#and then make it a pathological problem
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impzone · 2 days ago
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hm. after all this time i still get angry about this so i think it’s about time i make a comic about how i feel about personality disorders
#yapzone#i used to make comics about b/pd and even though i dont identify with that dx anymore and had it wiped from my record#the diagnosis did impact me in a PROFOUND way#tl;dr of my feelings is that a PD is majorly an excuse for a doctor that ignores your pain#or considers the source of it not enough to justify the way you cope#like. in retrospect i think some of the incredibly angry and unstable ways i reacted in relationships#were pretty justifiable considering how fucking awful it was to live in the world without the meds i’m on now#well. not ‘justifiable’ but it was understandable how i came to cope the way i did#of course the world feels unsafe and everything takes x3000 times the effort and the way people talk to you is unclear#and you’re pushed into being an outcast for reasons you can’t understand#like of course i get sent into a panic every time something bad happened in a relationship. i HAD to be hypervigilant.#i could only figure out facial expressions by looking at individual facial features and desperately clinging to tone#i had people say to me they think they have some symptoms of bpd and it’s like of course you do!!! of course you fucking do!#it is a trauma response that doctors deem you had no right to develop because they don’t believe you#and then make it a pathological problem#so every time you have a relapse you go down the pit x10 more because you just got dx’d with Bad Person Disorder#like fuck!!!!! fuck!!!!!!!#it was all bullshit and i should’ve known when my psych who diagnosed me said that ‘people outgrow this disorder’#THEN IS IT A DISORDER ? why do we treat people with a cluster B dx like they’re just bad people who are like that#idk for fun?#it’s dehumanizing. it’s a great way to say ‘it’s hard to treat this patient and i don’t like their tone so they’re just fucked for#some reason. throw them in inpatient’#idk i think we should notice how some of these PD’s very easily are explained by other dx’s but doctors are like#‘nah you’re [minority] you can’t have that you’re just irrational’#i don’t knowwwew i don’t knowww!!!!#the programs they put me in to treat my bpd made me so much worse and ruined my relationships with people because#the whole message was just ‘you’re inherently irrational and can’t trust yourself in any way’#so i never learned to communicate. i learned to keep everything down and let people walk over me. i gave them that permission by saying#oh no i have bpd im irrational my feelings dont matter. you’re fine you can never do anything wrong to me#and if im upset with you and i dont like you and if you make me feel unsafe then that’s my problem i need to fix
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whimsicalforestfairy · 3 days ago
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Chat, should I dye my hair purple for the third time? đŸ€”
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thelaurenshippen · 1 year ago
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ah yes, the sweet sting of rejection from a billion dollar corporation who believes that "action stories don't appeal to romance audiences", welcome back my old familiar friend
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snowleek · 1 month ago
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had a dream I jumped from the crumbling foundations of a sagging castle into bone-cold water clearer than air and a joy so potent it turned to horror seized me like a fist. and when I tried to swim back to the ruined banks they were too slick and the sand was the color of oxidized blood and as I tore my palms on the ragged roots that stuck out of the steep, silty dirt like fingers I saw among them the pale limp bodies of children in the reeds. and I heaved myself onto the shore and dug my own fingers into the cool-blood sand and coughed and coughed as warm arms held me from behind.
which could mean nothing.
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anothermisanthropist · 8 months ago
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So who's ready for October 7th 2024?!
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urproblematicfav-arsonk · 13 days ago
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I keep trying to motivate myself with spite to participate in discords after being accidentally bullied but I just end up crying about it instead rip. This shit does not seem to be working on my end lmao
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lightblueminecraftorchid · 10 months ago
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The eternal tension between genuinely wanting to watch/read good horror media and wanting to sleep for the next week.
#I was trying to watch through HBomberGuy’s pathologic video again#because I do really genuinely like Pathologic and I think he does a good job of explaining why it’s cool#but I had to stop about 15 minutes in bc the anxiety thoughts started and I clicked ‘it is late at night’#‘if I keep watching I will not sleep’#I wish I had thicker skin when it comes to horror#even little things get to me p bad even when they’re not related to any trauma or anything#like there was this one game that the sleepover society played through#it was rly cool and I loved it bc it has that old Win95 aesthetic#complete w/ DOS startup interface showing up each in game day#old outlook style email#it’s so fun#but it is a horror game. even though the horror is 1) clearly implausible to real life and 2) not Smth that’s related to anything religious#it’s abt a pest company that fields calls and at first it starts normal#you get calls and you have tabs to click on abt different pests like raccoons and ants and stuff#and some stuff for like. black mold. house problems you might mistake for pests.#and then it nosedives into ‘tiny creatures that live and your walls and if you don’t give them offerings they turn into boggarts and eat you#or fae which claim your house and swallow you alive’#and that’s genuinely cool worldbuilding and I liked it and I loved the ending of it#but I did struggle to sleep for days afterwards bc I got irrational thoughts like ‘what if the pretend glowy fungus is real’#bc a lot of the horror creatures were stuff that you explicitly wouldn’t notice or would write off as being poor memory or regular pests#like plucking your dreams out of your head or a mirror making you forget who you are#spookie. to me. and I know that’s the point I just feel like it’s the equivalent of calling paprika spicy.
