#and then make it a pathological problem
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hm. after all this time i still get angry about this so i think itâs about time i make a comic about how i feel about personality disorders
#yapzone#i used to make comics about b/pd and even though i dont identify with that dx anymore and had it wiped from my record#the diagnosis did impact me in a PROFOUND way#tl;dr of my feelings is that a PD is majorly an excuse for a doctor that ignores your pain#or considers the source of it not enough to justify the way you cope#like. in retrospect i think some of the incredibly angry and unstable ways i reacted in relationships#were pretty justifiable considering how fucking awful it was to live in the world without the meds iâm on now#well. not âjustifiableâ but it was understandable how i came to cope the way i did#of course the world feels unsafe and everything takes x3000 times the effort and the way people talk to you is unclear#and youâre pushed into being an outcast for reasons you canât understand#like of course i get sent into a panic every time something bad happened in a relationship. i HAD to be hypervigilant.#i could only figure out facial expressions by looking at individual facial features and desperately clinging to tone#i had people say to me they think they have some symptoms of bpd and itâs like of course you do!!! of course you fucking do!#it is a trauma response that doctors deem you had no right to develop because they donât believe you#and then make it a pathological problem#so every time you have a relapse you go down the pit x10 more because you just got dxâd with Bad Person Disorder#like fuck!!!!! fuck!!!!!!!#it was all bullshit and i shouldâve known when my psych who diagnosed me said that âpeople outgrow this disorderâ#THEN IS IT A DISORDER ? why do we treat people with a cluster B dx like theyâre just bad people who are like that#idk for fun?#itâs dehumanizing. itâs a great way to say âitâs hard to treat this patient and i donât like their tone so theyâre just fucked for#some reason. throw them in inpatientâ#idk i think we should notice how some of these PDâs very easily are explained by other dxâs but doctors are like#ânah youâre [minority] you canât have that youâre just irrationalâ#i donât knowwwew i donât knowww!!!!#the programs they put me in to treat my bpd made me so much worse and ruined my relationships with people because#the whole message was just âyouâre inherently irrational and canât trust yourself in any wayâ#so i never learned to communicate. i learned to keep everything down and let people walk over me. i gave them that permission by saying#oh no i have bpd im irrational my feelings dont matter. youâre fine you can never do anything wrong to me#and if im upset with you and i dont like you and if you make me feel unsafe then thatâs my problem i need to fix
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Chat, should I dye my hair purple for the third time? đ€
#female manipulator#girl interrupted#hell is a teenage girl#im just a girl#this is a girlblog#this is what makes us girls#female hysteria#gaslight gatekeep girlblog#girl problems#girlhood#tumblr girls#girl boss gaslight gatekeep#girlblogging#just girly things#beauttiful girls#bikni girls#lana unreleased#lana del ray aka lizzy grant#lana del rey#lana del ray aesthetic#lizzy grant aesthetic#gaslight gatekeep girlboss#pathological liars
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ah yes, the sweet sting of rejection from a billion dollar corporation who believes that "action stories don't appeal to romance audiences", welcome back my old familiar friend
#personal#lauren writes things#this was the EXACT problem I ran into with my gay outlaw story#and why I was just like FINE IT WON'T BE SCRIPTED IT'LL BE A BOOK#(and I mean who knows if it'll sell as a book)#(but it was NOT selling as a podcast)#how do I tell these companies that there's a whole website of people who love both action and romance#how do I explain that these people pull ships from the barest two second looks in action movies âaimed at menâ#it's the conflation of romance = ladies and action = men for me#that's what really makes me roll my eyes#companies being like 'sorry lauren we just don't think people really into romance are into action'#HI I'M SITTING RIGHT HERE YOU'RE TALKING TO ME#my favorite movie is mad max and most of what I read is romance#I play violent action video games and I have a pathological need to ship#we exist#and we are legion#ANYWAY#might delete later#lauren says things
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had a dream I jumped from the crumbling foundations of a sagging castle into bone-cold water clearer than air and a joy so potent it turned to horror seized me like a fist. and when I tried to swim back to the ruined banks they were too slick and the sand was the color of oxidized blood and as I tore my palms on the ragged roots that stuck out of the steep, silty dirt like fingers I saw among them the pale limp bodies of children in the reeds. and I heaved myself onto the shore and dug my own fingers into the cool-blood sand and coughed and coughed as warm arms held me from behind.
which could mean nothing.
