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If this is too personal a question I fully understand (if so: sorry and I hope you have a great day!), but I was just curious:
Why were you using 1/3 of a bottle of detergent for your clothes? was it a ocd compulsion situation/anxiety thing or something else entirely?
thank you for reading, and please do know that you truly bring a lot of good to this world! <3
No clue if it was OCD, an otherwise compulsion, or just a quirk, but it definitely wasn't helpful that in that instance, I was shut down entirely.
Which is why it's so important to actually listen to patients, you know? Like, not only was I not listened to, but if this were a serious issue (it actually has become a larger issue now that I'm an adult with my own income, admittedly), it wouldn't have be addressed at all. There are so many small ways that therapists, psychiatrists, authority figures, whomever, really, just... ignore problems because they're convinced that they're just infallible and the person they're addressing is, like, inherently beneath them.
#ask#anon#mental health#mental health advocacy#imagine if it *was* OCD and that therapist was like 'i don't see it you're just uneducated' like. that would've pissed me off *more*#like i know my behaviour is not seen as normal simply because i've described it to multiple people and they were like 'hm. not normal'#i'm not oblivious or naïve to how i'm percieved but it does suck to be treated like lesser/idiotic because of it. like how uncompassionate#like maybe it's just me but i think to be something like a doctor/therapist/whatever you have to first show *compassion* toward...#...the people you'll be helping...#...like that's pretty much my top priority for wanting to enter (a) medical field. the *patients* come first#(obligatory 'this is made complicated because of ableism + capitalism + insurance + being a human')#(but i'd like to think that that being made harder doesn't mean it's impossible. i've had enough good medical professionals to know that)#ANYWAY. it's just a small indication of a larger problem ime.#i appreciate the concern and the kind words (genuine)
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Lan Wangji goes to Lotus Pier (No relation to the AU of the same name)
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#poorly drawn mdzs#better drawn mdzs#mdzs#lan wangji#wei wuxian#Another split type comic because I decided to be ambitious.#This flashback is currently beating my ass. There are so many timeskips within the flashback! My flow and pacing are wheezing!#I loved how this scene starts with the crowd's point of view. The observations and gossip add a lot.#And it helps reposition us to what the external perspective is on these two. Namely that 'they don't get along.'#Tensions are known! Even here in Nouveau Lotus Pier.#Ah...Lan Wangji never got a chance to see the Lotus Pier of Wei Wuxian's childhood and adolescence...did he?#It's not the same. He's not the same. Call them by the same name and people will know what you mean...#...but the first version - the one with the fond memories - is gone for good.#It's sort of interesting isn't it? How names can hold so much power and still be hollow?#We often get stuck over past versions of things. Be it ourselves or other people or places.#Change is scary but the truth is nothing ever stays the same. It's always moving. You're always moving.#It's okay to mourn the past. Maybe it's people you lost or the person you hoped to be. Let yourself feel the grief.#And then? Then you grow around that pain and keep on going. If you feel like you can't - remember you don't have to do it alone.#A side note: Listening to the tossing flowers extra is so essential for this scene. It's cute and gives us more of [redacted]#What's [redacted]? You'll see in the next comic!
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i refuse to believe that boycotting is hard. my favourite thing in the world is ordering maccies after a late night at work/a concert/getting drunk. yes i do miss it sometimes. but the other night i ordered from a small place near my house instead and it was the most orgasmic burger i've ever had in my life. i very rarely say this but fucking suck it up people are DEAD
#ramble#also only 0.29 delivery instead of 3.99#and chilli cheese bites#i swear to god the best food you'll ever eat while drunk is from the tiny shithole that's open until 4am#if you're refusing to do literally the smallest thing you can do to help then i have questions#it's FOOD. you'll survive#it's not even NECESSARY food#if it was like a chain grocery place and you don't have access to anything else then i would understand#but it's just NOT#make your own coffee for the love of god#when there is NOTHING you can do to stop this fucking tragedy. and let's be honest there isn't a lot normal people can do#and people say to you 'do this insignificant thing just to show that you even CARE'#and you DON'T do that???? what is actually wrong with you#also i've been worried about this since my last post about sbucks but this is Not an attack on the people who WORK at the boycotted places#because it is an absolute privilege to be able to leave your job and immediately find a new one
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I love how non-judgmentally Henry approaches the world, he's such a polite boy
#Henry: *is being the kindest sweetest most helpful person you'll ever meet*#also Henry: *curate a mental note of all the people he fully intends to kill*#when a golden retriever has a hitlist
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People often assume that a person is primarily religious because they believe their religion is The Most Correct. However, I am a very strict believer in judaism and I love arguing for other religions.
