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Drifting into deeper depths
#4c scribbling#was feeling bit sleepy today#had to force myself to get up and do my daily stream#I might spend tomorrow coloring this one in#But hello hey! return of my adventuring ghost girl I used to draw a bunch a few years back (along with her capsule worlds)#She likes to drift here and there#Anyways. Time for me to hibernate#Good night good night good night GOOD NIGHT
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Doodles as i forget i have to wake up early
I miss Skywarp and Thundercracker so i wanted to doodle them in the RiD15 style
And some humanformers concepts because i like drawing people (not final designs, will try to refine more because this is fun, Grimlock is getting redesigned ASAP) (i yap in the tags)
#my art#transformers#tf rid 2015#humanformers#starscream#skywarp#thundercracker#strongarm#sideswipe#fixit#bumblebee#grimlock#drift#windblade#sideswipe is like. the whitest guy ever. very much USA moment#fixit is irish idk (? i love him so#bumblebee is either puertorrican or hondureño ive not decided#ive also have no thoughts on strongarm im sorry she's just a besutiful woman#drift and windblade are both japanese as we all know#drift Is blasian specifically if you needed confirmation#i know starscream isnt here but he's paraguayan now thats how much i love him.#knock out's still argentinean#if you reached this tag hi ily give me more ideas for humanformers designs both tfp and rid15 and maybe even more#i also forgot to think bout grimlock's new nationality#grimlock and strongarm together in me forgetting to figure out ANY country for them to be from
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okay disclaimer: ik that categorizing female characters as the 'mom friend/figure' is a legit disease in fandom caused by general misogynistic views of female characters, and it's something that personally greatly irritates me bc its not only awful to do, it also tends to ruin the characters its put upon. ESPECIALLY in D2, which is outstanding in its cast of strong female characters
however. in the case of Eramis, I do believe that the fact that she was a mother and is a genuinely caring, nurturing person at heart is something that is a deeply important core part of her character, as well as thematically important to the future of the Eliskni moving forward. It's important because in her case, I believe that her motherly inclinations are why, pre-Witness-whispering-through-the-Darkness, Eramis was such a successful kell- because unlike some other kells who sought a future for the Eliksni via domination, her main focus for them was to create a haven for her people that could be defended from Lightbearers. Riis-Reborn wasn't something to sniff at- it was the closest thing to an actual Eliksni city in a very long while. What got her was her trauma of the Whirlwind and her desire to destroy the Traveler to level the playing field for everyone involved- trauma that the Witness preyed upon in order to get to us. Like a parasite, seeking its secondary host. Eramis certainly is not the only Eliksni who lost her family during the Whirlwind, but I think that her specific brand of anger is closest to that of a mother lion whose cubs are in danger, and is lashing out in a furious fight-or-flight reflex at anything that she perceives as a threat. It's just that in this case, her 'cubs' were the Eliksni as a whole, and the threat she perceived before the Witness started torturing her was the Traveler.
I also think that her relationship with parenthood also makes for a very interesting character contrast to Misraaks (aka the other successful kell viewed as a source of hope for the Eliksni), and helps to set them up as antiparallels to each other. Eramis was a gentle, nurturing mother with a reverence for the Traveler who turned into the bitter, cunning warrior we see now when she lost access to her wife and children; Misraaks was a fearsome, ruthless pirate before he became a father, which gentled him and turned him towards being more pious. Eramis represents the old ways, and offers hope to the Eliksni who cannot bear to cohabitate with humanity; Misraaks represents a change in the tide, and kells the open-minded Eliksni who are willing to lay down their arms to live among the humans of Sol. Misraaks is of Light (change, forgiveness, moving forward), while Eramis is of Darkness (memory, control, looking back). They're opposites in every way except for the fact that both of them were/are amazing parents, and I'd argue that their ability to nurture and overlook others is what led to their success as kells.
