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I have no excuse for this

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suis me dans le cen d'une étoile. Toi aussi Jese J'ai parcans tout l'Univers Tor aussi Mille fais j'ai perdus men Caps, mille fais j'ai Double Je éloigné de kan. J'ai oublie ton coys, j'ai offece ton me suis J'ai perdur tous mes souvenirs. Toi aussi.

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Love them so much

Fyra år till 2010

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I sincerely hope this bot era will end soon because I have been off Tumblr for like three days and now I have a lot of them to report and it's very overwhelming

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social media has really warped our perception of creativity and hobbies. Stop doing things to post them. Just write. Just journal. Just sketch. Just read. Just annotate. Just sing. Just crochet. Just do the thing you’re going to do with the assumption no one will ever see or know you did it. Stop performing. Just enjoy it.

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How to turn a shitty situation into something funny

So. I have this friend at work with whom I have a pretty ambiguous relationship. Let's call him Adam. I have known Adam for nearly one year now and I still don't know what we are to each other, and by that I mean: are we even friends?

Like, I might have had a huge crush on him but that's not even the problem here. I am not stuck in a "are we friends or more?" type of relationship, I am stuck in a "does he love me or does he don't care if I die tomorrow" type of relationship. This is absolutely wild.

Adam hardly ever answers my texts when he is not at the office (he works in remote from another city and he is at the office like once a month or less). And yet I don't write too often as I'm always assuming I am annoying. I have thought that maybe he's just not a "text message guy" but when he is at the office I can see him on the phone or answering messages a lot. Which in itself is totally okay.

In the meantime, when Adam is at the office, he likes to give me some little gifts regularly, like a lighter "because you smoke", half of his dessert "because it is very good and you will like it". He also sent me a nice poetic postal card and brought me a souvenir when he went to see his family last summer. When he is in town, he usually asks me for a drink, and usually he doesn't invite our others coworkers.

And finally, when we are at the office, we usually spend most of our breaks together to the point our coworkers assume we function as a duo. They always come to me when they want to know something about Adam. Truth is, I am never capable of answering their questions because I don't know anything about Adam. We mostly talk about video games and music and he doesn't speak about him a lot and if I ask him something he tends to answer shortly and switch subject.

Today, after spending time (again) thinking about all this weird situation I am in, with this guy who is very attentionate to me when he's in town and who completely ghosts me when he's not, I had an idea. Since our coworkers like to ask me a lot of things I don't know about Adam, why don't just start to make up the answers? I am not talking about saying mean of harmful things but just wrong facts which are just enough weird or unexpected to be funny yet completely possible.

"Does Adam celebrate Christmas?

- I don't think so because he's a pastafarian."

"What kind of sport does Adam practice?

- Curling."

"What is Adam's favourite drink?

- Goat milk."

"Does Adam have siblings?

- Yes, he has a brother named Adam."

(I know the last one feels too much but it's actually the only one I didn't make up)

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🎵 Och i dina ögon förlorar jag mig. Visa mig vägen och jag följer dig. Ge mig en ledtråd för jag vill ha dig.🎵 

Fyra år till 2010

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Sometimes I think abt Billie Joe Armstrong and I get so emotional. Does he know how many kids he gave the courage to come out as bisexual. How many people saw him and realized they were like him. Realized there were people like us and he told us what that was and it was Bisexual loud and proud and fuck you if you’ve got a problem with that

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This hack will save your teeth: there are no “right” and “wrong” times to brush your teeth.

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extremely extremely tiring to be around people who just vehemently hate themselves. nobody benefits from you acting like this. cruelty to the self is still cruelty. if i was at an art gallery admiring a piece by van gogh or in a library reading a beautiful poem and you walked up to me and went Ewww thats so bad... you think its good? youre wrong its really bad :/ you would be a certified piece of fucking shit it is not different just bc its your creation instead of someone else's. if a stranger walked up to me and started ranting about how they thought my friend was annoying and ugly i would punch them in the gut. it is not different just because you are saying this about yourself. nobody wants to hear it

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Hey if you're not physically disabled and just ND, please don't say "cr*ppling," or any variations thereon, since it's ableist toward physically disabled people. "Disabling," and "incapacitating," are two better words to use instead.

(It took me a while to figure it out; anon was bothered by this post.)

Okay, sure, I’ll try to do that. That said, I want to encourage people engaged in anti-ableism efforts that take the form of asking people not to use certain words to put their energies elsewhere. Firstly, I think they make the disability advocacy community inaccessible to a lot of people, since having to relearn which words are “allowed” is overwhelming and particularly difficult for people who have limited access to words in the first place.

Secondly, every time I’ve seen this implemented it…hasn’t made anyone less ableist? People who scrupulously remove “crazy” from their vocabulary in favor of “irrational” still treat the people they’re talking about like unpersons. Often the recommended replacement words are just as good at suggesting “less valuable person” as the words they replaced. I think there’s some value in asking “does our use of words surrounding disability to mean ‘bad thing’ come from a place of treating disabled people like tragedies?” and often it does, but that doesn’t mean that challenging that mindset is as easy as changing out the words. Thirdly, I think it emphasizes the wrong concerns. I saw a newspaper headline the other day saying “the president’s plan will be a crippling blow to the economy” and one about the “crippling burden of student debt”. I’d think that the fact the president’s plan includes making it harder to get SSI, or the fact disabled students are way less likely to graduate and likelier to end up in debt, is a much more urgent problem than the turn of phrase used in the headline. 

Lastly, it seems like the anti-words advocacy often pretends at a false consensus in disability activism. There are physically disabled people who are bothered by that newspaper headline and those who are not. There are mentally ill people who are bothered by use of crazy and some who couldn’t care less. But no one ever says “hey, that word bothers me personally because people have used it to be mean to me”, they say “it’s ableist towards physically disabled people,” as if all physically disabled people agree on this (or as if the ones who disagree are just obviously confused poor souls and don’t merit a mention). “There are physically disabled people who dislike the phrase ‘crippling anxiety’ and there are physically disabled people who don’t care and there are physically disabled people who have, themselves, described their anxiety as crippling” is much more accurate, but less compelling.

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DBT strengthening statements

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