#as the ones who think they are knowledgable enough for their transphobia to be a logical conclusion they have reached with their intellect

[agnesmontague]

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[ayeforscotland]

Trying to limit and monitor kids’ social media usage would make so many problems so much worse and I need people to think about it objectively and not take it into consideration just because the concept is a knee-jerk reaction from a grieving mother being exploited by everyone around her.

— Kids already lie about their age, so an age limit is already unenforceable unless you literally require legal ID, which is an incredible breach of privacy with even further safety risks.

— Vulnerable children including LGBTQ kids living with bigoted families would be put in real-life danger of abuse or homelessness if their families had a way of knowing when they’re seeking support.

— The internet and technology is a requirement to navigate the world around you at the most basic level. That is a fact and schools know it too. Limiting access to that in this day and age would be massively limiting one’s knowledge, safety and basic life skills, especially if their family is neglectful or abusive.

— What constitutes as social media cannot necessarily strictly be defined. Some people consider WhatsApp to be social media despite the fact it’s a texting app, and the people you communicate with there are presumably people you’ve spoken to before if you know their numbers. Kids need a way of communicating with people for both practical and safety reasons, and blanketing almost everything as ‘social media’ and limiting access to it inhibits that.

— If you put a ban on all ‘social media’ until the age of 16 and then suddenly allow access, what you end up with is a child who has zero knowledge or experience of something suddenly being thrown into a world where anything is possible. It’s like when teens are forbidden alcohol their whole lives and the day they turn 18 they go on a massive binge not knowing their limits and end up either sick or in the hospital. It’s a recipe for disaster. They NEED exposure so they can learn.

— Let’s be real, kids would find a way around a ban through VPNs or other means anyway. We all figured out how to dodge the website blockers at school when we were 12. I doubt this would be any different.

While the fact that one of the killers watched gore on the dark web is indeed concerning, I really feel the spotlight is being shone on entirely the wrong issue here. Their conversations about the murder were all on social media and provided significant proof for the case. What kids need isn’t for adults to try to control them and read everything into their lives, it’s for adults to communicate with them and make them feel comfortable enough to talk to them when they have a problem. And that’s ignoring the, you know, whole transphobia thing.

(Sorry to write a dissertation in your inbox but despite my deepest sympathies and compassion for Esther seeing people put any stock into her awful, awful idea when that’s so clearly not the problem does quite frustrate me and I need everyone to know just how illogical it is)

I don’t need to add anything to that besides saying this line of argument is very similar to the people who campaign for an internet where no one can be anonymous, it puts so many additional people at risk.

Thanks for taking the time to share!

[highfantasy-soul]

So I need to get something off my chest about 'writing' and what a show is trying to do vs if the writing is the best to show that.

I haven't seen this complaint so much on Tumblr, but it has been brought up several times in a Discord server I'm in and I don't think there is the best place to address it (it might be taken as too political or an attack against specific people) but I really really needed to write out how I'm feeling about it.

So a massive complaint in this Discord is that the writing of the Acolyte is bad. The ones making this criticism claim that they like the ideas behind the show, but the execution with the writing is terrible and they need to get a whole new writing team for season 2.

So. Hmm. How to not get too in my feelings about that.

Let's take a look at who the writers are. We have:

3 men - 2 of which are men of color, the last I don't know enough about to say if he's part of a specific marginalized identity or not

and we have 7 women - Leslye who is openly queer, 3 black women, an asian woman, a trans woman and activist, and another who I again, don't know enough about to say if she's a part of a specific marginalized identity (other than her femininity) or not.

I didn't do deep dives on them, they're writers, so it's kind of hard to specifically find out 'hey, do you personally have a lot of experience with colonialism/religious trauma?' BUT I think that just baseline seeing how many women, people of color, and queer people there are on the writing staff and the way I could see so many extremely nuanced and real things on screen that I personally know about gives me a good idea about their own experiences/knowledge about such subjects.

Despite the claim that 'they like what the story is going for', the understanding of how the writers are telling that story isn't translating to everyone. I have a little suspicion as to what unites the people who 'don't get' the writing despite claiming to like what the show was going for. Kind of like how people 'liked what the civil rights movement was about, but those leaders and their methods? Get those out of here and accomplish the goals in a different way'. Or reading a classic and having no context for who wrote it or when the story was written and trying to judge it based on your own very limited understanding and claiming it's "bad" because you, personally, are just not aware of anything outside of your own world view.

It's important to be able to identify where your own understanding might be lacking - and acknowledging that just because YOU don't 'get it' doesn't mean that the writing is BAD. It just means... you don't get it. Personally, I don't get every single show made for a very specific audience - especially racialized comedies specifically for the race the writer/performer is. As an example, Dave Chapelle (horrendous transphobia aside) wrote a great deal of his material for his very specific audience of Black Americans. I personally, as a not-Black person, wasn't sure how to feel about some of his jokes - but what I DIDN'T do was say that he was bad and 'I get that he's making fun of his own community, but he should do it in a different way, maybe get a different writer'. Because I'm not the one equipped to judge that. I acknowledge that his comedy is outside my wheelhouse and honestly, for Chapelle's case when it comes to his racial jokes, I simply remove myself from the equation and just look to other Black people and how they react to his comedy to see if he's stepped over a line. (Also, when it comes to comedy, as he himself pointed out, some white people were laughing a little TOO hard at his jokes - I think that's mainly an issue with comedy and poking fun at yourself only to have someone not in your 'group' not take it as friendly ribbing but rather more malicious - and so he dialed it back).

