#and i am not exempt from this! don't take my opinions or experience as a representative for life in mexico

[beautifulpersonpeach]

Hello. How are you?

My ask is around fashion, styling and BTS.

This ask stems from Tae’s recent shoots which seem to show him experimenting but to be honest, I liked his Veutiful shoot more. He has that Lord/Duke vibe and his face card is also apt for that sort of shoot. I didn’t like the blonde hair on him and find everything else quite on the nose. As if there’s a deliberate effort to show a different side. It seems uncomfortable and awkward.

So. Who has had the most amazing jaw dropping ‘glow up’ (it’s the only word that comes to mind but I mean in terms of style and fashion) according to you? And Sir Jung Hoseok is not an option. Jimin is also not an option 🤭 Though I am not a boba-min fan. I prefer his hair blonde/under cut/PTD Seoul era. His album shoot was something else. And the Tailor of Chaos shows what he can do. Now I want him to show us something edgier. I’m thinking paint and bare body.

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You don’t like the blonde hair on Tae?

Really?

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Well, I suppose that's just as well. I happen to love the blonde hair on him and think it suits him better now when his face structure is more defined than it was a couple years back. And rather than him looking uncomfortable or awkward in his recent styling, I think he photographs very well.

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But that's the beauty of diverse opinion. Onto your main ask though... I can't mention Hoseok? Why?

And no Jimin?

Anon.... you're kinda taking the piss, aren't you?

But alright, I'll work within those parameters. Jin is out of the question since he's not really been around for much of Chapter 2 so far.

My first candidate for best glow up is Kim Taehyung.

I don't know if it's Jennie... toute la vitamine E qu'il a reçue en mangeant de la chatte the balmy summer weather but Tae in my opinion looks the best he's looked in years. I didn't really care for the suited-up preppy look he had in previous years so I'm loving that he's switched to more casual but fitted streetwear recently. In more editorial shoots, he's also styled very well. Seems like working with Celine has its perks in that sense. I understand we disagree on this note, but I do think Tae has had the best glow up.

After Tae, I have to say Namjoon. I mean...

Joon is very consistent in his styling so that's not where I'm seeing the glow up. It's in his build and carriage. I feel shorter hair suits him best and all the hours he's been spending in the gym are paying off handsomely.

I've also noticed his skin has cleared up in recent months too... so maybe he's changed his diet or something? Idk what it is but he looks so much more delicious now than just a few months ago. His campaign shoots for Bottega Veneta also suit him perfectly. I'm hoping we see more styling in this vein when he drops RM4.

Next up, Yoongi.

This Vouge shoot was both a plague and a godsend. Considered tying my tubes for fear I'd spontaneously get impregnated if I stared at his knees too long. The thing about Yoongi is, he knows what he's got. He knows that for regular people, knees are knees. But that for him, knees are pale, supple, sweet weapons of mass destruction. And he wields it without mercy. Not like his styling in Valentino has helped either. He's been on a mission to wreck balls and ovaries since Chapter 2 started and not even 6 ft tall NBA players are exempt. So yeah, A+ styling from Yoongi, but he's always had this edge so in terms of relative change a.k.a. glow up, he ranks behind the others.

And then there's Jungkook.

...I've been cautioned I'm too profane where baby star candy is involved so will just note that he's hot no matter what he wears and move on.

That's my view on their recent glow up in terms of fashion, styling and overall looks Anon.

[nothorses]

sooo, i'm super conflicted on the tme/tma thing. on the one hand i do agree that transmisogyny very clearly hurts people beyond trans women, so the exempt/applicable wording is ...not great. But overall, this is an argument about terminology, yeah? is nitpicking terminology really a useful way to spend our time? is this at all comparable to the terminology argument that surrounds transandrophobia (the good old "call it anything else" nonsense)? that probably needs some explanation -- i guess they're both situations in which ppl not part of a group have issues with word(s) used by that group based on the form that those words take. (with tme/tma seeming to be used as ingroup/outgroup terminology instead of being used with the meanings of their unabbreviated forms)

i don't really know, man. hope this isn't entirely incomprehensible, would appreciate your thoughts on the topic

I mean, my take on "terminology arguments" is that I'm not here to police the language people choose & use, but I reserve the right to express my opinion on the subject more broadly. (i.e. I don't care if you wanna use TME/TMA, but I still dislike the terms personally.)

imo, the difference between "transandrophobia" as a term and "Transmisogyny-Exempt/Transmisogyny-Affected" (TME/TMA) as terms is that the first is describing a form of oppression and a commonality between lived experiences; the closest relatives to that are "transmisogyny" and "nbphobia/exorsexism". The extended family includes "transphobia", "homophobia", "queerphobia", etc.

"TME/TMA" are not describing any new systems, experiences, or forms of oppression; they're specifically creating an in-group and an out-group distinction based on (perceived) experiences of oppression.

There is no relative to those terms. No group has an equivalent to those terms.

"Straight" vs. "gay/queer/whatever" is based on personal identity; so is "allo" vs. "a-spec". So is "cis" vs. "trans". These are groups you personally identify into; words you can choose and claim according to your own personal experiences, identity, and relationship to the words. They are self-determined.

