#and think this is being too sensitive and stuff

[gatheringbones]

[“Kai Cheng: Oh yes, this could be a book on its own (laughs). Yeah, I mean, the harm, it could be a book because it’s vast. The harm of the binary right? And it is sort of just the same harm as the binaries that you mentioned that we’re so good at naming. We’re good at naming that the gender binary is harmful and the biological sex binary is harmful. Why? Because it erases people, it dehumanizes them and at its extreme, which we have seen many times in history, that the binary also then gives way to excuses for heinous actions on the part of the medical complex or the police complex or the justice, the supposed justice complex, and binaries have been used like that for many, many, many years to various extremes. And they can’t all be compared because they’re not all comparable but when we start to sort people into binaries, we start to dehumanize because we lose individual context. And it’s a very kinda slidey scale there when we attach moral worth to a certain part of a binary, like maybe males are better than females, or maybe straight people are better than queer people, that moral attachment really quickly becomes, then maybe all those other people who are not that valuable maybe they should disappear, or just shut up, or become subservient, like all these kinds of things.

So I want us to talk about his carefully because it requires care. The binary of good and evil, or like pure and problematic, those binaries, they do that same thing. I get why we need them or why we want them. I was just talking about values and integrity, standing in your values, and it’s so hard to stand in our values in this confusing, horrible, violent world, traumatic world. And there’s biological reasons for this too, like our brain becomes attenuated to this black and white thinking, this quick sorting, who’s a friend, who’s a foe. It becomes very tempting and in some cases very strategic to say I am just going to write this category of people off. Anybody who’s problematic they’re never going to harm me again, that’s sort of where that comes from, they are never going to hurt me again. And I’m super sympathetic to that, but we lose the context and we start to lose our discernment and that discernment is if we’re always saying that we’re going to get rid of all the problematic people, what’s going to happen when we are problematic? Well we’d have to be gotten rid of, so then we develop a complex around well, I can never be problematic.

And this is where all kinds of weird, bizarre, painful stuff can happen, our collective delusion that anyone could ever be pure, like politically pure, or not harmful. Being a human is to harm others. I harmed something today by eating a hamburger, right? It is just, that is part of our existence, that we hurt others. It’s not a good thing but we have to admit it and it is so difficult to do that work of integrating that reality that we lash out at others. And then there is lot of writing about this, I’m probably going to get cancelled just for saying this but Sarah Schulman writes about this mentality in “Conflict is Not Abuse” when she is focusing on the Israel/Palestine conflict/occupation. The idea that having suffered horrible, horrible ancestral trauma and social violence and genocide could justify a colonization of another indigenous peoples, right, that’s sort of where this binary starts to take us. And yeah, I’m not there for it. And the last binary you mentioned is the survivor/perpetrator dynamic and that’s the one that requires the most care, at least I think it does, as it’s so sensitive.

And I want to be clear, there is a lot of really shitty ways that my work and Sarah Schulman’s work and Porpentine Charity Heartscape’s work, anyone who is writing about nuance, and conflict, and transformative justice even adrienne maree brown, there’s many kinds of way this work could be used to delegitimize survivor’s truth and I hate that, I’m not there for it. There’s so many ways that any rhetoric can be used to deflect real accountability or honesty, and that’s disgusting, I hate it. But it’s also a truth, we can hold more than one truth at the same time, that being human is to harm and as Mariame Kaba says, “no one is introduced to violence as a perpetrator.” No one is introduced to violence as a perpetrator. So when we start to ask ourselves the question, how do we end violence? Actual, I just don’t believe it is a functional answer to say, we’re just going to get rid of the violent people. That’ll just be this endless cycle of trying to get rid.

We have to start talking about why do we do violence, and what does it look like when we do violence, how can we tell the truth about that? And that is so much messier than there is a group of predatory people who are all evil and they’re just hiding among us, waiting for the opportunity. The truth is that that harmful being is usually someone lashing out in their own attempt to survive, often misguided attempt to survive. And the only way we’re going to not have that problem in such a present way is to ask what is it that we need to survive and then make sure everybody gets that.”]

[darkbackalley]

Thinking about Signals Officer! Darling and a Yandere TF141…

Note: I took a break from writing to focus on my schooling, and I feel like over time, my writing has gone downhill too lol, so let me know what you think of this one, cuz I’m trying out a new style, and hopefully I’ll be back writing stuff in no time, there’s a couple requests that I still have to get to but yeah. Also Happy Pride everyone!

Warnings: READER IS MALE! FEM-ALIGNED AND AGELESS BLOGS DNI!! NSFW, Toxic relationships (Yandere) I DO NOT CONDONE THESE ACTIONS, Implied stalking, Abuse of power, Probably OOC Toxic Workplace Reader can be read as AFAB and using Masc Pronouns or AMAB

Signals Officer! Darling that has been assigned to TF141’s calls as one of their units, and has to monitor everything going in and out.