Comedy is a bit different than any other media - I do think that comedy requires a lot more knowledge of the subject matter to know when the person is exaggerating, critiquing, or affectionately ribbing that is pretty important to know before internalizing what's said in the show. If you're not aware of that stuff, you might hear a stand-up routine and internalize a lot of really harmful stereotypes so I think it's ok to step away from comedy that isn't "for you" in a way that I don't think is particularly great for ALL types of media that isn't "for you".

With romance stories - I just don't get why a character would make all their decisions focused around getting a romantic partner, maybe I actively dislike watching/reading about that, but what I'm NOT going to do is say Jane Austen is a bad writer. I can point out things I disliked aside from the romance aspect or even larger writing critiques, but I'm not going to say that 'I see what she was going for, but get a different writer because I didn't get it'. Those stories were intensely personal to her and many people see themselves in the characters she wrote. Just because *I* don't get their motivations doesn't mean others don't.

So, examples aside, I think it's incredibly important that before we say 'the writing was bad', think about if maybe it's just that you don't have the meta understanding of the groups being highlighted in the story. It does give me the ick when people say to 'replace the writing table' on The Acolyte when the story trying to be told is of marginalized groups interacting with massive colonial institutions and the generational trauma that causes - and when you look at the writers....they are part of the groups affected by those issues, and the ones who are saying 'replace them'....aren't (largely).

When you 'don't get' something in media, especially if that media is telling the stories of groups you don't belong to, go to see what those groups are saying. There have been articles written about The Acolyte from the points of view of marginalized groups and meta posted around about how these irl subjects are being handled. In my opinion, as someone a part of such effected groups, I think the writers have done an incredible job with the show.

The main issue I think (good faith) people have is that DISNEY didn't give the show more time to tell its story, but then they lay the issues at the feet of the writers for 'not explaining enough' - but the things they want explained, largely I find are things that...were explained enough if you know the basics of colonization, missionaries, and generational trauma.

Other complaints I've seen boil down to "the show should have told me everything in order, clearly, and told me what to think about it and each of the characters - because I was left guessing, instead of using my own brain to think about it, I have decided it's bad writing because everything wasn't fed to me in a straightforward way" which again, isn't a fault of the writing, it's a flaw in the way you THINK all shows need to hand-hold you. Just because a show doesn't spoon-feed you the story and character motivations, doesn't mean the writing is bad.

Finally, I've seen critiques of the writing (and story) to the effect of 'it's a Star Wars story - it NEEDS to fit into the Star Wars box/expectations and if it doesn't, that means it's bad writing' - which again, kills diversity. You want surface-level inclusion where "yay! It's a woman doing bombings now! Cheer for her!" rather than "Look, it's a woman doing war-crimes and we're pointing out that war crimes are STILL wrong and here's other marginalized people fighting against that!"

So before claiming 'the writers need to be replaced', take a step back and look at why you feel that way, take a look at who the writers are and what story they were trying to tell, and first consider: maybe you just aren't knowledgeable enough about the subject matter. And just because it's not 'baby's first colonizer story', doesn't mean the writing is bad. Maybe you aren't the center of the universe for once and maybe its OK for you to feel a little behind in understanding - it just means there's new stuff for you to learn! Which is a good thing!

Obligatory explanation that all this doesn't mean that you can't critique the writing or that if you critique the writing that means you 100% are who I'm talking to in this post. All I'm saying is that maybe before having the knee-jerk reaction 'get rid of the writers', take a look at it from this perspective to see if you 'not understanding' isn't on the writers, it's on you and your life experiences not preparing you for such a story told in this way.

[ultrainfinitepit]

Pen and 12

Art Fight piece by @gadjetomyart, thank you again for the lovely artwork!

12. Does/did your OC ever wish they could change the way they are? Why? If it’s in the past, how did they get over the feeling? (this can be about internalized homo/transphobia)

Pen is one of those angels that will never be 100% comfortable in his human form, and it has made his many mortal lives challenging.

Back when he had full range of his powers, Pen enjoyed spending a bit of time here and there in forms of all different types. He was secure in the knowledge he could always return to his preferred form. If some silly human was a little ignorant, mis-gendered him for example, he wouldn't mind - they didn't know anything anyway, and were just looking at some temporary physical manifestation. They could never perceive Pen's true form in all its glory.

Then Pen became "human" and now was stuck in one body. And he found himself becoming more particular about it, hating parts of it for how they could not be changed to what he wanted; or how others would perceive it.

Pen had never felt such discomfort and hatred for his own body before. He could no longer be what he preferred on a whim and it made his preferences stronger. People misunderstood who and what he was all the time. He got angry at the silly mis-gendering humans, they made him feel bad! To be affected at all by the words of a human while being a glorious angel, Pen had never felt like more of a failure.

To his shame, it made Pen lash out at some of his peers. He envied how easily they seemed to adapt to their human bodies, how they didn't care about the humans' words - while Pen felt more and more strangled by them.

Eventually Pen found ways to be more comfortable in his mortal forms. If needed he would take medicines or potions to shape them in subtle ways. Pen has a fear of surgery, it reminds him too much of past lives where he was stabbed to death, so that was off the table. Instead he would carefully tailor his clothing to hide or shape his form. He would do his best not to think too much about the body underneath that clothing.

But Pen found ways to accept his body too in the end. It helped him a lot when he began to date Ham - who while being experienced as an angel had not lived many human lives, and thus didn't have a head so clouded by human ideas. Ham has only ever seen Pen as a man without hesitation, to him Pen's body is a man's body because that's what Pen is and wants to be. It all seemed rather simple to Ham, it made Pen think it might really be simple.

