#I hate hate hate hate hate posting promotional stuff

[deoidesign]

My friends are demanding I post about my shop

I sell books, prints, keychains, pins, and stickers! (I have more than is pictured, you can see everything in the shop)

I also have some Genshin Impact pins (and some prints) for if you're not interested in stuff from the obscure webcomics I make

But if you are interested in stuff from the obscure webcomics I make, I've got a ton of stuff! It's taking up a lot of space in my apartment, help me out!

[icewindandboringhorror]

a quite simple outfit, trying to use the little blue and white apron thing (which is actually a dress I think, that I just leave un-buttoned in the back and added an apron-like tie to lol)

[zeroducks-2]

Not to self promo BUT I wrote a wolf porn sladick fic that Abyss said you’d enjoy…….. it’s over on my tumblr

is it that one I just reblogged? I LOVE IT!!

[honestlyvan]

As someone who doesn’t use Twitter and hasn’t used it since 2016, at this point I feel like every even slightly Twitter-esque (let alone overt Twitter-esque) design choice Tumblr makes gets yelled about because People Really Just Fucking Hate Twitter whether they realise it or not.

Which, like. Fair ‘nuff. I also hate Twitter, which is why I don’t use it. But nobody ever really gives these design decisions any time to percolate on this site in favour of kneejerk “they changed it and we hate it” reaction. Public likes are not new. Multiple tabs on a dashboard (some of them not things you opted into seeing) are not new. Having to block ads with external tools is not new (and it’s a big deal that photomatt said the words “ad blocker”, like, you couldn’t get that shit on any other profit-driven site, everyone is too scared for their precious monetisation)

The new sidebar, also, I think is pretty ugly right now but it’s probably going to go through a few iterations. I, personally, really wish they’d put the search bar literally anywhere else (maybe group search and discovery together IDK I’m not an UX designer) and I think accessing sideblogs has been too complicated for a while now, but none of those are the same as “this looks like The Other Blue Site”.

Like I’m not a graphic designer. I am certainly not a fucking UX designer, and I think those people are either all nuts or all geniuses. I’m pretty sure the new layout is being extensively heatmapped rn, and what changes it’ll undergo are gonna be done based on that, based on comments that are along the lines of ‘this change would make me more productive’ and less on “WEEEEEH CHANGE IT BACK CHANGE IT BACK CHANGE IT BACK”. 

Your animosity towards change is not meaningful user experience information. You misclicking on shit more *is*. If this layout is really *that* bad and terrible, Automattic’s research tools will demonstrate it as such. The developers now are actually much better versed in Web 2.0 design, for better and for worse.

[beauzos]

also it is still surreal that i can say i wrote a novel. cause i fuckin did. but admitting that to anyone irl is embarrassing, i don't want to seem like i'm arrogant or think that it's amazing, anyone can write a book. but nonetheless most people DON'T write a book, and i did, and it's pretty good. it could be better and i'm going to work on getting it to be the best it can be before i finally publish it but it is good.

[aurorashard]

So my coworker is leaving, and I've been offered her position, which would be a promotion. It would be at our sister site, which would be a lot longer of a commute/a more expensive place to live if I relocate. I asked my boss if they could switch the position to be located here, and she said she would look in to it. She "would really love to see an opportunity for [me] as part of this process", so that's rad. Understandable, also, given how many of our part time positions have turned over, through no fault of hers--Just tough to fill a day/2 day a week position. But with coworker gone, I know the most about all this, and I am doing most of the job duties already. I'd just be getting more responsibility for a few different programs, which would be neat. So we will see how it goes.

[parablesystem]

how would it ever be a system's fault if, after befriending a system/a few systems and getting told "yeah, it could be possible that you're plural", someone labels themself as plural and then later realizes they were wrong. my brother in christ you labelled the you

[nordax]

hey, guess what. chapter 5 of i’ll take a bruise is up! it has been a journey and i don’t think i’ll stop writing for this setup, but for now this is it. please do let me know what you think <3

shoutout to @sister-morning-star because this wouldn’t have been completed without her help

[deoidesign]

IF YOURE LOST YOU CAN LOOK AND YOU WILL FIND ME

TIME AFTER TIME

IF YOU FALL I WILL CATCH YOU ILL BE WAITING

TIME AFTER TIME

[autistickfigure]

ohhhh i need to make website

[definitelynotshouting]

hi hello, here's a bunch of emojis for u: ✨🎶🌞💥

OH HELLO THESE ARE SO MANY LETS GOOOOO

Fanfic Writer Emoji Ask

✨ Give you and your writing a compliment. Go on now. You know you deserve it. 😉

OH GOD OH FUCK okay,, i am genuinely SO proud of the way i write dialogue in character voices. If i cant hear that character's voice in my head when im reading my dialogue i rewrite it until i can and i like to think it comes across real well!!! :D

🎶 Do you listen to music while you write? What song have you been playing on loop lately?

Unfortunately i have mad auditory processing issues and if even a little bit of music is playing while i try to write it'll completely distract me 😞 my options for sound while writing are either complete silence or my rainy noise machine app. Will say ive been listening to Lovejoy's CMWYL on loop in the brain rotation for like a solid week now tho, gods that chorus goes hard

🌞 Do you have a preferred time of day to write?

I'm a natural night owl and also a bit of an insomniac (<- woe, 2 hrs of sleep a night be upon me) so generally i find myself writing the most in the evenings all the way into early morning, from between 8pm to like. 3am lmfao

💥 How do you feel about criticism?

I guarantee you could not criticize me as hard as i constantly criticize myself

[dykemaclachlan]

i hate you instagram i hate you twitter i hate you social media personas i hate you cohesive regular posting i hate you self promotion

[beebberbbs]

I think it's like. So Odd that people will place their own personal tastes of media over anyone else's opinions and thoughts and just. Degrade them for it??? You know what makes fandoms Fun? Differing view points on a thing everyone enjoys!!!! I love seeing others hcs even if I personally Don't agree with them! I think it's neat that someone can find value in something I don't! I like seeing people genuinely enjoy things even if it's not My preference!!!!

[macyhaven]

How do yall use social media only for marketing and not doom-scrolling? 😭

[yakkitylylac]

heehee hoo i love anxiety i love being anxious over people not reblogging my stuff

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.