Most importantly, however, is their relationship to Eido, who represents the future of the Eliksni. Misraaks was her father, and he did his best to raise her to be kind and openminded, but he also shielded her from the horrors of the past a little too well. She's outgrown that, and now that she's strong enough to handle said horrors, Eramis has been acting as a mentor to fully introduce her to the tragedy of what she lost and why elder Eliksni are so angry about it- and I don't think that she would have been receptive to Eido attempting to talk to her if it weren't for the fact that under all of her prickly armour, she's still that nurturing person at heart. It's her desire to care for others and to see a better future for her people that has kept her going despite her having no hope for herself, and it's that loving heart that has saved herself and her people from utter destruction at both our hands and Fikrul's- because if she didn't look at eido and go 'oh this child is the future of our people and i must protect her with my life', then both her and the rest of House Salvation would have been marked for death. And now here she is, continuing to care for Eido even as her father declines by telling her stories about Riis and helping her track down an apothecary to try to cure him, despite her not believing in his ways. I don't think it's entirely because she used to be a mother, but...I do think that it's playing a huge role in it.
(I also think it's personally fascinating to see how someone who used to be known for being a doting, sweet mom to her hatchlings and a caring mate to her wife can turn into someone who's a terrifying warrior on the battlefield and a cunning, politically saavy ruler, but even then, that doesn't surprise me all that much- if you've got a dearth of experience wrangling hatchlings, then being kell of a house is basically just wrangling a bunch of grown-up hatchlings. Same principles, just upped a level or two in complexity.)
#destiny 2#meta analysis#eramis#misraaks#eido#like. i think that eramis is the one (1) example in d2 where motherhood is important to her character#genuinely i can't think of anyone else#even savathun seeking the mother morph was entirely just to live longer instead of being a mom#inaaks maybe but i dont think her being a mother was a core part of her character#like sure it explained why misraaks was the way he was but her story was about the trauma of the drift#whereas with eramis i def. think that her losing access to her wife and children was something that defined how she dealt with her trauma#getting forever locked into this desperate broody hen mode of needing to get those under her to safety#while also ferociously lashing out at everyone and anything she saw as a threat#but do you guys see what i'm seeing here. please tell me you do bc my brain is fried
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in a world where EVERYONES names match their career and grown up self eerily perfectly, it's the people with Human Names who are the trans ones. the ones who chose their own names. like see Young Mister Creampuff is clearly a birth name that matches him perfectly but Ann. now that’s a woman choosing her own destiny.
#i didnt have this hc. but the Human-Named Candy People being Ones Who Chose Their Own Names is really funny to me#i cant figure out how this tracks with jamess mom. did she just like. change her name to support her son. is she trans too.#'mom im a boy' 'of course son. lets go get our names changed' 'our??'#'whyd you make your last name the same as my first name. mom. mom. mom.' im obsessed with her honestly#adventure time#james#ann#digital#'wow you look different' is a 'golly gee the guy who came to pick up the rx last week was a different fucking clone. I can tell.'#ann is the details girlie we know this. well i know this. because i like her a lot.#ofc ourse this includes pete sassafrass. </3 who else. petey the delivery boy. hmm. theres a few more.#CHET OMG I FORGOT </3!!!!! my beloved. yeas.#I realize mama James can also just be. like how a woman can be Mrs (Husband first name) but that’s like her son#can I eat a brick wall I’m full of fuckin words but none of them are good. Anyways happy pride here’s weirdy trans candies#this is a bad post because it implies James has a friend. We know that’s not true! :(#Ann was so focused on her Boring Clerk Job that they drifted apart. SAD! anyways I don’t care about. Any candy people. At all#I actually kept shaking these two together in my head but not for trans reasons I just liked Accident Prone Dying Guy + Pharmacist#ok I’ll STPP!!!!!!!! Talking its like a disease
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You all have no idea how much I think about the ‘Dally has religious trauma’ headcanon
#his mother was very religious and he loved her so much#she often talked about religion and would recite the bible so he actually has a decent amount of knowledge about it#dally was never sure if he believed in God like his mother did but he’d join her in prayers amd like listening to her#but once she died he drifted further away from religion#it still pops up in his thoughts sometimes#the st christopher locket used to be hers and it’s his dearest belonging#but yeah bunch of complicated feelings here#the outsiders#dallas winston#se hinton#dally winston
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AHHHH that final panel
The smoking drifting from the bottom panel up through into the next one, twisting through time and space. Yuuko suddenly only appearing in silhouette, as she drops the friendly facade and speaks the truth as she knows it.
