#Marlo and Mack..

[marlocandeea]

new sfw T E Lawrence fic here c:

[pupsmailbox]

STARTING WITH M

MASCULINE︰ mac. macaulay. macauley. mack. maddox. maitland. major. makai. malachai. malachi. malakai. malcolm. malcom. malik. malon. manley. manny. manuel. marcelo. marco. marcos. marcus. mario. marion. mark. marley. marlin. marlon. marlowe. marlyn. marshal. marshall. martie. martin. marty. marvin. marvyn. mason. mat. mateo. mathew. mathias. matias. matt. matteo. matthew. matthias. mattie. matty. maurice. mauricio. maurie. maven. maverick. max. maxie. maximilian. maximiliano. maximillian. maximus. maxton. maxwell. maynerd. mayson. mccoy. mckinley. mel. melville. melvin. melvyn. memphis. meredith. merit. merle. merlin. merlyn. merrick. merv. mervin. mervyn. messiah. micah. michael. micheal. mick. mickey. micky. miguel. mike. mikey. milan. miles. milford. millard. miller. milo. milton. mitch. mitchell. mo. moe. mohamed. mohammad. mohammed. moises. monday. monroe. montague. monte. montgomery. monty. moralis. morgan. morley. morris. mort. morton. morty. moses. moshe. moss. muhammad. munro. munroe. murphy. murray. musa. myles. myron.

FEMININE︰ mabel. mac. macey. maci. mackalya. mackayla. mackenzie. macy. maddie. maddison. madeleine. madeline. madelyn. madilyn. madison. maeve. maggie. magnolia. maisie. makayla. makenna. makenzie. malani. malaya. malaysia. malia. malinda. maliyah. mallory. malory. marceleine. maren. margaret. margaux. margo. margot. maria. mariah. mariana. marianne. marie. marina. marlee. marleigh. marley. mary. maryanna. mavis. maxine. maya. mckenna. mckenzie. meadow. meera. megan. melanie. melina. melissa. melody. mena. meredith. mia. miah. miana. michaela. michelle. mila. milani. miley. millie. miracle. miranda. miriam. molina. molliana. molly. monica. morgan. mya. myla. myra.

NEUTRAL︰ mace. madden. maddix. mage. magenta. magic. maim. maine. maison. majesty. major. makari. malak. malice. malware. maple. marble. march. mari. marigold. marin. marion. marley. marlin. marlo. marlow. mars. marsh. marvel. mascara. masquerade. masyn. match. mauve. maven. mayday. mayhem. mayson. maze. mazi. mckinley. meadow. mecca. med. mega. melancholy. mellow. melody. memphis. mention. mercury. mercy. merengue. meridian. merit. merlin. merrick. merritt. merry. meteorite. metro. metronome. meyer. micah. micaiah. michigan. mickey. middle. midnight. mika. mikah. milan. miles. miller. million. minus. miracle. mirage. misery. misfit. misha. miss. mission. misty. model. monday. monitor. monroe. montana. montgomery. moon. moor. morgan. morse. moss. moth. muck. mud. murphy. mutt. myka. mykah. mystery. mystique.

[helenatgcurious]

Hart warming podcast series about a mother and her trans daughter

[cptrs]

[kallenchi]

I’ve been listening to the podcast “How to be a Girl” for a few years now, following the journey of Marlo and her transgender daughter as she grows up. It is one of the most tender and comforting things I’ve ever listened to. With her turning eleven I can’t help but think of what challenges she’ll face, and how much she’s grown. You can find and support her at http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/

[wazafam]

By BY MARLO MACK from Opinion in the New York Times-https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/23/opinion/trans-children-parenting.html?partner=IFTTT The trans experience isn’t a liberal Western fad.  Where in the World Are All the Trans Children? Everywhere. New York Times

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Closer, October 26

You can buy a copy of this issue for your very own at my eBay store: https://www.ebay.com/str/bradentonbooks

Cover: Hollywood’s Happiest Couples

Page 1: Contents 

Page 2: The Big Picture -- Marlene Dietrich 

Page 4: Valerie Bertinelli mourning the loss of her ex-husband Eddie Van Halen 

Page 8: Picture Perfect -- Cameron Mathison and Debbie Matenopoulos showed off their best aerobics moves on Home & Family, Liev Schreiber playing basketball

