#Crab mentality

[probablyasocialecologist]

The reason that it’s so easy to whip up loathing for “benefit scroungers” is that — in the reactionary fantasy — they have escaped the suffering to which those in work have to submit. This fantasy tells its own story: the hatred for benefits claimants is really about how much people hate their own work. Others should suffer as we do: the slogan of a negative solidarity that cannot imagine any escape from the immiseration of work.

k-punk: The Collected and Unpublished Writings of Mark Fisher (2004-2016)

[splitfoxe]

at long last, my subnautica precursor/architect oc has a ref (yes they are tall, yes they are awkward to move around, yes they are just a twinkified spider crab with cannibalistic desires)

[the-feminist-filipino-fangirl]

*Inhale*

I KNOW WHY BOSCHA’S PALISMAN IS A CRAB!!!

So from what I’ve noticed, a witch’s palisman reflects their personality. Amity is reserved yet affectionate, like a cat. Ravens are some of the most intelligent birds and Lilith is incredibly smart. Gus tries to please other people and uses illusion magic so his palisman is a chameleon. Willow said in Hunting Palismen about wanting to protect her friends and for the people who hurt them to feel the sting of defeat, and her palisman is a bee which will sting any threat to it’s hive. Anyways you get my point.

But what about Boscha? Her palisman is a crab. This seemed random to me at first but the reason Boscha’s palisman is a crab is because SHE HAS CRAB MENTALITY!!!

If you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket, all of them are trying to climb on top of each other, pushing the other crabs down so they can be on top. This is how Crab Mentality got its name. Boscha is a bully and puts people down to feel better about herself. This gives us a bit of an insight on her character. Is the Grudgby Queen really as confident as we think?

The things I come with by myself in the kitchen.

[bypageturner]

I was reading today again about crab mentality, which I know you've seen a lot even if you haven't heard that term before.

Basically, it boils down to an atittude that says "if I can't have it, neither can you."

It gets its name from how crabs behave when they are in a bucket.

It's said that if you put one crab in a bucket, it can claw its way up and out pretty easily. But if you put a bunch of them in there, they start attacking each other in ways that make it extremely unlikely that anyone escapes, effectively trapping each other.

[unaideno]

[2thinktalk]

The Crab Mentality or Spirit

[rachymarie]

*A thought spurred on by previous post:

And it only took me picking up drawing again and doing three attempts at a realistic drawing of my body to feel confident about my artistic abilities again. I guess I was so scared I wouldn't still "have it" but talent never goes away and if you aren't naturally talented (sorry to toot my own horn (I need some positive encouragement even if it's from myself, not many people really actually encourage me outside of friends and family and even then my own bff didn't even respond when I sent her my drawing WIP recently - like, actual conversation-stopper and radio silence for three days even after I confronted her about it - so I really do need to be my own biggest fan and keep going despite the crickets and tumbleweed reception I tend to receive. Just like I've always done. People only value working yourself into burnout these days rather than cultivating skills and passions) but honestly despite all my endless struggles in life and personal/social deficiencies, art and creativity is like one of the few departments I was actually lucky in, and I'm one of those "annoying" gifted artists who it kinda comes naturally to. My actual final art style and composition etc is subjective to the viewer of course, but what I mean is I seem to pick up most techniques naturally, even though for starters I had to teach myself how to hold a pencil because the right-handed teachers didn't know how to teach lefties so just ignored me like "idk figure it out 🤷‍♀️" 💀 I've basically been having to teach myself nearly everything I've learnt my whole life especially with the learning disability of undiagnosed autism growing up in the 2000s (a hugely ableist and problematic time in far too recent memory - there wasn't even any pushback against the use of autistic as a slur/insult, and being undiagnosed or "late-diagnosed" wasn't really a thing yet - instead you were just a weirdo not to be interacted with except to abuse, for fear of being tainted oneself with the Weird brush. Literally, I had no defence other than my twin sister who could have been a millionaire by now if she got a dollar for every peer that felt the need to come to her and tell her "your sister is weird". Times were brutal so please respect your elders the Millennials lol we went through a lot so that you or your children won't have to 🫂) with literally no support or acknowledgement for or ways to deal with it

That said, i still have suffered from artists' block and even destroying my art, vowing to never make art again due to delusions etc)

The *Tall poppy syndrome phenomenon is a very real problem here in New Zealand (even Google suggestions knows it) and in Australia. While not being the picture of success I am "gifted" I have experienced it a lot and it sucks. And have succeeded in being my own person to the bitter end(well, the present, nothing's ending yet for anlong time I hope), unapologetically me in a society of people trying their hardest to be perfect clones playing the part. I am a bit of a radical rebel like that and refuse to undermine myself to be anything but myself and it's amazing just how much people have just absolutely loathed it lol. Such is the life of many an artist I guess 🤷‍♀️ like, I'm sorry I'm good at a lot of things that mainstream society doesn't seem to consider worth anything cos I'm too disabled to work (only disabled enough to spontaneously ramble into the void for hours in a display of extreme disorganization (I started writing these posts at midday and didn't stop and now it's 1pm))

Like it sucks that the country collectively decided not to support people's achievements and instead be horrible to people for daring to be good at something.

