#about maintaining boundaries

[savage-rhi]

Magenta 😥

[nickythehickey]

can i be honest about something

[eff-exor]

i am such a catch. i would do the sweetest things for you.. like bake your favourite things.. look after you on your bad days….. and force you to your knees before fucking your throat with my fingers and then pulling your mouth to my cunt by your hair and using it until i’m satisfied

[skinreflectsthesun]

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[secret-sageent]

Shout out to Trant Heidelstam for being normal and well adjusted and conscious of his own feelings whilst surrounded exclusively by the most batshit insane people

[pistachiopie]

me when I'm brave

[satancopilotsmytardis]

Hate to start the day doing this, but some reminders for boundaries:

Please do not share with me or on my posts details about your mental health, about your experiences with BDSM, or excessive personal information. We do not know each other, and this is a place to talk about fictional characters. People are welcome to discuss kinks here surrounding Shigadabi because that is what my writing is dedicated to, but please do not share personal information that I haven't asked for or consented to learning about.

Please do not use my blog or stories as a source for education. I am writing about fictionalized settings in which the things depicted will never be fully accurate or true to life. Taking advice from my writing, ESPECIALLY when it comes to entering a BDSM dynamic, can be dangerous for you and your partner(s). Please find actual educational resources to ensure your safety before you proceed. Even when I do talk about my own research, I do not do so with the amount of detail and specificity to be a reliable source of education. If you have sources like this, please do not share them through my blog, as this creates mixed signals about the content that is posted here.

If you are uncomfortable with dark material such as sexual assault, rape, all forms of abuse, physical and mental torture, involuntary body modification, etc., and the possible romanticization of these topics, then it is in your best interest to leave my blog. I do enjoy writing and discussing dark topics because I find them to be interesting avenues for storytelling. When I write a full story, I tag this content appropriately, and I do not owe anyone an explanation over why I choose to engage with these these or justify why they appear in my writing. It's fine if these are topics that you do not want to engage with or that you find morally reprehensible. If that is the case, then leaving/unfollowing/blocking me are all appropriate ways to avoid seeing this kind of content in the future. Anything else, such as belittling myself or others on my posts, sending comments or DMs that ridicule or demand an explanation for my writing of these topics, or messages that convey your disapproval and tell me that you won't be engaging with a story because of a topic, are not appropriate and will have you permanently blocked from my blog. You are welcome to your boundaries and criticism, but I do not have to be a place that hosts it.

Please do not recommend fanfics to me. As I've talked about before, once I'm in deep for a fandom or ship, I stop reading any other writing about the ship. I do this specifically because I don't want to take the ideas, intentionally or unintentionally, from other writers, so I am never going to read a recommendation. I'm so glad that you have other writers and stories that bring you joy, and you should absolutely post about those stories either directly talking to the writer in the form of comments/asks, or create a recommendations list so that you can share that joy with other people as well! But my blog isn't a suitable place for it.

My goal here is to share what I love (kinky Shigadabi fanfic with a heaping dollop of introspection) and hopefully provide some fun for those of you who have chosen to join me! If at any point my content no longer makes you happy or causes you joy to engage with, you owe me absolutely nothing, and you should pursue that joy elsewhere! You will not hurt my feelings for doing so because we don't know each other!

I want to add that, overall, the community that is forming here has been incredibly kind, supportive, and respectful, and that logging on and answering asks or talking about the latest brain worm that's been chewing holes in our heads has been a consistent highlight of my life for many months now. Thank you to all of you who have been making this a joyful place to share kinky Shigadabi content 🩵

[laced-boots]

House MD would have been better if they gave Thirteen a gay little entourage that she is texting all the time in a Signal chat and doing drugs with at her apartment watching Gregg Araki movies

[gaywarcriminals]

Re: last ask, the real struggle of over-identify with a character is trying not to accidentally overshare through them 😂

[himblebo]

Should I force myself to talk to women on hinge

[memecatwings]

i hate violet sorrengail so much rn its unreal and this is coming from someone who loves evil women

[therulerofallpotatos]

I’m seriously considering setting up something to write original works as a second job online. Idk if I’d get a patreon or make a side blog here or what, but the general idea would be to take requests and set up payments. I don’t know if anyone would be interested and it’s a bit intimidating figuring out the details of setting it up. Ideally, people could send in requests and I’d be able to write something within a reasonable amount of time.

[not-poignant]

Oh, I absolutely love Sebastian going 'I have cracked Alex's code of seemingly agreeing non-answers, so I will now ask important questions!' And Alex just going 'Uh-huh. Yup. Sure. Right.' (Eats sandwich like his years long crush hasn't just asked in a round about way if he's gay) These boys are the BEST at talking. I love it so much ❤️

They're both incredibly useless and I love them for it. I enjoy writing characters with very minimal communication skills who have a lot to learn and are still figuring out how to people, and while Sebastian can mostly do that, boy is he ever bad at it with Alex!

But he's getting there, it's like he veers in and out of the zone, so rather than being incompetent all the time, it's like the percentage at which he's competent at 'Alex' just slowly rises lol. I think we're around 30-35% now :D

[sapphic-squid]

The new off book episode shook me to my core, I really needed it

[roley-poley-foley]

being a bad omens blogger is wild cuz apparently there are just people who know people hanging out around here

[th3houseofleaves]

when graywarren first start going out and people find out about them, dick ends up getting 3.5ish shovel talks of varying seriousness lmao

the worst one is not from cole, kit's parent who you'd expect it to be from, instead it's from roy. he legit catches dick on patrol or comes over to his apartment or something and tells him that if he hurts kit in any way or falls back into those old habits where they fight like cats and dogs and dick is clearly in the wrong, he'll forget that they're friends too and do Something. he doesn't elaborate on what he'll do exactly but it's ominous enough to be taken seriously.

cole isn't as bad but he's just as serious. and cole isn't normally super idk overprotective with the people kit dates and he's never given a shovel talk or anything before but he remembers what dick and kit's relationship was like previously and he knows how bad kit's last relationship ended and he doesn't want that to happen again.

the least serious one isn't even a true Talk but it's lian akahsk she tells him he's not allowed to be mean to kit or make him cry or anything or she'll be very Upset and she will Fight him. that's her uncle! she cares about him a lot. she cares about dick a lot too and he's like her uncle but she'd still be mad at him.

then the .5 talk is literally one or two statements made in passing by oliver queen the next time he sees dick. bc even if him and kit are neutral to each other at best he's still been around him for a long time and he's important to roy so like oliver is Trying. he's making an Attempt and he's still trying to look after kit in his own way. (kit's still ready to fight ollie whenever and wherever but yknow.)