"TME/TMA" are not self-determined. They are, even at their most well-intentioned, a way of identifying a group based on whether people are or are not impacted by this form of oppression.

More practically, they are a way of identifying a group based on whether other people assume they are sufficiently impacted by this form of oppression. (Ask around a little and see how many people have been gatekept from claiming "TMA" because they aren't transfem, or they don't seem transfem enough, or because their experiences with transmisogyny aren't "direct" or "severe" enough.)

Even more commonly, they are a not-so-subtle way to identify transmascs (TME) and transfems (TMA) in a way that paints transmasculinity as "an oppressor class" and continues to define transfemininity solely by "adequate" oppression and suffering (and if that sounds like truscum with extra steps, well). Granted, this is a problem in usage, and I can't really hold the terms themselves accountable for that.

In a world without "transandrophobia" (or an exact equivalent) as a word we can use, transmascs- and others who experience it- have no way of naming the unique form of oppression leveled against us for our proximity, or perceived proximity, to transmasculinity.

In a world without "TME/TMA" (or an exact equivalent) we can just. Call people "transfem" or "not transfem". Or we can say "I don't experience transmisogyny" or "I am impacted by transmisogyny".

Or, if they really need a word for it, they can call us "shrimpdicks" or "aidens" or whatever and make things a little simpler for everyone- considering, you know, the terms were coined to serve baeddelism.

[poppyandzena]

You are genuinely so kind and responsible, I really appreciate you. I dont like to talk much but your way of navigating this situation made me need to speak out in appreciation. You are helping so many people in ways you dont know. I leaned on poppy/jess and Zena for support, and I knew before these blogs had come out that they werent who they said they were when I got up close to them. I always assumed I was the problem. You have validated my experiences with them in a way that is unbiased and kind. I dont wish ill on them, but i am hurt by the way they treated others. I love that I can count on you not to be vindictive and malicious toward them while also highlighting the issues.

There are some people who are capitalizing on this moment to hurt a trans creator. But that shouldn't be a reason to ignore their very real harm. You specifically are giving a space we can talk about it in that is moderated, and I appreciate you for it. I will defend Poppys trans identity and plural identity to my grave, but it doesnt erase the real harm shes done. I dont want to see her suffer or get hurt, I want her to see where she is hurting others, and stop this destructive path so she and others affected by her recent actions can be happy.

It's a continuous effort. The Spawn situation very deeply hurt me and I wanted to externalize it, let people know how angry I was. But I can't let that get the best of me. There are also things I draw the line on, even if I really, really, really detest PZ. Anyone's transness is not up for debate.

I actually do believe in plurality, and I'm not going to foster a debate here on whether or nor certain people have it or don't. If I did we'd be talking in circles. I ALSO believe in System Responsibility. Alters do not exempt anyone from taking accountability for the things they say. An alter does a crime, the body goes to jail. An alter says/does terrible shit, I'm not going to enable it because "only x said it."

I don't want anyone to die. Ideally I want those involved to reflect and step away to do regular people things like... jobs that don't involve vulnerable people... having healthy hobbies... having fun that isn't at the expense of others.

It takes a lot of restraint sometimes to not throw away my sympathy or compassion. I didn't plan it when I made my blog, but I've become a representative of something bigger than my opinions. Thank you, Anon, for being very sweet. It really helps me focus on what is important.

[fictionkinfessions]

These are all the ask responses for the kin twins and fictives conversation. No further ask responses will be posted for it. If you would like to continue the conversation please reblog, reply in notes, or like this post so someone can come into your ask box about it. Thank you!

Anonymous asked: Hey "fictives are doubles" friends. If someone had the same name as you would you see them as a double? No? Same principle. Your hang ups are your problem. If your identity is so fragile that someone with the same name as you weirds you out, perhaps do not tread where they tread? Just a thought. Clearly public spaces are not going to be a comfy place for you, and that's a YOU problem.

Non-systems stop projecting your hang ups onto systems challenge. That shit is uncomfortable and invalidating. I am not you. I never claimed to be you. I am my own person, ripped from a greater mass due to the pain I have suffered. I don't pretend to have lived your life. You can fucking keep it.

Anonymous asked: @ 🕯♟ i would like to tell you that you should think before you post because it's clear you have a very poor understanding of fictives. you claim fictives and kin are all equal and that fictives are people, and then in the same ask claim we have no identity outside of the character we've formed from. people exempt us from their discomfort with doubles because they acknowledge us as people who have our own lives and how we related to the character we've formed from is our business alone. it is fine if you are uncomfortable with doubles formed from the same character you kin, but your experiences are not universal and your ask is treating fictives as "lesser" despite claiming not to be, especially since you yourself are a singlet. please listen to fictives, educate yourself, and be better from now on.

Anonymous asked: @ the no doubles except fictives, I wanted to offer an opposite end of the viewpoint? I should preface this also with our host isn’t terribly uncomfortable with doubles so perhaps my opinion is skewed but i still wanted to offer my thoughts.