Even once he gets his full angelic form back, all these thoughts about Pen's preferred gender and form stay with him. He is fairly certain there is no going back to how carefree he once was about his physical presentation, and that is one of his greatest sorrows.

He also regrets how critical he was of the others, but Pen is not a particularly nice person and will probably never apologize. He might simply be extra helpful next time they come to him asking for answers or a book recommendation, and enough of that is equal to an apology in his mind.

[cakesandfail]

Do you believe that the situation with trans rights in Britain is hopeless? I'm Australian but Britain means a lot to me, and I feel despair easily. I know all about the Cass report and everything else. One British mutual thinks that Labour and Keir Starmer might be better than they seem once they get in, or at least lobby-able, after seeing their immediate U-turn on anti-Semitism after voting Corbyn out (she's Jewish). But part of me's scared that it's false hope.

No, I don't think it's hopeless, and here's why:

The majority of British people aren't transphobic.

A lot of people aren't very knowledgeable about gender identity or the process of transitioning, and a lot of people aren't aware of whether they even know any trans people, but the really vicious stuff is very much an issue with the government and the media here. If you ask the average British cis woman whether a trans woman should be using the ladies loos, she'll give you a funny look and go "...yeah, obviously?" For the most part, people here think transitioning is your own personal business and they don't really care about how/when/why you're doing it.

A great deal of the transphobia being peddled by the UK media is coming from white, middle-class, heterosexual cis women who think that misogyny is the only form of oppression because that's the only one they have personally experienced. Those women aren't exclusively bigoted towards trans people- the COVID-19 lockdowns showed that when they all started kicking off about how they should still be able to force their cleaners to come to work- but essentially the only women with enough social capital to break through into traditionally male-dominated areas like politics and journalism LOVE to pull the ladder up behind them, set it on fire, and then stomp on the fingers of anyone who tries to follow them anyway. They are not representative of the wide variety of people in this country, in either their identity or their opinions.

I will say that I don't entirely trust Labour on this given Starmer's willingness to engage with all the "but what is a woman?!?!?" bullshit and the fact that Rosie Duffield is still in the party despite her blatant transphobia. But yes, some of them are potentially open to political pressure that the Tories wouldn't be. It's very much a 'lesser of two evils' situation.

I wish things were better. We're due to have a general election by the end of the year and I don't feel particularly good about voting for anyone who has a hope in hell of forming a functional government, on this issue or any others. But the kind of people you meet on a day to day basis are far better than the ones who run the place would have you believe.

[the-s1lly-corner]

hey, may i request hcs of laughing jack + slenderman x nonbinary, afab!reader who gets misgendered/bullied a lot but is too scared to correct/stand up to ppl? happens to me a lot :[

laughing jack and slenderman x afab!nonbinary!reader

im so so sorry you keep getting treated like dookie- as a fellow afab nb i totally get your pain with the misgendering, people just need to hush up

notes: reader is afab and nonbinary, established relationships, both canon characters have limited knowledge of lgbt topics but thats mostly because they hardly interact with people or media

cws: transphobia, canon typical violence, mentions of stalking

laughing jack

doesnt get to interact with many people much, so hes a little limited on his knowledge- and given that he originally started existing in the Victorian era? hoo boy- hes not transphobic or otherwise lgbtphobic but there is some ignorance

can see himself as using some labels once he gets more educated on it, though! always headcanoned laughing jack to be gnc!

tries to help you appear more androgynous or masculine if thats what you want! he doesnt mind playing dress up with you, and hes definitely going to take it as a moment to turn it into a game and try to cheer you up!

openly mocks the people who bully you, as well as outright saying that theyre just a bunch of jerks who... dont deserve nice things to head their way.. to keep the description vague

similar to slenderman, hes going to go out and get some vengeance if things get ugly enough

he doesnt like going out without you, hes a bit clingy.. but the sight of you being so distraught really makes his insides coil like snakes.. does not like it at all

even tries to push for you to carry him around in his box so he can just jump and slash anyone who says anything- though thats not a very good idea... would give him away quickly

slenderman

he doesnt understand much about gender, and honestly? i can easily see him being agender, or maybe gender apathetic simply due to him not showing interest in his own identity. he rarely wants to be perceived anyway

despite not knowing much about it and not caring how others see him, he can understand just a little bit on why it matters to you- especially when youre seen as something youre not and harassed for it

rest assured that if he ever finds out someone is harassing you, he will silent them quickly. out right offing them or stalking them over a period of time, the result will end in you having one less person on your back... then two.. then three.. and so on

actually the fact that people seem to either go missing or skip town not long after messing with you makes many keep their mouths shut- and before you even think that might prompt someone to harm you under the guise that its YOU doing it, slenderman isnt going to let that happen

he listens to you if you need to talk about your feelings on it, hes unsure of how to verbally help you affirm your gender identity but if you outright ask him how he views you; he tells you that you pass in his eyes regardless of if you present more femininely, masculine, or androgynously.. though that may be because of his aforementioned limited knowledge on the topic... hes supportive nonetheless!

[bugbro]

Important Internet Safety PSA!

This post is specifically targeted at minors.

Hi kiddos! I'm making this post to remind all regressors on here that they should be extra sure to stay safe online!

For a while now, I've seen minors posting things that are not safe 🙅 but anyone can benefit from following these tips. Especially those who regress, and can be mentally children at times, should be extra cautious online.