#snowleaks#literally WHAT is with these dreams lately#definitely writing fic today im making this everyone elses problem#pathologize me boy
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So who's ready for October 7th 2024?!
#pathologic#daniil dankovsky#I now know how to make gifs and this is going to be a problem#someone take photoshop away from grandma#cosplay outtakes#I love that tumblr made the quality automatically shittier - this is the aesthetic I deserve
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I keep trying to motivate myself with spite to participate in discords after being accidentally bullied but I just end up crying about it instead rip. This shit does not seem to be working on my end lmao
#i wish ptsd was something you could think your way out of but its just hjgmjgkhbjg no matter what#wish i could stop feeling humiliated over *checks notes* 'something that literally isn't a problem and im insane'#im so pathologically shy and it makes socializing completely impossible#anyway#vent#i guess??
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The eternal tension between genuinely wanting to watch/read good horror media and wanting to sleep for the next week.
#I was trying to watch through HBomberGuyâs pathologic video again#because I do really genuinely like Pathologic and I think he does a good job of explaining why itâs cool#but I had to stop about 15 minutes in bc the anxiety thoughts started and I clicked âit is late at nightâ#âif I keep watching I will not sleepâ#I wish I had thicker skin when it comes to horror#even little things get to me p bad even when theyâre not related to any trauma or anything#like there was this one game that the sleepover society played through#it was rly cool and I loved it bc it has that old Win95 aesthetic#complete w/ DOS startup interface showing up each in game day#old outlook style email#itâs so fun#but it is a horror game. even though the horror is 1) clearly implausible to real life and 2) not Smth thatâs related to anything religious#itâs abt a pest company that fields calls and at first it starts normal#you get calls and you have tabs to click on abt different pests like raccoons and ants and stuff#and some stuff for like. black mold. house problems you might mistake for pests.#and then it nosedives into âtiny creatures that live and your walls and if you donât give them offerings they turn into boggarts and eat you#or fae which claim your house and swallow you aliveâ#and thatâs genuinely cool worldbuilding and I liked it and I loved the ending of it#but I did struggle to sleep for days afterwards bc I got irrational thoughts like âwhat if the pretend glowy fungus is realâ#bc a lot of the horror creatures were stuff that you explicitly wouldnât notice or would write off as being poor memory or regular pests#like plucking your dreams out of your head or a mirror making you forget who you are#spookie. to me. and I know thatâs the point I just feel like itâs the equivalent of calling paprika spicy.
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honestly a lot of the posts that are meant to encourage people with anxiety and social problems to get out and how like you just have to get over it and it will resolve itself basically always end up just making me feel really hopeless because ive tried making myself get out or whatever and it's never really worked and i still don't end up finding anyone i talk to after, and sometimes i don't even talk to anyone period. like at least 70% of the time ive went to a party or social event ive come feeling anxious and left feeling suicidal lol....
#it makes me feel so much like no one has the same problem as me and tjere must just be something wrong with only me#that just makes me pathologically incapable of being close with other people or something#and i know it's exaggerating but emotionally that's what it feels like#if everyone else is fine why isn't this working for me#and i feel like i can't tell anyone irl this because they might see me as weak or something#i feel like it would compromise my image pr something
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You know if everyone could stop saying compliments that make me question my career path thatâd be great.
