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Interviews with Silas Howard, Ian Harvie, and Geo Wyeth, from Original Plumbing, issue no. 9, "The Entertainment Issue", published 2012.

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Original Plumbing was a quarterly theme-based print publication dedicated to trans male culture. Created by Amos Mac and Rocco Kayiatos, Original Plumbing was published for ten years in twenty issues between 2009 and 2019. Each magazine issue covered a wide variety of topics including events and pressing issues to the transmasculine community.

You can read most of the issues for free by clicking here.

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@forcemenace I created a silly forcemasc blog bc im bored and like exploring masculinity

Check it out if you like euphoria... 👉👈

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this this 100% louder for the people in the back, I love you guys so much, this community would be nothing without you, and I hope you find or have found people in your life who love, respect, and listen to you. 💙🩷🤍🩷💙

i love you black trans people. i love you asian trans people from all over asia (not just east asia). i love you hispanic trans people. i love you indigenous trans people. i love you poc trans people. you're doing great, i promise you, and i'm so fucking sorry the community erases you as much as it does.

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i’ve been following the discourse in the transandrophobia tag over the past couple of days because of course i have. i just wanna say this:

left-leaning people absolutely love to throw around terms like oppression and patriarchy as if they have relevance to every social interaction. i keep seeing people split hairs over which privilege you have if you’re part of this or that minority or who’s above who, and it’s fucking nauseating.

the world is not so simple that every woman is oppressed and every man is privileged. you don’t necessarily get pressured into certain gender roles based on your AGAB. where you live is a factor. so is your social class and how you grew up.

so many arguments i hear from other queer people have an unspoken assumption that the listener has always been a secular leftist. these people have never had to make sense of the complicated realities of gender and privilege that exist in different religions, geographical areas, and social groups. i’ll give my personal experiences as an example.

i grew up in a 90% Mormon town in Utah. i was a dirt poor autistic teenage girl with religious scrupulosity and a bunch of shitty right-wing ideas. i was pretty, faithful, and good at theater, and that became my mask. i lived and died on whether or not people found me attractive. without that, other Mormons found me weird and off-putting because i was neurodivergent and struggled to perform femininity.

but then, it’s complicated! i did well in certain masculine social environments. i’m a huge nerd, so i made friends with other nerds. the guys i knew were mostly not well off, and although Mormon men have institutional privilege over women within the religion, we were very much all victims of the same cult. we were paying tithing on our babysitting and yard work money. we were crying ourselves to sleep at night, ashamed, wondering how we became so filthy that we would want sex before marriage that badly. (and God knows that guilt hits Mormon men harder than women.) sure, we had privilege in some ways, but mostly we spent our time hollowing ourselves out to become more and more palatable to the church. it was miserable.

i’m fresh out of the egg now. i don’t pass for shit. i’m estranged from my family and i have decades of religious trauma to grapple with. now i’m in the process of slowly, painfully separating myself from the mask of faithful Christian womanhood i wore to survive. i look at myself in the mirror and i want to crawl out of my skin. even euphoria isn’t enough when i have to acknowledge for the first time that i am letting myself be ugly, that i am risking it all by throwing away the one thing that allowed me to cope with being Mormon. where’s my goddamn privilege? where’s the part where i get to benefit from being a trans man?

it’s time for some of the queer community to admit that you really, really, really want to hate men with no consequences. i get it. i spent years being directly subject to open misogyny every day. you have this rage and anguish that you don’t know how to release, and i know right now it feels productive to go after men indiscriminately, but it won’t help. you won’t feel better. you’ll become bitter and so will the men you hurt in the process who were never a part of the harm you endured. if you flip the genders and your actions become misogyny, it’s just as wrong. you know this. you just don’t want to admit it because you don’t know what else to do with your pain.

look inward. try to make peace with yourself. then listen to the lived experiences of people who are different from you. trans men are not your enemies by virtue of our gender.

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If the only, ONLY singular thing you have to say with respect to men + feminism at all, is "don't talk about men," you are not a feminist.

Signed, a transgender man who lives in Texas.

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Trans men do not benefit from patriarchy. This is exactly why you’re getting shit over this take. The patriarchy hates trans men and constantly tries to detransition us. What about trans men who don’t pass? Do they really benefit from male privilege?

Even stealth trans men do not benefit from patriarchy as their ‘privilege’ is contingent on no one knowing they’re trans. The second people know, that goes out the window. Not ONLY that, but stealth trans men face issues as well, such as access to reproductive healthcare. And like we’ve said multiple times: you’re leaving out men of color in this conversation. It’s such a white take which makes sense bc you’re white but it’s extremely ignorant. All men are not equal under the patriarchy, and not living up to the idea of what a man is has severe consequences for those who don’t. I seriously implore you to listen to especially black trans men on this topic. Black masculinity is very demonized under the patriarchy.