“Fictives are the character” and “fictives are their own people” are not mutually exclusive takes? Obviously this very much depends on the person in question! But for me I see it both ways. I am Grimsley, a fictional character from the Pokémon universe. I am also Just Grimsley, a man living here in this system. I remember my times in the Pokémon world, I remember my Pokémon, my time as an elite four member, I am a skilled battler, I have a gambling motif, I bear my scars and trauma still. And yet, I am also a man. I’ve been lucky enough to have met my three husbands since my time forming. I’ve adopted kids, I have six of them now. I like to play stardew valley.

I think another good example could be introjects/fictives of characters who go by completely different names or don’t really have much relation to the character they were… “based” on so to speak? We have a fictive who is technically the character “volo” and we do include him in the Volo category because he technically is. But he’s nothing like the fictional character volo. He’s young. He doesn’t remember his name. He doesn’t remember any familiar sights. He’s a child. He only remembers the land he was from and that it’s the same. So even though he is a Volo, he’s not treated like a fictive of Volo the character if that makes sense.

This is very long and perhaps not worded the best, but I think the “no doubles except fictives” is someone leaning more towards “a fictive is a person and more than just the character” and for some, it’s nice to be treated as a person and not just an extension of the character. And for others, it’s disrespectful to treat them as separate from who they are. That’s my two cents on it at least. -Grimsley

[livia-dovehallow]

chot asks continued

I don't like the way coming out of the closet was treated in tlh. First Anna treated Ari horribly bc she didn't want to come out, but it's her choice, she's not a coward for wanting to stay in the closet. And then with [redacted]. Charles had good reasons to stay in the closet, just bc the tid gang was ok with their children being queer doesn't mean the rest of the shadowhunters were ok with it. And as far a we know [redacted].

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original ask:

I don't like the way coming out of the closet was treated in tlh. First ana treated Ari horribly bc she didn't want to come out, but it's her choice, she's not a coward for wanting to stay in the closet. And then with Charles in chain of thorns, he's being blackmailed with being outed, which is one of the worst things that could happen to a queer person, and Matthew, Thomas and Alastair act like it's not big deal and he should just come out. Charles had god reasons to stay in the closet, just bc the tdi gang was ok with their children being queer doesn't mean the rest of the shadowhunters were ok with it. And as far a we know Charles didn't get to be consul (bc Alec was the first openly gay consul), so he being out could have had to do something with it.

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As much as it sucks, I do think there's actually a reason for having Anna take Ari not wanting to come out badly and it's not uncommon.

Anna had supportive parents and family. She never actually had to experience hearing her parents say anything bad against queer Shadowhunters or being angry with her at all. They accepted her without question.

So, in her experience, she can't empathize with someone who doesn't have that luxury. Should she be able to? For sure. But there are plenty of real-world examples of couples breaking up because one party isn't comfortable coming out while the other doesn't understand why or gives them an ultimatum, which isn't fair either.

I think as far as Charles goes, it was a presentation of being pressured into coming out. A really large pool of people basically being like "well, I did it, so why can't you?"

Not uncommon at all, either. Charles, I think (despite being a literal ass of a person in general) did not deserve to be blackmailed with that. Did he ultimately come out for the better of his family and righting a wrong? Sure. But he shouldn't have been forced to come out, asshole or not. Should have been his decision alone.

Again, I'm not saying any of it is right by any means, but it's not at all uncommon or unrealistic. In fact, the most unrealistic part of coming out in TLH is that so many of them were open about it. But it's a fantasy series so whatever I guess..

Queer people aren't exempt from being bad people, too, just because they're queer. That's a hot take on this site and within the fandom but if we're going to hold characters to high standards, lets be fair about it.

So yeah, there was a lot going on about the different ways characters came out or were forced to come out in TLH and each of us will have our own opinions of it based on our own experiences.

Newer followers of mine probably don't know this but I am bisexual. I'm out on this site because no one knows who I actually am but in real life, only a couple of my friends know. I'm still in the closet to virtually everyone in my life. My friends were supportive but that doesn't mean other people will be, and I feel more comfortable with just having those few people knowing and I will not feel like I am "betraying" the community by staying in the closet right now. In that regard, I do understand characters like Ari and Charles and Thomas, and cannot relate at all to Anna.

Each of us will have our own opinions about this so let's be sure that in this fandom, we are respectful of each other :)

[jjwho]

Hi! I saw your post about the exchange thingy and before I answer I would like advice for 2024 :) my initials are JCH

What is actually the truth?

