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white people are really like "im autistic and such a smol bean and thats why im unapologetically racist. you should excuse my behavior because im Literally Autistic" and expect to be taken seriously by the rest of us

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there are some things where its like i get that you feel that way but talking about it is a bad decision. "nobody asked" is a very, very valid response.

this is specifically abt white autistic people going "i cant eat ethnic cuisine because of autism". you dont have to say that because nobody asked, and now we think youre kinda racist.

if someone irl asks "hey you wanna get indian" or something you can just say "sorry i have a hard time eating foods i didnt grow up with because of autism, can we eat something else" and nobody would bat an eye!

but yall have to declare out loud at every possible moment how much you personally could never eat non western food, and like, nobody asked. just a tip for the future.

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people esp black and brown people how do you feel abt (yknow those images of characters in front of a pride flag?) a white character in front of the black and brown stripe pride flag. explain why?

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nothing hurts more than having a few friendly conversations with someone in a discord server and then following them and they dont follow back. cool! im gonna roll around in razorblades

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these tags being used as a reaction image is just another example :|

Can I say something is it finally safe to say that I don't find the popular trend of white people on this site who aren't muslim saying inshallah for jokes funny and I never did

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right now nothing makes me angrier than someone saying they dont have the energy to think about palestine and the genocide in their life. oh youre tired? busy? not donating is one thing but just ignoring a goddamn genocide because it makes you feel sad :( it makes me so goddamn furious

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I hate you epitome of innocence being represented with blonde hair I hate you lightness representing goodness I hate you "angelic features" automatically being read as blonde hair and blue eyed with pale skin I hate you whiteness as the default for morality I HATE YOU I HATE YOU

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pet peeve when someone draws the mystery gang to be quote unquote inclusive and diverse and the only thing changed is shaggy is black now. no matter how much shaggy is my fave like dude if youre gonna make it inclusive make the characters who arent the "funny dumb basically a stoner" guy also poc. and no making velma some kind of asian doesnt count

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imma be honest i wonder how many of the people who make suicide jokes on here have been affected by suicide outside of their own suicidal thoughts. when someone you care about offs themselves and/or attempts to, seeing some 24 year old tell another 24 year old to kill themself is just... not funny. not in a "not funny. cried" way just like ... :| ... k. scrolls past

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why do i get the sense that yall only care about media criticism when it comes from white ppl

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As a black lesbian Iiterally hate how the butch/femme thing got twisted the reason it was bad for (non-black) lesbians to say they were lesbian exclusive identities was because that's erasure of black LGBT history and silencing how much those identities mean to us as a community aka fucking ANTIBLACKNESS not because lesbians are a literal oppressor of bi people and gay men black peoples was the main ones tryna explain how and why this was fucked up but y'all forgot about the antiblackness part within a week

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femininity and masculinity are flavor enhancers to eachother. the easiest way I can describe that is how girls in their boyfriend's hoodie are decidedly more feminine, and a guy wearing nail polish could look even more tough and masculine because of it.

like even in the most cisgender of terms they do not repel or exclude eachother, in fact they complement eachother super well. & thats why genderfluid & bigender people are so hot

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ok real talk small pet peeve of mine again. just little things. white trans ppl things. not gonna credit the artist cause i dont want to draw negative attention to them, this drawing is hella cute & relatable

yeah that drawing is so cute funny and relatable! but also! im kinda sick & tired of seeing "average trans people" always have caucasian features. cause its not the first time im seeing this for SURE.

should i get this mild annoyance at 2 hairstyles in a meme? nope. but im gonna talk abt it anyway. ok bye

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Actually sexual and platonic relationships can coexist a lot of u have just been convinced that the final result of all sexual relationships is a romantic one. Sometimes u can just fuck ur friends and it’s fine. Hope this helps

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someone asked me a while ago about some of the challenges of being in a qpr, and it was a really good question so thought I’d share with the class:

from my experience, the challenges are really just the advantages flipped. the biggest advantage of a qpr is that it’s so open and undefined. there are no rules except the ones you mutually decide upon—the definition is so broad and a qpr can take so many forms that honestly no two are the same. it can be specialized to suit any needs, and it can shift and change at any time to match a change in those needs!

however, this means there are no guidelines. there’s no template like there is for a romantic relationship, with a set of steps that signify greater intimacy at each step. each qpr must be collaboratively built from the ground up, and manually adjusted to fit you and your partner(s) wants, needs, and boundaries. you may do your steps out of order, something that is considered a ‘step back’ in a traditional relationship may be a step forward for you, or you may have no steps in common with other relationships at all!

and this means: a LOT of communication, at every step, and often more than once in order to make sure that things are working as they should. you need to be comfortable communicating and setting boundaries openly, honestly, and without judgment. and that’s hard! it takes a lot of practice, and it’s impossible to be perfect at it all the time. you’ll make mistakes, your partner(s) will make mistakes, and that’s ok!

it’s also nearly impossible to predict what the relationship might look like until you’re in the thick of it, and that can be scary! you have to be able to trust that you’ll find something that works, which means trusting your partner(s) to listen, communicate, and follow through themselves. and that if your needs/wants/boundaries change, even months or years down the line, that they will be respected and taken into account

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i know ppl on this site love to clown on the term "queerplatonic relationship" but like how else am i supposed to describe that id wanna spend the rest of my life with someone with physical contact & sex & total emotional availability & technically romantic gestures & maybe get married & knowing eachother better than anyone WITHOUT being strictly romantically attached to eachother, maybe flirting around for fun still being possible. i know to others thats just an ideal friendship or romance but idk if its a cultural thing but that is not what a friendship / romance looks like usually.

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some of u got meme brainrot esp when it comes to racism and antiblackness (let me explain)