Page 9: Kerry Washington, Reese Witherspoon jumps rope 

Page 10: Jennifer Garner soaked up the sun and hit the waves on a recent beach outing in Malibu 

Page 12: Sarah Paulson with a wig on the set of Ratched 

Page 22: Cover Story -- Hollywood’s happiest couples -- Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson 

Page 23: Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon, Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas, Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen 

Page 24: Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue, Tom Selleck and Jillie Mack, Annette Bening and Warren Beatty, Michael J. Fox and Tracy Pollan 

Page 26: Willie Nelson -- my sister saved my life -- love, music and family have created a special bond between the star and his sibling Bobbie 

Page 31: Spot the Difference -- Todd Grinnell and India De Beaufort on One Day at a Time 

Page 33: Horoscopes -- Libra John Krasinski turned 41 on October 20 

Page 34: Entertainment -- Rashida Jones and Sofia Coppola on On the Rocks, Lily James on Rebecca, In the Spotlight -- John Slatterly 

Page 36: Best Friends -- Kimberly Williams-Paisley and a donkey, Miranda Lambert and her rescue kitty, Bobby Bones and his dog Stanley 

Page 38: On the Move -- James Cameron selling his home for $25 million 

Page 40: Great Escape -- Amber Nash on Hong Kong 

Page 46: Don Murray -- stay true to your beliefs -- the actor opens up about his successful career, working with Marilyn Monroe and his secret to staying young at 91 

Page 50: Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell -- it’s all about family -- through good times and bad the couple stays strong by focusing on what matters most 

Page 52: Bob Barker at 96 -- I have no regrets -- the beloved Price Is Right host has spent his life and career trying to make the world kinder and happier and devoted to the well-being of animals -- spay and neuter your pets! 

Page 54: Jessica Lange -- enjoying the simple life -- this 40-year veteran of the stage and screen embraces a quieter existence beyond the limelight 

Page 56: Beauty -- pumpkin everything -- Maria Menounos 

Page 58: My Life in 10 Pictures -- Julie Andrews 

Page 60: Flashback -- Disney delight, aviator sunglasses, singers life stories, tie-front shirts

[coochiequeens]

“We just give kids so little latitude, especially boys, to express their gender and have the full range of emotions and fashion choices,” quote the lady who wondered if her 3 year old son was trans because he likes pink.

“Mama, something went wrong in your tummy. I came out a boy instead of a girl.” That’s what Marlo Mack’s 3-year-old told her a decade ago. Mack’s child loved fairies, playing with princess toys, and wearing puff-sleeved floral party dresses. Mack started a long journey where she questioned her parenting and her child’s happiness, and whether the world would welcome someone who clearly knew they were transgender before they could spell their own name.

Mack chronicles this story in a podcast, and now she’s expanded it into a book. It’s called “How To Be A Girl: A Mother’s Memoir of Raising Her Transgender Daughter.”

Mack uses pseudonyms for herself and her daughter, who she refers to as “M.” That’s because she wants M to be able to decide — when she’s older — whether to disclose her trans identity publicly.

“For our family, it was the right choice. I think for every transgender person, it's a completely personal individual decision if they want to share that information with other people,” Mack tells KCRW. “It's certainly nobody else's right to have that information. It's a privilege to get to know that about somebody.”

As soon as M was able to crawl, Mack says her daughter would gravitate toward the girls' section at stores for toys and clothes. Right away, Mack says she made it clear to M that she would support her in being “any kind of boy he wanted to be — the pinkest, prettiest boy on the planet.”

But soon, Mack says she realized M wasn’t going through just a phase.

“It's hard to understand if you don't have a kid like this. … I'd have a lot of people say, ‘Oh yeah, my son went through a pink phase too. … My son also likes to wear his big sister’s princess dresses.’” But there was an intensity to it that is hard to understand if you're not actually a parent of this child and seeing the desperation behind it — to be seen accurately. And when they're not seen accurately, they're really sad.”

Mack admits she was terrified when finally coming to terms that her daughter might be trans, and her only references about trans people came from salacious reality shows like “Jerry Springer,” or tragic storylines on popular TV shows.

“There was no example that I could point to that I had experienced of a happy future as a transgender person. And I think a lot of parents still are really, really scared that there isn't a future for their transgender children, and I couldn't disagree more,” Mack says. “My child is almost 14 now. She's having a fantastic, typically stormy adolescence in all the good ways that you would expect, and anticipating a really bright future.”