#ra speaks#personal#github lesbians desire me carnally#not serious but like. girl I could be making bank coding shit for folks instead of hashtag struggling in forest pathology research#todays lab assignment was very vague and everyone started having problems.#I say fuck it bc my labmates werenât there and just started helping the people around me troubleshoot and such#next thing I know itâs been 4 hours and Iâve turned a 3 hour process into a 30 minute workflow#tbh it felt very productive/I learn by teaching so Iâm super confident in my skills now#but also. I wanted to work out today :( and itâs too late
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HI BESTIES!!! guess who's back? back again? pluto's back, tell a friend!
i'm sorry i kinda disappeared there on y'all for a few days - as i had said in that post i made, i was babysitting wednesday & thursday. plus i was adjusting to a new ('fixed') sleep schedule which always kinda needs an adjustment period. plus it was my sister's birthday on saturday ... so yeah, i've kinda just been busy -
but! i'm here now! & i'm gonna try to write! though tbh i might be sticking to writing stuff on my halloween blog first since that is what the original plan was but then shit happened & all. honestly just gonna see where muse takes me - but yes i'm here!
#( a pathological people pleaser // ooc )#(also bc i have a problem ... upon my return i've added several new muses bc chill is something i have zero of-)#(i will make a separate post abt that in a min bc this is being rbed onto all the blogs)
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how tf do i explain pathological demand avoidance thati deal with without my dad using the explaination against me and thinking im being a bratty person who just wants to ignore things on purpose???
#every example i can find for him why things are getting increasingly difficult that ADD to my problems that i deal with already#all those explainations online are always painting the person with it as a horrible person or making excuses like parents like to tell kids#like tf. im not doing this on purpose it gets harder and harder and harder#executive dysfunction or pathological demand avoidance i dont know specifically which but it sure feels like both.#sigihhghh
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#so thinking abt my inability to do things in thr context of my 0cd is interesting. bc i would say my primary problem is my obsessive#compulsive behavior and inflexibility. idk if thr inflexibility is inherent to me bc its part of the reason i got stamped with aut1sm or but#its part of what maked it so hard to tell if i had 0cd or not. bc im just so fucking rigid and structured abt literally everything without#any reason. y do i have to do X thing and i cant do Y thing? idk my brain just says i cant. which kinda does align with 0cd more or just#like something compulsive. and its sorta weird bc i think im a lot more aligned with purely obsessional 0cd. so i dont do a lot of external#ritual. its more abstract. like constantly i have to work or b perfect or else i start getting intrusive thoughts. always thr same ones. and#to make them go away i have to physically suffer usually thru overworking to my mental breaking point or sometimes more direct ways#when its really bad. and then i have to keep working. and i do a lot of fucking ruminating. fucking constand catogorizing and pathological#self reflection. again i have high standards and high affinity for self punishment which is a lot to deal with. its exhausting and misery#making. and the annoying thing is that im like this for a reason. i mean it makes sense. having a learning disability plus bad short term#working memory plus some mood weirdness. ive created a structure that makes me productive but also creates so much pressure thst i cant#function at all sometimes. and whats worse is that even then even with the amount of checking i do i am still a master of fucking up the lil#things. i forgot to write my name in the autoclave list and caused problems for ppl bc i forgot when i went up there Even tho i new i needed#to. i also forgot to put thr foam cap on a liquid nitrogen tank which would have been SO FUCKING BAD if it all evaporated. so many samples#woulf have been lost bc i just fucking forgot to put it back. that was just this week. idk i just forget things like that. i left a freezer#door open in hs and we lost everything in the freezer. i also fucked up an whole experiment by not reading a schedule right. and its really#frustrating not being able to trust that youve done the right thing in the past. not to mention all the bullshit i mislabel but thats more#dys1exia realated. alas. i check and check and get anxious spikes of: FUCK DID I DO X? for a reason. but also its no fun#unrelated
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my dad doesnât know heâs probably autistic because heâs what one would call a âfunctioning autisticâ and heâs a senior citizen so he has never questioned these aspects of himself
#not to pathologize all his behaviors but it all checks out to me idk#also when he sees me being social(lly awkward) at a party he still tells me i did a really good job but thatâs because HEâS really awkward#it doesnât really matter though because it doesnât cause him sufficient problems#other than maybe being able to market his art further through networking maybe#but he still gets some rich clients to keep us afloat#because heâs good at what he does which is mostly woodwork#or stone or concrete or whatever#heâs currently making artificial cypress knees out of concrete and chicken wire to paint vivid colors later
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Okay why does this make so much sense???
