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Random Update: Thoughts on Revenge

I’ve had plenty of time to think about revenge lately. A few months ago I had someone’s car towed out of the parking spot I pay for. They had just decided they didn’t care that I was paying for a covered space and kept parking their car in there every evening. After a week of coming home, having left two messages requesting that they not continue that practice, and still getting nowhere, I called…

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Random update: Thoughts on Failure and Mistakes

I’ve been thinking a lot this week about making mistakes, and then that lead to thinking about failure. I’m terribly averse to failure, so much so that I spent most of my life avoiding risks just because the dread of failure was too great. I was the embodiment of Homer Simpson saying, “Trying is the first step to failure.” I’m not sure when it changed, and it was likely not a single moment but…

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Hey... Do you know the song sung by the voice actor from the pilot Hazbin Hotel? Called Thank you and goodnight. Weirdly this song reminds me of Mystic Messenger, despite being a new fan and having been into this game until this year 2024 I already felt a connection, seeing old posts about this game from an old fan somehow makes me tear up. Despite I'm a fan of 2024, I somehow feel nostalgic about this game despite never actually experience it before

You are very much not alone in those feelings. Mystic Messenger has a long record of touching people quite deeply.

I haven't seen another game that reaches this level of impact on its players.

It's great that you found the game, regardless of which year. I'm not sure how many newer fans are active here, but us older fans are glad you're here!

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Freeform Friday: Crazy week

I couldn’t begin to tell you how it’s Friday already. I’m sure the whole week has been there. I’m sure I’ve been part of it. It just went by in a stunning flash. I have successfully managed my first project close meeting. I did so well, no one realized it was my first one! Ha ha! We’ll just keep that between us, right? Otherwise, I really don’t even know what to say. I went to work, I ran…

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Motivational Monday: Believe You Deserve It

It’s so easy to lose motivation, and it can be an elusive enough thing to find in the first place. I know people who have given up all motivation, and while I desperately want to rekindle a fire within them, I can’t. Why? Because something has told them they can’t have what they wanted, or that what they wanted is useless. When I talk to these people, it comes down to one fact. They lost the…

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Freeform Friday: Perks!

My new job has been, as you’ve probably seen, a very demanding one. I love it, don’t ever get that wrong. I’m happy with the job, the people I work with, and the work I’m doing. To be able to say that after the first 3 months is something I know is important. There are hidden perks here, all over the place. Things that are extremely specific to my wants and needs, and this is making my little…

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Top Skills Thursday: Check In With Yourself

I’m sure most of us have had a day, or a few days, where you get to the end of being insanely busy and suddenly realize, “I’m exhausted!” Well, that can happen on a repeat cycle, right along with stress levels increasing, anxiety climbing, depression creeping up, and self-care tanking into nothing more than an afterthought. The solution is to set a time to check in with yourself. It’s good to…

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Writing Wednesday: Possible Change

I’m not making any progress on my books right now, still. Honestly, the new job is just requiring too much of me and while I keep getting ideas and thoughts and making notes, I just don’t have it in me to really write much right now. I’m too consumed with learning all the things I need to know to keep up with working in a brand new industry. (And yes, being in a new industry is that challenging…

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Therapy Tuesday: Complicated Grief Therapy

Continuing on from last week, we look at complicated grief. This isn’t the normal grief cycles and then a period of gradual healing. This is grief on a different level. According to the DSM-V, where complicated grief was added in 2022, this sort of grief is an ongoing and increasingly damaging space. Among the symptoms listed are, Identity disruption (such as feeling as though part of oneself…

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Motivational Monday: Do It Out of Spite

Have you always wanted to do something, but never had anyone encourage you toward that goal? Have you found yourself feeling as if that goal is something you’ll never reach – that maybe there’s something about you that is insufficient to reach it? Being encouraged is wonderful, and can often help us take that next, difficult step. But if that goal is one you must have to feel fulfilled, there’s…

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Soothing Sunday: Fidget

Anyone else remember when fidget spinners were “the thing” and everyone seemed to have one? Well, that’s because they’re a great idea! Keeping your hands busy is an awesome way to alleviate stress and anxiety. That’s precisely why they’re helpful with people who are on the spectrum, along with all the other sensory “toys” that go along with that category. But you don’t have to be neurodivergent…

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Self-Care Saturday: Grab the reins!

In The Heart of Buddha’s Teaching (Thich Nhat Hanh) there’s a story that I think must apply to everyone at some point in life. It tells of a man walking along a road when he sees another man, riding a horse very quickly toward him. He steps aside and calls out, “Where are you going?�� The man on the horse shouts back, “I don’t know, ask the horse!” Have you been feeling a bit like you’re also on…

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Freeform Friday: So, I'm a... gamer?

I’ve always considered a certain level of involvement to be a requirement for being “a gamer” and never thought of myself as someone who fit that bracket. I enjoy games, but I can’t begin to manage the controls on a game machine. I’m restricted to PC games. Even then, I’ve played a few but there are some I just couldn’t get the controls down for. There have been times in my life where I would…

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Writing Wednesday: Getting back into it

This is partly a reminder for myself, and partly my hope that I can help someone else get back into writing their story. (I’m waiting for your release date!) When you’ve been away from your writing for a time, it can feel daunting to look at that blank page and try to start writing again. In fact, it can be daunting enough to make you remember to go do chores you’ve put off and find other things…

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Therapy Tuesday: Grief Therapy

While not a type of therapy in and of itself, grief therapy can help in processing large losses. Grief therapy isn’t restricted to recovering from someone’s death, either. It helps with any large loss. The loss of a job, a friendship, a romantic relationship, a pet, or any loss that leaves you struggling is what grief therapy is designed for. Also, there isn’t just one type of grief therapy.…

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Motivational Monday: What's a few more steps?

Many times we’ll be working on a goal and find our resolve weakening. Perhaps you’ve had failures and setbacks. Perhaps it’s just taking far longer to reach the goal than you expected. Perhaps you discovered that you need a new skill or mindset to reach it. Before you give up, stop at look at what you’ve accomplished already. Even at the outset, you’ve invested time and effort, you’ve expanded…

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Soothing Sunday: Pet Something

Obviously, if you’re allergic to animals, not an animal. At least not the ones you’re allergic to. But hold on, I have ideas for you at the end of the post. Petting an animal is a simple way to soothe away the stress of the week. In fact, multiple studies have shown that it decreases that nasty stress hormone, cortisol. It doesn’t even matter which animal you interact with, so you can choose the…