Yuuko appearing like a hole in the page, in the same way that she’s a hole in the universe.
Yuuko already knowing that Watanuki won’t know about his parents until After the big plot stuff is already done and over.
Which most likely also means once Yuuko is no longer here.
How Watanuki will regain knowledge of his family connections and she won’t be there to see it, or share in that happiness with him.
How all she can do is gently guide him on the course that she hopes will be enough to get him (and the universe) through this all in one piece.
And all she gets in return is sitting alone in an empty room, not being able to pass on the good news she knows would change his life.
#OH here they go stabbing me through the heart with the Yuuko feelings#GOSH#Every moment we still have with Yuuko is a precious gift#Because I swear ANY SECOND NOW she could just drift off the page and be gone#Not liveblogging the reservoir chronicle#xxxholic#xxxholic 88#Yuuko Ichihara#Also I can’t imagine Watanuki would go a LONG time without visiting Kohane#So that means it’s all going down Soon#Which like. We know already by virtue of there only being so many chapters left#But it still FEELS scarily imminent when she says it like that
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Give me two more 10 minute bathroom breaks while I’m on the clock and I’ll have this god damn Sylus smut ready to post when I get home in the dead of night
#like a sex banshee#wailing as she listlessly drifts by before disappearing over the horizon#I’ve sucked on so many cough drops since getting here I swear I smell like riccolas#I wanna go home and be off for 3 days so I can deal with this random cold in the comfort of my bed while I write AUGH#a.txt
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Mark your calendars girls, this is the summer I go fully insane from being cooped up in my parents house in the countryside
#the walls are thin as paper i keep hearing my family have conversations at full volume it makes me tear my fucking ears off#my fucking bed is next to my sisters bedroom wall so i can hear everything she says and all the music she plays at night#and i feel like theres not a moments peace without my fucking headphones#but my bedroom is too fucking tiny to move my bed any further away#and i cant fucking go anywhere its an hours walk to the nearest shop and thats only a local creamery#two hour walk into town two hour walk back and the very concept of public transport is laughable down here#and theres nothing to eat in the pantry because i never have the spoons to go food shopping with mam#so she just goes 'oh yeah i got stuff you can eat' and nonetheless i find i have like 5 meal options#and i cant go on mental health walks because they just remind me theres nowhere to fucking walk to#and theres nobody around but my fucking family to talk to#and i dont have any fucking control over any of it#and i know they all sound like small shitty things to be blowing my lid over but my rope is already so fucking short#and i cant even fucking weep properly at night because my bollocksing sister will hear me#i cant do fucking anything im gonna drift through the next few weeks desperately trying to divorce myself from reality#and then im going to fully snap
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i understand why they made the changes to cassidy's backstory in the preacher tv show, and for the most part i'm on board with a lot of the changes to his character in general - my impression is that his original storyline was kind of influenced by ennis's run on hellblazer and getting sick of the constantine character who would use his friends up, get them killed, and get to keep going being beloved by fans because comics just Go in perpetuity like that - because the original storyline really lays into addicts and people who relapse, it's shockingly unsympathetic and hard to swallow at least for me. so while i like a lot of his story changes overall, making him a more sympathetic character it's easier to root for, still keeping a manipulative, lying edge to him but with more nuance to it, i can't say i'm too fond of the change for him pre-vampiring from idiot younger brother being dragged around by protective older brother to putting him in that older brother figure sort of role. as much as i think it tracks with the story they're telling i find that it sort of flattens his character out or makes it a bit more generic. i miss when he used to be a little twit.