There are so many truths. Lately, I've realized one truth is that nothing in this world is exempt from the pain that life brings. Humans, animals, even plants and trees. I used to think when I was younger “why me?” when bad things happened but I never once thought, “everyone goes through these situations in some form or another”. Just when I think something “bad” or “unfortunate” happens to me, there’s something else that follows that puts it in perspective. For example; not long ago I broke up with my long term boyfriend and was obviously upset. Then, a few days later I found out my grandmother’s lung cancer came back and she is going to die soon, then poof its like my break up didn’t even matter anymore. I’m not saying this as a “poor me” type of thing, it’s actually comforting to know that I’m not alone and that everyone else in the world can/will experience heartache, loss, grief, loneliness, mental illness, etc. If other people can get through it, why can’t I? How could I ever be self centered enough to think “why me?”. Why NOT me? And unfortunate/bad situations are so relative. I’m thankful I got the chance to even have had a long term relationship whether it was mostly positive or not, I loved. I was lucky enough to love and be loved at one point. I could’ve never seen today, I could’ve died as a child like some people do. I could be in the middle of a war zone right now just trying to survive. Of course that doesn’t diminish my struggles but doesn’t it? My “pain” is someone else’s glory. Another truth is that, “the probability of being alive right now is the same as if you handed out 2 million dice, each dice with one trillion sides… then rolled those 2 million dice and had them all land on 439,505,270,846”. That’s your chance of being alive today right now in this moment in time. Yes, humans (and every other living thing)  have struggles and those struggles are real but if you zoom out, even having those struggles are lucky. I’m not speaking on the people’s experience in Israel or Ukraine or anything drastic and horrible like that because then you’d have to think if being alive is even worth it, I mean, life like that is horrible and inhumane and even worse than I can put into words. I’m talking about me, right now, in America, educated, and yeah I struggle, but in the grand scheme of things… I am so lucky. 

Hiii thank you so much for participating, wow that's a lot so I tried to summarize that so basically your truth is "Instead of looking at situations in such a negative way think of other people and realize that your situations is the better option while looking at others situations as theirs might be worse"

I see.

Here's your advices for 2024:

"One life, one chance, a world that doesn't care"

"The bee gets honey taken away and nothing given back"

I see in 2024 you need tk do what you are feeling called to do whether it's a project or voicing out your opinions or beliefs, because really you only live once in this lifetime and it's a world that doesn't care, you don't want to die with regrets right likeee

And I see you need to stop letting people take advantage of you, stealing your work or coping your work with nothing in return, you have to put an end to that, because who would even listen to your truth if you can't even stand up for yourself

You've got this girl!!

[mysticdragon3md3]

Here I was, trying to avoid fandom discourse/drama from Twitter, then Tumblr's algorithm suggests a fandom discourse rant to my Dashboard. Maybe it's time to go browse Instagram instead.

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I'll, admit, when 3Hopes came out, that was a messy state for my perception. I don't remember too much and I doubt I got the whole story. I don't even know if I still hold most of the views I had from my initial reactions to that story and characterizations. I was pulling multiple all-nighters, watching whatever out-of-order playthroughs I could scrape up, because it wasn't even technically released in my time zone yet. That sleepiness may have askewed my opinions of the story. But also, I am pretty dumb, and I wouldn't think myself exempt from bad opinions. So I keep praying no one found my initial reactions to 3Hopes and isn't writing some rant over an opinion or 5 that I don't hold anymore. But still, even those posts are all important documentation of my fandom experience to me, and I don't want to make my blog no longer about that, even the messy parts, just because other people happen to be digging through my nonsense blog, looking for a fight (that I don't want).

So I'll admit it: I remember writing some posts or 3 about 3Hopes Claude "still being in-character" and "still the same Claude". But apparently there's a whole racist section of the fandom who eagerly wished for Claude to adhere to some kind of stereotypical perception of "brown man bad"???? I may be a brown girl, but I am EXTREEEEEEEMELY sheltered, so I didn't even know about stereotypes about "brown people assumed to be scheming/untrustworthy," etc., until a few video essays and the Claude fandom ranting about certain parts of the FE3H fandom being racist about him. I had no idea. And I don't want to go looking for exposure to its specifics, so I just take everyone's word for it. But I seriously thought that any headcanons about "dark Claude" that I came across were no different than "dark AUs" and "dark fics", about angst and emo tragedy. Y'know…like dark "what if"s…Were people really taking that to racist degrees?

Anyway, I don't want people to think "hoping for dark Cluade" was what I meant. When I said 3Hopes Claude "is still the same Claude; he just stumbled along the way", I meant that he still has that compassion, that same warmth, and his dream. …Though maybe by 3Hopes, his dream has been compromised, and I was very likely in denial---even WHILE I was writing essays about how killing Shahid was devastating to Claude BECAUSE it forced him to doubt his ideals/dreams. I still thought that after such internal conflicts, Claude eventually got back up from that stumble, to strive towards his dream again. …Even if he wasn't doing it as well as in FE3H. (Still really disappointed Golden Wildfire Claude killed Rhea at the end, vs talking her into peace. Isn't he supposed to be the silver-tongued negotiator? The alternative to Edelgard's "war for enough control to weed out those who do harm" and Dimitri's "war to re-stabilize after the initial conflict"?) And I do agree with that video essayist or whoever said Claude's characteristic curiosity to find the truth, was degraded in 3Hopes, leading him to make decisions based on as faulty knowledge as FE3H Crimson Flower Edelgard.

