or an e-book. (or vice versa)

READ IN A DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENT. I love LOVE, reading in an actual library. It is not for everyone, but a change of scenery can help. Some ideas can be at a park, a cafe, beaches and or a nature trail. 

PAIR READING WITH ANOTHER ACTIVITY. Some examples are exercising, cooking, travelling/commuting or doing mindfulness activities. This is more for getting back into the habit, once you’ve got it again, I would say to focus only on reading. 

[ariaxco]

how to actually glow up mentally (not just look good) ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ 🌸

glow ups aren’t just about clear skin and hair masks. the real glow up is mental — and no amount of serums will save you if your mindset’s still stuck.

you want to look different? start thinking different first.

habit 1: brutal self-honesty

stop pretending you’re doing “okay” when you’re not.

call yourself out when you’re making excuses.

admit when you’re wrong without the dramatics.

real confidence isn’t about pretending you’re perfect — it’s about knowing exactly where you’re weak and working on it in silence.

habit 2: build uncomfortable discipline

set non-negotiables (like: workout even if you don’t feel like it).

do one thing daily that’s boring but builds you (reading, stretching, saving money).

remind yourself: motivation is optional, discipline is not.

discipline is the reason you glow differently — it’s the quiet, daily decision to not give up on yourself.

habit 3: unfollow your old self

stop clinging to your old habits just because they’re “comfortable.”

say goodbye to the identity that kept you stuck.

act like the person you want to become now — not “someday.”

your new life will cost you your old one. good riddance.

habit 4: protect your energy like it’s sacred

stop responding to everything that triggers you.

stop arguing for your limits and start breaking them.

say “no” without paragraphs.

if it drains you, distracts you, or delays you — it’s not worth it.

habit 5: stop ghosting yourself

don’t abandon your goals when they stop being shiny and exciting.

don’t disappear on your routines when no one’s watching.

don’t ghost the life you said you wanted when it gets hard.

you deserve to be shown up for — by you first.

the real glow up is silent. it’s uncomfortable. it’s unphotogenic. but when it hits, it’s loud.🩰

[savagechickens]

Very Important.

And more importance.

[cosmicdiaries]

My personalized version of 75 hard days challenge

Since I was rooting for quite a few days and the only positive thing I did was to attend all my classes dutifully and do my assignments, I'm going to start doing this 75 hard days challenge to build my discipline once and for all. But I'm personalizing it for my own life style.

-Follow a Diet (No junk food, no eating after 10 pm so I can sleep comfortable)

-Workout (Stretch and meditation in the mornings before starting my day, calisthenics in the afternoon)

-Drink 1650 ml of water everyday (I counted the needed amount of water based on my weight in an app)

-Read 10-20 pages of book

Rules:

No Skipping or Modifications – If you miss even one task, you restart from Day 1.

No Cheat Days – You must stick to all rules without exception.

[glowettee]

Love ur content! Do you have any tips on how to style larger noses? i'm a white girl with a long nose and a bulbous tip. thank u <3

✧˖° how to style a "bigger" nose (and actually love it)

hi angel 🕊️

first of all, thank you for being so kind, and thank you for trusting me with this question. this message made me pause, because i know how deeply personal this topic is. i want to say this very softly, but very clearly: your nose isn’t a flaw. it’s not something that needs to be “fixed” or hidden or worked around.

a long nose, a bulbous tip, a sharper bridge. those aren’t imperfections. they are features, and features deserve styling, not shaming. ✧ wider noser and bulbous noses are also ethnic features as well in other ethnicities, it shows our unique beautiful facial features that characterize our ethnicities. all facial features are beautiful, you don't need to look like madison beer or have cindy kimberly's nose to be beautiful and be more than enough for the beauty standards. let’s talk about how to enhance and soften and style your features in a way that makes you feel gorgeous. not to hide, but to frame.

🧸 first: let’s talk about beauty standards (and why we’re breaking up with them)

a lot of the insecurity around bigger noses isn’t even yours, it’s cultural noise. it’s eurocentric beauty standards. it’s “small nose” filters on tiktok. it’s actresses and influencers who all look the same from the front, but not always in real life.

truth is, some of the most striking, unforgettable faces in history have had prominent noses. and tiny noses? they’re not automatically better, they can actually throw off a face’s proportions if it doesn’t match the cheekbones, the forehead, the lip structure. everything’s meant to go together! your nose is part of that design.

so no, we’re not hiding it. we’re working with it. styling it. softening it when we want. highlighting it when we feel bold. and most of all. we’re honoring it, because it belongs to you.

