#Autistics Speaking Day

[autisticsspeakingday]

Hi all!! The ASDay 2023 submission form is now open!

What is ASDay? It's Autistics Speaking Day, a blogging event on November 1st to counter well-meaning but harmful "awareness" campaigns.

Autism related topics preferred, but not required. Anything you want to say, whatever medium you want.

Want it reblogged on our blogspot? Submit it through the form!

Got more questions? Ask me here, or check out the blog! [link]

[oneautisticperson]

Okay, I get it. But can we also...

This day, the 1st November 2023 will be the last Autistics Speaking Day. This day started back in 2010 as a day for Autistic people to flood the internet with our messages and thoughts. While I have been very busy with my work, I thought I would contribute one last entry.

Okay, I get it.

Planning meals with me around is hard. I am so restricted in what I am able to eat and it is an annoyance. Good chance I can’t eat anything at that restaurant, I won’t eat anything from take-away shop etc. Guess what? It is an annoyance for me to. One of my workplaces has a work lunch coming up and I have to weigh up whether it is worth going. It is at a restaurant I have never been to and doesn’t seem to be located near places I know I can eat at so I can’t just get there early and grab something to eat somewhere else first. I would love not to have this problem. To not have to bring emergency food when I leave for a trip, to not have to eat beforehand when I go to most social gatherings.

But can we also…

Talk about the fact that when my best friend and I made pizza at her house for the first time, I nearly cried because I am rarely included in meals to that extent?

Mention the comfort that familiar foods bring me? If I am having a bad day, I know exactly what I need. It is not just eating the food but also the familiar smells.

Discuss that the same reason that makes food difficult for me brings me so much joy in other ways? My tolerance and enjoyment of show rides for example. Removing one would likely remove the other so I will take the good with the bad.

Okay, I get it.

I see you rolling your eyes when I try to talk about something that interests me. Show rides, neurodiversity, autism, Ned Kelly etc. You have heard me discuss this before and it is boring.

But can we also…

Mention that I have had to listen to you talk about basketball or other things a lot as well?

Discuss how great I feel when I find someone to discuss show rides, neurodiversity etc. with? Online groups in particular have been great with this.

Okay, I get it.

You find my tendency to withdraw rude. I spend too much time alone or with my cats.

But can we also…

Discuss that the noise is too much for me at times? Why must the tv, radio or Spotify always be on in the background? What is wrong with silence?

Discuss that my withdrawal also helps me socialise. It is a balance. I just don’t have the energy to socialise all the time. Withdrawing for a time means I get some recharge time and can socialise more afterwards.

Mention that being alone can be fun as well as beneficial?

Okay, I get.

You feel the need to tell me your perspective all the time.

But can we also…

Discuss my perspective. Discuss my strengths as well as my limitations. Discuss what makes me happy.

There has been attention on moving away from discussing deficits and instead discussing interests and strengths when working with autistic people. This needs to go beyond professionals and be common for families, friends and the wider community.

Written by oneautisticperson aka Leeanne Marshall

[yesthattoo]

One Last Autistics Speaking Day.

I actually don't remember the start of Autistics Speaking Day (I'd just started my freshman year of college), but I've read about it.  I've participated a few times. I helped with the Tumblr for it, I think 2014-2016?  But as time moves on, the ways people engage in communities have changed. Yahoo groups were before my time. I began engaging in the age of blogs. I saw #AutChat start. I think we're in the age of social media, now, more so than stand-alone blogs. I'm not sure that's a good thing, but I think it's true. Facebook groups are where I'm most active, now.  I'm still speaking. Just... not usually orally, and not usually here.  (It's also relevant that I've been writing in places that aren't blogs or social media, but that's more the academic side of things than the everyday.)

[callmemanatee]

Many people don't seem to know what Autistics Speaking Day is. I strongly encourage you to read the blog, learn how ASDay got started, and maybe even submit something you've written or made.

Don't let this part of autistic history be forgotten.

