#Park Jae-eon

[parkbutterfly]

𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐤 𝐉𝐚𝐞-𝐞𝐨𝐧 • 𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 | 𝐋𝐞𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐧𝐚 • 𝐃𝐨𝐨𝐧𝐚!

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𝒘𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒘𝒐 𝒕𝒐𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒓𝒂𝒎𝒂

[academyofbrokenhearts]

Extra thoughts about Nevertheless

Disclaimer: I did not read the original webtoon, this post is only about the K-drama.

I really liked it, in spite of featuring the two most frustrating characters in history as the mains.

Adult me was constantly rolling her eyes every 20 minutes or so, being all like "oh dear, here we go again, she assumes things and builds up frustration until she either explodes or ignores him completely, and he just shuts up and doesn't share his thoughts or his feelings, and they just PINE in silence and oh lord, this is exhausting".

But my inner twenty something year old? SHE WAS ELATED.

While watching the first episodes, I noticed that for the most part, it's not Jae-eon's actions per se that turn Na-bi away - it's her misinterpretation of those actions, and the opinions of others that turn her away, because other than that, they get along quite well. I'm not saying he's completely innocent in all that transpires - far from it, even, because he does have a tendency to shut down when she assumes the worst, and also to not communicate properly (telling the person he likes that he likes her? too mainstream), so of course they're bound to argue more often than not. However, she's not stellar at communication either - she assumes things, doesn't speak up on what she actually wants (her internal monologue "why can't you my boyfriend?" remains internal, she doesn't actually ask him out until the last episode), and ignores him when she's upset. And yet, as frustrating as this is, I can see where she comes from. I absolutely hate it, don't get me wrong, but I get it.

Having grown up in a quite conservative society myself (although Eastern European rather than Asian), I found Na-bi's thought process so incredibly familiar. As women, we are taught to be ashamed of having sexual desires. Sexual desires are restricted (ideally) to marriage, with the second best thing being an official relationship - everything outside of that turns you into a slut (derogatory). Na-bi obviously is not familiar or comfortable with the concept of hanging out and dating casually (and having casual sex), and is also immensely uncomfortable with the thought that people might think she doesn't respect herself enough because she has a casual relationship (she has yet to reach that extremely liberating stage when you understand that no matter what you do as a woman, you will still be judged, so it's better to do whatever the hell you want). Also she (obviously) wants more than what she gets, she wants an actual relationship with Jae-eon, not only friends with benefits or whatever it is that they are (they never really define their initial encounters), but since she doesn't have enough guts to ask for it, she just asks him to keep everything a secret. And this ends up creating a disconnect not only between her and Jae-eon, but even between her and reality; for example, she accuses him of only wanting to see her when he wants, although she was the one who asked him to keep their encounters a secret, therefore limiting by default their interactions.

That's not to say Jae-eon isn't frustrating. I actually find him even more frustrating than she is, because I can't relate at all to him, and also, I don't feel like his backstory is expanded enough for me to understand where he comes from (his relationship with his mother is somewhat strained, and it's not entirely clear why he broke up with Seol-ah). I must say, however, that I encountered people like this in real life - people who seem friendly and have an incredible energy, but who are in fact very closed off and guarded, and who make you feel like you bang your head against a wall whenever you try to get closer to them. Jae-eon likes Na-bi, but doesn't really know what to do with those feelings, and is perfectly content with their initial encounters, which are very uncomplicated from his perspective (he gets all the domestic, blissful happiness, with none of the work required for an actual romantic relationship). Then, to his surprise, she ends everything, and distances herself from him, and he basically completely freaks out by the end of the show with jealousy and longing, and well... this is basically catnip to me personally (in a strictly fictional sense, I would have zero patience for such a guy in real life), because isn't "drive the normally aloof, cold guy completely out of his mind" a well-known trope for a reason? I loved to see him suffer, I loved to see him lash out, only to be reduced to tears when she says she regrets their relationship and having met him, and I loved beyond measure that at the end they both seem changed by their common experience, and put their desires and wishes clearly into words.

I also loved that the show acknowledges it's not going to be easy for them. They might be compatible in many ways, but their communication styles are bound to clash, and a happy ending is not necessarily in the cards. "I am going to suffer, most likely", their voiceovers tell us, "but whatever, I am going to do it anyway, I am going to take that leap of faith anyway", and I think it's this final conclusion that cemented me liking this entire thing. I don't find the relationship between the mains as toxic as most people seem to think; I rather saw it as a story of two people who are completely inexperienced in matters of romance and communication, who learn things as they go along, and whose reactions are shaped by their lives up until that point as well as the socio-cultural expectations around them. Frustrating? Greatly. But they still have room to grow, and whether they will grow together, or apart, it will still be worth it. That's the final message, I believe.

[j4zmvb]

[prbni]

We finally got our holy-trinity traffic signal 🚦🚥 flagged Male leads

The Red Flag 🟥🚩

The Yellow Flag 🟨 🎗

The Green Flag 🟩🍃

[phantomstatistician]

Fandom: Nevertheless

Sample Size: 169 stories

Source: AO3

[busylazy]

My Demon Kdrama (2023)

Of all the things I wanted to say about the Kdrama My Demon (2023), let me say three things I love the most:

Jeong Gu-won and Do Do-hee may just be one of the least toxic fictional couples there is. Even when they're confronted with shocking realizations and memories, they play it cool. It's quite a contrast to Song Kang's character in Nevertheless, Park Jae-eon. I hated his character's toxicity in that show. 😆

The demon's persona was not sugar-coated in this show. He is cold and calculating and won't blink twice to fulfill his mission, regardless of the cost. Those clocks in his office representing all the active deals he made with humans are a testament to that.