Mack recalls one particular day when she sat M down on the couch after school and asked if she still wanted to be a girl.

“My kiddo said, ‘I don't still want to be a girl. I am a girl.’ And to me that spoke volumes about what this is. This is not a choice. This is not a whim. Transgender people are who they say they are. I've seen it in a very small child. So from that moment on, it was ‘she.’ And I certainly made mistakes. I would forget, but it's been ‘she’ ever since.”

Today, Mack says her concept of binary gender and gender expression has shifted entirely.

“We just give kids so little latitude, especially boys, to express their gender and have the full range of emotions and fashion choices,” Mack explains. “What I've learned about gender is that it's far richer and more complicated and elusive than any of us could sum up. … The most important thing to know about gender — it matters to each of us … it really does harm to people when we don't acknowledge and see people for who they are.”

Safety and the risk of disclosure

“The threats of violence against transgender girls and women are absolutely real,” says Mack. “So I am always walking a line between how much do I tell her without scaring her? How much does she need to know in order to keep her safe?”

She adds, “I do know of a lot of transgender kids her age who have opted to just be completely undisclosed. Nobody knows in their school that they're transgender because a lot of them have had really painful experiences in the past with bullying. And a lot of them have had to change schools and start over. Bullying of trans kids is just all too common.”

Despite their concerns, Mack says M does share her trans identity with trusted friends and asks them to keep it private.

Unfortunately, Mack says she’s dealt with other parents from school who feel like they have the right to know about M’s identity. It’s an affront that she can’t make sense of.

“When we get right down to it, what are we actually asking? We're asking that we have the right to know what someone looks like under their clothes, or what particular anatomy they may have or were born with. … And in any other area of our lives, we wouldn't say, ‘Oh, I have a right to know your child's private medical history.’”

Some parents get upset about having to talk to their children about what it means to be transgender. But Mack says she’s glad it pushes conversations about gender and expression.

“I hope we're all talking to our children about this. I hope all our children are getting the full range of names for things. Some people are born with this anatomy, but they identify this way. Some people are born this way, but they identify with neither gender. And what a gift to all of our kids to say, ‘These people exist and your best friend might be that and you could support them. Or maybe you're that way, and I'll support you.’”

She adds that parents may shy away from discussing gender because they worry it might make someone transgender.

“I think it's really funny because we don't do that with other things. … Telling your child that gay people exist or that left-handed people exist is not going to make them gay or left-handed,” she explains. “A lot of people I think fear this kind of contagion or this idea that if we hand children language, it will make them change who they are, which is absurd when you pick it apart.”

Normalizing trans experiences

By using pseudonyms in her book and podcast, Mack says she’s hoping to normalize the existence and experience of trans kids and their families, while still protecting her loved ones. She notes that she's thankful for the visible trans people in the media who can be role models for M.

“We have ourselves relied heavily on other people being really open in the media, and actually putting a face on the issue. And I'm so grateful for those families. And I know a lot of them have really paid a high price for it, in terms of harassment and online trolls, and really scary threats. … They're pioneers. They're stepping into a place where they're taking a lot of heat.”

Preconceptions about hormone blockers and changing minds

When she was younger, Mack told M in passing that she might grow a beard like her dad, causing emotional distress at the time. Mack told her that someday she might be able to use hormone blockers to prevent that from happening. For years, M would check in, asking when it was time for “the medicine.”

After a conversation with her doctor, M started using hormone blockers at age 13, which stops the development of secondary sex characteristics like facial hair growth and a deep voice. They are safe to use, and if no longer taken, would eventually trigger male puberty, Mack explains. Some cisgender kids even use the medication for precocious puberty, the process in which puberty starts too early.

As M explains it, using hormone blockers is simply her way of being her truest self and fulfilling her future as a woman.

“Imagine if you had to go through boy puberty, and grow a beard, and deepen your voice, and grow taller and get broader shoulders. It wouldn't be you. It wouldn't feel good. So that's why I need to go through the puberty that I need to go through or want to go through. Because I am who I am. And I can't change that, and nothing can. And I need to be myself and go through the puberty that I want to go through.”

Although there are stories about trans kids changing their minds about their identities, Mack suggests she doesn't worry much about that.