A similar/the same notion is crab mentality/crabs in a bucket which is apparently a phrase popular among Filipinos and basically boils down to the thinking “if I can't have it, neither can you.”**

I think a lot of it stems from ignorance. It all results in people not being allowed to be proud of themselves or their family members for even the smallest of personal achievements. But I say be proud brave soul. Keep doing you cos the world needs more of it.

*"Tall poppy syndrome describes a cultural trait where successful individuals are resented, undermined or attacked to bring them back down. Crabs in buckets is a phrase that describes individuals undermining others who try to succeed. These negative cultural traits undermine performance and engagement."

**"Crab Mentality is derived from a pattern of behaviour observed in crabs when trapped in a bucket. Any time a crab attempts to escape, the other crabs will immediately pull it back down to their misery and the group's collective demise."

* Quora.com lol yes I'm quoting Quora deal with I'm tiredI did my best

** Chriamillas.com

Idk like my posts or send a message or something if you appreciate the rambling/resonate at all lol cos despite my radical self-love/acceptance sometimes I feel like the most annoying girl on Tumblr that everyone's vagueblogging/complaining about in the same tags I use (I have actually come across people talking about me I think but like who really knows what's just paranoia/anxiety or just that maybe people really are just mean) or bullying me on TikTok. I guess that's the perks of the internet tho huh. And I can't seem to access community mental health support these days apparently so I blog instead. Make the mental health system make sense please somebody people be out here begging for help only to be left until they reach crisis point (Ambulance at the Bottom of the Hill is a whole other post in itself, so let's not get into that and move onto getting this nap underway before the day advances any more)

[angelabowermicelli]

does tumblr know about this?

[hang-on-lil-tomato]

Every time I say “I’m gonna do this thing to improve my life and income.” Some ahole “friend” HAS to say something negative, because 1. They subconsciously can’t stand that you have something on the burner 2. They project their own inadequacies onto you.

in New Zealand they call it “tall poppies” syndrome.

[aformerghost]

That weird crab pot habit of functioning at full capacity only after being scorched in boiling water for 10 minutes

[horusvalley]

Crab Mentality عقلية او نظرية السلطعون

Crab Mentality عقلية او نظرية السلطعون

نظرية السلطعون نظرية او عقلية السلطعون Crab Mentality هي ظاهرة يتفاعل فيها الناس بشكل سلبي ، من حيث أفكارهم أو تصريحاتهم أو أفعالهم ، تجاه أولئك الذين يسبقونهم ، على الرغم من أنهم لا يتوقعون أن تكون هناك فوائد مباشرة للقيام بذلك   على سبيل المثال ، يمكن أن تتسبب عقلية السلطعون في إحباط شخص ما أو تخريب صديقه الذي بدأ يبلي بلاءً حسنًا في المدرسة ، وذلك ببساطة لأنه يشعر بالمرارة حيال صعوبة…

[indaybadidayinsweden]

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[truefreedombelieversofficial]

How the Crab Mentality Fuels the Fear of Success

To better understand what crab mentality - a source of sabotage that plagues everyone, and especially a number of budding Filipino investors and entrepreneurs - means in my own words, here’s a story.

At one night at the fishing pier on the Sunshine Skyway on May 2022, I felt like I did something right going crabbing with relatives. I usually would turn such trips down, but one dream of me I had years before the trip of me being upset that I missed it reminded me to go anyway.

The crabbing night trip was different from my childhood ones at LBI (if memory served me), down the shore (it refers to the New Jersey coast, also known as the Jersey Shore, and LBI means Long Beach Island).

Instead of using cages with fryer chicken pieces as bait, my relatives used nets. In that process, one must catch any crabs near the surface as a buddy would shine a flashlight on it. Those nets would be often cumbersome.

