how tf did me facetiming someone i matched with on tinder turn into them giving me unsolicited advice about giving people your full attention after i already let them know that i recently got diagnosed as adhd and it’s hard for me to focus on just one thing/person and then them telling me that “based on my behavior” they think i’m autistic like ?? didn’t ask, we literally started messaging each other like a day ago, even if i am autistic (which wouldn’t be a bad thing if i am) when has it ever been socially acceptable to tell someone you JUST MET that you think they’ve got some kind of mental disorder/illness/disability/etc.
my friends have mentioned that i might be autistic and that’s fine bc i’ve spent a lot of time with them and they actually know me and i take their perspective of me very seriously because they’re the people who see me 100% unfiltered and have known me whenever i’ve been completely unmedicated. i trust their word.
this person from tinder, however, i have sent like maybe 20-30 messages to where we talked about nanowrimo and i was like omg it’d be so cool to meet someone who also writes, whether it’s as friends or as more, i would love that—only for our facetime call to be less than 20 minutes long and for them to try and diagnose me as autistic just because i, after ALREADY TELLING THEM that i have adhd and after them asking about meds and me telling them that i haven’t taken my adhd meds today because i didn’t have work and also i’ve taken multiple naps today which has made my head even more foggy and made it even harder than usual to focus, found it difficult to focus.
like. i wasn’t unresponsive. i wasn’t ignoring them. i was listening and i was responding, i just also was looking between my phone and my laptop screen.
which okay i understand that maybe i’m just frustrated because of the “based on your behavior” comment because an 18 minute facetime call does not give someone enough interaction time to try and fucking diagnose me as anything, and maybe this is more of a we just didn’t vibe and that’s fine, i don’t think they’re like a bad person or anything and if nothing else i’m glad the mismatched vibes were felt before deciding to meet up or anything, but also.
eighteen minutes. literally eighteen minutes and they fucking “based on your behavior i think you’re autistic” and “here’s some advice, when meeting new people you should give them your full attention”
FUCK that.
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and you will think, “this is what matters.”
it won’t be you, your health, your wellbeing. no. what matters will not be you. it never was before, it won’t be now, and that fact will anger you because you know all the logical reasons why you should matter to yourself but you don’t. you just don’t. you cannot think of the words to explain why this is how it is but you will know, deep within yourself, that it’s true.
you will look and you will find something that feels more. you will find a book, a song, a person, a movie, a show, a video game. you will find an object or a word or a quote. you will find something, and you will hold it to your chest, next to the people you love and the things you can’t say goodbye to, and you will say, “this is what matters.” and it will. it will feel like the only thing that matters. nothing else will compare.
this is a lie. everything matters.
(you still don’t, though. not you. never you.)
everything matters and you feel it in your chest, the weight of everything. the weight of all things, all people, all love and all fear. you will feel it. you will feel everything. it will matter.
(you will not.)
there is a lot in everything, though. it will crush you and you will let it because the only thing that isn’t part of everything is you. that should not be true but it is and you are fine with that. so long as you support the everything that you are not, then you’re okay with not being part of everything. it will hurt. you will smile through it.
smiling will make it hurt more. you will smile wider and you will not complain about the pain.
you will not complain.
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maybe...... if i keep going on tinder and her............ i will get over deeply rooted feelings and potentially form a crush on someone who might actually like me back................
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hey siri, how do i stop missing my ex who isn’t really my ex because neither of us officially asked the other out but we were unofficially together for months and she knew my family and my baby siblings loved her and sometimes my little sister still asks about her and i just went through some of my snapchat memories and saw a video of her dancing with her dog and my chest physically aches right now
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