Warning! : mentions of potentially triggering topics in relation to online safety, stranger danger, etc. Please only read when big, not regressed!

Read Under The Cut ⬇️

Things Minors Should Not Share Online:

1) Your Real Name.

Never share your full name online. Your first name is less dangerous, but if you can, I would still go by pseudonym (Ex: Sunny, Lambie, Tiny, Bear, Baby Bat, etc.) or fake name. Your name may feel innocent, but personal information is very important.

2) Your Location.

This one feels obvious, but more people do it than you think! Yes, I mean do not share your address...but I also mean: Do not share what school you attend. Do not share what state you live in. Do not share what city you live in.

3) Your Age.

Do not tell anyone that you are a minor. People online should not know that you are a child. As a child, you are especially vulnerable to being targeted by people online.

Age regressors in general are pretty commonly targeted by p/redators online, but stating you're a minor won't make you more safe from them - it will make those predators more likely to want to message you.

Remember to also not share your birthday! Your exact birth date is personal info. If you wish to share birthday stories, gifts, etc, or tell people of your birthday, be broad. Mention it's your birthday month at the beginning/end of the month :) rather than the exact day.

4) Your Triggers.

People online should not know what specific things trigger you. This information can be used against you. Yes, this includes information in DNIs.

If you must have a DNI, be generic.

"DNI if you post kink, blood, eating disorders, transphobia, these things trigger me." is too much personal information. This is just a list of things that trigger you. People online should NOT know this information. ❌ ❌

❤️ Generic DNI examples:

"DNI if your blog is unsafe for children"

"DNI if you post N/S/F/W content."

"DNI if your blog is k/i/n/k, c/g/l, or NSFW." ❤️

Remember to use your block button liberally, for anyone who makes you uncomfortable.

5) Photos of yourself.

There are multiple reasons why posting photos of yourself, as a minor, may not be a good idea.

First, regression is very stigmatized. Choosing to connect your face to something so stigmatized is a very big decision, one that can be difficult to make at a young age. The internet is forever, and it's very important to consider how you might feel about these photos later in life.

Second, regression is SFW, but p/redators don't care. While the pictures of you with a paci, or you in a diaper may be completely innocent and nonsexual, bad people can still access them. This doesn't mean you can never post photos - but waiting until you're old enough to really understand the risks is a good idea.

In general, photos of your regression can be unsafe but...you can share photos without you in them! Pictures of your snacks, or a toy can be nice to share. Just make sure there's no personal, or identifying info in your pictures :) and then show off your cute drawings or toys.

Personal information is very precious. Be very careful with who you share it with! If you are an adult, you have the knowledge to make the decision on whether or not you think it's a good idea to share this information. But if you are a child, you're usually not old enough to understand what sharing personal info can mean.

I know a lot of these may feel really restricting. You might think "isn't that a little much?" and yes, they can be a lot to ask. But staying safe is super important.

It's important for you kiddos to remember that most of you are in categories that can make you extra vulnerable. Being minors, being neurodivergent, being queer, having faced past trauma, being an age regressor...are all things that can make you especially vulnerable.

If you decide to share these things anyway, I hope I've encouraged you to try to do so sparingly. Maybe you can share some of these, but decide to make others private.

Stay safe kiddos!

[nothorses]

i'm sure you've talked about it before, but why do other transmascs feel the need to white knight for women whenever transandrophobia(/anti-transmasculinity/whatever term is "acceptable" for the moment) is brought up? it's always something to do with "it's distracting from misogyny and we should band together against it", "it makes it sound like trans women oppress trans men", "isn't this just dividing the community?", etc.

i swear, every time even the term comes up (not even as THE point of discussion, just at all), at least one transmasc shows up to lecture me about how it's a bad term. it's such "pick me" behavior.

i ask you why other transmascs need to do this, but we know it's some mixture of self-hatred ingrained by having being in some kind of close proximity to manhood, internalized transphobia, and feeling the need to be "one of the good ones" squabbling for approval.

the 2010s feminism movement of target brand mugs saying "Male Tears" and the insistence that using broad violent statements is okay if it's "punching up" really poisoned the conversation. transmascs shouldn't feel so defensive of proving their masculinity is "good" by preventing transmascs from organizing and acknowledging our specific issues.

not sure what i'm even asking anymore. feeling kind of disheartened and frustrated for feeling like i have controversial opinions when i say that *shuffles notes* transmascs are affected by specific societal oppression and pretending otherwise is naive at best and an act of violence at worst.

I hear you. And I think that like... while it is frustrating, to be constantly undermined by people who are clearly just doing it because they think it's some kind of "redemption", I also tend to feel more heartbroken than anything else.

Like, I know how they feel. I was around for shitty 2010's feminism; I was pretty deep in the movement, in fact. I internalized a lot of those ideas, and they're exactly what kept me from realizing I was trans for so long.

When I finally started to realize I was more on the masc side of things, I still had enough hangups that I started a sideblog (that nobody knows about. and still won't!) just to reblog stuff that I felt represented "acceptable" masculinity. The concept was so novel to me that I legitimately felt I needed an archive of "proof" that masculinity could be "ethical".

And I've kinda ridden with this current movement toward acknowledging transmasc oppression. I saw others start talking about it before me, and eventually felt emboldened enough by them to join in; mostly just kind of nudging at the boundaries, suggesting that we consider transmascs are also oppressed, and that maybe we should make sure our trans-specific spaces and resources, and things like domestic violence shelters, include them.