But despite plot points that reflected badly on Claude's 3Hopes character, especially in contrast to his FE3H characterization, I still stand by some of my initial reactions to 3Hopes: I like how Golden Wildfire really showcased Claude's angst. I know half of his decisions were bad and if he had better information (like his original FE3H curiosity for truth), he likely wouldn't have felt so trapped into such bad options. But I'd be lying if I said it didn't make GW Claude interesting. Not a better character, but interesting. 3Hopes Claude wasn't a better person than FE3H Claude, but he was interesting. Interesting, if your tastes are in emo tragedy---the tragedy being the "dramatic irony" of the audience knowing that such actions weren't necessary, but the character thinking they have no other choice than to do the painful, cruel, or more evil thing. Code Geass is one of my top 3 personal favorite anime, after all. It's just my thing. (Which is why I am continually astounded at my disinterest in Edelgard, after everyone kept comparing Crimson Flower to Code Geass.) I KNOW that narrative trick of focusing in on the anti-hero's angst over enacting bad decisions is just a trick to get us to overlook their negative actions. But damn it, it's still pretty effective on me. I like the angst! What can I say? That on-screen emotiveness really grabs my sympathy. I can't help it, even if it's just suckering me into sympathzing for an anti-hero while they do actions as bad as Code Geass's Lelouch. (I've always assumed Crimson Flower did the same trick for Edelgard, but sorry, I'm not going to take the time for Crimson Flower, when, despite how much I like angst, I also much more prefer happy ending paragons, like FE3H Claude.) 3Hopes Claude is an interesting "what if", but I still idolize FE3H Claude, while 3Hopes Claude is just "oh, that sad AU".

I like 3Hopes Claude's purple outfit, but I'm still reluctant to buy any merch of him, because I'd much rather remember FE3H Claude's shining example of hope. When 3Hopes was previewed, I put 3Hopes Claude on my WonFes bingo wishlist; after, I took him off and kept my multiple wishes for FE3H Claude figurines. I totally get why FE3H Claude fans dislike 3Hopes Claude. If I was sold on a paragon of Hope in the first game, I too would be disappointed to be suckered into a messy anti-hero story. But I will take solace in him having a similar warmth in his 3Hopes Support cutscenes. (And I did like 3Hopes showing Roundtable Conferences and Claude as king, initiating including commoners into the Conferences.)

But again, I'm still confused over the idea that Claude is EITHER "funny ha-ha meme lord" OR "super serious paragon with only super serious themes/insights about war". I love Claude because he is BOTH. If he was just a stalwart paragon, I'd be just as disinterested in him as Academy Dimitri. (Though I did eventually come to love Dimitri too, though secondarily.) I love Claude because of his warmth and playful compassion, on top of his ideals and his exemplary striving to live according to his ideals. But I also love how he casually inserts all his big, compassionate ideals for a better world, into so many of his interactions, even at the most minute of instances. And he's able to do that BECAUSE of how casually he treats Compassion as the everyday, ubiquitous thing it should be. He injects his ideals for a better world into every small decision, because of how open and warm he is, in his playful, rather than formal mannerisms. I think Claude's playfulness makes him more trustworthy than stiff or intimidating. It makes him the type of leader you CAN bring objections and input to, regardless of rank. And I think that approachable trustworthiness also helps better facilitate the world of understanding, regardless of race/nationality/religions, that he's trying to make on a grand scale. So I don't get these Claude fans who hate Joe Ziega for having fun with his character. (I couldn't believe it when I found that corner of Twitter.) But I also don't get people who think Claude is ONLY JUST a "ha-ha funny meme lord". I mean, we can joke about Claude being funny. Because he IS funny and charming. But are there really Claude fans who only take him at that face value and don't see his depth? I haven't been running in those circles, so I'll take critiques of the fandom's word for it. Sounds like such people are missing out on a great perception of Claude.

(Though it did take FE3H Claude a bit of Growth to understand his dream is best facilitated through emotional bonds, beyond his unfazable facades in the face of criticisms/antagonism---FE3H Claude only had LITTLE more to grow in my opinion. I still maintain that FE3H Claude had already mostly actualized by the time he reached Fodlan. That's another instance of how he narratively serves as contrast to Edelgard and Dimitri. In this case, specifically reflected in how much less he NEEDED Byleth to emotionally stabilize him. Again, for you Claudeleth shippers, I'm the type who idealizes WANT, over NEED to be in a relationship. And an already-actualized partner is way more ideal than someone who needs you to fix them, in my opinion.)

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Did I just waste an hour and a half on my stupid venting??? Ugh. See, this is why I try to avoid even glimpsing fandom discourse. Whether it emotionally devastates me on a socially anxious, parasocial level, or if it gets me heated on a "ruin my mood for the rest of my day" level, I still end up wasting so much time, just writing, processing my feelings. And I can't just not process my feelings! Gotta vent that stuff from festering! Anyway, I'm off to Instagram now, to look at cute art, and hope that THAT algorithm won't push discourse my way when I'm not looking for it.

[bakingmoomins]

sometimes people need to use their critical thinking and even if someone is from certain country or belongs to certain minority or something don't just listen to them blindly and use a little bit of your own judgement maybe get a second opinion

[whaleofatjme1920]

SPEAKING OF WHICH

Here are some of my opinions:

I don't think Jeff is scary. I remember the first scene where he holds our dead friend's head right to us. And it was supposed to be super duper Emotional. But the only thing I could concentrate was the fact that he looks like he came right out of party city.

I also remember this story where Clockwork calls Toby "romeo", and that reminded of when one of the Capulets said "saucy boy". So now I think Toby killed Clockwork not because he had to, but because she didn't call him "saucy boy".