#preacher#proinsias cassidy#there was going to be more in here and then i realized i was drifting madly away from my Original Point#but i just want to say in tags god i love that fight scene with tulip while trying to stop the apocalypse#i've let you hit me a lot because i love you but if you hit me one more time i'm gonna fuckin kill you.#and asking her if she still thinks he's funny now he's got her at gunpoint. and she says Yes. and it's like. thank god#bc it was kind of a test. kind of. if you see the violent vampire side of me and i'm not just doing whatever you want do you still like me#am i just a sidekick to you. a rebound when jesse's not around. and if i step out of that role will you stop liking me.#and she said nah. nope. i still like you dude. you're more than that to me.#IT'S IMPORTANT............................ IT MEANS SO MUCH#witness me
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Poor fisherman Gil getting turned to the same species as Thena for a day because of some wich and now he finds out how Thena finds him very hot in his form
"Thena!"
"Gil?" Thena turned, her hair fanning around her in the water. It was still a distance away, but she knew that voice. Although, she never expected to hear it in this way again. She squinted, hoping to focus her eyes on the far, far distance.
There was a small dot of black, swimming towards her. It was moving quickly, using a thick, strong tail. Its fins were thick, like a shark's, dark against the blue like an angler.
"Gil!" She swam, her tail propelling her urgently. Her arms reached out against the currents, a habit she'd picked up from her human mate.
"Angelfish!" Gil burst in relief as he got his arms around her. They circled in the water, their tails swishing so closely they knocked together. "I'm so glad I found you!"
She blinked, her eyes adjusting again. She could feel the dark scales raised on his skin, the dorsal spines running down his back between the muscles of his torso. Her fins reacted naturally to the way the water bent around his larger, stronger fins.
He pouted as she pulled away. "I was worried I wouldn't be able to find you. It's a whole lot of nothing out here!"
She laughed faintly, although she quieted herself at his distress. "Everything identifiable is further down, love. Sandbanks, current changes, there are reefs and-"
Gil latched onto her again. "Well, I didn't expect to have to come find you like this."
He had a point. Thena let him cling to her, although it was decidedly odd behaviour for a mer. "Indeed--why are you out here like this?"
He groaned, making bubbles rise from the gills on his neck. "I don't know what happened."
She listened patiently as he started drifting downward listlessly, letting his worries sink him a little at a time. She took his hand, also odd for a mer, but assuring him she was there.
"I reeled up this weird looking eel-fish-thing. I was gonna cut it loose, thought maybe it was an endangered species or something. But then I got close, this purple gas came out of nowhere, and suddenly my legs were gone."
"Hm," Thena mused aloud. She could see how that was alarming. It was one thing for her to practice and then perfect splitting her tail into legs. And while it was embarrassing and frustrating to lose that control in times of fatigue, she could only imagine how frightening it would be to experience it completely without knowledge or prior attempts.
"I slid myself off the deck of Titania so I could come find you," Gil finished, practically whimpering at her.
She offered a smile and leaned in to kiss him. "Fear not, my lionfish. I doubt it will last."
"You think?" he asked her as she continued her affections. They drifted closer to the coral reefs below.
She nodded, guiding him more deliberately towards some ledges of coral formations on which they could rest. "Old magic like that is rare, but all the tales of it never speak of anything lasting longer than a moon."
Gil looked down at himself, bending his tail as they managed to hover around the coral and sand. "I wasn't exactly planning on taking a day off work, let alone like this. And Titania isn't even anchored!"
"Gil," she said gently, tipping his chin to kiss him again. It seemed to calm him, and she had to admit that kissing him in this form - feeling the bend of his fangs under his lip - held a certain addictiveness to her. She blamed it on her instincts.