Instead of lecturing to trans men on how oppressed we aren’t, try to learn something and stop hiding behind “I’m just saying what trans women say”. Guess what? Trans women are not immune from having bad takes or parroting radfem talking points.

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Out of all the dumbass shit transandrophobes say to us, the one that actually makes me guffaw is “masculinity is rewarded” LMMMMAAAAAOOOOOOOOOOO WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?!?!?!? My entire life has consisted of people trying to force me to be as feminine as possible and whenever I’m masculine, treating me like shit. It was so bad at a certain point that I gave up presenting masculinely at all and started to present in a hyper feminine way. That time in my life was deeply traumatic and involved me suppressing my tranness, distancing myself from it as much as possible.

So many of you fail to understand that femininity and masculinity are only rewarded when they enforce the gender binary. Masculinity is not universally rewarded. Not only is it not universally rewarded, but it can put people at higher risk for violence if they’re perceived as gender nonconforming (ie: trans man who doesn’t pass, butches, transmasc lesbians, etc). I’m sick of people acting like it’s not deeply traumatic for trans men to have to deal with femininity being forced onto us.

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saying trans men pass easier than trans women is transmisogynistic, transandrophobic and dumb.

if i was a trans girl and heard that i’d cry

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Drew myself a new pfp bc the size difference between the vial and needle were bothering me

Initially I wasn't planning on using this sketch for anything, it was mostly a concept piece for an HRT section on my carrd, but I loved the rough lines and needed a new pfp so thought it'd be perfect 😋

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This is how I feel when I'm sitting in my room surrounded by my LPS, Monster High, and Bratz collection

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Let’s all light a candle and pour one out for all the trans men who never got to figure out they’re men because they were raised to believe they couldn’t ever be anything other than a wife and a mother and if they ever left the church that all their friends and family go to then they’ll burn in hell for all of eternity. May the names engraved on their tombstones fade to nothing and the dresses they were buried in disintegrate.

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Saying trans men don’t have male privilege is not saying they aren’t free from misogynistic views.

It’s not a purely male thing to be misogynistic guys.

It’s not a male privilege to be misogynistic.

You can be a woman and be misogynistic.

Misogyny is not limited to men, it’s not a male only thing.

Trans men don’t have male privilege ≠ trans men can’t be misogynistic!

These are two different statements.

My post saying you can’t hold trans men and cis men in the same category IS NOT ABOUT FUCKING MISOGYNY.

It’s about the fact that the one of the only ways a trans man could potentially ever have some semblance of the same male privilege a cis man has in this society is if they are white, post op and have been on T for years, have an M gender marker and do not reveal they are transgender to anyone but their partner(s).

Pre-T trans men, trans men who like to be open about their identity, pre-op trans men, trans men who like being feminine sometimes. None of them have the male privilege we’re talking about here but they’re still all men.

There is a fundamental difference between cis and trans men/mascs in this society. You CANNOT hold them in the same category.

Nobody, not even a trans man, is free from being a misogynist.

But trying to claim that saying trans men/mascs don’t have male privilege is saying they can’t be misogynistic is wild.

Misogynistic views ≠ male privilege

Because it’s not male privilege to get away with/not get away with saying misogynistic statements.

Cis men can be misogynistic

Cis women can be misogynistic

Trans men can be misogynistic

Trans women can be misogynistic

GNC people can be misogynistic

It is not a male privilege to spout misogyny.

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don't forget to be the way you are

my first commissioned work! thanks so much to my client who had great ideas that matched my style. hope you enjoy the artwork! if anyone wants a commission hit my dms :)

instagram post

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First person to ever be called a lesbian was a man. Reports indicate radfems are malding as we speak.

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the other day i saw a screenshot of a post of some bitchy trans gal talking about how the reason so many trans dudes detransition but almost no trans fems do is bc being a man is the “wrong choice”, and it’s almost 12:00 am so i’m thinking about it, but there’s a reason for that

not only does it appear that the changes from T are more noticeable and more likely to stick overall (very anecdotal, take with a bucket of salt), but, people don’t care when men are sad. only when women are sad. because sad pathetic woman that was mislead by mean transgenders is a good headline

that’s it

it’s just publicity

online overall, i’ve seen even numbers of both mtftm detransitioners and fmtmf detransitioners

ITS JUST MISOGYNY

PEOPLE DONT CARE IF TOM HAVE BOOBS THEY CARE THAT BECKY GREW A BEARD

BECAUSE FOR SOME REASON BEARDS ON WOMEN ARE UGLY ACCORDING TO SOCIETY

WHY DO WE CARW ABOUT THAT ANYWAY?

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the day a transman tops for the first time and realizes he doesnt have to be just a bottom is the day an angel gains its wings

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"Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting Testosterone: A Guide For Trans Guys" - Paristtmpped

This was the most informative video I've ever watched about self doubt and expectations on Testosterone, please PLEASE check this video out or share it with a friend who needs it.