🎀 styling tips for big, beautiful noses

these tips are for softening, balancing, or enhancing a larger or more prominent nose. not because it needs fixing, but because you deserve to feel gorgeous from every angle.

➼ lift with blush, not contour. instead of contouring your nose into a shape that isn’t yours, try shifting the attention upward with strategic blush. apply blush a little higher on your cheeks and across the bridge of your nose. this brings attention to the center of your face without trying to erase its structure. it’s giving sun-kissed, coquette, beauty.

➼ line your lips wider than your nose. a great trick for balancing a prominent nose is to draw your lip line slightly past your natural lip line, especially on the top outer corners. fuller lips pull the visual balance lower, so your nose doesn’t dominate the center of your face. this works especially well with gloss or a diffused lip combo.

➼ tightline and lift the eyes. a larger nose can bring a lot of attention to the middle of the face, so balance that by framing your eyes. tightlining (lining the top waterline) and softly lifting the outer corner of your eyes with a mini wing or smoky eyeshadow brings the focus outward. avoid heavy lashes or liner only on the bottom, it pulls the face downward.

➼ hairstyle matters more than you think. middle parts, slicked back buns, or super sharp styles can sometimes overemphasize angular features. if you want to soften the face, try face-framing pieces, curtain bangs, or soft layers. these styles add dimension and balance without covering your features.

➼ highlight strategically. you don’t need to highlight the tip of your nose if it’s already round or bulbous. instead, try a soft line down the bridge only, and skip the tip. this makes your nose look elegant and elongated without calling too much attention to the roundness.

➼ glasses are your secret weapon. a pair of frames can completely transform how your nose sits on your face visually. go for cat-eye, oval, or soft geometric shapes that work with your features. glasses create structure and shape around the nose. basically natural face contour.

➼ play with earrings + jewelry to bring balance. statement earrings or longer, dangly styles bring balance to the face and draw the eye down, especially if you want to shift focus. avoid overly small studs if your features are more prominent. they can make everything else feel exaggerated.

✧ style from within too

this might sound cliché, but hear me out... styling isn’t just about how your face looks, it’s about how you feel. when you feel beautiful, you look beautiful. and that’s not just energy, it’s literal posture, eye contact, expression.

➼ take more selfies. seriously. not filtered ones. just natural lighting, soft angles, candid ones. get to know your face. play with expressions. learn what angles you love. the more you see yourself, the less shocked you’ll feel when someone else does.

➼ follow girls with noses like yours. your feed shapes your brain. curate it. follow girls with strong noses, soft noses, curved ones, long ones. admire their beauty, not in a “they can pull it off but i can’t” way, but in a i can see myself in her way.

➼ stop comparing your side profile to someone else’s front-facing filter. side profiles aren’t “flaws.” they’re depth. you are not a flat screen, you’re a 3d angel with a face that moves, turns, smiles. your profile tells a story.

💌 from me to you:

i know this is more than styling, it’s about how you feel. and i want you to know that glowettee (me, mindy) isn’t about erasing features to fit in. it’s about honoring what’s already there.

your nose isn’t too much. your face isn’t something to hide. tiny noses are not the default, and they’re not automatically better. your features are meant to belong to your face, and the more you lean into that, the more confident you’ll feel.

so style your nose like it’s the main character, because honestly? it kind of is.

love, always — mindy ♡

[kathrynofgreats]

Why Complain About Lack of Self Realization When You're Always on That Damn Phone?

Lengthy bits of brutal motivation, learning acceptance, and friction.

Answering Kat:

"I've recently come upon the reality of graduation and the impending college applications. With such an important part of my life coming up, I started actually thinking about what I'm going to do once I'm a real adult. I doubtfully decided I was going to school for accounting, and then a career in it. It was easy to just say that, until now. I had the thought of, 'Wow. I'm so full of creativity, dreams, and fluidity. But, I choose a repetitive, soul-sucking career path.' How was I, the most imaginative person I know, going into the seeming same life set-up that I have now, that I so deeply resent?