"Okay, okay, you're right," he sighed, again releasing his excess air via his gills. Even they were lovely.
He looked around them, now able to see a few mers in the area, further from the surface. "I had kind of hoped I could ask someone if they had seen you, but no one was around. And if I did see anything even resembling a mer it just...swam off."
Thena smiled again. Her mate was truly adorable. "I can see why."
His gills puffed. "What does that mean?"
Her eyes drifted down from the rich colour of his eyes to the exposure of his collar bone. Usually, he was preoccupied with covering himself, even at home, more often than not. But she had a full view of his chest, the perfect blend of muscle and fat. His dark scales encroached on it, harmonizing with the lovely colour of his skin. His upper abdominal muscles bulged, a line running down them until his scales from either side of his back met and formed the upper beginnings of his tail.
"Angelfish?"
She darted her eyes back up to his. This was not the time for her to be appraising his appeal as a mate. "You look a little...sharklike."
"Really?" he looked down at himself. Of course, both of them next to each other, the contrast was visible. His tail and fins were thicker, more cartilage than thin membrane stretched between spines. "Huh."
Thena squeaked, her own gills bubbling as he reached down and ran his thumb over the webbing of one of her fins. Red bloomed across her face.
"Whoa," he commented mildly, comparing the feeling of her fin and his own. He ran it between his thumb and finger, like he did with hers. "That's such a weird sensation. It's like...I dunno, I've never had an extra limb like this."
Thena was unable to offer comment, too flustered at having him explore her so liberally.
"So," he looked at her again, completely unaware of how badly he had flustered her. "Is it bad?--how I look, I mean."
"Oh," she gulped, her gills breathing for her. She resettled her tail, hoping it wasn't vibrating from the stimulation. "N-No, not necessarily."
"Is it, uh," he made a face, also resettling himself to 'sit' with her (in a sense), "uncommon?"
She pushed her hair over her shoulder and out of her way. "No, Gil, it's...well, it isn't common. But it's in no way unfavorable."
He looked around them again. They were getting a few looks by passing mers, both individuals, and even mated pairs passing through. "You sure?"
"Indeed," she murmured, also eyeing those who paid them special attention. "Intimidating, perhaps, but not unfavorable."
"How is it good to be intimidating?" he asked, and it reminded her that he felt sensitively about his size as a human, too. He was such a gentle soul, he didn't like it when other humans assumed he was of an unpleasant disposition.
Her sweet human.
Thena sighed, taking his hand again, clasping it between hers. "To other bulls, I mean, Gil. You are an intimidating rival to other males."
"Oh," he made another face, and then his eyes went wide, "oh! Wait, you mean, like...I'm-"
"A fine specimen," she finished for him, no matter what it was he would have said. She huffed, "and believe me, the others here have noticed."
Gil raised a brow at her. He took another brief look around, although she was happy to note that he didn't seem to really notice anyone. "Really?"
"Is it so unbelievable?" she challenged. She rose from their relaxed position on the smooth coral overhang, dusting up the sand below. "I'll have you know that mers are very selective about potential mates. You cut a very promising prospect."
Gil rose to join her, easily only having to beat his tail once for every two of hers. "You know I don't care about that, hon."
Thena followed another mer taking notice of them with her eyes. In fact, she let her whole head swivel, making sure they knew they were not unchallenged. "It is not up to you, I'm afraid. Those interested will take notice whether I want them to or not."
She hissed at the passerby, just to really send a message.
Gil chuckled next to her. "Now you know how I feel all the time."
Her gills puffed again as he turned her gently to stop glaring at others and look at him. He brushed his thumb against the necklace permanently corded around her neck.
Thena happily leaned in, angling her shoulders forward as her tail swished happily. Kissing wasn't foreign to mers, but it wasn't the primary mode of conveying affection, either. This was much more human, but she had no qualms.
