#I care about her so much

[barfville]

bursting into tears at minthara not being mentioned in a lot of fandom stuff and simultaneously thinking about her sharing that without meeting you she would have just been another casualty in our crusade against the absolute and nobody would remember her

[nucleqr]

shadowheart will never have to worry about viconia again

[poeticdani]

me if you even care

[rainbow-fairylandsystem]

so, my friend with DID and I finally had dinner tonight after not talking for 6 weeks. It wasn't... perfect, but I think it was a good start.

She left her abusive husband and is living as a full time single mom now, and started seeing a DID specialist. She understands that me leaving was setting a boundary, and she said she's somewhat grateful that I did. Apparently it was a real wake up call to what her life was, and that everything needed to change.

I'm not at fault for needing space, but her feeling of abandonment doesn't really care about fault. She asked me how she's supposed to trust that I won't just leave again, and I told her that the trust has to slowly build back up again (just like it should have built slowly in the first place). We're also setting up a texting/calling schedule that will make sure that I get the space I need while still giving her the time she needs with me, and we're both agreeing to try communicating more effectively.

Its a start. We'll see where it goes

[arianwells]

Carpenter, always: I'm tired. I'm tired of it all.

Also Carpenter, always: continues to walk forward.

[abysswizardstimstuff]

#2970 cool Jennifer UR being scouted

[justanotherlonelytroll]

what do you do when you lay out the reasons why you like your friend and want to be friends with them and they just. don't believe you

[soldrawss]

*holds face tenderly*

[victory-cookies]

courtney deadend is the fucking character ever

[elllteo]

forever thinking about how marcille and laios have such a richly weird and funny friendship dynamic that people I see tend to write off as "god she hates his ass" but in reality it's the frustration of one neurodivergent weirdgirl to another neurodivergent weirdboy who has no concept of masking, has never had to mask, and simply doesn't know how to mask making their entire group come across as "the weirdo freaks" despite her best efforts to not be labelled as "weird" probably her entire life

[ewwww-what]

friendship so strong it grants you a sixth level spell slot. I have words to say.

[nightmareonpeachstreet]

had a dream where Hu Tao prominently featured in an event story and I’d just like to say: I’m going back to bed

[ipostmysimpingstuffanonymously]

They both lost their team and their teacher....

[queenkinqs]

people love to talk about invincible for it's over the top gore and violence, but i really do think the show's writing is at it's best when it's just two people have a conversation

[transmascissues]

today, my coworkers’ refusal to see me as a man put one of our patients in a position where they felt unsafe for the third time. i’ve been at this job for less than two months total. i don’t even care about getting misgendered anymore, i just want the people we’re supposed to be taking care of to feel comfortable around me.

i work at a hospital where we have to supervise our patients in a lot of vulnerable situations. there are safeguarding rules in place for certain things that male employees aren’t allowed to be present for when it comes to female patients. and yet, the people training me and telling me what to do have repeatedly put me in situations where i’ve been forced to do things that the female patients aren’t comfortable with me doing. and because they have repeatedly failed to teach me the rules for doing my job as a man, i have no way of knowing when i’m crossing one of those lines unless one of the patients tells me.

i’ve had to watch a victim of SA stare at me in abject terror as my coworkers asked her to strip naked with me still in the room. it took several minutes for her to even be able to speak enough to ask if i could leave the room. i found out after that she broke down crying the moment i walked out. my biggest regret is that i didn’t realize what was happening fast enough to leave before she ever had to say something, because she shouldn’t have had to say it. i never should’ve been allowed in the room in the first place, because that’s not something male employees are supposed to be present for. but i didn’t know that yet, because i was training and i thought surely, they wouldn’t train me to do something that directly violated their own safeguarding rules. that moment was the first time, and it’s haunted me ever since, but it wasn’t the last time. not only did it happen for the third time today — it almost happened for the fourth, and would have if someone hadn’t spoken up to say they should pick someone else. i care for these people so deeply, it’s why i took this job, and i’m so tired of hearing the fear in their voices when they have to ask me not to do something i never should’ve been told to do.

i’m very used to the personal discomfort of being misgendered. i willingly deal with it a lot at work as well as in other situations, not because i’m in the closet (at this point in my medical transition that would be impossible), but because it’s such a frequent occurrence with my coworkers that we would never get anything done if i took the time to correct them every time. but to see it get to the point of causing such visceral discomfort in other people? people i’m supposed to be taking care of and keeping safe? that’s something else entirely, and i’m fucking exhausted.

and after all of that, some of them still look at me like i have two heads when they tell me what to do and i say “i can’t do that, only female employees can” because i’m learning now. clearly i’m already seen as a man by our patients, but my coworkers would still rather put them in an unsafe situation than just train me as a man.

[limielle]

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