And then I really thought about it. Full of creativity? I spent hours of my life consuming brainless content that influenced my daily daydreams, making me feel as good as I do after eating cheap fast food that leaves me on the toilet after ten minutes. Full of dreams? I can hardly figure out what I'm going to accomplish today, let alone come up with an idea of what I expect in five years. Full of fluidity? I get emotionally unregulated the moment one thing is out of place in my repetitive routine.

How does my own brain come up with crap and lies like this? I mean, I should know myself, right?

Except, here I am, a netizen since the age of seven. I've been consuming content since before I could find myself, and I expect to have myself figured out? To know what I want to do for the year? For the next five years?

How the hell did it get so bad?

Is there even anything salvageable to learn about myself at this point?

Is there even a me?"

Well, don't just sit there wondering. Get off your lazy butt and grab some paper and a writing utensil.

"Wow, that's original."

You're going to have to realize, hopefully sooner rather than later, that those annoying tips actually work. Yeah, going outside works, exercising works, drinking water works, eating good food works, and getting enough sleep works. Get out of your own stubborn head and just do it. Don't wait for the "right" time, the "perfect" moment, there is none. Right now is the moment. The present is all we have.

It's time to wonder about yourself as you do others. It's time for an introduction. Introduce yourself to you.

What's your name? Where are you from? Do you have family? Do you have pets? What do you do in your free time? What's something you've absolutely can't live without?

Why can't you live without it? Why do you do that in your free time? Why did you get that pet? How's your relationship with your family? Why do you live where you live? Why is that your name?

Why. A simple word. A word that I'm sure brings you back. Back to a time where people didn't feel shame for not knowing, for asking, for having curiosity. Live by this word. Always question things, like the seat that you chose, the picture you like, the reason for your laugh, the reason for your tears, the reason you eventually get up in the morning.

Get off the phone, even for an hour. You have so many questions for yourself, nothing is definitive about your always growing self.

Yes, there's always balance. Go ahead and take that break, of course you deserve it, but don't let that break become needlessly long. Don't let it become your entire life. The internet is fun, there's an infinite about of opportunity, but your brain wasn't made for that infinitive.

It's okay to not know everything always.

"But isn't it a bit late now? I'm still graduating soon. I have to decide now."

Graduation isn't the end. Your life is still there. It's okay that you can't see the very top of the stairs, you just haven't cleaned your glasses yet. Take some time and wipe the oil and dirt off, then keep climbing. Maybe they're really dirty because you were just busy having too much fun, or you simply forgot. Just stop where you are and clean. You'll thank yourself.

If you think accounting is safe. Go for it. If you end up thinking something else is safe. Go for it.

There's still time.

Even if you spend hours upon hours of your time dedicating yourself to this, and then realize it's not for you. That's fine. Just try again. Never stop trying.

Go all for it. Throw yourself into this, even if you're doubtful that it's even something you want to do for the next weeks. You'll never regret trying, you'll always regret not trying more.

That means running for that stupid position in that organization, talking to those people you don't like, waking up at that time you feel is ungodly, and doing that work you don't want to. Leave no room for regret. Your small moment of discomfort means much less than that heavy, guilt-tripping regret.

Just do stuff.

And do it for you.

Sincerely,

Kathryn

[buckitweride]

The 9-1-1 fandom vibes on tumblr are honestly atrocious. Despite trying hard to curate a positive space, the weird energy still creeps in.

Anyone recommend any discord servers that are friendly to multishippers? I’d love to supplement my fandom experience with spaces that aren’t obsessed with “winning” against other fans of a TV show none of us have any control over in the first place 🙃

[littlemissemotionalandvalid]

Repeat after me: I do not deserve my trauma.