Gil kissed her eagerly, their fangs clicking together a few times in their vigour. His arms wrapped around her, his fingers tracing the spines along her back bone. She really had to tell him that he was quite handsy as a mer.
She purred as they separated, her hands on his cheeks, him still holding her as close as their tails could allow.
"It's quite a vulgar display, isn't it?"
Thena turned, hissing and splaying her fins at whomever it was that felt the need to comment, no matter who it was. "Away!"
It was two other mermaids, eyeing her with displeasure. It was not unlike having to confront human women on land, though. Defending her territory as a mate was always the same, legs or tail.
The two waved at Gil. "Do come find us if you tire of her."
Gil let his offense at the suggestion show on his face. His lip curled up in a snarl to show off his impressive fangs. "Trade a pearl for a rock, you mean?"
The female's jaw dropped.
Thena snickered at both the jab and her reaction to it. They turned sharply, flapping their tails forcefully in their exit. Thena was happy to send them away without their satisfaction. She circled on the spot a few times, displaying her unwillingness to back down.
Gil reached up to pull her down to him again. He was amused. "Are mers always so...forward about mates?"
Thena gave one last withering look in the direction of the two intruders. "Not always that forward. But I did tell you--you are a desirable prospect. And those without a mate would happily make an offer to you. Clearly my presence is not an obstacle."
"Well," Gil pulled her close again, despite or perhaps in spite of how they were just scrutinised for it. "How should I convey I'm a taken man--or mer, I guess."
She smiled, pressing her lips to his again, if briefly this time. "Only for a day. And just stay close to me. I will handle any potential interlopers."
"Well," he drawled. He was having fun, now. "If I'm so intimidating looking--what with my shark fins and all."
He spoke lightly of it, but it wasn't that common, and it did make him entirely too appealing to the eye.
"Maybe I should put it to good use," he nuzzled her cheek, making sure to settle himself next to her ear. "And make it clear that I'm happily mated."
Thena did her best to resist the urge to flutter like a jellyfish. She nuzzled into him in return, again indulging in such affections based on her merly instinct (she told herself). "It should be obvious to anyone. You are far too alluring a specimen to be without mate, after all."
"Is that so?" he raised an eyebrow at her as she trailed a finger down his open chest. "Well, it's a good thing I'm so 'alluring', as you put it."
She pursed her lips, awaiting his reasoning. But she blushed as his fin caressed hers in a way she refused to believe was accidental. "Gil!"
"I'll have to be, to be with the most beautiful mermaid in all the seven seas."
#Thenamesh Mermaid AU#thank you so much for your ask!!!!#I love this au it's always fun#I love writing in the little behaviours in aus like these#mers would have particular behaviours after all#Sersi would be fascinated to study them#they don't kiss as much as they would nuzzle maybe a fin touch or two#also Gil thinks he's just being cute with his girlfriend#in reality he has his hands all over her in such a way#he would be mortified if he knew that he's basically slipping his hand up her dress in mer terms#but Thena's not saying she doesn't like it if you catch my drift#the specification in the ask that he find out how hot she thinks he is like this#I love it#Thena is so not subtle about it#seeing Gil as a mer just makes her brain go mate mate mate mate mate#she's that meme that's like#oh I'm a terrible person here he is telling me about a witch turning him into a mer and all I can think about is him using those hands to..#Thena canoodles with him happily#Gil gets even more used to swimming using his fins and such#Thena shows him even more of her ocean home since they have more than just a few hours#but she takes him closer to the surface when the sun sets#just in case his 'condition' turns suddenly#also when he gets back up to the surface with legs#he's like shit my clothes are just...gone#Thena: I don't mind#it's not her fault mers sometimes mate for life#and the drive to mate can be...strong
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Would you ever go to Orochimaru in exchange for power if it meant you could get revenge for what happened?

"Do I look stupid?"
Don't answer that.
