#dealing with shame

[teddyoverthinks]

Bestie… how cringe can you get…

I can get more cringe than you can even imagine! 

I don’t know what part of this account is the most cringe—the vulnerability, the earnestness, or the respect I have for fanfiction. 

But

I will continue to be vulnerable and earnest. This account is as much for me as it is anybody else, and I have to put my whole heart into every post for them to be what I want them to be. 

I will never lose my respect for fanfiction, or any retold stories. They will continue to be one of my favorite parts of culture. 

I will continue finding valuable ideas in everything I read. 

I will continue sharing them, because I LOVE this. It helps me! I get to think about quotes that affected me & use them intentionally to meet their full potential of effectiveness. I’d like to think it helps other people in a variety of ways, even if they’re just finding fic reccs.

I thought pretty hard about my reply to this, because I could choose to ignore it, or give you the standard “anon hate is pretty cringe, actually, because only twelve year olds have the time and vindictiveness to be mean because they don’t like something rather than click away”. 

But the thing is, this made me sad today, and the thing about this account is that it makes me happy. Your message came with a chance to remind myself, and anyone else who sees this, why I am here. 

So I’d like to talk about shame for a second. You think, for whatever reason, something about what I post here is shameful. The stuff I talk about—self respect, human rights, striving to be a good and decent human—makes you so uncomfortable you want to know why I’m not too.

There’s a very long winded answer to that, beginning with the fact that I’ve been incredibly ‘cringey’ my whole life, so this purposefully shared vulnerability is comparatively minor, and ending with Brené Braun’s TED Talk Listening To Shame. 

But the short answer is that pride defeats shame, so when I feel a spiral of cringe fail nobody will like this yikes yikes yikes coming on, instead of curling up in a ball or trying badly to fit in, I choose to do the thing I like and be proud of it. Proud of defeating the cringefailanxiety thoughts, even though it’s an ongoing battle. Proud of being unique and happy. Proud of making friends that support me. I can even be proud of making someone laugh at how silly I am. 

I truly hope you find a way to love yourself for your own uniqueness, because if you can’t even respect mine, I doubt you’re proud of yours. 

And if this post doesn’t help anon, I hope it helps someone else!

[sergeant-angels-trashcan]

Yall remember how Texas had that "report an abortion" form that they had to take down after a week?

Well, Missouri has one, only it's for reporting transgender concerns.

Comrades. Friends. Romans. Countrymen. You know what to do.

[uncanny-tranny]

Hey, if you have speech impediments, you are so amazing.

If you stutter or have a lisp or misspeak easily or you have a flat affect or a limited verbal vocabulary or if your voice is AAC or if you just have a difference in your vocality, you are so incredibly important and amazing.

Just know that your voice is yours. Nobody will ever be able to truly take it away. Your voice is part of you, and you deserve to make it as true to you as you deem fit. I hope you have the space to grow with your voice and whatever about it makes it unique.

[yesloulou]

Post Race | 2023 Mexican Grand Prix

[petramoth]

What’s up everyone, I’m rewatching the Justice League animated series (I will not be normal about this)

I know I won’t be the first to say it but

This is THE SuperBat scene of all time

The excitement, the chest to chest hug, the loving look on Clark’s face, the knowing looks exchanged between the rest of the team GOD I AM INSANE ABOUT THEM

Even my Mom, who knows basically nothing about these characters, walked by during this scene and said “Oh my god, they’re in love! Does no one else see that?”

Don’t worry, Mom, many of us do indeed see that

[lafiametta]

Blackthorne: I came here to use you! From the day I set foot on your shores, I fed you shit.

Toranaga: Aw, honey, is that what you thought you were doing? Amateur.

[ticklepinions]

This isn't a shot at anyone and although this is in response to a comment, this post is more for awareness.

Please, do not romantic my platonic. As an aroace person the way I perceive and experience love is very different from heteronormativity. I just find it so disheartening to like read that oh this friend you talked about definitely has a crush on you because of how touchy they are. Like my years of friendship with this person is just boiled down to romantic interest and to me that's real sad. I get that here in the West we are less touchy with our friends but why should I have to conform to that? Why should you conform to that?

