#THERE WAS NO AWKWARDNESS OR GRIEF

[fluffypotatey]

i fucking love when a friendship doesn’t decay

[hinamie]

"I'll show you every day that choosing to live was worth it"

some of my favourite scenes from @hijinks-n-lowjinks' fic things i would miss from the other side . this fic tore my heart out fr but like in a good way and i wanted to pay it homage the only way i know how <3

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

i think it would be funny if people occasionally arose from the dead. like if that was a real-life one-in-a-million but well-documented Thing That Sometimes Happens, and the entire legal system around death (laws on inheritance & marriage & murder etc) had to include caveats for the unlikely-but-scientifically-possible event that the dead person in question might spontaneously self-resurrect, even years or decades after death. it would raise so many inconvenient and absurd possibilities

[cosbeans]

an old promise

[awkward-sultana]

Grief will keep you reaching back

for what is not there.

-Adrianne Kalfopoulou, “Poem in Pieces, a Log,” A History of Too Much

[nonbinarylesbianherb]

I've seen many people say Alicent walking away from Aegon, as well as other scenes of her failing to comfort her kids is her "lacking empathy" or something along those lines

I've seen a lot of people say that empathy is a basic human trait, and that "anyone" would've gone to him and provided some form of comfort (e.g hugging, apologising, etc.)

NEED people to recognise that not everyone shows empathy the same way. That not everyone recieves empathy in the same way. There are many reasons to as why Alicent walked away, 1. Maybe she was worried she would only make things worse. 2. maybe she thought he preferred to be left alone.

We can see very clearly the emotions of pain on her face. She wants to help but doesn't know how, she's not really close with her children. So she doesn't know if her providing him comfort by hugging/her presence in the room with him would make things better or worse. E.g, myself- I love my friends and family dearly but sometimes when I'm grieving I need to be left alone and someone coming to talk/hug/be with me, regardless if their intention is to help, will honestly make things worse than better.

There is no one way to show empathy nor one way to receive empathy. I don't think it's fair for people to say this about Alicent when we don't know at all if it would've helped. In my opinion it's a very black and white view of something that is an extremely complex thing.

Grief isn't the same for everyone. Comfort from others isn't always the answer to grief. Grief can be shown in many forms.

It reminds me of how Helaena got a lot of hate after the b&c scene, and people saying she had no empathy/care for her children due to her reaction. Not everyone reacts the same to these things. If you would kick and scream that's valid, but people, like Helaena who would dissociate from shock and trauma are valid as well.

We're all completely different individuals, billions of us. We all experience things and show things different. Just because we may experience things differently, doesn't mean we are lacking of empathy.

In my opinion, the only people who fail to have empathy are the ones who cannot comprehend this.

[longagoitwastuesday]

Kusakabe, dear, you're too beautiful to be saying that kind of stuff

[soullessjack]

high key every time kagami and adrien have their “I just want to be a good friend but I don’t know how to and I’m scared that I make everyone upset and uncomfortable” moments I feel an ache I should not be feeling

[swollenbabyfat]

Hold her together - does Twilight hold animosity towards angel in that last panel?

Hmm...yeah, I'd say so. This is Twilights first death she's majorly dealt with other than like..grandparents dying, let alone something as tragic as a young suicide. They're all still in shock during that comic, but Twilight needs to learn a lot of lessons through FIM, and I think earlier her especially would be like...less then understanding at first. She doesn't let Shy know about it, she knows that much at least, but she also has no fucking idea what to say. There's no easy fix for this, and her brain short circuits a bit, so she ends up handling a lot of the practical end of things - digging, arranging the burial, providing food.

I imagine it also digs at some feelings of her own mortality, or lack of it now, how she feels about her friends and loved ones in general dying. Its a lot for her to chew on and its presented in a really "I have to see this, I don't want to see this, I don't want to DEAL with this" kind of thing, not in malice but in a true despair at not being able to help her friends very well on an emotional level.