Absolutely not, is the answer. Power costs, and there's no point seeking revenge on something that can never be undone. Now, if some weird, unrealistic opportunity arose where she could take advantage of a situation and get revenge, sure, why not have a little revenge-as a treat! That won't happen, so there is no point in entertaining such fantasies. And even so, it would need to be without any such sacrifices to her character or being, because that is the kind of crazy even she won't touch.
#absoluuuuuuuuutely not#now if it was the only option to protect someone she cared about?? yeah i think she might if she was desperate#but to seek revenge? nope not one bit absolutely not#ty for this jumpscare in my inbox lmao#also i have a suspicion that like most she would want to stay as FAR from orochimaru as possible#so far what ive got from the show is hes out here shopping for his new bod#i dont think she wants to donate her body to science if you catch my drift#anyways#answered#anonymous
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You know the more I see stuff for Robots in Disguise 2015, the more I want to watch it and give it a fair chance
I know it doesn’t treat Optimus well and isn’t considered a good sequel to TFP, but I mean, I’m willing to look past that. From what I understand, it’s considered at least decent outside of that, right?
Listen I just gotta know what this grimbee situation is about, what is Grimlock like in this series? I have to know, I keep seeing art of it on my feed
#I’ve noticed a fair number of ships for this show involve Bumblebee#which I mean I guess good for him he isn’t relegated to team baby in this show’s fandom#(probably because he isn’t compared to others on the team but still)#I also do just want to know about this show’s characters#I hear Drift is in this show too and I want to know about him here#and I also hear this is the show where they really start giving the women proper body diversity#which is great#I mean they still have lips which tends to be distracting to me but whatever#like I don’t know the show’s not sounding too bad#I just have to pretend it isn’t connected to Prime right?#does Arcee show up in this show actually? I know the rest of the TFP bots do#wonder what she looks like here#anyways I’ll stop rambling#transformers#transformers rid2015
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how do you cut someone off
#like without drifting apart gradually bc tbh i dont wanna be close friends anymore#i feel constantly misunderstood and perpetually weighed down in this person's presence#we're close friends but i dont even like her anymore#and i feel BAD about it but i just cant stand their ass! everything feels like a competition with them. everything feels miserable.#it's definitely partially my own fault bc i do a lot of comparing due to our laundry list of similarities#but it's partially their fault bc shes always adding fuel to the fire#like we can never just agree on things#and whenever i try to balance myself and stop being so competitive here she comes with her damn#need to make even more comparisons between us#also like. they cannot just shut up about how hard life is#Trust me i know! i take 3 pills daily for psychological issues. i have been since i was 18#like they always have to talk about how haaaaard having ADHD is how difficult their life is like#it's one thing to open up to your friends and vent every so often and another to make your illness your entire personality#i rant about all my issues in depth on tumblr BECAUSE i know better than to dump all that onto my friends who are already struggling#im not saying it's Trauma Dumping to talk abt ur problems but holy shit in moderation#like i dont have the mental or emotional capacity for this!!!!#that might sound really mean and god forbid extremely individualistic but it's truly because#im trying to HEAL im trying to RECOVER#and with someone constantly messaging me about their ailments and symptoms and struggles! well it makes me feel like we're both bound to be#stuck foreverrrr#also apart from that i dont enjoy their company. they used to be interesting and now they're just negative half the time if not more and#constantly playing the devils advocate for seemingly no real reason#im not perfect either in fact i can be a real asshole in friendship im aware. but this one particular friend has been pissing me off for#over a year and that has to mean something#like why now and why for this long?#if it really is a Me Problem then okay! like i fucking suck im horrible or whatever lets not be friends so that she can be happier!#idgaf anymore maybe im the bad guy but either way we're better off apart#z.post