I just got done outlining how exactly polytheism is advantageous over monotheism and it was incredibly fun. I love people and I love g-d and these two things coexist in perfect harmony
#jumblr#personal thoughts tag#even when i am agnostic i am monotheistic but i absolutely see the logic in polytheism#in fact i don't even see judaism as The Most Correct. i see judaism as correct (for some) but that's not unuque to us i think#i believe in judaism because i think it's correct and not because i want to feel superior by saying it's The Most Correct#i was reading about how ancient egyptians thought the afterlife would be and i pray that that afterlife is where they are now#i always pray that people end up in the afterlife they envision because it's always really lovely#you're telling me you'll be playing board games and playing with your pet and drinking wine in the afterlife?#and THAT'S why you're loading your tomb up with a bunch of stuff? that's AWESOME!!#plus those ancient egyptians helped us better understand them THOUSANDS of years later#and this is why i keep trying to learn new things about other religious practices. i've actually been meaning to look into confessionals#that one is something i still don't understand. i personally don't understand the point and THAT'S an issue to me#i want to see value in everything and g-d damn it if i don't
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On Voting in America
So one of the most profound comments on routine chores that I've ever encountered was, hilariously, the Pickle Rick episode of "Rick & Morty," where (after a lot of shenanigans have already ensued) this therapist absolutely lays Rick out:
"I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is: it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is some people are okay going to work and some people, well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose."
I think about this at least once a week — usually while I'm doing my laundry or sweeping or some other task that needs doing and won't get me anything more than clean clothing or a dog-hair-free floor. There's no Pulitzer for wiping down your microwave or scrubbing your toilet; no one's awarding you for getting all the dishes out of the sink. At best you have the satisfaction of crossing it off your list.
Voting is very much the same (and I'm talking about the US here, as an American). Sure, you sometimes get a sticker; but nobody's going to cheer for you. There's no adventure here, no potential for anything more than crossing something off of a list. It's a chore, something that needs doing in order to repair, maintain, and yes even clean. So I get why people don't like doing it.
And I've decided I don't give a shit.
Do it anyway. Your country takes astonishingly little from you — taxes, the once-in-a-blue-moon jury duty, and a theoretical draft that hasn't been used in over half a century and likely will never be again — but it asks you (asks! not requires! not demands!) to vote once or twice a year. It's not always easy; especially in conservative states, the impediments to vote can be ridiculous. But it is once a year and unlike in our nation's all-too-recent past, you will not die if you do it.
In fact, the worst outcome from voting these days is that the person or issue that you vote for loses — but you won't know if they lose until after the election. Polls are less accurate now, for a whole host of reasons; you cannot know until after the election who or what will win. This makes your vote more valuable than possibly ever before.
Use that power. Not because it's exciting or even rewarding, but because your vote is what keeps our country's metaphorical teeth from falling out and our metaphorical ass from stinking.
Brush, wipe, vote.
#ok the metaphor may've gotten a little gross but rick & morty chose it not me#anyway if voting didn't matter then rich people wouldn't do it#and I can assure you: they do#also: please don't think of voting like a reward for the person you're voting for#or as a punishment for the person you're not voting for#my mom's advice was:#think about the most vulnerable people you care about and vote for the person or issue that will make their lives better#and you'll rarely go wrong#yes there are often two bad options but if you're old enough to vote you're old enough to understand the difference between bad and less ba#anyway that's all the political lecturing I'll do this year#except maybe to complain about the 18-hour day I'll be having on Tuesday#oh also SIGN UP TO WORK ELECTIONS WE NEED MORE HELP#thank you#politics!