There's this one story where Hoodie puts gun a to receptionists head, and when she starts to panic, he basically makes a sexist comment about how women are all the same and annoying. Like bro who hurt you?? You want her to start playing chess calmly and offer you some tea???

I still can't believe that Masky's love language is killing you and bringing you back to life 💀

Remembering this quiz where EJ stabs us with a tranquilizer because we injured his shoulder, saying "that's for stabbing me". Like bitch you tried to EAT ME-

Imagine if the human Brian from TNGB is actually Hoodie's son. That would have been so awesome tbh. And then Hoodie gets mad because he wanted to Name his son "I never miss" not "Brian".

I also find it so fucking funny when the Operator complains about being "busy" when he's the hoe who started all of this.

I feel, and I am answering this as genuinely as i can with my own personal viewpoint, but I think we tend to view these characters as different people.

You take on a very joking tone with them, a part of them that can still be humanized where as Jokester took it in an exaggerated violence route. Also, I largely think we're joking around here but I tend to take these things kinda seriously when they directly fall in with what I ultimately enjoy writing these characters as. I don't always like to humanize them.

All men are inherently sexist due to the society they live in which is patriarchal and favors them. Think about all the passing comments people say when they think it's "not a big deal" or men who think they're exempt. Furthermore, Hoodie is often written as a character that has little to no remorse. The proxy lifestyle destroyed who he used to be. For him to say something vaguely sexist is almost expected. He has no morals except doing right by his master. Also, she was being a "nuisance" TO HIM, of course he'd get frustrated and say something stupid.

People do weird things when they're emotionally desperate. i don't know how else to phrase that. Speaking from experience, i would do the same thing after heavy contemplation and if it really benefits the person I lost or not. As for the killing thing, I think he was wracked with guilt? That was it? He felt he head to do right by the Reader? I can't remember. Like, people are multi-faceted.

Idk what do you expect? He's allowed to be upset? In my dark EJ fic, the reader throws up all over him and he takes our their spleen. He's not a good guy depending on the writer. One of my other really dark EJ fics, he almost forces the reader to cannibalism- he DID force them to it just for pissing him off.

The Operator has proxies for a reason. He's always watching, just doesn't want to be directly involved.

It comes down to perception tbh.

[nightswithkookmin]

MONDAY, JANUARY 18TH: GOLDY'S LOG

I miss Suga. Scratch that. I miss Agust D. My spirit animal.

I've been thinking about him a lot lately, wondering if his injury isn't an exemption to military service. I wonder if he qualifies, in light of his injury, as an able body. I wonder what their law defines as able body.

I wonder if he passed the legal physical exam and health assessment test when he turned 19, since he's had that injury way before debut. Or if BTS have undergone that mandatory military service assessment since they are all past 19 and what their results are.

Jimin has chronic back pain too. That should qualify him for an exemption to military duty. He can still do desk work if it's that serious.

I should talk to ***** and look into South Korea's law on exemptions to military service.

Moon values the arts and culture industry. There's already been an extension for conscription for the benefit of BTS. Their success and longevity in the spot light perhaps influenced this decision. Should BTS maintain this momentum, an exemption would be inevitable I feel.

I miss them. They've been gone for too long. I'm worried about the impact this is going to have on their popularity if they disconnect from fans for so long or be mechanical about the way they connect with their fans.

I hate the limited access to them. But Scarcity increases the value of a product and it's not surprising if this is the approach BigHit is adopting in the wake of the pandemic.

Limited access not only raises value, it creates demand. Bang PD is a bigbrain marketing genius- I hate it.

They are taking a huge risk with this new marketing strategy. Personally, I'd stick to what works but then I am no marketing guru. Just a consumer who likes to play it safe. I guess I won't be getting hired anytime soon. Fuck.

It's all very fascinating.

What's equally fascinating is the shippers out here on these streets. The Jokers.

I... they confuse the hell out of me sometimes.

How are they going to question my rationality when I talk about moments I feel Jikook are having issues in their relationship or had broken up etc but then have no problem with and even applaud that same rationality when I talk about moments that has led me to believe there is lack of depth in Tae Kook's dynamics or that they are not real by any standard or that another ship in BTS isn't real.

Do I have two minds? Or are they more inclined to be selective in their beliefs based on their biases towards Jikook and against other ships? It's weird.

By the same lens I define Jikook as real, I define Tae Kook or any other ship that includes JK and Jimin as not real. And by that same lens if I feel Jikook aren't together then I'm wrong and irrational?

It really confounds me.

Not sure if they expect me to apply double standards to Jikook in those instances.

I don't think there is right and wrong opinions or perspective when it comes to shipping, but I think if they are right about me being wrong about my perspective on Jikook then I must be wrong about my perspective on any other ship in BTS as well.

I can't be right about one and wrong about another. I'm either right about all or wrong about all.

I can't be 'right' about Tae Kook having 'issues' in their bond in such a way I think it often bars them from fully nurturing their bond and developing depth to it but then be 'wrong' about Jikook also having issues that mess with their bond from time to time when it's the same measurement I use in accessing the depth of bond of both ships.

I really don't understand their way of thinking.

What is right and what is wrong and who decides on that?