[pink-blush-baby]

giving feminine energy

keep urself clean and keep up with ur basic hygiene (shower every day)

get hungry for knowledge - go to libraries, read in coffee shops, etc.

always be kind and don’t talk crap about people! this is a big one because it really affects ur attitude and the way other people see u

stay organized. an easy way to do this is just to tidy ur room before you go to bed. this way, ur bedroom is more ur sanctuary

do ur hair pretty!! use accessories like scrunchies, headbands, claw clips, etc.

always have your essentials in ur bag (menstrual products, lip gloss, phone, earbuds, whatever makes u feel prepared)

remember that u don’t have to prove anything to others. make urself enough for u personally without worrying what other people think, because chances are they’re focused more on themselves

if u embarrass yourself, laugh it off and stay calm. u are above embarrassment babes, u are divine, so a little slipup won’t matter

have dance parties in ur room to songs that make u feel confident

DONT CHASE ATTRACT

remember that control doesn’t mean controlling other people. control means controlling ur own assumptions

breathe. just breathe. and remember u are beautiful <3

[dreamdolldiary]

[citizen-erazed]

So... I didn't really want to make this post, but since nobody here knows who I am (except for one person) and this is a secret account, I want to ask something, hoping that someone with NPD might respond.

This is honestly so embarrassing (especially because one person who knows me follows me here), but I'm trying to figure some things out about myself.

I'm not writing this to make assumptions about myself — I know I'm not a therapist — but I've been suspecting for years that I might have been developing NPD or might have ADHD/ some type of anxiety disorder (and I know that NPD and ADHD can also be comorbid and that would explain many things, but I can't be sure unless stated by a professional). However, that's not the main point.

I've been in therapy for one year now, and my therapist often says or hints at things that seem to align with NPD, even though she's never directly told me I might have it.

For example, she’s mentioned many times that in my mind there’s an ongoing "fight" between two opposite self-images, with no in-between. She’s also hinted that I have black and white thinking (my inner monologue is always focused on who's best/worst, with, again no in between, even if thanks to therapy sometimes I rationally know that people are not best or worst, it's just my perception), a grandiose self-image, and that even my obsession with becoming a famous writer is more about needing validation and admiration than simply loving writing itself.

She constantly points out that my thought patterns revolve around external validation and admiration, that I have an unstable sense of self, and that I tend to think hierarchically — even over tiny things.

She says I often view love and even sometimes friendships in a "military-like" way, and that I struggle with axiety, anger issues and with empathy (I won't list examples here because I’m not comfortable sharing personal details right now, plus there are so many examples in my daily life that I can’t even keep track).

She also says that these thought patterns are leading me to sabotage myself and destroy my life but they're also self-defense (maybe because I was always treated as an inferior and I experienced bullying ).

Even though she’s never said explicitly that I may have a disorder, she often points out that these "schemas" of mine deeply impact my everyday life — basically hinting at a pathological pattern?. She keeps telling me that these mechanisms show up in almost everything I think, do, or say.

There’s way more I could say, but it would take hours to explain everything.

The point is: every day my suspicions grow stronger, and that's why I'm asking here.

Now, I know that asking online is risky and can trigger paranoia, but I'm not easily influenced.

MOST importantly, I'm not here asking if what I experience are "symptoms" — because objectively, according to the DSM, they are.

I'm more curious if these kinds of issues are common in other disorders too.

If you're a psychologist or someone officially diagnosed (not self-diagnosed), I would love to hear something from you.

If you’re neurotypical — and by that, I mean truly neurotypical (confirmed by a therapist, like normal to the point that even your therapist told you that you're perfectly fine and others are the problem, not just a self-claimed normal person who doesn't go to therapy 👹) — I’d appreciate if you could describe how you experience love, emotional empathy, relationships, emotions and morals because sometimes I think that what I do is normal and I'm just obsessing over nothing, so I want a real comparison.

Another thing: I never asked my therapist if I might be a narcissist because I'm scared it would influence her judgment .

And if she told me it's unlikely that I have a disorder, I would feel ashamed for even asking as it would make me appear to her eyes as I'm easily influenced by other people's experiences, or like I’m inventing a problem.

Also, if she said "there's nothing wrong with you," I would have an identity crisis, because then why has my life always been like this?

So, I'd like to ask people with NPD (expecially the self-aware/high functioning ones):

1. What kinds of things did your therapist tell you before diagnosing you?

2. Were they similar to the things my therapist says to me?

3. How many years did it take for you to be diagnosed?

4. How did you find out?

5. What led to your diagnosis?

6. Did you ever directly ask your therapist if you might have NPD?

7. Have you been diagnosed by a therapist/psychologist or by a psychiatrist?

Lastly, I don’t know if I should bring it up with my therapist. I’m almost 19 and maybe she’s waiting to see if my symptoms will "settle down" as I get older.