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This is the mascot for the Crips for eSims for Gaza itch.io bundle, designed by @barabones! I had a lot of fun modeling them :D
There are two days left to support the bundle! For just a few bucks, you can help keep people in Gaza connected, and you'll get over 200 video games, ttrpgs, zines, and all sorts of other goodies. There's something in it for everyone!
#free palestine#3d model#3d art#lowpoly#blender#i helped out with organizing this bundle. the money's going to a good place and i can vouch for all the folks behind it!!#everything goes directly to buying esims for people in gaza and sending them directly to them with no middle man#plus there's a zine in the bundle that i made (with some other folks) that explains how it works more in detail!!#and also if you're here for my own work there's a desktop pet i made in the bundle (deskritter)#anyways thanks for reading i hope you'll consider supporting the bundle or at least reblogging so it gets to more people <3#gif
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The fact that Adaine "i don't know if im asexual im 15" Abernant and Riz "why is everyone so horny im definately aroace" Gukgak both being in the same show is incredibly important to me
#like i was just like adaine at 15 and have slowly shifted more towards riz but i like that both are shown#having 2 characters with similar aspec experiences and showing how they react differently is great#and do i think adaine is ace? not really i think if she feels attraction she would put that on the back burner while she deals with her#anxiety and her family being the worst and even now thats shes dealt with all that i dont think its a storyline shell dive into#i think what im trying to get at is that having people support her being ace would help adaine regardless of how she ends up identifying#and i think that riz having a friend (one who doesnt identify as ace) is important for him and feeling like he fits in while being aroace#i dont know if that made any sense but they are best friends#dimension 20#fantasy high#fhjy#riz gukgak#adaine abernant#you'll have to pry aroace riz from my cold dead hands#<- thats my aroace riz tag
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If tsc3 title isn't The Queen's Men, I will riot
IT JUST MAKES SENSE
Ok ok keep with me here
The first book is The Sunshine Court, to parallel The Foxhole Court
The second book is The Golden Raven, to parallel The Raven King
AND SO
To make any thematicall sense at all
Logistically
The third and final book must be The Queen's Men, to parallel the original ending, The King's Men
It will show the progression of time
It'll be the perfect send off
You'll have the entire court made of all the people Kevin helped get to the top:
Andrew Minyard
Neil Josten
Jean Moreau
Jeremy Knox
And of course the Queen himself
Kevin Day, who is only where he is because of the support of his people
Finally, we'll have the true Perfect Court all together, not under Riko's pathetic rule, but under Kevin, like it was always meant to be.
The end.
#aftg#IT JUST MAKES SENSE#ok ok keep up with me here#the first book is the sunshine court which parallels the foxhole court#the second book is the golden raven to parallel the raven king#and so TO MAKE ANY SENSE AT ALL#the third book MIST BE the Queen's men to parallel the kings men!!!!#like#SHOW THE PROGRESSION OF TIME NORA#it'll be the perfect send off#you'll have the entire court made of all the people kevin helped to get where they are:#andrew minyard#neil josten#jean moreau#jeremy knox#and of course the queen himself:#kevin day#the perfect court finally all together#not under riko's pathetic rule#but under Kevin#the way it always should have been
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I know people simp for wpnz and all that. BUT DO YOU GUYS REMEMBER THE SCENE WHERE HE WAS WILLING TO LET THIS GUY SUFFOCATE A CHILD!?
LIKE OMG THIS SCENE GAVE ME CHILLS I FELT SO BAD FOR THESE KIDS LIKE FUCK!!!