But nevertheless, we caught over 30 crabs. I was treated to a lovely Tampa Bay sunset in the process. My male cousin was worried about the crabs escaping the bucket once full, them wrecking havoc in our SUV on I-275 and I-75 on our way home. So, we covered it with an empty half of a box as we loaded it in the trunk and hoped for the best during the drive home.

Fortunately, all the crabs stayed in the bucket. My relatives were astonished. But, regarding me as someone shifting cultural paradigms that keep most Filipinos fearing success and failure in the first place, not so much.

The reason the 30-plus crabs remained in the bucket during that ride down the interstates was because they would drag any stragglers that attempted to escape from it. What appeared to be luck to my relatives turned out to be a learning experience as a print-on-demand entrepreneur and investor.

What do my past experiences going crabbing have to do with the fear of success, you ask. Well, some who are afflicted are afraid of disbelievers who try to drag them down. “Disbelievers hold strong opinions and those opinions have kept them safe,” Maddie Holgate explained on LifeHack, “Disbelievers also tend to be sticklers for doing things the right way.”

That’s especially true in most Filipino and Filipino diaspora households. A majority of the faction of “disbeliever-families” believe that financial wealth is solely achieved by going to school, getting good grades, going to college, and getting a medical career. In some cases, relatives are obliged to allocate a majority of earnings to their family members.

Of course, financially providing for others isn’t all that bad, but adding on possibilities of opportunities to have them earn money can be an alternative and more feasible form of utang na loob. But some business owners’ and investors who are making at least six figures still have that fear of success monkeys on their backs, with crab mentality foaming at their mouths.

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Jen Clarke, a Zazzle PRO designer, told viewers in a vlog on YouTube about a coach she and mother Elke trained under who feared success. She was worried that if she made more money, she’d be obliged to financially provide for relatives. (Again, that’s the sort of utang na loob that I’m trying to redefine and reframe here.)

On top of that, she feared that some of them would negatively envy her success. To help allay her fears, she asked herself, “Is there blood?”

And that's something that entrepreneurs and investors alike should ask themselves when faced with a fear of success, be it in the form of crab mentality or any other: is there blood? What's the WORST it could happen if you finally made over the $100K or $1M mark?

If those questions spark strong memories or feelings, speak with a coach or mentor who BELIEVES in your endeavors.

"If you've chosen a particular course of action and identified it as your path, you need to persevere in pursuing it," psychologist Loretta G. Breuning Ph.D. advised on Psychology Today.

"When you constantly change course or adopt every piece of advice that comes your way (especially well-meaning advice from relatives), you open yourself to being pulled down. Remember, weigh and accept all meaningful advice and jettison advice that doesn't serve your purpose."

If those feelings and memories of those questions still sting, seek a therapist, find counseling in your own religion you practice, or use Emotional Freedom Technique. Use the surrogate version of the latter if needed or, again, just stick to your path and not let negative people block it.

Yes, there are times you'll fail, and it even happened to Robert Kiyosaki when he went against his poor dad's advice to re-enroll in college to obtain another high paying J-O-B after serving in Vietnam. But with like-minded "rich relatives" he worked with, he turned out to become one himself, even weathering the 1987 and 1990 recessions.

"Though this may sound a bit cliche, there are always lessons in failure," Dr. Breuning advised, "Instead of brooding over the failure and allowing others to affect you negatively, you may double down, reflect and identify the underlying causes of the failure. When you don't give up in failure, you raise your respectability among peers and family."

We can either wish those who pull budding successful business owners, entrepreneurs, and investors down get on board or we can help them ignore them and help them live their live in their own successful terms. True Freedom Believers believe in like-minded people who eat, sleep, and breathe success, after all!  

[callimara]

EVERYONE LOOK AT HER

LOOK AT MY SPIDERSONA

her canon event was having to decide on a color scheme for her suit. So much wasted textiles... so much money spent

[greenbloods]

thinking about how ‘what have i ever done but what was expected of me’ is SUCH a catelyn theon ned victarion cersei line. because theyre RIGHT. and they all want out of the system so bad but they hate anyone whose outside of that system. crabs in a bucket all of them. cersei hates sansa for being that little girl who believes in songs that she used to be and tries to kill the girl in her. victarion acts like a sad soft baby for BEATING HIS WIFE TO DEATH --but by all the laws he knows, this was what he knows to be right. and he hates that he does it but hes too stupid to realize that he was the bad guy. even the Honorable ned looks down on jaime for the crime of *checks notes* killing a tyrant king. the wheel keeps turning. and who will break it?

[turtletoria]

when youre in a 3/4 left facing bust competition and your opponent is turtletoria