#trans masc positivity

[boy-gender]

god i fucking love trans men like the act of making yourself a man is so breathtakingly beautiful the ability to build yourself up brick by brick to keep pushing forward through the mire that tries to hold you back to be able to hold your breath forever while the whole world tries to drown you like truly every trans man reading this you are the strongest bravest cleverest most enduring people i know i love you forever

[transmascposi]

being trans is hard. incredibly difficult at times. but there's also joy. lots and lots of joy. hold onto that.

[catgirl-kaiju]

i have a transmasc friend who has been feeling really bummed recently that he hasn't seen much in the way of transmasc positivity on his dash, and i see how much it impacts his mood and self esteem. i care about him a lot, so i want to do a little something to maybe help raise his spirits a little bit:

share some memories of trans masc folks you know or have known, who left a positive impact on your life!

i'll start:

here's to a boyfriend i had years back! he was a very autistic demiboy with a reptile special interest and a love for aquariums! we'd go visit a small local herpatarium together, and he'd tell me all about the animals there. his excitement was contagious! he even had a pet snake who was so cute. we both loved Pink Floyd, and i really treasure the time we spent sharing music with eachother!

here's to a friend i had back in Texas! he was a really warm and chill dude, always so kind and patient. he loved his community and organized a local trans social group so that we could have something more laid back than a support group. he was a scholar in queer and jewish history, as well as jewish theology, and i learned so much from him.

i have a friend now who is a very kind and sweet guy. he's been there for me in some of my darkest moments and is a delight to be around! he is a very skilled cook and baker who helps make incredible food for our household. he has a passion for hair and has helped everyone in the house with cutting and styling our hair. he loves musicals, and i've learned so much about musicals from listening to him and watching movie musicals with him. i could say more, but i know this post is going to be long enough as is lol

[selfship-confession-box]

Shout out to masc/masc-aligned/male/transmasc selfshippers!! Maybe it's just my feed but I don't see them be supported nearly enough, we need more support for them in the community. Selfshipping is for everyone!

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[astralmlm]

honestly its time for autistic & adhd trans masc positivity. yall motherfuckers are braver than ANY US marine. binders are the ultimate sensory hell and yall be spending ALL DAY! in a binder! every day! in these sausage casing ass scraps of Evil Polyester. fr yall are the goats youre so strong and sexy for surviving this shit keep it going kings

[sydsixxftm]

Hey Syd... I feel pretty confused. I was on T and I got everything I needed from it, and most people think I'm a butch lesbian, which is alright because I think they're handsome and I feel at home in that presentation. But I feel ashamed of the fact I'm mostly attracted to men. It makes me feel dysphoric because no matter how masculine I am, there are parts of me that will never be as masculine as them, and I don't feel right being in a "straight" relationship. I mostly just feel like an imposter when I'm in LGBT spaces. Plus I'm worried the only guys that will be into me will be some sort of butch tamer that'll try to force me to be feminine, or misgender me. I feel like my bigender identity would only be valid if I was predominantly into women.

Hello! It took me a few days to think about this one before answering. You just said a lot of different things, but the common theme between them all seems to be "not feeling like I belong anywhere or with anyone". That is a feeling that I am very familiar with.

Let me start by recommending you read "we both laughed in pleasure" by Lou Sullivan. Reading that book made me feel so seen that I kept crying tears of joy while reading it.

Ok now to answer with my personal experience.

If you're like me, then you view being butch as it's own gender. That makes you transgender! You belong in the lgbtq just as much as everyone else. You even went as far as altering your body away from your birth gender, so anyone who would deny you're trans is a fool in my book. You face the same struggle as other trans & GNC people, don't minimize your own experience.

I can see how this makes your sexuality feel troubling. I would be lying to you if I said that I also don't feel distress around my attraction to men. But don't you believe that gay men are still men? Cishet normative ideology has been forced on us all from a young age. It's hard to unlearn the cishet brainwashing. Your attraction to men is queered, don't deny that part of yourself. We don't have to play by society's rules about sex or gender. I would honestly argue that heterosexuality is a social construct as much as gender is.

Let me say that again

HETEROSEXUALITY IS A CONSTRUCT

Dismantle it!

Dismantle the sex-gender binary & cishet normativity and be a bi butch unapologetically

[frasermints]

anyway. tdick is so hot. boycunt is incredible. phallo and meta penises are absolutely divine. trans men’s genitals are superior in every conceivable way and i need you all to understand that. 

you are desirable. you are attractive. you are flawless. your genitals are not disgusting. they are stunning and i love you. 