I watched that guarded, hesitant seed start to sprout and grow, and I grew with it. I think my early posts really reflect this; I'm pretty sure my most popular post is still, to this day, the one that essentially just points out that men AND women can have a toxic relationship with masculinity and femininity. Another early banger was "testosterone doesn't make you evil".

Y'know, shit feminists were saying in the 2010's.

I feel like I see a lot of transmascs today kind of forgetting this, idk, three years of "history" (generously). Like we've always had a community ready to support us when we say these things; spaces where we can talk about them without having to constantly remind everyone that we do, in fact, believe transmisogyny is real and that it needs more attention than it currently receives. Because we can take for granted that others believe this, and trust that we do as well.

And that's encouraging! It means we have a community now that- to my knowledge- we have never had before, and it means we're finally getting somewhere after decades of isolation and shame.

But it's also kind of sad, I think, that folks so quickly forget what it was like before this. And it is frustrating that we grew and they didn't, and it is frustrating that they seem to be choosing shame and isolation.

And... they're there for the same reasons we once were. In a lot of ways, that means we are uniquely positioned to offer them a bit of compassion. It doesn't mean we have to, or that it'll always be successful, but it does mean that we can.

I also think that like, it's barely been three years, y'know? Not everyone's looped in yet, and not everyone's in a place where they feel safe and supported enough to even begin to consider these ideas more seriously. There will always be people who act this way (Blaire White & Kalvin Garrah are living proof), but the growth of our community and our movement means we'll start to see it less as time goes on.

This isn't really a solution, or an answer, and you probably know all this anyway. But idk. I think perspective is important.

[aromanticannibal]

Transfem Katsuki (edited as of Nov. 2023. Katsuki hadn't died yet when this was written so bear with me.)

In honor of "fuck I thought about transfem Katsuki and now I'm in love with her again" and also because of a shitty discourse post I saw. Enjoy.

She will NOT figure it out until at least second year of UA.

She's always been uneasy about the whole boy thing. Specifically boy. Like she's one of the guys ok sure but she's not a boy.

We know how kind Aldera is to anyone who's slightly out of the norm (ie Deku) and Katsuki is especially aware given she was part of the problem. So yeah, internalized transphobia (+homophobia) we love to see it./s

Getting into UA and quickly realizing that like more than half the class is openly and proudly queer in some way gave her whiplash, and as much of a bully as she still was at this point, she didn't say anything.

She tried to convince herself it was to not get in trouble and gamble her place at UA, but really she was just glad to not be somewhere as fucked as her middle school.

And if the trans ponytail chick makes her question who she really wants to be... well that's nobody's business.

As I am very subtly implying, Momo ends up being a big part of Katsuki accepting herself and her identity as a trans woman.

Katsuki loves her friend group (she'll never admit it but she does, so much) but she associates them with her old group from Aldera somewhat unconsciously, and is terrified they'll push her away, even if she knows she's just. Straight up wrong.

As in, so incredibly wrong. Sero and Jirou are non binary ("Whatever the hell that means") Kirishima is a proud trans man ("More of a man than any of the cretins at Aldera will ever be") Mina's dating a trans girl from another school ("Camie Utsushit or smth") and Kaminari is so many different flavors of queer its almost impressive.

Really, her friends are probably the ones that should be worried, she tries to remind herself, hammering it in her head. Katsuki was an asshole for most of her life, they should be the ones scared of her. They're not though. For some fuckin' reason.

So yeah, talking to her friend group is out of the question. Momo though.

Momo is a special kind of trustworthy. Momo is the kind of person you'd give your entire life savings, your child, your car and your wife to. Katsuki hates that, she hates trusting people, it always ends badly, so she prefers doing stuff on her own.

Except it doesn't always end badly. Especially not with Yaomomo.

Every early saturday morning, Katsuki's and Momo's workout sessions happen at the same time. Eventually, they start talking during that time. Katsuki eventually asks about Momo being trans, more or less convinced she'll tell her to go fuck herself (she obviously doesn't).

It helps, despite the fact that her experience isn't the same as Katsuki's at all. Momo always knew she was a girl, her parents always were supportive about it, and money really wasn't a problem to help her transition once she was old enough to make that decision. Hell, she can literally make estrogen.

Katsuki then comes to the realization that yeah, she's probably a girl. Not like I'll ever do shit about it, she thinks.

Things kinda stay stagnant for a time then. Katsuki has way more important stuff to worry about (like exams and also her and her friends almost dying etc etc) and the self-hatred that simmers in her head constantly doesn't make it really fun to actually think about herself.

Second year comes around.

Because this is me, and my blog, and I do what I want, I present to you my son, Shinsou. Most trans guygirl t4t lesbian of all time. In my heart.

So Shinsou is very trans in the most mysterious way you could think of, so mysterious he himself doesn't really know what is going on with his gender. He doesn't exactly care, he just vibes (any pronouns).

They're pretty knowledgeable on queer stuff because it loves to read wikipedia pages until 5AM when it can't sleep and got lost on multiple LGBTQ+ related forums when she was 13. (He also knows a lot about chickens and lizards.)

She can just breathe the queer coming out of Katsuki, but when they ask they're just met with "oh Bakugou? Yeah no, he's cishet. Our token straight man. To prove we're diverse, etc." (-Shouji, entirely serious). Shinsou's not buying it but she doesn't like assuming, so he shuts up.

Meanwhile, Katsuki has nothing to think about anymore now that things have settled and she's not getting attacked by her self-hatred constantly, so she unfortunately ends up thinking about her gender (truly tragic. Genuinely though, it's almost distressing because she pushed the thought down for so long that it's scary to think about).