Signals Officer! Darling that has to go get spare parts from the equipment depot for a vintage radio he’s been secretly fixing, and while he’s out, he accidentally collide with Ghost, who accidentally spills his coffee on his radio parts.

Signals Officer! Darling who practically sprints away from the tall man to try and salvage the radio.

Signals Officer! Darling who is unaware about Ghost telling TF141 about the cute guy he saw today while coming back for a meeting.

Signals Officer! Darling who cuts Gaz’s line because he almost revealed sensitive information to someone on the other end.

Signals Officer! Darling who has to sign off on a requisition form from Price following the incident with gaz.

Signals Officer! Darling who has to deliver the form back to Price, and sees Ghost again while heading out.

Signals Officer! Darling who is leaving while Ghost immediately goes into Price’s office and demands who that was. Price, of course, mentions that the person that just left is the man who monitors their lines.

Signals Officer! Darling who’s name starts sticking out more to Ghost, who informs his fellow TF141 members.

Signals Officer! Darling who finds the piece he needs to finish his radio sitting on his desk when he get back one day.

Signals Officer! Darling, who feels as though he being watched, even though he’s the one doing the watching.

Signals Officer! Darling that gets told he’s been assigned to exclusively monitor TF141’s calls and no one else’s.

Signals Officer! Darling that gets a goodbye every time someone from TF141 hangs up.

Signals Officer! Darling who gets flustered easily while overhearing intimate things while monitoring.

Yandere! TF141 who become obsessed with the person monitoring their calls.

Yandere! TF141 who cheers when ghost comes back with knowledge of who he is.

Yandere! TF141 that gets Price to request him as their full-time monitor.

Yandere! TF141 who would do anything for their little Signals Officer.

NSFW UNDER THE CUT

Yandere! TF141 who slowly try to win their darling over.

Yandere! TF141 who call each other to play a game.

Yandere! TF141 that make a game out of trying to embarrass the other on the line.

Yandere! TF141 who slowly gets bolder and more brazen with their subject matter while Signals Officer! Darling is listening.

Yandere! Tf141 who start to address their darling directly

Yandere! Tf141 who talk about what they’d do to their darling, how they’d bend him over, all the ways they’d fuck them and in what positions.

Yandere! TF141 who somehow get Signals Officer! Darling to answer them during one phone call and they are over the moon.

Yandere! TF141 who jerk off to Signals Officer! Darling’s voice whenever they answer a question while on the line.

Yandere! TF141 who are not subtle or quiet with their noises, moaning their darling’s name because they want Signals Officer! Darling to know that he makes them feel good.

Signals Officer! Darling who is frightened by all the attention and wants to leave

Signals Officer! Darling who puts in a request to transfer call monitoring units

Signals Officer! Darling who, instead of getting transferred to a different unit to monitor, is moved out of office and into the closest one to TF141’s barracks.

Yandere! TF141 who won’t let their Darling get away so easily

[moodymuu]

*sigh* imma just put vents here cuz it’s not like anyone gives a fuck :’3

Tw: parent issues

Holy fucking damn this man is the most sensitive dude I have ever damn SEEN. Tell me why you get so mad at the world that you have to be rude to your ENTIRE FAMILY like an angsty teenager?! GROW SOME BALLS PLEASE!

Ever since we moved to a different state, my dad has yelled at my mom, threatening me and my stuff at some points when I try to talk about my emotions, and just… not communicating once so ever to ANYONE! What is wrong with you? What is your problem? We ask you what’s wrong and you shut us all down. How are we supposed to help and understand you when you act like a piece of shit and don’t tell anyone what’s wrong.

All I can think is that it’s jealousy but JEALOUSY OF WHAT!! If you want to have a family vacation, or a conversation, JUST TELL US, DAMN!

I hate being in this house cuz I’m always scared a screaming match will happen. Happened too many times to be comfortable.

(Idc if my grammar is ass. I’m too pissed)

[brightlotusmoon]

Needing to rant: Theres this fandom history podcast that I like, but at same time they're so annoying at times because they can't keep their opinions about shipping to themselves. They can have those opinions. That's fine. Doesn't mean I want to hear it. I listen to their podcast to hear information about fandom history. But God they are so snotty and self entitled about things. I spend a lot of times listening to their podcast having to fast forward stuff so I can listen to the actual history a not another reason on their bland shipping tastes. Or why they think girls like to ship this ship because they want to fix a guy. I keep listening to it because there's not a lot of fandom history podcasts except them on Spotify. I know I've searched. But like isn't the whole point of a fandom history podcast is to talk about the history? Aren't you kind of alienating your fans if you put in snobby personal comments on how you dislike this character or ship this character and don't understand why people like this character? They save themselves by saying you can ship the thing and we are not telling you not to ship the thing. But that's not the point? I came here to listen to history, not walk on eggshells waiting for you to randomly put in a comment to diss the thing I like. I don't know maybe I'm being too sensitive. But again if your going to add your opinions put in a waring that says we are going to state our opinions a lot of the time in this, fair waring to people who listen to our podcast. Like at the beginning? Maybe they do and I don't pay attention or remember because of my adhd. Over all this podcast is nice to listen to, but at the same time I wish their was other podcasts like this and not the same old people who again I feel are a little snobby

Oooh, I definitely agree with you.

