#Ex BF Anon

[enchantechante]

My friends mom died and I've been doing my best to be there for him.When she died I found out through a friend via facebook then I text him and he confirmed.I knew she was in the hospital because I had already been communicating with his family about it while she was.He's also my ex(broke up because my schedule was getting in our way due to work and I realized I had no time for a bf)but we stayed close and his mom adored me.I like to give people space and let them deal with things in their own way because I know he has some issues mentally when things get really hard on him.I haven't heard from him in four days but saw him posting on facebook so I just text him before messaging you.I let him know we can get away if he wants to give himself a break and it's all on me.I just started feeling weird out of no where because... I was like,you know I have a lot going on in my life and my mom has cancer etc so I'm trying to be there for everyone even though I'm barely keeping it together but we're supposed to be best friends and I just don't hear from you at all. No update about his mom's service etc.And the last time we talked last week before his mom died his sister in law made a comment. She said... And this is why she(me)doesn't want to take you back now.He said something weird because he has anxiety bad and suffers from depression so he really just be in his own world but still... As a friend,am I wrong for feeling left out?I have no idea what is going on about anything plus I work 12-14 hour shifts five days a week so I can't just pop up late at night you know. I'm not trying to be an asshole I just feel like the fact he's not even from NYC and his fam and friends are on the other side of the world,he should reach out to his only friend here which is me.He does any other time.I'm just trying to be there and see what I can do but he's confusing me. Made me question our friendship too because before his mom died unexpectedly I had just told him we need to get together and talk about his behavior,us etc and he agreed. Smh. But I'm still not taking things too personal yet.I'll give him more time but we definitely need to talk about so much especially him claiming he wants me back.I am confused as hell.

Sis...

"not taking things too personal yet" / "he should reach out to his only friend here which is me". Maybe he's trying to fix that only-friend thing by reaching out "friends" on Facebook? You're literally taking that personal.

No shade but obviously you want him back but your current circumstances wont permit that.

So instead you're trying too hard to force a friendship with as much intimacy as possible (in person talks about "us", expecting him to reach out re: his family's funeral plans/feelings, getaways just for us two etc). He's going to have to move at his own pace with that while you work to accept where he's at with it.

If you don't accept his pace for things you're going to continue with these unrealistic expectations. You're gonna keep pouring out energy, finances, communication etc. With nothing in return. You're going to be very drained. In an effort to preserve your energy/resources for more important things (Like caring self care, like your mother, like being there for your family rn) put a hard pause on pouring out for your ex so you can pivot your energy for yourself.

Things aren't going to be what you expected.

No response is a response. No action is an action. It is a choice. And we have to honor that when it comes to others.

Rebuilding your friendship after this break up is going to take patience and equal effort. You can't coerce emotional intimacy. I believe that you deserve more for your effort, attention, time, love, and compassion than this. I just think you're asking it form the wrong person.

If you think your expectations are fair, then continue in that way. But if you want something different to happen other than what's already been happening you're going to have to try diff actions.

That being said - you don't have to block him. You don't have to never talk to him again. You're just going to have to wait it out. You're going to have to find a healthy way to distract yourself instead of giving into this person that gives nothing back.

It's not sustainable.

[hanasnx]

ex! Anakin still checks your cell phone and your messages and ask you about it while he fucks you raw 🤌

MINORS DNI 18+

EX-BF!ANAKIN SKYWALKER leisurely rutting his hips forward, fucking you from behind while you're on all fours. "Who's 'Robert'?" he asks in a scrutinizing tone, both hands holding up your phone to his view. "That your boss?"

"That's my friend, Anakin."

"Fuck ass name."

"Shut up!"

"S'a lot of heart emojis." His hand settles on your tailbone, steadying you as he increases his pace. "Should I give him a call? Let him hear how good you sound?"