I think we ought to substitute right and wrong with 'believe and believable.' The approach to such discourse should be about what one is willing to believe or not believe about certain discussions: I believe this. I don't believe that. Because believes stem from our personal biases towards a subject.

And the people that come running to me with 'look, Jikook smiled at each other in On era so change your mind'

I would except I hear this debate all the time. I wonder if they realize they sound exactly like the Tuktukkers in my DMs trying to convince me Tae Kook is real.

'Look Tae sat on JK's laps! How can you say there is no depth to Tae kook' ' He squished JK's cheeks' 'Jk said he wants to ride with Tae, if there was no depth why did he say he wanted to ride with him'

I have a feeling Soft Koo is back. The days of Terminator JK might be over. Too bad, I liked terminator JK. He was a bad ass.

I like that he is experimenting with his looks. But I'm glad his Ravi-esque phase is over. I wonder who he is drawing inspiration from this time. He reminds me of Jimin though. There is something peaceful and serene about his looks.

Can't really tell much because Bighit is sitting on tons of footages. I think I need to send a truck to Bang PD HQ.

I don't like that Jimin posted a Vhopemin photo for Tae's birthday. It was cute and all but I don't like it. That shit felt passive aggressive as fuxk. Lmho. What, he didn't have a V or Vmin photo in his gallery? Sounds like someone didn't put much effort in their VMin agenda for this post.

I wonder if he will keep the same energy come JK's birthday. I mean both him and Tae didn't post for him💀

May be I'm reaching on this one. But a single post where V was not even the focus of the post... I think his birthday means a lot to him and he enjoys when people shower him with love and attention and I don't think his birthday is an exception.

And he kept reiterating after such said birthday how he recently discovered he loves to be loved and how he does most of the things he does in order to be loved by his fans, friends and family.

And it breaks my heart that, the headlines read BTS shower X, Y with love on his birthday but the two people close to him were missing from that list this time. The media talks about BTS posting for eachother as them showering eachother with love. Certainly they all know this.

And the fact Jin posted for Tae after Tae's birthday says a lot about Tae and JK. Tae had no intention of posting perhaps because he left JM a message on the packages. With Jin I feel he was overcompensating for not posting for him on his birthday...

JK gets a pass. If JM wasn't happy about him not posting for his birthday, he would have pulled a Jin.

Jimin talking about coming to the realization he loves to be loved makes me think JK withholding his affections openly made him come to the realization he loves to be loved. Just a hunch. And the only reason JK would withhold his affections is if Jimin himself estopps him. Those two give me headaches.

I think I got the closure I needed from this.

LESSON: dont get on JM's bad side and bloody post for his birthday 💀

Tae been releasing photos of Jimin and Jhope a lot lately. Not sure how that makes me feel either. I think it's beautiful. But when I think about all these beautiful photos he has of Jimin on his phone and how generous he is with them- I think they would have been more meaningful had he released it on JM's birthday. The snow photo he posted still sits in my Vmin heart somewhere.

I really don't like this not posting for each other's birthday business. It's 2021. They need to cut it out.

I feel JK set a bad precedent but personal happiness first so good for him.

This moment haunts me for some reason.

What was going through V's head. I want to know. RM looks done. Lol.

Jimin is really beautiful. I love his eyes when he smiles and the thing he does with his shoulders.

Some people complain I write a lot. Some say I don't write enough. Ayayayai!!!!!!

What to do.

I think I accidentally deleted a post.

I'm looking forward to JKK1. Stay Gold, Still with you, Your eyes tell... I hope he hasn't given his best away cos those were bops.

PJM1... oh God I'm nervous. I'm excited for it but nervous. I think Serendipity is a classic. The Christmas song was equally great and frankly the only good Christmas Ive heard so far and I don't even like Christmas- nothing against Baby Jesus I just think it sucks. That bridge in Dis-ease is something.

I want to read his thoughts. His spotify playlist is insightful but I want to confirm if he really sees himself as a mess who is always causing his lover grief.

I mean he did say he has realized he needs to be considerate towards those that love him. Not sure yet the connection there.

I want to read his thoughts.

PJM1....

I love JHOPE. I think his ship with Jimin is beautiful and healing. They make my insides warm. Not sure if their shippers think they are real. Do they? That would be awkward.

I think RM and Jimin need to spend time together... it would be good for them.

Jimin and Sungwoon shippers are alleging Jimin has been staying with Sungwoon all this while. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

But the bit about him living with Sungwoon before the start of Bon V 4 has me🤔

Around that period, I don't believe JM was at the dorms and Jikook were not together then too. He must have been staying somewhere...

I'll let them have that.

But around November 2019 when he was having issues with JK he was staying with Tae too so no I don't think that means Sungwoon is queer or that Jimin is sleeping with him💀

They need to get out of their imaginations.

I think Jikook will drive me crazy one day.

I can feel my cranium swelling.

JiRose shippers need to pack it up. They really think Jimin is straight? 💀

It's the bad editing for me.

That doesn't look like a straight face to me. Unless his butt was on fire and he was uncomfortable looking at that black interviewer, I think that's his flirting face.

Lately I've been thinking about what ifs.

What if Jikook is not real?

I wish I believed that.