Hug the homies, kiss them goodnight do whatever feels right between the two of you. Relationships do not have to be labeled all the time. It's annoying and frustrating to have people assume that one friend is falling for the other simply because they're comfortable holding hands platonically. "Oh but friends don't do that-" shut the fuck up. You don't get to define what's deemed platonic/romantic in a relationship you're not even involved in. I feel sorry for everyone that feels like they can't do things that are normally seen as romantic with your friends. Like seriously you're all missing out on the depths platonic love has. And idk why the world wants to make it my problem for its own ignorance.

Can't people just be? Without any hidden intentions or ulterior motives?

[wooteena]

support shelby. support niki. support alice.

i denounce wil gold in every way shape and form.

fuck you; wilbur. fuck you for building a space that was 'accepting' and 'feminist' while you commited acts of serial rape behind closed doors and used that veil as a shield so your victims could not reach out, lest your hoard of trusting overwhelmingly teen girl fans come to your defence. can you imagine facing a fun house mirror dressed in a mans skin, reflecting that kind of fucking mockery?

[pinkd3mon]

Magolor poor little meow meow

Day 5 of drawing kirby shitpost for every day of October

[heroesriseandfall]

In the grand scheme of things, Jason attacking Tim in Titan’s Tower was just one among many traumatic things that were happening to Tim at the time, and that’s a large part of why it isn’t shown as something that would stick out in Tim’s head as major trauma.

Tim had other problems that were a much bigger deal to him at the time, and for good reason—like his dad and Steph dying, like his stepmom and Kon dying, like Dick almost dying.

Don’t get me wrong, I also enjoy addressing things in fan works that never got addressed in canon. But it absolutely does make sense that Jason attacking Tim wouldn’t feel like a big deal to Tim! It’s hardly the first time he’d been beaten up badly, and seeing his best friend’s dead body not long after kind of took priority.

[inexplicably-spookified]

Lea… do you remember what a clear sky looks like at night?

Out in the countryside, no town or city nearby?

I hope one day you will…

[nashvillethotchicken]

Thinking about Lestat seeing Louis’s eating patterns as a waste of his gift/himself while Armand gives Louis food that he literally can not enjoy or digest just so he has something on his stomach

[uncanny-tranny]

Your life isn't a to-do list. You're allowed to exist, to take life as slow as you'd like. The dreams you have won't suddenly disappear. It's okay to stop and smell the roses, or to engage with "childish" things, or to recover, or do what you need to.

[rebouks]

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Ivan: Oh, hey Tills! It’s uh-.. it’s been a while. Matilda: Uh-huh. Ivan: Bruno’s out back if y’wanna come hang out, maybe we can talk or.. whatever. Matilda: Sure. Ivan: Y’know, if y’not feelin’ it anymore we can-… Matilda: What? Ivan: Nothin’, it’s just… Matilda: Does this dress make me look fat? Ivan: [scoffs] I ain’t answer-.. wait, are you pregnant?! Matilda: Sure looks like it. Ivan: Seriously?! Matilda: Mhm. [Ivan catches himself mere seconds before recklessly tackling Tilda, embracing her gently instead] Ivan: Christ-.. why’d y’wait so long t’tell us?! Matilda: [shrugs] I’m telling you now, aren’t I? Ivan: [thickly] I thought you’d changed y’mind, I-… Matilda: Don’t fucking cry about it. [Ivan chokes out a laugh, attempting to swallow the lump in his throat] Ivan: You’ve been t’the doctors, ain’tcha? What’d they say? I could’a-… Matilda: This-.. this is why I didn’t tell you. Ivan: Alright, okay-.. shit, I need a minute. Matilda: Hey, uh-… Bruno: I heard. Matilda: [snorts] It’s wild how different you two are. Bruno: Opposites attract, right? Matilda: Clearly. Bruno: It means a lot, y’know.. to both of us. Matilda: I know. Bruno: I’ll try n’ keep him off your back, but we’re here if you need anything. [Matilda nods appreciatively, forcing a smile] [Matilda’s hesitance doesn’t go unnoticed by Bruno, who swiftly finds himself wishing Ivan hadn’t run off. He’s not quite sure how to comfort her, but he figures a cuddle should do; albeit an awkward one] Bruno: Thank you…

[spitblaze]

You ever see something that is meant to be like...an overgeneralized statement for the sake of entertainment or comedy and not at all serious but it's about YOUR special interest and you are just sitting there trying not to explode with an entire explanation of why it's such an overgeneralized statement and the depth of the topic

[shitswiftiessay]

swifties have reached a new peak of white feminism.