Because early mornings and nights are a time outside of our world, it's again around 5AM that Katsuki talks to someone who might help her with her gender problem. Shinsou in fact, who's of course awake on a Monday morning after a sleepless night, eating cereal out of the box.

Katsuki finds herself chatting with the weirdo and eventually asks what the fuck kinda gender it is, if only to be able to call her something else than the weirdo in her head.

The realization that gender is a construct and doesn't really fucking exist so it doesn't actually matter is somewhat of an epiphany for Katsuki. Like she's silent for multiple minutes. Shinsou is getting scared

Quietly, she mutters a small "I think I'm a girl" to Shinsou. It smiles and says "Nice. There's not enough girls in this class." and goes back to its cereal.

Katsuki has no fucking idea how that fucker exists. He's an anomaly in the timeline. Katsuki adores them.

(Platonically. Girl doesn't have time for romantic love. Yes I'm also making her aromantic, because aro Katsuki is the loml and one of my fave hcs.)

After that weird but insightful conversation, Katsuki finally asks Momo for help, taking her up on an offer she had made one morning. ("If you ever need my help for anything concerning [your gender bullshit], come see me.")

Momo being the absolute QUEEN that she is, she assembles all transgirls and cisgirls of the class + whoever else would like to join (which ends up being Jirou, Shinsou and Aoyama) and they all go on a shopping trip with Katsuki to help her figure out what she likes.

Does she want to wear makeup? Does she want feminine clothes? Or long hair? Does she want boobs? Or thinner traits?

Does she just want different pronouns and to be addressed viewed as a girl?

Mina shortens that as "What kinda girl is Katsuki".

I'll do you the answer here so this doesn't take forever, because the process of figuring it out must be long.

Mainly, the verdict will eventually be that Katsuki didn't really feel comfortable in the box she, her parents and Aldera put her in, which is a sort of vague idea of a Boy, Man, Son. She's mean and a bitch and probably a tomboy and she's a girl. That's all. She doesn't want of any of that flowery pink crap and being "gracefully feminine" like Momo is, she'll still kick your teeth in. Being a girl isn't fundamentally part of her identity or her personality, but it's who she's comfortable being.

She does enjoy skirts once she feels comfortable enough to wear them. She grows her hair a bit too (because she doesn't wanna look like her mother at first, but she ends up liking the look) and puts it up in a ponytail.

Makeup is a bitch but it looks cool, so she lets Mina, Aoyama and Shinsou use her face as a canevas for their weird makeup experiments. She thinks she looks like a clown half the time though (she doesn't, she's really cute). She mostly does eyeliner, which she already knew how to do before starting her transition, and very rarely lipgloss.

She doesn't really care about having breasts or softer traits, mainly because her traits are already pretty androgynous when she looks at herself, and she's already got big pecs so like. Basically tits. It's the same, it doesn't really matter. She's happy with how her body looks, she worked to have a healthy body and she doesn't care if it's "not a woman's body" or whatever the fuck. She likes how her body is and she doesn't really care about changing it.

She thinks of using she/they (like Jirou) but doesn't exactly care about they/them? Like they're not bad to have used on her (way better than he/him) but she prefers just using she/her.

She doesn't change her first name. It means victory, so it's already perfect for her. It's her name.

Some of her friends (the ones who aren't scared of death cough cough Shinsou) call her Katsuki-chan (Kacchan is copyrighted) but most her friends call her Kats', because she let slip one time she thinks it's cute.

To end this because good lord I've been typing for some time, here's my Transfem Bakugou pinterest board. I actually have a bunch of transfem characters pinterest boards lmao

Also realizing I almost didn't talk about Izuku. Damn I've really betrayed myself as a bkdk truther. Rip.

[i-write-boop-spoops]

Guzma with a transitioning S/O headcanons

Thank you so much for the request (u know who u are :) ) Hope you like it!

I hopefully kept it vague enough to work for all kinds of transitiom.

warning: non-descript mentions of transphobia

disclaimer: i am not trans so if i have gotten anything wrong or misrepresented something, please don't be afraid to reach out and let me know :)

SO

Guzma, well…

He’s not the most knowledgeable about being trans

Bit unaware of a lot of the terminology and discourse

"Pronouns? Like on and in and beside and shit?"

"A binder, you mean like, for school??"

However that doesn’t mean he ain’t an ally!

Plus there are defo trans grunts in team skull

Only natural, since it's full of misfits seeking a new, more accepting home

So he's already supported others with their transition

He is very much supportive of you! 

After all, you’re his boo - no matter what!

You were nervous when you came out to him

It can take a lot of courage and emotion to come out, having him react so receptively - it was such a relief

Do NOT listen to Guzma when it comes to choosing a name (if you're changing yours)

They will all somehow be super edgy or bug-related

In other words, very cringey

Actually something like Spyder would be pretty dope ngl

If you're transitioning to something more masculine/androgynous, Guzma can really help you out there

After all, he's a pretty masculine guy, basically came out of the womb that way, so he's happy to take you under his wing and lend you his stuff to make your transition easier

do you really want his 7-in-1 body wash and Haxorus body spray though??

If you're leaning more towards a feminine identity, he'll do his best to help, but Plumes is the one who'll guide you!

Acting like a big sister and all!

You need a new wardrobe?

Boy’s got you covered!

He doesn’t have a lot of money, but he’s trying his best

So it’s mostly second-hand places

And maybe some of the grunts use their five-finger-discount to sneak you some stuff

You try discourage that... but they don't listen lol

It's for a good cause, okay?