[i-was-a-teenage-eldritch-horror]

You don't have to reply to this but I was wondering yoir opinion if shinji is gay or not. I firmly belive he has a seemed internalized hatred of women coming from the fact he can't find any satisfaction which leads to him using women for his own gain. The only tiek we see him with women is sexually never romantically and he never looks like hes enjoying it?

Full disclosure before I say anything else: I’m a lesbian. I am not bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, etc. I have never identified as any of these and therefore do not have experience with these communities and their specific thoughts on eva and Shinji specifically. Also I read your other ask too, just so you know!

Shinji is not a character that I care a whole lot about. I don’t really have a solid “take” on Shinji’s sexuality other than that he’s clearly a mlm and not cishet. That said, if I had to pick an identity for Shinji I’d say that ultimately I think he’s gay and with enough introspection he’d realize that. 

I agree with your point that every time Shinji’s in A Situation™ with a girl/woman, he never seems to enjoy it mentally. He feels some turmoil regarding the hospital scene (though to be clear I think Asuka’s trauma resulting from his actions should be emphasized over Shinji’s turmoil from actions he was 100% in control of), and tells Misato to not touch him in Episode 23. It’s also important to recognize that gay men are in no way exempt from misogyny, because after all...they’re men. 

All this being said, gay Shinji isn’t really the hill I want to die on. As long as you’re (general you) not shipping him with adults, Asuka, Rei, or Mari, then I have no beef with you (general you); there aren’t any girls you can ship him with that wouldn’t make for a #Problematique ship, unless you count Hikari. People who solidly interpret Shinji as bi or m-spec generally aren’t shipping him with girls, they’re mostly shipping kawoshin or other m/m ships such as toshin or kenshin. The people who are doing the problematic shipping 99% of the time think Shinji’s straight and perpetuate homophobic/biphobic rhetoric and erasure surrounding Episode 24 (see: Evageeks and r/ Evangelion), and those are the people I have beef with.

I reblogged a post here recently from thevriscourse (sorry for homestucking in 2020) which basically sums up my thoughts. I don’t like when people cite the hospital scene as evidence of Shinji’s bisexuality. Every instance of attraction he shows to women and girls in the anime is rooted in misogyny and objectification. This isn’t to say that bi men can’t be misogynists because after all...they’re still men, but I hope you get what I’m trying to articulate.

I have a lot of distaste for certain types of kawoshin content but as you said in your second ask, kawoshin itself is a conversation for another time. 

I recognize this was long-winded and I’m sorry for that! I do think it’s possible he has internalized homophobia (the amount of times he’s berated for not meeting the expectations of the male gender role could suggest that/spur those feelings in him). I would love for my mlm followers to weigh in on this discussion because I’m not a mlm! 

[cowboyjen68]

Hi Jen! I have a totally random question. I got a jury summon in the mail set for next week & I'm freaking out. I've never done jury duty & am totally dreading it. I don't know what to wear or who to talk to when I get to my destination. I heard you have to call the day before to see if you still have to go in but I don't know what to say. I feel totally unqualified for jury duty & have no idea what to expect. Can you or your followers help please? Thanks!

This is not a bad question. We don’t turn 18 and suddenly “get it”. It can sound scary and it IS important. You should not try to “get out if it” unless is can severly limit your ability to make money at your job or cause you to miss school that you can’t make up. It is our duty and it takes citizens off all kinds to make our (flawed?) system work. 

You can dress causually. Not jeans probably but just a pair of dress pants and a button up. Take a sweater.. the rooms tend to be cold. Or is you prefer dresses, a skirt and button up is fine. Nothing fancy. Something you might wear in any office setting, Wear as little metal as possible since you will have to get through a metal detector in most court houses. 

There is a 90 percent chance you will not have to serve. Our system is set up to avoid courts and jury trials so many cases are plea bargained out or settled out of court. 

You are NOT unqualified. You have life experience and idea and opinions that are unique to you and that is what makes a fair jury.. many backgrounds.   The judge and others at the courty house are generally very nice and will walk you through every step. They will not allow lawyers to become hostile if you get to the part where they quesiton your biases. Even if you serve.. often the case never gets to a verdict because they settle. 

LIkely, the case will be something much less scary than murder or violence. Something like unlawful firing of a worker or a dispute over a car that was a lemon. 

Listen to the judge’s instrucitons. Have a note pad and several pens. They will tell you what rules to judge by.. how to figure out fact from emotion. Take notes.. ALso bring gum and water. 

Once you are set up on any jury or asked to show up, they will mail or email you the instructions as to where to go. ASK FOR PARKING PASS If your town charges. Keep all food and gas receipts.. they are often tax exempt OR even paid to by the court if it is a long trial. Once you are at the court house, you can always ask and they will direct you to the window. You will check in with a clerk and they will tell you where to go. Often you wait is a chamber or in a conference room before trial. 

Don’t be afraid. Jury duty is very important. If you are LGBT you might be the only one on the jury.. and your experience is invaluable.. you never know. Something you have experienced might give you insight to the case that others don’t have. 

When you call in.. have the summons ready.. It will all be automated. It will tell you yes or no and give further instruction. Let me know how it goes and best of luck. You will BE FINE