A lot of “us” (read: me and my other personalities) have associated the life of aesthetics as shallow and not something you should strive for in life.
Having said that, more recently, I have been drawn more and more to different aesthetics (book reading, masc female outfits, dark academia, french classics, cottage core and what not ) as elements of these ways of living has helped me discover what my passions are and what kind of things my mind is attracted to. They can exist in the same space as me being an eco girly who doesn’t want to contribute to ever increasing demand / consumption of unnecessary material goods. This new found appreciation has pushed me to find creative ways to express all the facets of my dynamism.
Lately, I have had the privilege to come to the realisation that the inherent problem lies not with liking or wanting to live life through the lens of a certain aesthetic, rather making it about just that filter and how you want to be perceived by others through that, and how well you fit into the said aesthetic. It goes downhill when it becomes less about the small things of the persona that sparks joy and focusses heavily on the need to be seen in a certain way.
Ps. Perhaps it’s my late reflection from having read secret history last year -//-
I’ve been super happy and positive lately, so here’s some of the things that make me happy ( ^ω^ ):
The colors pink, blue, purple, and white
Roses
Clouds and rain + cold weather
Fashion
Skin care
Makeup (been wanting to get some 😢)
Hairstyles like low twin braids and low twin tails
Pierrot the clown (literally me)
Art
Softness (clothes, blankets, etc) and sleep
The people in my phone that I follow (kinda off topic, but I recently just unfollowed everyone I don’t care about on TT and I’ve never been happier scrolling through my following)
Music!!! (Cherry Glazerr, Jazmin Bean, Sir Chloe, Dream Ivory, The Neighborhood, TV Girl, The Smiths, Elita, and more)
Aesthetics
Perfumes
Obviously my fandoms and interests
There’s probably more but these are the ones I could think of 😙
Anyway my #1 tip for being happy is and always has been to only do what YOU love.
Surround yourself with everything that makes you happy, the things that tickle your heart and soul, that make you giggle, that make you stare in awe.
Of course if you love making your friends happy, do what they like every once in awhile, it’s always good to get new experiences, but don’t ONLY do things because it makes other people happy.
At the end of the day all you have is yourself 🩵
This is probably really random coming from me… but it needs to be said…
And stay, my dear, stay... Forever, as my quiet song, in my lilac dawn.
—Sanober Khan, A Thousand Flamingos
We can't possibly have a summer love. So many people have tried that the name's become proverbial. Summer is only the unfulfilled promise of spring, a charlatan in place of the warm balmy nights I dream of in April. It's a sad season of life without growth... It has no day.
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise
How they dance in the courtyard, sweet summer sweat. Some dance to remember, some dance to forget.