[king-candybug-backup]

So I’m sat here waiting excitedly for the next chapter and reading your posts because I’m bored and it’s either doing that or rewatching a certain 2:14:28 long video again and then I start thinking about your fic and now I’m wondering

Will the others actually find out that King Candy has NPD specifically or will they just go "yeah he’s a bit more fucked in the head than we thought. We all have problems, join the club."

Because I don’t think they all know as much as Vanellope knows unless she’s told them and even then she doesn’t know much herself. Like she as a 9yr old had to take it upon herself to actually count the amount of medkits she had and found out Candy was taking them and even then she only told Ralph about it. Then there was that conversation at Starway that I don’t think Vanellope has told anyone about if my memory serves me correct

Not to mention the fact when Vanellope asks about it, Candy doesn’t know what’s wrong with himself either as he’s said "I don’t know" MULTIPLE TIMES

By now im sure they all have an idea that he’s a bit off but I’m curious if they’ll actually figure it out through symptoms and be able to help or just not know at all awkwardly have no idea how to help except make sure he doesn’t try his shit again

On another note I get the foreboding feeling that after seeing the teasers for chapter 16, Candy will have a breakdown after realising how badly he fucked up this time. I can definitely see him breaking everything in the dungeon again but I can also see him curled up and getting emotional and probably crying afterwards. Call it reading too much angst fics but I can see it happening

Sadly I can't say too much in this regard, lest I risk spoiling anything about how the fic ends one way or the other, (sorry guys, you'll have to be left wondering if people live happily or die horribly, it's a coin-flip. 😂) but I will say that NPD as a term doesn't get directly brought up. There is more exploration of the symptoms and stuff, yes, but I feel like it's a little awkward and clunky to be addressing it by its clinical term in this kind of a story. Kind of like how in the OG film it's really obvious Calhoun has PTSD but it's never explicitly said. (I also don't think the arcade is very educated about mental health in general, the only sign of mental support we've seen is the Bad-Anon support group, and that's a pretty small chunk of characters. Overall, the arcade seems really close-minded imo, lol)

And Vanellope has told exactly one person about the Starway conversation, that person being Ralph! (Included very briefly in the scene where she was breaking down about worrying over the self-harming and didn't know what else to do)

Kind of unfortunate that Ralph knows about that extremely sensitive bit of information under our current circumstances, but oh well. 😂

[coldwind-shiningstars]

I know I keep saying this but I keep seeing it: stop being ableist in your anti-AI posts. half of the people I see reblogging these are disabled themselves and it makes me so angry! "I don't even know where chatGPT lives, I can make my own grocery list" great for you! I have no idea where it lives either because I've never used it! but also making your own grocery list involves multiple complex skills a lot of people do in fact have trouble with. writing a 900 word essay involves a lot of complex skills a lot of people have trouble with. writing professional emails involves a lot of complex skills a lot of people struggle with. yes, I assume most of the people using chatGPT to write their high school essays aren't cognitively disabled and most people making these posts are thinking about A Hypothetical Neurotypical Person Being Lazy etc etc but that doesn't matter, the fact of the matter is that thinking yourself superior for being able to write a grocery list is in fact ableist.

you have all GOT to be able to talk about this and be able to make your points without acting like you're better because you don't find these tasks hard. "I can write an essay without asking the lying machine 🙄 you guys are weak and can't do anything" good for you. I can dislike the lying machine and think that practicing skills that are difficult is an essential life skill without putting down people who struggle with academics etc when I talk about it 🙄 you guys are all being really ableist. skill issue.

the disability community here has SUCH a problem prioritizing certain types of disabled people, especially disabled people who are higher functioning linguistically etc, and it's incredibly frustrating when people who I know are usually good about this or who try to be good about this throw it all out the window when it comes to LLMs. stop it. stop.

[inkskinned]

we were sitting on the floor and i was cutting out tiny pictures to make a collage for a friend's birthday. you were on your phone and you laughed about something, and i was still in love with you then, so i asked what had you giggling.