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twinktorturer · 8 months ago
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honestly a lot of the posts that are meant to encourage people with anxiety and social problems to get out and how like you just have to get over it and it will resolve itself basically always end up just making me feel really hopeless because ive tried making myself get out or whatever and it's never really worked and i still don't end up finding anyone i talk to after, and sometimes i don't even talk to anyone period. like at least 70% of the time ive went to a party or social event ive come feeling anxious and left feeling suicidal lol....
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badolmen · 2 years ago
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You know if everyone could stop saying compliments that make me question my career path that’d be great.
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pcetstcrtured · 1 year ago
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HI BESTIES!!! guess who's back? back again? pluto's back, tell a friend!
i'm sorry i kinda disappeared there on y'all for a few days - as i had said in that post i made, i was babysitting wednesday & thursday. plus i was adjusting to a new ('fixed') sleep schedule which always kinda needs an adjustment period. plus it was my sister's birthday on saturday ... so yeah, i've kinda just been busy -
but! i'm here now! & i'm gonna try to write! though tbh i might be sticking to writing stuff on my halloween blog first since that is what the original plan was but then shit happened & all. honestly just gonna see where muse takes me - but yes i'm here!
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cicidraws · 1 year ago
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how tf do i explain pathological demand avoidance thati deal with without my dad using the explaination against me and thinking im being a bratty person who just wants to ignore things on purpose???
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opens-up-4-nobody · 2 years ago
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#so thinking abt my inability to do things in thr context of my 0cd is interesting. bc i would say my primary problem is my obsessive#compulsive behavior and inflexibility. idk if thr inflexibility is inherent to me bc its part of the reason i got stamped with aut1sm or but#its part of what maked it so hard to tell if i had 0cd or not. bc im just so fucking rigid and structured abt literally everything without#any reason. y do i have to do X thing and i cant do Y thing? idk my brain just says i cant. which kinda does align with 0cd more or just#like something compulsive. and its sorta weird bc i think im a lot more aligned with purely obsessional 0cd. so i dont do a lot of external#ritual. its more abstract. like constantly i have to work or b perfect or else i start getting intrusive thoughts. always thr same ones. and#to make them go away i have to physically suffer usually thru overworking to my mental breaking point or sometimes more direct ways#when its really bad. and then i have to keep working. and i do a lot of fucking ruminating. fucking constand catogorizing and pathological#self reflection. again i have high standards and high affinity for self punishment which is a lot to deal with. its exhausting and misery#making. and the annoying thing is that im like this for a reason. i mean it makes sense. having a learning disability plus bad short term#working memory plus some mood weirdness. ive created a structure that makes me productive but also creates so much pressure thst i cant#function at all sometimes. and whats worse is that even then even with the amount of checking i do i am still a master of fucking up the lil#things. i forgot to write my name in the autoclave list and caused problems for ppl bc i forgot when i went up there Even tho i new i needed#to. i also forgot to put thr foam cap on a liquid nitrogen tank which would have been SO FUCKING BAD if it all evaporated. so many samples#woulf have been lost bc i just fucking forgot to put it back. that was just this week. idk i just forget things like that. i left a freezer#door open in hs and we lost everything in the freezer. i also fucked up an whole experiment by not reading a schedule right. and its really#frustrating not being able to trust that youve done the right thing in the past. not to mention all the bullshit i mislabel but thats more#dys1exia realated. alas. i check and check and get anxious spikes of: FUCK DID I DO X? for a reason. but also its no fun#unrelated
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mabelsguidetolife · 2 years ago
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my dad doesn’t know he’s probably autistic because he’s what one would call a ‘functioning autistic’ and he’s a senior citizen so he has never questioned these aspects of himself
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Okay why does this make so much sense???
I was diagnosed with autism when I was three years old and enrolled in an intensive ABA program, which attempted to use operant conditioning to train me out of acting autistic. One of the things that always confused me, reading over the ABA practitioner's notes decades later, is just how sweeping the category of "autistic problem behaviors" they were trying to extinguish in me was.
For instance, one such “autistic problem behavior” was my "reluctance to attend to non-preferred activities". When I was asked to do something I didn’t want to do, sometimes I would say 'no' or even cry before relenting and doing what I was told. Which is indeed uniquely disordered behavior, because neurotypical toddlers are famously obsequious angels who relish being ordered to do things they hate! (/sarcasm)
In all seriousness though, it's alarming that perfectly standard toddler stubbornness was something the ABA therapists felt they needed to condition out of me. It wasn't enough I learn to be indistinguishable from my non-autistic peers (which is already a messed up goal in its own right), the standard of “neurotypicality” I was told to aspire to seemed nothing short of being a perfectly obedient automaton. 
None of this made sense back when I thought neurotypicality was about normalcy. But it does now that I realize neurotypicality is, and always was, about control
it does more harm than good to prop up the myth of the ‘neurotypical’ who completes tasks cheerfully with no issues. this person is a capitalist fantasy. the more you define yourself in comparison to this myth the more you justify social structures staying the same with minor accommodations to the ‘exceptions’ and the continued pathologizing of discomfort under hostile conditions
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anauwhere · 2 months ago
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Y/n fics are important bc sometimes I'm like the blorbo from my show needs a serious dissertation and romantic or heartwrenching books about them. Sometimes this girl needs to read and imagine to be dicked down to little death by said blorbo and their best friend okay?!
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devotedlystrangewizard · 4 months ago
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not yet final elden ring thoughts but first time credits thoughts
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