Guzma'll try direct you to the sluttiest outfits 

He’s shameless, what can I say?

That being said, it's your body, it's your choice in how you present yourself, so he won't push too much

But still, it's nice to know that he still thinks you're hot AF

Also, the grunts are a crafty bunch, so your clothes can be altered too!

Leave it to Plumes to deal with your hair

Even get you some wigs if you're looking for longer hair

You know team skull is at pride every year

Guzma's obviously there too, and if you're ready for it, he'll proudly show you off!

ANYONE

And I mean anyone

Who misgenders you

Or is just flat gross to you

Is either

a. Bout to be sent home to their mama’s by his troop of fearsome insects

b. Attending an impromptu meeting with his fist

He will not stand for transphobia  at all

But towards you? - the bigot is straight up FUCKED

Knowing you have big bad Guzma on your side, makes everything easier

He loves you - he’ll protect you no matter what

In the unfortunate event that your family isn't supportive

You know you've got a loving, supportive (if a bit choatic) home over in Po Town

[ghost-whump]

For the Spotify Wrapped ask game - 16! <3

For @writereleaserepeat’s Whumpify Wrapped askgame!

#16. Standing in the Rain - Billy Talent

CW: sexual harassment, past teacher/student relationship, manipulation, mistreatment of sex workers, transphobia-adjacent?, victim blaming, depression, implied drug use, let me know if i’m missing anything!

It started so small.

So small.

Staying after class on Fridays, not to be tutored, just to talk. I think you’re interesting, kid.

Exchanging dark polaroids of questionable taste just not to fail. You trust me with this, don’t you?

Kneeling under a desk while the older man graded homework all the other students did. A+ job down there, kid.

Maybe that’s what started it. All meticulously designed to lead down this path. Just because some science teacher thought he was cute.

Not all of it was bad. Dr. Whumper was kind of hot anyway. And it definitely could have been worse. He could have forced it on him. He could have blackmailed him. Dr. Whumper could have hit and abused him. But he didn’t.

It was Whumpee who came to him. It was Whumpee who offered the arrangement in the first place. It may have been Dr. Whumper who buttered him up and carefully wooed him, but Whumpee could have stopped it.

Casual hookups with Dr. Whumper turned quickly into a scandal in their small town. Empty beer cans lobbed off the back of pick-ups, rocks chipped off sidewalks, and anything else teenage boys could find became a permanent obstacle to be dodged. Pinned against brick walls, TEACHER’S PET WHORE scribbled on his forehead by teenagers he’d never met.

Girls ignored him, boys tormented him, parents hates him, and teachers punished him.

Then one day, the morning after his mother screamed at him for nearly the whole night, he ran away.

January 13th, 1983. The day it ended. His new birthday as well, he’d soon decided.

It was hard for a 15-year-old to survive on his own—he’d known that from the start. But it was laughably easy how many men offered to drive him a few miles in exchange for a quick “payment,” as many liked to call it.

The big city was easier. A new name and casual confidence among the locals became a necessity if he didn’t want to get caught. Sex sold less there, and somehow more at the same time. He could sidle up on anyone and drag them in, but many brushed him off. Typical street-walker, one had called him.

He made his debut in the alleyways and backstreets, mingling with the local prostitutes and semi-frequent addicts. They taught him how to pick up Johns like a pro, always get paid, and never get caught. Invaluable knowledge it seemed, in the line of worked he found himself in.

Dirty needles and tight, red skirts lined his new path. Lost in the high of heroin, LSD, or anything else he could find, things got easy. Yet none of his friends— his new family —understood. Even the older workers looked down at him with pity.

Some let him sleep on their couches, helped him forage, showed him children’s hostels, but it never stayed for long. He’d return to the streets eventually.

Time passed quicker by the day. Soon a few months turned to a year and still, no one had come looking for him. He looked somewhat believably 18 now, a large selling point for him at least.

Old enough to be legal, young enough to be fun.

Then he turned 18 for real a while later. Not much changed. He’d donned a mask of innocence for so many years, it never really wore off. Playing on the bimbo-esque naïvety of his looks reeled in yet more and more clients, he’d never changed the game.

But soon that stopped working. Once he’d started growing hair in strange places and his eyes hollowed of their shine, it didn’t work. A rube, a fake, an act— it wore off.

Bruised feet forced into too-small heels click-click-clicked down the sidewalk, he’d lean over into big cars and bat his lashes. A little man inside, usually some big-shot business man faker than he was, would greet him. Some yelled at him to get in, others were respectful and asked his prices. None saw him as more than an object.

As the years drew on, he’d dread the hum of an engine slowing as it passed. Their eyes would twinkle as they caught him, ensnared him like a fish on a hook, and even though he hated it… at least they still wanted him.

He guessed he did too.