I was diagnosed with autism when I was three years old and enrolled in an intensive ABA program, which attempted to use operant conditioning to train me out of acting autistic. One of the things that always confused me, reading over the ABA practitioner's notes decades later, is just how sweeping the category of "autistic problem behaviors" they were trying to extinguish in me was.
For instance, one such âautistic problem behaviorâ was my "reluctance to attend to non-preferred activities". When I was asked to do something I didnât want to do, sometimes I would say 'no' or even cry before relenting and doing what I was told. Which is indeed uniquely disordered behavior, because neurotypical toddlers are famously obsequious angels who relish being ordered to do things they hate! (/sarcasm)
In all seriousness though, it's alarming that perfectly standard toddler stubbornness was something the ABA therapists felt they needed to condition out of me. It wasn't enough I learn to be indistinguishable from my non-autistic peers (which is already a messed up goal in its own right), the standard of âneurotypicalityâ I was told to aspire to seemed nothing short of being a perfectly obedient automaton.Â
None of this made sense back when I thought neurotypicality was about normalcy. But it does now that I realize neurotypicality is, and always was, about control
it does more harm than good to prop up the myth of the âneurotypicalâ who completes tasks cheerfully with no issues. this person is a capitalist fantasy. the more you define yourself in comparison to this myth the more you justify social structures staying the same with minor accommodations to the âexceptionsâ and the continued pathologizing of discomfort under hostile conditions
#I've always felt diagnostic labels needlessly pathologized harmless differences. Now I realize they also pathologize harmless similarities#I almost feel jealous of my three year old cousin who gets to be a little defiant#She GETS to throw a fit over Mikey Mouse Clubhouse getting turned off or not wanting to eat her carrots#Not in the sense that her parents let her get away with it. There are proportional consequences like taking away TV time or dessert#But they do so with the understanding that this kind of thing is to be expected of a toddler#meanwhile when I was her age the same behavior was a sign there was something wrong with me#To be clear I don't think diagnostic labels are inherently a bad thing#I do have pronounced differences in how my brain processes information that make it difficult for me to navigate the world#And 'autism' has given me a really useful paradigm for understanding and accommodating those differences#But I think we have to be very careful about the standard of neurotypicality we define various neurodivergencies in opposition to#And ask ourselves that if neurotypicality is the collection of traits that make it easiest to move through society#and those traits are at once unattainable and extremely exploitable. Then maybe the problem is society rewarding those traits#rather than people failing to achieve them#ABA cw#actually autistic
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Y/n fics are important bc sometimes I'm like the blorbo from my show needs a serious dissertation and romantic or heartwrenching books about them. Sometimes this girl needs to read and imagine to be dicked down to little death by said blorbo and their best friend okay?!
#like ok soulmate otp but also let's make a sandwich and be nasty my brain needs all kind of food#whose problem is it if i do it in a pathological way bro u ain't my doctor mind ur business
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not yet final elden ring thoughts but first time credits thoughts
#ramblings#my stance on hard games is I Do Not Give A Shit#my better stance on fromsoft difficulty specifically is that they should copy ipl's homework#and make an intended settings switch. & add difficulty sliders#add an achievement for beating intended. problem solved#fromsoft has its reputation. difficulty sliders didnt ruin pathologic's reputation for being a Pain In The Ass#also fromsoft worlds are sick as fuck and everyone should be allowed to experience them. godbless#my brother played celeste with cheats. i did not. who gives a shit#ive been bashing my head against malenia for a week trying to get her to phase 2 without a summon so tiche doesnt die#5 seconds into phase 2.#and i dont think it makes me automatically superior to my stepmom who summoned other people#it just makes me a lunatic with too much patience#(and a procrastinator no one look at my missed homework)
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