“These kids, when they really are insistent, persistent, and consistent over time about their gender identity, those kids are not likely to change their mind. And a child like mine is virtually unheard of. The only ones that … ‘change their mind’ are usually doing it to save their own necks, or they're being bullied too badly, or their parents are not onboard.”

Parents have a right to know if their 14 year old daughter is hanging out with another 14 year old girl or a 14 year old boy.

[heller-jensen]

marlo I don't know who else to say this to but I realized on THEE eve of deancas wedding that. Months ago I decorated my room with strands of green and blue fairy lights. And I plugged them in tonight and experienced whiplash that hit like a fucking mack truck

OH ETHEREAL 

[hyper-tinker-blog]

this is a podcast that i have been listening to for the past few years and enjoyed all of it and its gotten me threw some stuff so i think who ever might see this post will too 

[neutrois]

How To Be A Girl is a podcast by Marlo Mack, aka gendermom, who has been blogging and podcasting about life with her young trans daughter. 

It’s very sweet, but also touches on real issues - I highly recommend it!

[sexandsociallife]

This week'’ reading about queer theory reminds me of a podcast. "How to be a girl" is a podcast by "Marlo Mack", mom of her transgender child M. The podcast is about their life with M growing up, going to school, having friends with the secret of M'’ gender. When M was three-year-old, she told Marlo, “Mom, I think something went wrong when I was in your tummy, because I was supposed to be born a girl, but I was born a boy instead.”---M "He wanted me to put him back in the womb to right the wrong." ---Marlo Mack.     

When I saw the line "I hate that in twelve years of public education I was never taught about queer people" from Read This Queers, I feel so sad because most of schools nowadays still don't teach about queer people. M's identity has to be a secret. As a child, she has to choose between tell few people, tell everyone, or tell no one. Marlo Mack, when moving to a new neighborhood, felt urged to do a background check of her neighbors about if they are religious, if the churches they go support LGBT+s, fearing her baby might get hurt (what if M's playmates refuse to play with her). M has to hide a part of her because if she doesn't, she'll most likely to get hurt/be judged upon.           

I find Foucault's point about discourse fascinating. Change of discourse/ideologies about transgenders or queer people is equally or slightly even more important than change of law/policies. If the discourse (a set of ideas) changes (more inclusive/tolerant), there won't be as much alienation or no acceptance or bully because there is nothing to discriminate against. The fact that this is something a little girl needs to hide requires changes of the "normative" discourse.    

[theprideful]

Maxim

Mick

Arlo

London

Mackenzie

Mack

Vick

Rain

Kenz

Winter

Adison

Matty

Indigo

Hudson

Val

Nicki / Nikki

Vinny

River

Maddox

Maddie

Salem

Sidney

Samael

Kyler

Jackie

Marlo

Clarke

Cypress

Silas

Summer

Phoenix

Presley

Quinn

Quincy

Lauren

nonbinary people, if you're looking for a new name but can't think of any good ones, may I present:

a list of gender neutral names

Hayden

Sam

Blake

Spencer

Max

Cameron

Amani

Dallas

Billie

Alex

Kayden

Casey

Lenny

Flynn

Atlas

Devin

Kennedy

Harley

Taylor

Stevie

Reagan

Paris

Reese

Nevada

Wren

Bailey

Jordan

Drew

River

Tatum

Denver

Rory

Kai

Winn

Avery

Skylar

Oakley

Sidney

Robin

Remy

Noel

Phoenix

Julian

Peyton

Finley

Riley

Haven

Dakota

Sawyer

Blaine

Sage

Marley

Jamie

Frances

Amari

Rowan

Jesse

Milo

Jayden

Jaylyn

Charlie

Morgan

Dylan

Aspen

Berkeley

Asa

Ira

Adison

Blair

Adrian

Jade

feel free to add on :)

if you chose a name that's on this list, I'd love to hear which one in the comments/rb's!

any enbyphobes clowning on this will be blocked automatically, no hesitation. dni.

[sampleknowledge]

By BY MARLO MACK from NYT Opinion https://ift.tt/3d7X6Wx

[phooll123]

Where in the World Are All the Trans Children? Everywhere.

By BY MARLO MACK from NYT Opinion https://ift.tt/3d7X6Wx via Blogger https://ift.tt/2TS81wB

[kevindurkiin]

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