#anyway hi lesbians and bisexuals

[inkskinned]

you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

[littlehatmouse]

i finished this in the last 20 minutes of lesbian visibility week after not drawing at all LETS GO

[caruliaa]

just bc im a lesbian doesnt mean tht i wont at times become deeply entranced with the beauty of male actor or character. it just means i wld rather be locked in a room with a man with a knife than do anything romantic or sexual with one

[absolutelybifurious]

ok guys i mean this seriously like this is a serious post i've never ever been so serious in my entire life

how did we just let lucy donato be on 911 and then........ leave? like she was just there, looking like that, doing all that?? and now she's gone??? no. that's inhumane. that is. a violation of my civil rights, personally.

yall, she was so hot. she was transcendentally hot. she has changed my life forever. and honestly she changed your life and maybe you don't know it but she did. like look at her. look at her with her lil asymmetrical hair and her bob. and her struggling with saving someone bc of luck. and her playing pool. and her being snarky and smart and PERFECT. and her playing pool. and her giving buck the best kiss of his silly little life.

why is she gone? honestly. honestly, this is so??? this isn't okay. this is homophobic. she was perfect. i don't even care if they put buck or eddie with her, like... we have to look at the big picture. we have to look at how she is the hottest person to ever exist. guys, listen just, guys... if buddie isn't gonna happen it just isn't. and now we have a strange, mildly thanos-esque man when we coulda just had lucy FUCKIN donato. like taylor was fine. complex, great, but lucy?? lucy???? hello??? MA'AM??? okay?? no. no?? NO.

you don't get to just take her away from me. she was. she was the moment. a religious experience. a goddess. she was athena and hera and persephone and maybe jesus, like whatever you're into but anyway she was all those other sexy lil god like entities. no. okay. just, okay. lucy. lucy please. i need her to just. i need her back. i mean mostly i need her to kiss a woman but also if she has to kiss a man. i need her back. she's so hot. what the fuck?? what the FUCK??????????????????????????????

[stunfiskz]

please. join me in my beautiful world of the fun gang all being aro/arospec

[dykesbites]

honestly this is all you really need to know about The Guard and His Prince like this encapsulates the whole thing

[juspeczyk]

bop+fantabulous emancipation is on tv and i hate to say it but i'm still not a fan of the confirmed bachelor thing they did with zsasz and black mask 🙃 it felt like a weird diversity win shoehorn that they Did Not think through.

[mycenaae]

one of the things i really love about bi buck is that we finally get a canon bisexual on 911 (LA) that isn't eva fucking mathis. thank god.

[bi-disastersoup]

Bi-Disaster Bun

Someone on twt offered up a challenge to take a shot of our WoLs inspired by (one of) their flag(s) and using the environment to help get the colors. While this isn't quite as vibrant as I would have liked, here is my bisexual bunboi.

[dawnlotus1]

Tim is confirmed hot by Basira so I like to interpret this as hot by what Basira’s standards are meaning I think Tim is hot in a lesbian way.

[contagious-addiction]

I have to share my bastard Julius since Ammy did a hecking wonderful job on the patreon rewards this month oughh <333

He’s my bastard divine soul sorcerer I play in the homebrew world Enjira that my friend Parker DMs :3

Artwork is by the wonderful @acverg on twitter! You can also find her patreon here as well as her other socials on twitter. I wholeheartedly recommend her for commissions and character designs! Truly gorgeous work every time and great turn around as well.

[jacksallys]

had a conversation with somebody that said films and books nowadays don’t have original concepts and everything is piggybacking off of something else and one of the great examples of perfectly original plots in media was literally narnia. my brother in christ aslan is fucking jesus like?????

[secondbeatsongs]

as a bi person, the bisexual flag brings me infinite joy and always puts a smile on my face, however as a person who has a Passion for Graphic Design, that undersaturated shade of purple infuriates me when it's used digitally

like, on an actual flag - which was its original purpose - it looks great!

those look fine! lovely, even! with the semi-transparent fabric, the way it catches the sunlight, it looks beautiful!

but now look at how it looks digitally

the pink and blue are so vibrant compared to the sad, lonely lavender!

and let's look at this statement from Michael Page, the creator of the bi flag:

(sidenote: he created this flag in 1998, so if his takes on bisexuality is different from yours, it's okay to notice that! a lot has changed since the 90s when it comes to lived experiences and the way we describe them. but, it's also important to respect his thoughts about this and the way he presented them, even if today, we'd probably not say that bi people "blend unnoticeably into both the gay/lesbian and straight communities.")

so in pantone colors, the pink is 226 C, the blue is 286 C, and the purple of the flag is 258 C.

but...here's the deal

Michael talks here about how the key to understanding the symbolism is to know that the purple blends into both the pink and blue. and on a physical flag, I think you can see that!

but digitally, it absolutely does not blend. it clashes badly, and looks oddly separate from the other two colors.

which got me wondering...what purple do you get if you actually blend 226 C and 286 C?

oh! oh, my god.

look at that! look at how nicely it fits between those colors!

look at it next to the original color scheme! look at how much more vibrant the purple is!