[downstairsbar]

thinking abt that post that's like "lestat would get jealous of a lamp post if louis looked too long at it" and. do you think they're too insane to let the other one use toys? because lestat totally seems like all those dudes on reddit who whine about their girlfriends having dildos or vibes because wdym their dick isn't enough for them???

i think about this every day. in the 5 days since you sent it there hasnt been a day that i dont think about it. yes of course lestat is like this BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY louis gets mad when lestat jerks off. he's like are you fucking insane. and lestat is like i only do anymore when ur not in the mood and louis is like So you can't wait? You was gonna die?

[foursaints]

nabokov's letters oh my god -> 'you came into my life — not as one comes to visit … but as one comes to a kingdom where all the rivers have been waiting for your reflection, all the roads, for your steps.' CHANGED ME (my tender night, my golden wonderful happiness, my sweet creature, only bcj would possess the level of extra to call evan this, i literally had an aneurysm when i saw you mention nabokov in terms of rosekiller nicknames because YES??)

yes!! the portions that kill me are the little word-searches and crosswords he invented for her & slipped into the letters when vera was at the sanatorium... very james-coded.

i don't see rk as ... saccharine ? (sorry nabokov) in the same way that he can be. but when asked about their nicknames the first thing that came to mind was how he would call her dushen’ka, as a diminutive of the russian dusha, for soul. there's no english equivalent but it's most fitting for them imo.

[prettyboykatsuki]

as a non bllk reader i only know how to differentiate the players by things i see on ur dash. isagi, the one whose tongue stays outside his mouth, the ardel wispy lash brothers, cinnamoroll, cinnamoroll's ex bf, the one ur friend is insane abt, neck tattoo haver, fuzzy mustache and the unhinged one. i sound INSANE trying to talk abt it to ppl familiar with the content lmao

unironically, this is one of the funniest asks ive ever recieved in my entire life. ive been crying laughing at this for the last hour. like it was hurting me and my sides i was laughing for so long. because i know exactly who is who and in what order. the one ur friend is insane about is literally killing me. im.

[onsunnyside]

hi sonny!! i haven’t asked about ex fiancé!ari yet but this thought just came to me like… randomly. i’m supposed to be writing an essay but i can’t get to it without saying this..

ex fiancé!ari talking to his sweet naive girl, more like to her little pussy, while overstimming her and telling reader… “see, this little fluttering pussy knows what she wants, you need to listen to her more” or something like that

KFBEKXJD MY FACE IS HOT THINKING ABOUT IT AND IT MAY BE REALLY CHEESY IM SORRY IDK HOW TO WRITE BUT IVE BEEN THINKING TOO MUCH ABOUT IT

- ✨🐬 anon

dear goodness 😵‍💫😵‍💫 let me just save this for every filthy au i have, and kith your sexy mind too !! 😚🫶

[falloutboyyaoi]

You think you’re on some progressive shit but really you loop around to some fetid conservative terf shit, typical whiteass leftist behavior.

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[sol-consort]

I mean tbf, you were dead for two years, the man went through all the stages of grief of losing his partner already 😅 -blue anon

Oh dw I'm not blaming him at all, he is very much in the right. I'm fully blaming Shepard for not having anything else to say. Like how come we get to tell Kelly that we miss him but never tell it to him to his face? Shepard pick up your braincells did we drop them on the ride here??

But also he shouldn't have left us with Cerberus even if he dislikes them. Tali does too and they attacked HER homeworld, she had a much bigger reason to hate them than Kaidan and yet she tags along just because it's us and she is worried.

We died saving our crew, we were the ones who told Kaidan to go first in the shuttle and went to pick up joker. You'd think after saving his literal life that maybe just maybe he could loosen his morals a bit to help us a little? It doesn't have to be full on working for cerberus but maybe tag along unofficially on some missions or anything?

God, I'm just annoyed at getting dumped, I'm cheating on him, idc. Then, in ME3, we will see how it goes.

[lobotomyladylives]

did setting her exes apartment on fire and going to jail make it now harder for her to date? do potential new gfs/bfs get scared off by her record?

well she has a new boyfriend but I'm not sure he knows about her history. I'm not telling him either bc I'm not a snitch & I'm afraid she'd try to set my house on fire if I did.