"sorry. i was just..." you took a moment and went back to texting. "i was telling someone about how you're afraid of the dark."

i'm afraid of the dark because something bad happened. "oh." i felt a little slinky of shame crawl down my throat.

you glanced up, and maybe it showed on my face, because you rolled your eyes and held the phone to the side casually so i could see the group chat. "what? was it a secret?"

i looked down to the scissors in my hand. "i just..." no, it's not a secret. it just felt like something private, something serious. saying why would you tell someone that just feels like an accusation. it's unfair. i honestly am not even ashamed of it, it's just a fact about my person that i don't usually share.

what a strange experience. is this a human thing or a generational thing? for our grandparents: did they need to worry about how quickly someone can just... share your personal information? again, i didn't even really have a true objection. what could i say? i want any person in my life to feel they can be honest with their friends. it's not like i said don't tell anyone this.

i cut out another letter to complete the rainbow happy birthday, started hunting for the exclamation mark. i heard you sigh dramatically.

"don't make a big deal about this," you said.

this entire conversation was a pattern for us, and this was when we got to my least favorite part of the pattern. i would get my feelings hurt in some oblique not-technically-terrible way, and then it would be making a big deal about something. you'd get frustrated for me for being soft, but i was born soft. you knew i was soft when you pierced me. it's one of the things that made controlling me so easy.

"i'm not," i felt my voice crack. the question came without my wanting. "why are you guys talking about me?" and why are you saying that thing? why not like - i'm telling them how you're generous and kind and pretty.

you let out this low, tragic groan. "oh my god." you tossed the phone away from your body. "there, see? i just won't talk to them if you don't like it."

the rest of the hour went the way it always went, between us: i said i don't actually mind if you talk to your friends but -, you found a way to call my minor expression of discomfort "being dramatic." you got upset that i had been offended. i ended up apologizing, even though i hadn't actually done anything.

afterwards, you picked up the phone again. after texting for a little bit, you snorted. "okay," you said, "but it is kind of funny you're afraid of the dark. i mean, when you think about it."

[namira]

I have so much animosity towards whoever made 'gut health' trendy, so much you can scarcely comprehend. Like as a proud IBS warrior I am just like always going to be prone to stomach issues and thus always going to have people giving unsolicited advice about it but like literally every "gut health" tip makes it infinitely worse and when you are like 'actual medical professionals have advised me to limit my fiber intake' they will not accept it.

[uhbasicallyjustmilex]

~ inseparable opposing images ~

[milfbrainrot]

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I feel like in the past the mix of this site being used for both activism and fandom helped contribute to a lot of unhinged politicized fandom discourse where yeah ofc there's a political tie to media but ppl used it as... a form of activism where it was given disproportionate importance compared to other activism discussions? Whereas now we're swinging to the opposite site of How Dare You Care About Meaningless TV Shows When Politics.

Like... we can have a mix of realizing there's more important stuff to focus on than shipping discourse in the world at large without also minimizing the insane doxxing and death threats behavior going on in fandom that people in fandom have to take into consideration to be able to do their hobby, esp given how those attitudes stem from irl political climates at times in ways that are telling to study. Hobbies are kinda how we prevent activism burnout also. Crazey how that works.

[halfbaked00q]

catboy ask anon here. sorry i didn't mean to make u feel bad!! saw a mention of ficlets in your bio so i thought u wrote fic. mb. dont let me interrupt ur vibing <3

Oooh, hi babes! Thank you for coming back and clarifying the tone/intent/context and yea like I acknowledged,,, it kind of was me being bitchy about it :') and also I think whoopsie it might have been a bit of a NOO THAT'S THE THING IM SENSITIVE ABOUT.jpg kinda thing lmao,,, also since I'm pondering self-reflectedly, ig I don't do well without context due to personal stuff probs (lets face it, it's the mother; when is it not the mother- but yea,, ig when I get not enough context I jump to *narrows eyes* is this a trojan horse...)

but also lol,. Ahhhh okay I see where the confusion may have come from!! Unfortunately lmao, I have nothing so realized or respectable as a ficLET to my name,,. no, you see but alas, the bio says ficBIT,. as in.. crumbs lol. I have like the leftover scraps of cake after you make cake jars. and sometimes I squish them into cake pops!! but often I just serve them up as is,. bone apple teeth <3 still yummy, I hope! but you are indeed spooning alternate mouthfuls of cake bits & frosting here lol

[saecookie]

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[the-lark-ascending69]

Still rewatching S1. Surprised by how hecking smart Hopper is, like dude is a talented detective. I need to make him Nancy's mentor in my monster hunter/comphet Robin AU.

[phagodyke]

yeah I'm not gonna talk abt it am I...

[youricariancarrion]

i havent seen blink twice so i cant really speak on whether it had a sufficient trigger warning but seeing some of the people talking about it come to the conclusion that no sexual content should be shown in movies ever is making my blood boil