#smg4#smg4 wpnz#smg4 cory#smg4 katie#smg4 zack#LIKE HES HOT BUT LIKE ABUSER HOT#ABUSER OF CHILDREN#CHILDREN!!!#I KNOW HE WAS DOING THE WHOLE “if you do this you'll become less of a pussy and more of a chad” type of thing#BUT I CAN'T TELL OF HE WOULD HELP THEM GET OUT OF THIS MESS#IDK IF HE'LL LET THESE KIDS DIE!!!#SHITTING CHRIST!#I don't hate people for simping or shipping with him#BUT I FEEL LIKE THIS SHIT IS JUST GLOSSED OVER#PLEASE TELL ME IM NOT BEING CRAZY#LIKE THIS FEELS WORSE THAN THE USUAL VILLAN SHIT BECAUSE THESE ARE KIDS#Im loosing my mind D:
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I want to say my favorite part of Mizuki's event is how they emphasized Mizuki isn't really afraid of not being accepted anymore.
It's to just admit that truth about yourself and have everything change, to show your pain and have people view you differently because of it. It's not even that they won't treat you with kindness in fact it's that kindness itself that's painful.
You just want things to stay to same even if it hurts because even if you know the people around you can help you, you don't want to ruin their own perception of view.
Like ezuifhEHIGUIT i'm gonna cry goodbye everybody
#mizuki akiyama#pjsk mizuki#prsk mizuki#25ji#25ji nightcord de#mizuki 25ji#mizuki5#i did not expect to relate so hard with mizuki#cause like#i'm trans too but it's not really about that#it's just in general having to face people in real life and tell them you need help#and you know you'll be met with kindness eventually if you made them understand but its like#it's so painful still#you don't want to be treated differently
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"i can't come up with a fantasy name for my world so i HAVE to use chatgpt to get the gears flowing" have you all forgotten what fantasynamegenerators.com has done for you
#we literally already have the resources people claim ai has introduced#'you're discarding a very helpful tool' we already have that tool in a thousand different varieties#and with the added bonus of not plagiarizing/lying/being utterly horrible for the environment#there are tons of prompt and name generators made for this exact purpose!#there are worldbuilding resources and lists all over the place!#need some music to listen to for inspiration? look up ambience playlists and you'll find tons with Real Songs!#there are whole composers on youtube who make fantasy specific music using talent and brains and it sounds better than ai cobbled noise!#people in creative communities have already used more functional forms of ai + actual brainpower to make you these resources!#if you would just spend 2-3 minutes googling you would find them!
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Just say a post of someone saying "omegas can only eat plain carb heavy foods during heat and alphas need good heavy spicy food and meat" and I need to bash my head in. What happen to sex-ed. You're going to make yourself sick
You are so sensitive during your rut don't eat spicy shit. Alphas AND Omegas need meat and carbs for energy and you need them all to be plain. I swear even if you hate that kinda food normally it's going to feel like heaven during your rut/heat
#the dog barks#omegaverse discourse#unreality#SO DO BETAS BTW#i know sometimes proto-heats/ruts are shorter of less intense then real heats/ruts BUTS THATS AN EXCEPTION#They're normally as intense and you'll feel as exhausted#EAT#honestly I recommend preparing a good amount of meals before it starts#and look for the most basic snacks you can get#I get biscoito de polvilho and biscoito agua e sal#do they feed me? no. but they're crunchy and a good way to test if I'll be okay trying to eat a proper meal#having heat/rut partners to help take care of you is the best but most people dont have them so PLEASE set up some kind of alarm to remind-#you to eat#you wont feel hungry at all but then two days later you pass the fuck out going to the bathroom and its the most embarrassing thing ever#also it want quite that the post was more a joke that said that#it was like 'me vs my alpha gf's heat/rut prep'#then pictures of almost just plain pasta and then some huge barbecue from a spicy place#MY SISTER IN CHRIST YOU ARE SO CLOSE JUST MIX THAT AND TAKE OFF THE SPICE
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this is some really personal shit that has to do with how i analyze and interpret john.