[hanasnx]

ex!anakin stalking ur insta and he sees ur with a guy but ur wearing the skirt he got u and he comes over later at night and fucks u in it and yeah.

-🎀

omg :) he would stalk your insta about it. he wouldn’t be shy in asking what the fuck you think you’re doing, and specifically wouldn’t ask about who that guy was bcos he couldn’t care less. he’s fucking you with his prized nine incher, your skirt hiked up around your waist, asking you what you thought you were gonna get away with only to end up calling him for a dick appointment at the end of the night

[mugenloopdalove]

I'm considering moving blogs

[littlekingbergara]

I feel like it's inevitable that Andrew would join. Like I'm fully convinced they stopped About To Eat because Andrew, and possibly other were going to get highered at Watcher and they were just using ATE as a way to do something until Worth It ended. Yes I know I'm delusional

idk if i'd say Inevitable. and i'm pretty sure they wouldn't have had to wait until worth it was over to leave buzzfeed since shane and ryan were fully freelancing during the last seasons of unsolved while they were making watcher. unless there was some weird specific contractual obligation that they came up with to avoid the same situation for worth it.

i don't keep up with everyone else from ate so idk if they're still at buzzfeed full time or anything.

anyway i'm sure we'll see him around but i'm not fully confident he'll come to work full time there. i would like it though.

[dreambranding]

Yeah it’s really romantic in a way to imagine dnf alpha alpha or omega omega just consistently rebiting each other to have their mating bite :(

I LOVE BITES i think they're just genuinely one of the best things we have as humans LOVE IS CORRUPT & ABOUT CONSUMING. BUT NOT IN THE CAPITALISM WAY IN THE CARNAL WAY. also it's a lot about like choice??? and claiming??? Like i see this appeal fr

[casiavium]

Compromise, draw ghirahim and peatrice gossiping together (joking)

bold of you to assume peatrice would even give ghirahim the time of day

[teddyoverthinks]

Bestie… how cringe can you get…

I can get more cringe than you can even imagine! 

I don’t know what part of this account is the most cringe—the vulnerability, the earnestness, or the respect I have for fanfiction. 

But

I will continue to be vulnerable and earnest. This account is as much for me as it is anybody else, and I have to put my whole heart into every post for them to be what I want them to be. 

I will never lose my respect for fanfiction, or any retold stories. They will continue to be one of my favorite parts of culture. 

I will continue finding valuable ideas in everything I read. 

I will continue sharing them, because I LOVE this. It helps me! I get to think about quotes that affected me & use them intentionally to meet their full potential of effectiveness. I’d like to think it helps other people in a variety of ways, even if they’re just finding fic reccs.

I thought pretty hard about my reply to this, because I could choose to ignore it, or give you the standard “anon hate is pretty cringe, actually, because only twelve year olds have the time and vindictiveness to be mean because they don’t like something rather than click away”. 

But the thing is, this made me sad today, and the thing about this account is that it makes me happy. Your message came with a chance to remind myself, and anyone else who sees this, why I am here. 

So I’d like to talk about shame for a second. You think, for whatever reason, something about what I post here is shameful. The stuff I talk about—self respect, human rights, striving to be a good and decent human—makes you so uncomfortable you want to know why I’m not too.

There’s a very long winded answer to that, beginning with the fact that I’ve been incredibly ‘cringey’ my whole life, so this purposefully shared vulnerability is comparatively minor, and ending with Brené Braun’s TED Talk Listening To Shame. 

But the short answer is that pride defeats shame, so when I feel a spiral of cringe fail nobody will like this yikes yikes yikes coming on, instead of curling up in a ball or trying badly to fit in, I choose to do the thing I like and be proud of it. Proud of defeating the cringefailanxiety thoughts, even though it’s an ongoing battle. Proud of being unique and happy. Proud of making friends that support me. I can even be proud of making someone laugh at how silly I am. 

I truly hope you find a way to love yourself for your own uniqueness, because if you can’t even respect mine, I doubt you’re proud of yours. 

And if this post doesn’t help anon, I hope it helps someone else!