[zaacataac]

Can we please have more positivity for trans guys who want to have their own kids? I’m a trans man and depending on who my future spouse is, I am perfectly willing to get pregnant, heck, part of me even wants to if possible. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s valid and I respect that, but I want to be respected in return too. Wanting to be pregnant does not make someone “less trans.” It’s not meant to weird people out or make them uncomfortable because that is that person’s choice. We talk so much about body autonomy, but as soon as someone wants to do something that’s supposedly contrary to their gender identity, everyone throws a fit and I’m sick of it. I cannot stress enough that everyone is different and it’s ok if you personally aren’t comfortable with making that choice, but I have the gift of being able to bring life into this world if I want to and I’m going to use it if I can. Imma be like a seahorse one day and I think that’s awesome if you ask me.

[oldmemoria]

Just had to unfollow a mutual cause of them reblogging really bad transandrophobia :( like borderline bullying

Feels bad man. I feel guilty and nervous for them to see but honestly it was getting to the point that I was so so uncomfortable

NE way thank you for the positivity you reblog about the topic it makes my dash so much better

That’s tough I’m so sorry that you had to witness that :(

Although I do think you made the right decision. If someone’s behavior is making you uncomfortable it’s for the best if your mental health to call it quits. If they were making you uncomfortable then you’re better off without them

But also thank you!! As a trans guy myself it matters a lot to spread positivity along with education when it comes to topics like this, it actually matters a lot that people’s days are made better just from me and others spreading positivity :)

[ezrasageisajellyfish]

trans men don't owe you femininity or masculinity

[boy-gender]

fat trans men i need y’all to know:

you can get top surgery while fat

you can go on hormones while fat

you can be in a loving relationship while fat

you can pass while fat

you can be worthy of love and respect and space while fat

you can have a respectful relationship with your body while fat

you can be trans while being fat!!!

being fat will not stop you from being trans!!!

i love you!!!

[transmascposi]

dear transmasculine person: you body hair is beautiful. it's sexy (if you want it to be), or it's completely neutral (if you want it to be). it's not dirty, it's completely natural and normal. it's your materialization in this space and that's why it matters, it's lovely, it's holy. it can be tough and masculine if you want it to be, it can be cute and feminine if you want it to be, it can be gender neutral or androgynous, it can be whatever you want. you can leave it as it is, you can shave/wax parts of it, you can shave/wax it all... none of these is superior to another. you are valid and worthy and beautiful either way.

[opossum-dyke]

Yay today is 4 years post top surgery! 🎉🏳️‍⚧️🌈

Note: I am genderqueer I use they/them pronouns and prefer neutral language

After waking up

6 days

1 month

A little over 2 months

6 months

A little over 8 months

All the steps having to do with my dog ear revisions

1 year

A little over 2 years & 2 months

4 years 🎉🏳️‍⚧️

[party-gilmore]

…i am beginning to re-analyze (netrual to positive ) my relationship with my mother, because like

i’ve always been very happy about our closeness but also recognizing it was very UNUSUAL, the way our relationship was when compared to the mother-daughter of other girls growing up (especially in the high school phase) and now in adulthood like there’s just a level to us that i keep noticing is different then most, even other really great positive mother-daughter examples

and i was just kinda thinking very loosely about that as i stepped into the elevator just in general conceptual terms then cognizance slammed into me like a fucking FREIGHT TRAIN

it cuz. our fucking closeness is like. the flavor is specifically, like.

a stereotypical jewish mother-son relationship instead

like even before the transness hit, growing up pretty nonchalantly content as girl … the GNC in general was still THERE, and i was ALWAYS more masc and like

now i’m just staring back at interactions like You Fool. Thou Art Blind As First Love. How Didst Thee Not NOTICE?

[takenabackbytuesdays]

Hi Trans Boys!

When I'm talking with younger trans people, sometimes there's insecurity or talking about how they want to look and be when they can choose for themselves, when they're old enough.

It can be hard to wait for the changes you want, if you have parents that don't support you. It is so hard not to have the clothes or haircut or body that you want to have.

And it's fine to want changes. (It's fine to pick things you want to keep the same too.) Make the choices you want for yourself. But remember that you're a boy right now. You're how a boy looks.

You're enough, the boy that you are, right now.

[plague-vulture]

nah i love enjoying "boy things" like being into stereotype little boy things is so fun i like dinosaurs and power rangers and sonic and sharks, life is good 👍💙