when i was a child, my father dragged me around the country from motel to motel talking about how he lost my mother and his single-minded focus on getting her back. i was his best friend. i was his only confidant. i wanted him to be happy all the time. i felt responsible for when he was sad - both with whatever the current situation was and in all the sad moments of his long sad life. when i wasn't with him, sometimes he would go for weeks without calling and i would miss him and think i did something wrong and then sometimes he would tell me what that wrong thing was and i would try to do better. i sat patiently and quietly on the couch in his strange friend's dark house filled with fishing gear while they talked and talked and talked about the ways the world had screwed them over. i never knew where we were driving to. sometimes i would sleep in the car for hours and we still hadn't gotten there. he wanted me to show him a terrifying and confounding amount of respect. he would cry and i would kneel on the couch next to him and try to envelope his whole body into my arms in a hug. i loved him ferociously and protectively. he wanted my singular loyalty and got it. it's so hard to even summarize it all. each moment is just so full of ...
he hurt my feelings and i loved him. i got mad at him and i loved him. he got mad at me and i loved him. i felt deeply sorry for him and i loved him.
and when i watched supernatural oh boy let me tell you.....
and i know it's not chic or whatever to compare john to your dad. I KNOW THAT. but not to garishly bear my open bloody heart on the internet. it's just. i watched this fucking show and i was like... i know him. like. i know that man.
and i'm kinda screwed because we all are analyzing things from our own experiences so when i'm interpreting all the little clues left about john throughout the show, it all feels so familiar. and i don't actually have a way to separate my experience as a child with that kind of father from the way i'm analyzing and watching spn. and so i'm stuck saying, well john just is really similar to my dad. and, yeah, of course there are differences. but i guess all i can do is commit to bringing as much nuance and care to any and all creative endeavors or analysis as half a lifetime of therapy has taught me...
#cn idk#cn implied abuse?#this is so wildly personal im sorry#i am prone to disclaimers and over explaining and this is my most... idk... thing to explain#like in a very real way this is why im like this#and im sorry i feel like maybe there's been a bit of a current to idk...#like i'm worried people see my takes or my fics and are like this is shitty and not fair enough or something#or like it's reductive of analysis to say how he feels like your own father#and i'm just like...#im trying really hard but it would be a lot simpler if my dad hadn't tried so hard to get me to call him sir#or asked me for help paying for stuff cause he had trouble keeping a job#but really i respect people wanting to delve more into john's emotions and everything#like i get that#he's a really interesting character#but i spent 20+ years trying to empathize with and understand my father#and now i really kinda do#and im not looking for more ... idk... practice with that#what i am looking for is how to heal from that#how to feel like you're allowed to picture a future you might want#how to love without worrying thats who you'll become#so basically dean things#and like i do a LOT of trying to get into john's headspace when im writing cause he just is so real to me but like... idk...#it's not juicy crunchy yummy analysis to me i guess...?
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Hi hi hi!!
I LOVE how you draw Papyrus, Would it be possible to get a tutorial or smth on how you draw him?
preferably with classic or swap, since I'm having trouble getting down how neutral or negative expressions would work with their kind of face
Helloooooooo!!!!! Thank you! :D
Sorry it's not exactly a tutorial, but just a rough step by step. I generally start with the eyes, then I do the overall face shape. I go fixing it as I draw in the mouth, then do the rest of the head and other details.
As for expressions, it might help if you draw it on something more familiar first. I'm more accustomed to drawing anime style people, so I'll use that as an example. Pay attention to the shape of the eyebrows, the eyes, and the mouth. It'll become easier to translate that into the way you draw these guys!
#w9 inbox#I hope that helps somewhat#my only other tip is studying artwork from your favorite artists#what shapes do they use? what other elements are present to enhance these emotions? (body posture and colors etc.)#there are also several different styles people draw them in so you'll have to find what works best with yours!
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I'm actually marveling at your portrayal of Palpatine. Sure, in the new sith obi-wan au, but in every iteration I've read from you, it doesn't even compare to anything else I've read, I just can see and hear Palpy so clearly when you write him. It's disgusting how i character he is every time. I need like ... a tutorial? :D Pls??
haha, thank you :) yeah, ngl Palpatine IS the toughest character to get right and I will die on this hill; he is absolutely more difficult to write than Obi-Wan.
