So… Aphelion is one of my favorite stories of Oberyn Martell’s (and the first ever fic I’ve ever read for this character) and I am OBSESSED. You and @something-tofightfor are so amazing!!! Also, the premise of the story isn’t something I’m used to reading but my god, you both have me HOOKED!!! Can’t wait for an update🩵
🥹 Hi. I need you to know that this message made me so flipping happy and I have been reading it over and over like this:
I am THRILLED to hear that you’re enjoying Aphelion! That story is so important to @something-tofightfor and I, and we are having a GREAT time writing it. We both love the Prince of Dorne a whole heck of a lot.
And It’s your first Oberyn story?! That’s amazing! There are SO MANY great ones out there so I hope you find others to read and enjoy, too!
To hear that you’re not usually into this kind of story but that you’re still enjoying it this much is a HUGE compliment! I’m so glad that you gave our story a chance! I hope you like what’s coming next - we’re both VERY excited for things to pick up speed.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sending this message and for reading and for saying all the incredibly kind things you said. I can’t express how much it meant to me to see this in my inbox. You’re wonderful and I hope you have a great day. ✨
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NEW ACTIVITY NOTICE ! on top of what’s mentioned in my pinned comment, i will no longer be 24/7 available or responsive. i used to lurk & comment on everything so even when i’m not writing i’m interacting - but now i’m going to be taking multiple days of just staying logged out ( incl. logged out of discord! ) in between one day of being online. or smth like that. it’s that ✨mental health management✨ babeyyy. convoluted explanation but i wanted to explain the change for ppl who might notice & misinterpret it.
& also vent a lil :joy:
i’m not less interested. i just literally could not sleep any more. logging out everywhere instantly solved that problem lmfao. i’ve spent the last 3 days working on my original novel & just, chilling & shit... the fear draining from me. #nice. but then also this is what i love to do & what lets me be creative & explore & learn new shit, & despite having social phobia i am still a social creature. so. a new routine! i won’t let it steal joy from me :muscle:
social phobia does affect irl life ofc jfdjdf it’s wild. real life reminds me i don’t need to be scared of tumblr, & tumblr reminds me i don’t need to be scared of real life :joy: that works. guess that means i’ll do both uwu oh it’s just what the doctor ordered.
anyway! #rambling. rattles my cage HI it’s nice to see u again 3 days of isolation can be a lot LMAO ❤
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When I was in ninth grade I wanted to challenge what I saw as a very stupid dress code policy (not being allowed to wear spikes regardless of the size or sharpness of the spikes). My dad said to me, “What is your objective?”
He said it over and over. I contemplated that. I wanted to change an unfair dress code. What did I stand to gain? What did I stand to lose? If what I really wanted was to change the dress code, what would be my most effective potential approach? (He also gave me Discourses on the Fall of Rome by Titus Livius, Machiavelli’s magnum opus. Of course he’d already given me The Prince, Five Rings, and The Art of War.)
I ultimately printed out that phrase, coated it in Mod Podge, and clipped it to my bathroom mirror so I would look at it and think about it every day.
What is your objective?
Forget about how you feel. Ask yourself, what do you want to see happen? And then ask, how can you make it happen? Who needs to agree with you? Who has the power to implement this change? What are the points where you have leverage over them? If you use that leverage now, will you impair your ability to use it in the future? Getting what you want is about effectiveness. It is not about being an alpha or a sigma or whatever other bullshit the men’s right whiners are on about now. You won’t find any MRA talking points in Musashi, because they are not relevant.
I had no clear leverage on the dress code issue. My parents were not on the PTA; neither were any of my friend’s parents who liked me. The teachers did not care about this. Ultimately I just wore what I wanted, my patent leather collar from Hot Topic with large but flattened spikes, and I had guessed correctly—the teachers also did not care enough to discipline me.
I often see people on tumblr, mostly the very young, flail around in discourse. They don’t have an objective. They don’t know what they want to achieve, and they have never thought about strategizing and interpersonal effectiveness. No one can get everything they want by being an asshole. You must be able to work with other people, and that includes smiling when you hate them.
Read Machiavelli. Start with The Prince, but then move on to Discourses. Read Musashi’s Five Rings. Read The Art of War. They’re classics for a reason. They can’t cover all situations, but they can do more for how you think about strategizing than anything you’re getting in middle school and high school curricula.
Don’t vote third party unless you can tell me not only what your objective is but also why this action stands a meaningful chance of accomplishing it. Otherwise, back up and approach your strategy from a new angle. I don’t care how angry you are with Biden right now. He knows about it, and he is both trying to do something and not doing enough. I care about what will happen to millions of people if we have another Trump presidency. Look up Ross Perot, and learn from our past. Find your objective. If it is to stop the genocide in Palestine now, call your elected representatives now. They don’t care about emails; they care about phone calls, because they live in the past. I know this because I shadowed a lobbyist, because knowing how power works is critical to using it.
How do you think I have gotten two clinics to start including gender care in their planning?
Start small. Chip away. Keep working. Find your leverage; figure out how and when to effectively use it. Choose your battles, so that you can concentrate on the battle at hand instead of wasting your resources in many directions. Learn from the accumulated wisdom of people who spent their lives learning by doing, by making mistakes, by watching the mistakes of their enemies.
Don’t be a dickhead. Be smarter than I was at 14. Ask yourself: what is your objective?
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