#and its the trans flag.

[shittyutmv]

Guess who’s back back again

Does Killer is gay?

jk he has a bunch of pride pins i think . like a whole lot . collects them killer belongs to rahafwabas

[patchworkpoison]

Transgirls rule the world!!

[katrafiy]

Hiya tumblr! Let's have a talk about bioessentialist enbyphobia, transmisogyny, and how to make sure transfeminine people, enby or not, feel completely unsafe and unwelcome at your events. First take a look at this group description, and then lets get into it.

First some context. Those of you who know me know about the kinds of clubs I go to. This screenshot was taken from a local event page, and I've blocked out their name because in the months since this event was hosted the group has updated their description to be more inclusive.

Seeing that description, I avoided going to events hosted by that group.

"But Kat, why? You're a woman and it says women are allowed!"

It also implicitly lumps all nonbinary people who were assigned male at birth with men and calls them males.

So why is this a problem for me? Well, if this group sees all AMAB nonbinary people as "male" then it says a lot of things about the ways the see trans women.

Many, and I would venture to assume most, trans women know well the feeling of our womanhood treated as conditional, subject to immediate revocation without warning.

Spaces that are "Women and AFAB exclusive" are often rife with this, and often lead to a lot of really gross and abusive power dynamics where transfems get treated as second class to anyone who was assigned female at birth.

(Side note: Gretchen Felker-Martin did, I believe, a masterful job of portraying this sort of dynamic in her book Manhunt)

If you are a trans woman in one of these spaces, you quickly learn that you are on the thinnest of ice.

Laugh a little too loud? You're male.

Sit or stand a little too close? You're threatening.

Smile at the wrong person? You're making other people uncomfortable.

Transfems, in these spaces, quickly learn that standing up for ourselves in the face of flagrant abuse is verboten, and will be met with swift and decisive punishment and exile.

I personally don't like the word "theyfab" and don't use it. I'm writing this thread to hopefully help people better understand the social dynamics that were being addressed when that term was coined.

It was coined because transfems are forced to navigate a community of things like "afab only" apartment rentals.

It was coined because transfems constantly have to listen to other trans people implicitly describe us as disgusting, hideous freaks.

In short and in closing: consider that the reason why the term "theyfab" exists and "theymab" really doesn't probably lies somewhere in the fact that the sort of person who would call someone a "theymab" doesn't need to, because they *already* just call AMAB trans people "male".

[rosecocoas]

🏳️‍⚧️Across the Spiderverse was an amazing gift for pride month🏳️‍⚧️

[mini-minish]

quit ur politics job join our garage band!!!!!!!!!

(note: essek is canonly gay + demi, the jacket with the bi pin belongs to caleb)

[softpastelqueer]

[charlottan]

you might not think you need a gay/trans/etc flag on your wall but then you actually stand by one and it feels like being in a room with God

[arundolyn]

more trans brisket showcase i actually REALLY like this one

[saeiken]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[purpleleafsyt]

I adore Sora

[elevenquietseas]

a trans podcast i listen to briefly mentioned halimede in the latest episode and i was overcome with the need to commemorate it :)

[ufolvr]

'is there something you'd like to share.' nah I'm good I think these say enough by themselves 🩷

The only icon I'd rather not see being used is the Arlong one - Unless you reblog it and tell me you're doing that + credit me. It's my little monster. Otherwise I'm setting these free 🩵

[himborobot]

happy pride

[crescentfool]

somehow i never drew the big cat from persona 3??? so here is ryoji and the big cat. as a treat.

[dyketubbo]

not to be a woman womaning all over the place but i feel like if you genuinely like. do not have friends that are women then you have something to work on. if you cant think of any female characters that you treat the same way you do male characters then you have something to work on. if you cant handle even seeing "i dont like being called a guy/bro/lad/etc because it doesnt feel gender neutral to me" but can understand when one of your masc besties is uncomfortable with being called girlie or sister then you have something to work on. if your default in regards to how you handle other people and even characters is to assume masculinity then you have something to work on. if you cant even let women and otherwise feminine people speak about our experiences without bringing up how you suffer too then you have something to work on.

it doesnt matter if youre queer or a poc or a minority in whatever which way, if you do not include women in your life and cant even stand a fucking inch of genuine feminism (and i dont mean terfs but god is it fucking agonizing that thats all you people can think of when you hear feminism anymore) where the point is to treat women, all women, equally then you have something to work on. listen to women, even the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours (hell ESPECIALLY the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours). just like how we all have to check ourselves for racism, ableism, queerphobia, we all have to check ourselves for misogyny too. stop acting like it got solved at some point. it still exists and it exists within you and you have to actually fucking work on that. "women should be included in your life and you should listen to them" shouldnt be a hard goddamn pill to swallow.

[jaekaicx]

happy pride month!!! here's some froggo trio pride icons

[flags from left to right: queer, masc-leaning nonbinary, lesbian, trans, bisexual, genderqueer]

(variants under the cut + in the rbs)

lgbtq+ flags !!!