The tutorial consists of knowing how a groomer operates, essentially. Sure, you have the traits of psychopathy and sociopathy, the blatant narcissism, the delusions of being better than everyone, but if you want my two cents, (obviously you do when you sent this ask lol) the real core of his villainy is his grooming behavior. Sociopathy and psychopathy do not necessarily lead to evil, many diagnosed people lead fulfilling lives that do not cause them or others any destruction. Sociopathy and psychopathy are NOT inherently evil.
Grooming is evil by nature. And groomers absolutely follow a rulebook.
Step one: Targeting a vulnerable person. (Groomers have a radar for people who are in a vulnerable position - orphaned kids, traumatized people, homeless people, etc., could be anything.)
Step two: Gaining trust. (the victims of grooming call this 'kindness' - much like Anakin does on many occasions - when in reality, it's rehearsed empathy. It's a performance. They're nice to you, bring you gifts, take care of your most basic needs - food, shelter, companionship to make you feel like there's somebody in this world who actually gives a shit about you.
Step three: Isolating the target from their loved ones. If you are completely alone, that's a win for them, obviously. But because they more often than not target minors, there's someone taking care of them, at least one person who goes: this guy/gal has rancid vibes, I don't want you to hang out with them anymore. The groomer convinces the victim that their caretaker has nefarious motivations/goals (projecting much) and that if the victim calls the authority, they will be the one who's actually in trouble, not the groomer.
Step four: Slowly exposing the target to sexual stuff. This could be anything, really, it could start by just showing the victim porn without rhyme or reason to instructing them to perform some mild sexual acts. In Palpatine's case, this manifests as exposing the target to the power of the dark side and encouraging them to use it. However, do I think that Palpatine was entirely uninterested in Anakin in a sexual way? My feelings on this vary - sometimes I do see it and sometimes I don't. I see the constant unnecessary touching and constantly invading Anakin's personal space and I'm like: I need to perform exorcism on myself until I don't remember ever seeing this ever again. Then I see the intent behind and I think - hm, perhaps this is purely a slaver's touch asserting dominance over his property. Like I said, my feelings on this are unclear. Let's just say it's really fucking gross either way, which is something we can all agree on.
Step five: The actual sex. Again, in Palpatine's case, this manifests as revealing himself for who he is (abuser) and taking Anakin (the abused) down with him.
TLDR; you have to have the process of grooming at the forefront of your mind to write Palpatine well - even if in different aus his victim does not need to always be Anakin.
boy i did not mean for this shit to be this long lmao i hope this helps clarify not just how to effectively write Palpy but also for my girls and boys who may stumble upon a groomer irl.
Please be safe out there and talk to whoever you can to help you if you encounter a groomer.
#hope's aus#hope answers#the world was all before them#obikin#sith obi wan#palpatine is ... something else let me tell you#i always take a shower twice after i'm done writing a chapter where he does his 'thing'#gross#but also necessary i think#hope this helps#i'm not a trained psychologist#just read about this a lot#there's this story about Cormac McCarthy's 'muse' Augusta Britt in Vanity Fair#written by a total tool who deemed this 'a love story'#which is essentially Cormac in his forties kidnapped sixteen year old Augusta and took her to mexico#i recommend you read it and hopefully you'll see the framing of the story is disgusting#which ironically i think is what happens a lot when people talk about Palpatine and Anakin#or rather not enough people talk about how fucking fucked up and entirely too close to real life circumstances that relationship is#not to mention anakin's oedipal relationship with padme#another fucking doozy#the moment padme put that blankie over him and he looked up at her with those adoring eyes he replaced his mother with padme in his head#so when they like ... reunite or whatever ten years later all i can see is 'oh look mama came home'#sorry i read too much greek tragedies these days so maybe i'm way off#but that's how i feel
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