Just when you think something has been resolved, a new conflict arises. Hence, it's not like other shows where everything gets magically resolved in the last few episodes; sometimes it feels dragging too slow at the beginning and concluding too fast at the end. Uh, uh, not My Demon. There's an exciting twist to think about in almost every episode of this show.

That said, I rewatched it almost immediately after I finished watching. ✌🏻

[glambyk]

I’m about half way through the kdrama Nevertheless… and Miss Na-bi kinda annoying me 😫. Now I completely understand her, and she is a real ass relatable character, but I’m ready to hop in the show and sit her down with some perspective and advice at this point.

That ex was EXTREME trash!!! From the power dynamic, gaslighting, control, humiliation, flat out emotional abuse. He can go to hell 🤷🏽‍♀️. He did a complete number on her mental/emotional state and self esteem. She seriously needed to focus on herself before all the things with Jae-eon.

Now, I don’t feel either of them are terrible people, since so far I can see each perspective (Na-bi’s more due to inner monologuing). She needed to listen to those tingling thoughts to back off Jae-eon because she was not ready to entertain him. He’s not the type of guy you entertain when you have fresh trauma. Anything anyone said about him, she took it as gospel and shaped who he was as a person off that. She also was simultaneously creating a fantasy in her head about him as well. I get immediate attraction, but she got way too invested from the first moment, then when she knew their ideas on relationships weren’t lining up, she needed to let it go.

As much as she accused Jae-eon of playing a game and not caring or being too casual… she was playing the game too. The situation was laid out in front of her and she proceeded to engage. She judged every comment he made, but also wasn’t being real with herself and communicating because she wanted to stay in her fantasy bubble. She didn’t want anyone to know they were close, but was upset when people caught on, and then was mad at him about other people’s comments. People were talking shit about him as well, but she glossed over that and deemed it acceptable, since she literally doesn’t consider him to have feelings. It comes off as Na-bi not seeing Jae-eon as his own person due to projecting a lot of her issues onto him and hanging on to everyone else’s opinions. There was no point in doing anything with him if she was going to obsessively work herself up over every little thing related to him.

Jae-eon gave immediate fuck boy vibes. He’s a big flirt and a general decent guy though, so he’s a more likable fboy type. His attraction to Na-bi’s looks and personality hooked him, so he ran his usual game, but I was pleased to see him be clear about the dating/relationship stance. My problem is once you start having sex with someone, you need to be up front about hooking up with others as well. Don’t play with folks health like that, and give them the chance to opt out if they don’t like the setup. So far I can’t tell if he’s having sex with Seol-a as well, but assuming so, that’s the part he needed to be clear with Na-bi about. And names didn’t even have to be shared, but transparency on sex partners would’ve been better. However, Jae-eon wasn’t being an asshole to Na-bi, or playing her out in my opinion seeing as how he already stated he doesn’t date. No matter how cute their situation was, no one updated the status to an exclusive dating relationship.

His reputation… he played into it big time. He knows how girls view him, so it should be no shock when one decides to be hot and cold with him. In the same token though, if these girls gonna be willingly hooking up or whatever with him, the judgement shouldn’t be one sided if all parties know what it is up front 🤷🏽‍♀️. It’s also just as messed up to seek him out and use him for their own reasons as well. The way the students were gossiping and talking shit about him… Jae-eon doesn’t seem to have any real friends, and that they liked being around him for good/bad drama or fringe benefits. From his perspective, I can understand not being vulnerable with any of his peers, and riding out that toxic reputation until graduation. He appears to have genuine feelings for Na-bi, but it’s gonna require him getting real with himself and opening up with her. Just like she’s gonna have to do with him. If he wants a relationship with anyone, he’s going to have to address why he chose to to build this reputation and properly deal with past flings if they pop up.

[onhajoon]

The level of badassery in this playlist knows no bounds. Kim Do Gi is a force of nature, a law unto himself. Conversely, he is a carer, a listener, a friend, and protector of those left behind, but at the end of the day, he is just a man who needs a place to call home.

[sunyee]

my kin list for reasons i wont mention but i think the pattern will speak for itself

Oh Jisoo (Extracurricular)

Bae Gyuri (Extracurricular)

Rue Bennett (Euphoria)

Yu Nabi (Nevertheless)

Yoon Jiwoo (My Name)

Park Jaeon (Nevertheless)

Jesse Pinkman (Breaking Bad)

Aang (Avatar The Last Airbender)

Mulan (Disney 1998 ver)

Malia Tate (Teen Wolf)

Stiles Stilinski (Teen Wolf)

Stefan Salvatore (The Vampire Diaries)

Lizzie Saltzman (Legacies)

Chad Dylan Cooper (Sonny with a Chance)

Dorian Gray (The Picture of Dorian Gray)

[bebebisous33]

The Ghost's🥀 Nocturne: Devoted 💓🖤 curses 🧙‍♂️

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[poppynotshruti]

The toxic feminine urge to have a boyfriend like Park -Jae eon .

[kdramacaptures]

Nevertheless

[mojamchim]

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[alexstandoll]

i know i’m late to the party (like so late it has ended but) NEVERTHELESS just gave me the feeeels~~~

[phantomstatistician]

Fandom: Nevertheless

Sample Size: 170 stories

Source: AO3

[tokyohobi]

the way nabi chose jaeeon over dohyeok will forever give me a headache 🤦🏾‍♀️