She only ends up being able to work it out via therapy, probably, but avoids talking about it for the rest of their lives most likely. She is a fixer in a literal sense, and has a hard time finding the words to comfort.

[coockie8]

ok but now i cant stop thinking about something happening to gracia after hughes died and roy getting saddled with this kid hes had like 4 conversations with max 😂😂😂😂

Roy, upon receiving a now deeply traumatized, orphaned 4-year-old he's only met like 5 times in his life, during all of which she was a little scared of him:

[normalbrothers]

the guy you had a passionate love affair with ten years ago tells you he's gonna be a father and you thought you moved on with your own life and family but now it's all coming back and it's sort of awkward between you but you are holding onto each other longer than strictly necessary and maybe he isn't over it either and

[upsidedog]

a little over a month after max ended things with lucas a girl in her spanish class aproched her and asked if “lucas sinclar” is single. apparently she thinks he’s cute and has seen them hanging out. “no, he isn’t single” is what max wants to say because if she sticks to her plan of mourning their relationship for the rest of high school so should he, even if max was the one who broke it off. but max is a good person so she says “yeah he’s single.” but not that good so she adds “he just got out of a relationship though, and he’s not over her” and since she’s already crossed that first line “i actually wouldn’t even try.”

max only lasts an hour or two before she feels so guilty she tells lucas there’s a girl in her spanish class that he should ask out cause she thinks he’s cute. lucas is a little offended that his ex is trying to play matchmaker on principle but also because he was sort of planning on mourning his and max’s relationship for the rest of high school

[awkward-sultana]

Magnificent Centery AU + Meryem!Hürrem in Season 4

[this-acuteneurosis]

Proficient

Leia gets her first glimpse at what formal Jedi training standards looks like. Everyone learns something.

Oops.

[camellcat]

I keep thinking about this one fic, where amy gets sent back in time to the beginning of s1 by a weeping angel, and like. idk. I want to see clara in s1. idk how'd she get there. probably some wackiness of converging timelines or whatever since we already know she's, like, woven throughout his entire life. but I just wanna see her reaction to nine and rose. specifically nine. and then seeing how different s2 ten is to ANY doctor she's ever known. I want her there!!! plus her and rose would be best friends SORRY I keep saying it but it's TRUE

[lookmomitsmytmblr]

Hey guys remember how like four hours ago I RBed something and talked about how I had a canon ship that I love (Peter Quill & Gamora)? I also have a deep love and appreciation for a "successor ship" of Nebula/Peter (following the tragic yet bittersweet end of P/G) that is currently non-canon but has incredible potential for the characters and narrative and had some fantastic chemistry in GoTG3.

I tend to look at things from the writing perspective, and honestly P/G had such a fantastic complete arc (despite some issues, as always) and the way they left the characters felt respectful of the depth and importance of their connection without making their lives about each other. And that's what I loved about the pairing in the first place, I adore pairings where their lives ARENT about each other, but their goals and values align in such a way that they partner together and support one another.

I actually super love when stories are willing to tackle that sometimes people who love each other are separated for various reasons and then the characters are allowed to love again. Like, we get to see a whole new dynamic that is no less real or special than the past relationships. This is getting really ramble-y, but basically I feel like shipping and plot are two very different things. When I'm shipping I want the characters to be happy (some people don't and they write angst that makes me cry lol). When I'm writing or plotting I'm thinking about what makes the best story, and sometimes that doesn't align with the ship that I loved first. But its actually so beautiful and thematically sound to have a couple who very much loves each other and ultimately are separated and then have this new, very different but very beautiful relationship that comes from the loss. Like that's so. Ugh. I love it.

Sometimes breaking up a great pairing can be really thematically sound. Sometimes introducing a new relationship, or potential relationship can elevate a story and characters.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is I am very bad at sticking to canon pairings lol. I'm actually really sorry for showing up on the starbula tag and talking so much about P/G I'm sure y'all are probably sick of it. 😅