[nationaldaycalendar]

November 1, 2022 - NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY – AUTISTICS SPEAKING DAY – NATIONAL CINNAMON DAY – NATIONAL BRUSH DAY – NATIONAL FAMILY LITERACY DAY – NATIONAL COOK FOR YOUR PETS DAY – NATIONAL CALZONE DAY – NATIONAL BIOLOGIC COORDINATORS DAY – NATIONAL VINEGAR DAY – NATIONAL DEEP FRIED CLAMS DAY

November 1, 2022 – NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY – AUTISTICS SPEAKING DAY – NATIONAL CINNAMON DAY – NATIONAL BRUSH DAY – NATIONAL FAMILY LITERACY DAY – NATIONAL COOK FOR YOUR PETS DAY – NATIONAL CALZONE DAY – NATIONAL BIOLOGIC COORDINATORS DAY – NATIONAL VINEGAR DAY – NATIONAL DEEP FRIED CLAMS DAY

NOVEMBER 1, 2022 | NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY | AUTISTICS SPEAKING DAY | NATIONAL CINNAMON DAY | NATIONAL BRUSH DAY | NATIONAL FAMILY LITERACY DAY | NATIONAL COOK FOR YOUR PETS DAY | NATIONAL CALZONE DAY | NATIONAL BIOLOGIC COORDINATORS DAY | NATIONAL VINEGAR DAY | NATIONAL DEEP FRIED CLAMS DAY NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY | NOVEMBER 1 On November 1, millions of people celebrate authors and the books they…

[that1notetaker]

I’m begging. Pls ramble about the cotl au. Pls.

Next

ON IT BOSS.

Okay SO the T4W (Time Doesn't Care For Waltzes/Time for Waltzes) AU STARTS 1000 years in the past, before Narinder got chained down. Both Narinder and Shamura start getting split-up prophetic visions. While Shamura gets dreams about The Lamb, Narinder learns about the betrayal(s). In the middle of it all, Leshy checks on Narinder during one of his less than stellar lucid dream sessions without knowing what's up and in the end, it's just Leshy, the youngest, that gets the worst for wear. It changes things in the long term. Or maybe it's just the start.

[myfandomrealitea]

We actually are in the era where we're so offended by everything we're getting offended on other peoples' behalf and telling them that they're wrong if they're not personally offended by something.

[dennisboobs]

4x06 // 10x08 // 11x05 // 14x03 // 15x08

↳ Dennis + sensitivity to harsh noise (1/?)

[thetopichot]

My roman empire is the fact that Auron legit KILLED Derek by fucking BEATING the absolute SHIT outta him then straight NAILED THAT MOFO ON THE DESK & then straight up went on a date afterwards & had the most heartwarming moment ever with Rook. I know that's not much, but I think about that shit at LEAST once a month.

[urdtarah]

idk if anyone has said this before but Neil has adhd

[autisticsspeakingday]

 It is to my utmost regret that I announce the end to Autistics Speaking Day. 

Nov 1, 2023 will be the last ASDay. 

The ASDay blog will remain online, but we will no longer be hosting the event on November 1st. 

Thank you. Thank you for every single entry and participant. Thank you for your words, your music, your stories and thoughts. 

Thank you for everyone who has volunteered and supported us over the years. 

Thank you for everything. 

[generalsdiary]

Moze x Jiaoqiu

warnings: none

word count: 900~

description: just them being domestic (pre-2.5 events)

moze is the type of husband who always cleans, keeps everything neat, he will run (quite literally) anywhere and do any errand without complaint, nothing is too hard or difficult for him. he is v protective, „I promise I will bring him back“, nothing is stopping him from getting his husband back, he is confident in his abilities, to the point he isn't even worrying. he always attentively listens to jiaoqiu’s ramblings, his full attention on the foxian. he will eat anything jiaoqiu puts before him, no matter his preferences. uttering simple praises after the meal and never letting his husband clean up.