Also, I’ve read that sometimes therapists don’t tell patients they have NPD because of recent studies pointing out that the DSM-5 criteria are too broad or flawed, and now I’m getting even more paranoid.

Honestly, knowing if I have something would at least solve part of the confusion I feel.

I should've asked It anonymously on Reddit or smth but I don't have It for now, I'll try once! And don't worry, I won't self-diagnose just because of the things you'll tell me and I know that I listed the things my therapist told me in a generic way, but the main point of this was to ask these questions, not telling you all of what I experience for now?

And if there's someone out there with OCD, tell me about if and how you experience the obsession of being a narcissist, because I know that some of y'all had this problem before being diagnosed and I don't think mine Is an obsession, I'd just like to know!

And lastly, It would be cool to know if people with ADHD or anxiety disorder experience symptoms like this!

Edit: I've asked my therapist in the end and she told me that I do show symptoms of npd (she sayid that I share a "thematic centre" or whatever the Italian saying is) but it's obviously not enough to state if I've got a disorder and everyone has traits of disorders. What I don't understand tough, it's if she meant that I'm "normal" or that I didn't tell enough to get to that (and that could be It as I never told her the worst things). That pretty left me confused and led me to a nervous break down because this means that I'll still have to search and I'm afraid It will take years and years (plus my parents are pressuring me into abandoning therapy because It costs ( as I'm still a student so I can't pay that much by myself) and they think I don't meed It that much, while I do need it. The only reason why I may appear as normal to people that know me (people that see me from afar think I'm weird, but that's another story💀) Is because I repress basically everything to the point that I don't even know if I'm actually just paranoid, or I really am not normal as my state of mind and my perception of me travels from opposite to opposite in even less than and hour so I don't understand anything anymore. I swear, I look so emo and stupid for making this post because I hate sharing how I feel but there's was no other ways since I obviously can't tell to ppl I know and I Hope It doesn't really come off as my trying to be edgy and diagnosing myself with things, because as I repeat It wasn't my intent, I only wanted to do an active research Ig.

[newfinalform]

I'm learning (especially with the way everything and everyone seems to look the same these days) that being yourself like actually yourself and accepting yourself does more for your mental health and happiness than curating yourself to look and act a certain way to appease people whether its behind a screen or in real life, I need to let myself get tattoos freely without worrying about whether it's "aesthetic" or whether someones gonna like them, I need to let myself love comics and gaming without telling myself "I need to be more feminine" and I need to realize that actually finding love, community, and acceptance will only come if I start with myself first

[maryfromvenus]

They say it’s oversaturated… too many people doing the same thing. But the truth is, no one has Your energy, Your mind, Your sauce. What’s meant for you can’t be crowded. You ARE the difference.

[starryluvs]

5 love languages for yourself

Gift giving: Buying something off your wish list. Buy yourself flowers. Order take out. Restock on your hobby.

Words of affirmations: Saying positive affirmations in the mirror. Tell yourself you love you. Write 10 things you love about yourself.

Physical touch: Splurging on a massage and a facial. Follow a yoga stretch. Give yourself a hug after finishing a task. Schedule a nail appointment. Taking a nap.

Quality time: Buy yourself ice cream after a long day. Going on a walk. Meditation. Reading. Taking yourself out for a coffee.

Acts of service: Organising your space. Cleaning. Cooking yourself a nourishing meal. Make yourself a bath at the end of a tiring day.

xoxo, f

[r3n0-5]

Silence.

-You have been looking through that window the whole night… what’s wrong? 

A dead silence was all he got as an answer, even when his boyfriend was right there, next to him, no word or sigh came out of his lips.

-You feel like no talking again? Don’t worry, I don’t mind, but I need to know if there’s something that has been bothering you lately. My love-

-I don’t need all that gibberish from you… -he interrupted- That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy it, it's just that it isn’t what I need right now.

-Then what is it?

-Silence, complete silence. Lately it seems like nobody gives a damn about it. everyone wants to go fast, to be loud, to do things in ways that end up being harmful. Me? I need peace, a quiet place, somewhere where I can be and know myself, to do some introspection and see what is actually wrong. Why does everyone want to change me? I’m not miserable when I’m alone, I’m not hurting anyone isolating myself I think. I just need peace, quietness... silence.