and friends. this is just blending through rgb! you get even more purple variations when you use other color spaces!

let's compare all of them:

(top: original, lab. middle: lrgb, lch. bottom: rgb, hsl)

look at all of the different purple options you can get just by combining these two colors!

if you want almost too-vibrant saturation, you can go hsl, if you want something more relaxed that's closer to the original, you can go lab or lrgb. and if you want to split the difference, lch is bright and violet, while rgb is there with its saturated but darker purple.

anyway, I guess I don't really have a point here? this isn't so much an informational post as it is Me Getting Weird About Colors, but I think it is a useful lesson about how colors look very different on screens compared to how they look on objects in real life.

and sometimes, I think it's okay to compensate for that.

out of all of these, this is my favorite bi flag:

it's the one where the colors were blended in lab color space. for me, the lighter, softer purple is close enough to the original bi flag purple, while also feeling like a smoother blend of the blue and pink

but that's just me! and it might not even look the same to you, since every screen is different, because technology is a nightmare!

anyway, thank you for coming with me on this colorful journey! I will now retreat back to inkscape and make pained sounds about inkstitch gradients until something tangible pulls me back into reality

[babygirlbutch]

thinking about it accidentally slipping in ... straddling him, rubbing my slick entrance across the head of his cock, grinding back and forth along the shaft desperately because it just feels so good. he said we shouldnt, theres no condom, we're too high besides.... but i roll my hips just so and suddenly the head slips inside my hole -- it was an accident, i didnt think it would, but i was just so wet and he was so hard and gravity pulled me all the way down so suddenly im taking it down to the base in one motion... i let out an involuntary guttural groan, clenching around him, and he freezes, fingers digging into my hips so hard they might even bruise ....... both breathing so heavily, eyes closed, thinking we should move, he should pull out, but fuck it feels so good..... i move up to lift myself off of his cock, half mumbling apologies, but his hands pull me back down by the hips without thinking, slamming me down on his raw cock, and suddenly my hips are rolling back and forth, my tdick thrumming and my cunt clenching, breath coming in quick little pants -- we shouldnt, we cant, we said we werent going to -- but here we are, him fucking up into me at a rapidly increasing pace ...... and he should really pull out before he cums inside me, we still dont have a condom after all, but weve seen how strong our self control is so far.....

[solarmorrigan]

Underrated flavor of queer Steve: Steve who worries that he's faking it

After Robin's confession to him, he starts to view the way he looks at other guys--the way he's always looked at them--in a different light. The way he can see a guy and think 'yeah, he's hot' or even, 'yeah, I wouldn't mind getting with him.' He starts to think maybe that's kinda queer

But then he shakes the thought away, because everyone is able to pick out whether another person is attractive or not. His thoughts aren't different or special. Everyone must think that way, and Steve is only starting to view it as queer because Robin is queer and he wants to have more in common with her

He's always had a habit of doing that: chameleoning himself into a group, adopting enough of their mannerisms or interests to fit in. He'd almost lost himself to in high school, turning into an asshole for the sake of having friends who, in retrospect, hadn't even been very good to him

But now he has Robin - brilliant, funny, awkward, brave Robin, who is good to him and who also happens to be a lesbian, and Steve is doing it again, isn't he? Shifting himself just so he can fit in. Faking it to make it. But he's pretty sure pretending to be queer is kind of offensive, so he sits on the thought for months and months, sometimes pushing it down so hard that he feels sick with it, until it comes bubbling out around the cracks

Steve doesn't even mean to say it; he and Robin are hanging out, Star Wars playing on the TV more as background noise than anything, and Robin sighs over Carrie Fisher, and Steve sighs with her, and then mentions that he'd let Harrison Ford hit it, too, if he had the chance. And then it takes him a minute to understand why Robin is now staring at him, wide-eyed and almost startled

Neither of them really know much about the concept of bisexuality at that point, but they stumble through the conversation anyway, and Robin insists that, no, she's pretty sure not everyone looks at both men and women with equal appreciation and, "I don't think you can fake it, Steve. You can't do being queer wrong."

And for Steve - suddenly it clicks into place. A new piece of himself he'd been struggling to shove away, now acknowledged and welcomed. Something real and true and his, and something he happens to share with his best friend

And it feels good

[godmodebeginswithlesbians]

you know how sometimes when talking to a cis dude about being lesbian he'll say smth like "oh so straight men can be lesbians then?"

well ive always been of the opinion that the answer to that question is yes. even if its a cis man. not just because he may turn out to be a trans woman or nonbinary or any other multitude of things- i think he should be able to call himself such even if he puts in all the work of examining his gender identity and comes up still cis. even if he doesnt so all that. like, if you feel your attraction to women is queer, then yeah, rock the lesbian label. sappho was likely what we would call bisexual today anyways

but then, maybe tumblr isnt ready for this post, given that people still gawk about bi lesbians and parrot radfem ideals with such hits as "lesbian seperatism can be fixed by being trans this time" "gold star lesbianism is fine, actually" "its transmisogynistic for trans men to say that they are opressed" "nonbinary men are actually just closeted trans women" and whatnot