at night he cuddles with him, being the big spoon, holding his husband close, face buried in the orangey pink hair. like a touch starved kitten, he gravitates to him during the day, always hugging him- backhugs are his favorite. jiaoqiu always smiles, a sparkle in his eyes with each embrace. moze is often quiet, very thoughtful- usually ending up blunt in his words but not cold, never cold. the care and love for each other shown in the soft words, gentle embraces and lingering gazes. moze doesn’t do causal touches, his hands don’t wander to jiaoqiu’s soft tail, or even softer ears, or to caress him. he doesn’t want to overwhelm his husband or make him uncomfortable. yet when they stand close he bumps his nose against his. and when he is so so tired he rests his forehead on the shorter man’s. recharging, seeking comfort, love. luckily for him, his husband knows his main love language is physical touch. jiaoqiu bringing his hands to cup his cheeks, thumbs caressing the rough skin. he misses the smile that brightens the foxian’s face, his eyes shut relishing in the sensations. such a sensitive and responsive man. jiaoqiu is the only person moze allows to touch him, to drag those soft fingers across his scars, through the silver hair, to see him shirtless. he is the only one with whom he makes and keeps eye contact. moze is the type of husband that even without being close jiaoqiu can feel his touch on him. sitting across him, over a hotpot. lilac eyes on him. full of love. as if he is caressing his husband’s cheek at that moment. making jiaoqiu’s chest feel warm from the feeling of such a silent expression of admiration.

on the days jiaoqiu voices that he feels tired a quick response is given in turn “I can carry you.” a blunt, straightforward, and the same offer every time. he is more than happy to carry him + he enjoys showing off for his hubby. not caring for the public opinion or any observers; it doesn’t even cross his mind, jiaoqiu’s happiness the only thing on his mind. sadly, he is always rejected (occasionally making him pout). moze doesn’t even know why (painfully obvious why, the rare blushed jiaoqiu further confirming it). shadows are his safe haven, but jiaoqiu is his peace. they fill each other's needs, like puzzles fitting together, completely domestic in their behaviors; perfect for general feixiao’s safety and well-being. despite working together they don’t get tired of each other. work is work and their house is home.

coriander is not allowed under this roof and no big lights are ever on. when they have guests, jiaoqiu compensates with many small lamps, fairy lights, and a bunch of candles. unscented ones. otherwise, they would clash with the meal. sometimes, jiaoqiu will light a scented candle, but it won’t be lit for longer than an hour, otherwise, he would get overwhelmed due to how sensitive his nose is to smells. moze being the clean freak, and insistent on maintaining really good hygiene and not strong perfumes so he can do his job perfectly would just make jiaoqiu purr if he could. type of husband truly only for him. jiaoqiu is quite a social butterfly and he drags his husband with him, who will grumble a bit and then go along, and behave politely to the best of his capabilities. moze cannot read a room to save his life, short in his sentences and straight to the point despite pondering his words prior, they end up always coming off blunt. he means no harm and what he says is usually of little matter, and none of it holds any weight to him when all he needs is to hear his darling chuckle or gaze at him and all is well in his world. the only result he could possibly ever wish for.

and when they kiss? the lighting and shadow with fire and spice? the I talk a lot, flirtatious, rarely flustered with I listen to you with heart eyes, mainly unaffected but you make me smile. well… they keep it private. such actions feel too personal and intimate for them to be shown in public and given for anyone to see on display. they hold it too close to their hearts, it matters in a different way to them. something near and dear. they won’t be caught showing pda, not even holding hands- well they rarely hold hands either way. it is behind closed doors and in the privacy of their home that their lips meet, and hands wander, leaving soft touches in intimate places that they’d never do in public (unlike many others). it means too much to them.

[explodingstarlight]

the emo trinity is alive, well, and prospering in 2023

[donniesexceptionalmind]

Let's burn this OTHER Speaks to the ground.

[aroaceleovaldez]

writing PJO chars' adhd/autistic/dyslexic/etc traits is extremely fun for me, especially exploring the different ways those traits might manifest for each of them and how they react to those traits in themselves based on their individual personalities and I need to do more of it.

anyways Nico autism hc that I've been meaning to write for ages but haven't gotten a good excuse to yet - if he gets stressed out enough Nico will very rarely have speech loss for up to a couple of days at a time. It TOTALLY freaks him out the first time or two that it happens because Using Your Voice is such a big thing for him. something something that quote from BoO about being halfway to Asphodel already. And he struggles a lot with general cues already so he puts even more weight on being able to communicate very directly and efficiently, and being physically unable to communicate verbally is like his worst nightmare. Plus he's already stressed and probably shutting down whenever it happens so it's just Extra Bad and it takes a bit of his friends helping calm him down and find other ways for him to communicate that works for him for him to start feeling better and shifting his perspectives a bit about what that whole "using your voice" manta means to him (mostly just. a little less literal). also he totally learns sign language in probably at least one or two varieties cause he cannot stop picking up languages.

[sadaveniren]

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