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i don’t have any useful advice and you might hate me for this but i was once the best friend that moved out of the country without warning. now i’m not saying that this is how your friend feels (and i don’t know you two but from what i’ve read im rooting for you sorry not sorry!!!!!) but it was easy for me to pull away because the friendship was just not the same anymore, i felt like we were outgrowing each other. if you’ve tried talking to her and it’s been unsuccessful i would say to let the drift happen. it was so hard and there were so many times i wanted to reach out and even though the last few months of our friendship were dull i missed her terribly. i was angry for a while because i felt like i was the only one putting any effort into the friendship but 3 years later and im not mad anymore. i appreciate her for the space she took up in my life but i know we’re better off now. best friends don’t treat each other that way my heart, 💌
no hate here!!! i'm always trying to get out of my own echo-chamber and hearing perspectives from the other side helps that. beware a big talk below but i'm just sort of using this message to talk through my things, not that it inspired this huge defense in me lol <3 i appreciate you sending me a message <3
it sounds like you guys might've been predisposed to that drift unfortunately, though this didn't come from that sort of place or if she was feeling that way, she didn't communicate it so i was blindsided (but given her initial reaction, i don't think so). for my situation it's important to know every individual thing was forgiveable - the birthday timing, the leaving within a month, the telling some but not others, i could rationalise them all with time and space. but she really decided to dig her heels in and die on the hill that i spoke too harshly, even when i was having to explain why her behaviour indicated huge apathy from someone who i considered to be my best friend and from then on, i was not allowed to continue to be hurt without it being unfair to her. i even tried gentle confrontation, explaining why i couldn't give the remorse she wanted at that time and how i was working to move towards that, as well as how i needed space for my own hurt and she basically shat on that olive branch and held fast that i 'didn't realise how unokay the way i spoke was' (like i hadn't addressed that). even now our last conversation, i asked about what else she needed from the letter only for her to ignore it completely, she only wants to move forward and she doesn't seem to care if i feel resolved in this. i asked very explicitly for reassurance that she's reflected on where her behaviour came from (as even with her valid critique of me, it's fairly obvious where my anger came from - vs. wtf man why did you do that) and she chose the avoidant route again, saying 'of course she's thought about it' & saying she's been 'more than apologetic' - despite from the start how i've said i don't want apologies, i want her to stop doing this to me. like i really tried dude but the only way forward with her is to roll over and ignore it forever and that's all to say, it took all that to realise the friendship isn't salvageable. and i want her to know its not mutual drift, it's her behaviour lol
#letting all of my followers know all of my business lmao#idgaf she's not my friend anymore#it's all about how petty i will be at the end#bcos i know she will rationalise herself as this victim if we drift#and im like naw shawty. it's ur avoidant ass behaviour that is the root problem here#anon#ruby talks#asks
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my life feels very isolating i can't even lie
#txt#my best friend doesn't really interact with me much except for in the morning but shes on her phone + she does the same on spare#or a majority of yhe time shes not even here#i feel like at times its one sided but i dont bother to communicate bc she can't really be emotionally vulnerable nor take me seriously#all our convos r short and i worry we are drifting apart but oh well
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i had a bitter dream about my former crush who i barely ever talk to anymore even though we used to be friends & when i woke up i went to check her instagram but turns out she deleted it sometime within the past 6 months :/ so now i'm kind of worried about how she's doing in addition to the bitterness /:
#bitterness being bc when she started dating someone she basically stopped keeping in touch with me#and the last time i reached out and we planned to hang out she blew me off at the last second#because of being tired after recently moving in with her partner#and like she cancelled when i had already come to the city where she lives specifically to see her 💀#yet she acted like it wasn't a big deal to cancel on me. and didn't try to figure out another opportunity to see me or anything#and she also said later she'd let me know next time she'd be in my city but she didn't#anyway. me being bitter about this is definitely also tinted by the fact that we seem to have drifted apart bc of her relationship#when i was ofc already feeling disappointed over the confirmation that my crush on her was unrequited and not gonna work out#and in general i get really pissy when people put (new) romantic relationships before (old) friendships but that's neither here nor there#personal
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