A/N: woah i didn’t expect to write this much!!! i just got carried away and kept going lmao. thanks so much for the ask, i really enjoyed writing this <3

General Tag: @morning-star-whump

[faiell]

hello, nice to meet you!

i'm back at the top after rambeling about how i got into drarry, and so here is the fic rec: "genesis (you don't know what it means to win)" by crossourbridges on ao3. you don't have to read the rest if you don't want to.

i also got into drarry 20 years late, but let me tell you another secret: i've never read a page of a harry potter book in my life.

all my knowledge about it is from a friend that i like to listen to her obseasions and pick the ones i wanna get into (while i still enjoy hearing about the ones i don't). one time though she sat me down and we watched the movies, like 1-5 and i got bored at some point so we left it, but one thing that stayed with me was the character of draco.

i saw a sad, hhhhorney loser who just craves attention from EVERYONE, every gender, every house, the poor dude just needs to get layed, but without knowing the canon i'm pretty sure he never will.

that was a couple of years ago, and recently i suddenly remembered him bc i noticed i enjoy ships that are "a harmless prick loser and the misfourtunate everyman that the prick fell in love with, who is actually just insane enough himself to slowly but surly love the prick back".

and so i was like "i'm sure draco and harry are a ship. i wonder what their fanfics are like" and now for weeks i've been in this rabbithole of PROFOUND SHIT THAT MADE ME BELIEVE IN LOVE FOR A HOT SECOND, so yea. this is the reason i'm reccomending you this one. it's one of those stories that are the perfect length and much too short at the same time.

i hope you enjoy :)

first off, thank you so much for the fic rec! i will definitely check it out.

the journey of you becoming a drarry fan is a hilarious read, i'm so happy you shared it with me! hats off to you for being that friend who enjoys hearing about others' obsessions. we need more like you in the world. it's amazing that you absorbed just enough from her all those years ago to have the instinct to say AHA!! i bet people love making these two losers kiss! and u were right.

my turn! let me ramble (for even longer than you did) abt how i happened to the same drarry pit of "profound shit that made me believe in love for a hot second" with you. so on the contrary, i've always been a big HP fan, in the sense that i grew up with the book series and watched the movies. the books are why i became a big reader when i was a kid. i've always been a shipper, i always knew drarry existed, and many of my close friends were obsessed with it throughout the years--like losing weight because they were reading so much fic in bed their muscles atrophied kind of obsessiveness. for some reason, i never engaged. i was like yeah, obviously there's good stuff there, but i'm just not going to dip in.

then one day a few months ago (oct 2023 to be exact), i was bored at work and saw a thread on my home page titled something along the lines of 'absolute favourite fic regardless of fandom'. i was curious and maybe just itching for something fun to read so i clicked in and a highly upvoted reply caught my eye. the user's fav fic was the HP rewrite Mirror of Ecidyrue series by starbrigid. i was honestly really bored, and a draco POV retelling sounded fun, so i dove straight in.

i loved it, and holy shit it was long. i think the entire fic is longer than the og books? but yeah basically i rly enjoyed it, and i read it fast, finishing in only a week or so. i think ever since the transphobia bs happened i distanced myself from everything related to the franchise--i used to reread the books every few years, and i had stopped doing that. reading that fic made me realize how much i missed the world and characters, and how i could have it all again without shame by reading fic! i mean, starbrigid had basically rewritten the entire series and added their own interesting lore and worldbuilding, and that was even better than going back to reread the books like i used to. i also really enjoyed draco pov… i knew i definitely wanted more of that.

and so i went into the ao3 drarry tag to find more content, because i'd heard years ago from my obsessed friends that there was a goldmine of good HP fic there, and i never resurfaced lol. i feel like once u go in u can't ever get out cause it's a good ship and the writers are so talented, and there's YEARS, decades of content to catch up on. i remember also thinking that i'd be satisfied just reading and eating it all up (whereas i'm usually pretty active in making fanart when i join a fandom), but um, a few weeks ago i was like kinda like hmm i wanna see what MY brand of drarry looks like. so now im here posting art of it!

they are thankfully super fun to draw. i'm just having fun here, but i do have a small goal - i wanna draw fic fanart to sort of… give back some joy and show gratitude towards my fav writers. other than that, i'm here to chill and look at pictures and words of them making out.

[tigergirlpaya]

Hurt(?)/comfort nonbinary/transfem!Darry and gay!pony queer solidarity hcs bc I want to be self indulgent.

TW for transphobia and homophobia (not overtly mentioned)

• Darry feels completely disconnected from the world around her and is incapable of relating to most others experiences

• she’s never met someone who feels like her because she feels as though she can’t talk to anyone about how she feels and perceives things

• even though she doesn’t understand the gender binary at all she still does her best to uphold it out of fear of further alienation from her peers

• despite all of this she identifies with more feminine things and only doesn’t indulge in them bc of prev.

Ex: she would prefer people use she/her pronouns for her, she would like to put on makeup and be able to wear it outside (bc she already puts it on in private) and dress more feminine (she has long skirts and blouses she adores but just can’t wear)

• one day a few years after canon she catches Pony making out w a boy in his bedroom

• the two of them spend weeks pretending it didn’t happen and while Pony is thankful that Darry isn’t kicking him out or anything there is an obvious tension in the air

• to pony this tension is Darrys silent disapproval but to Darry it’s the knowledge that she’s not entirely alone in her existence

• it takes weeks but eventually she feels comfortable enough to talk to Pony

• she decides to do it in the most overt way she can so that the bandaid can just be ripped off. She waits until she knows no one will be at the house but her and Pony

• she tells him she needs to talk to him and for him to be ready in an hour

• the hour she spends putting on makeup and picking out what she thinks is her best outfit is one of the most horrifying of her life but she pushes forward, knowing that if she can finally no longer be alone it’ll all be worth it

• she’s finally done, she peaks out her bedroom door into the living room and sees Pony, sitting looking away from the door, his back completely straight, with a slight tremble to his figure

• opening the door all the way Pony doesn’t turn to look at her. The tension in the room rises to almost unbearable levels. So she walks in front of him.

• as soon as he sees her all tension leaves the room and he bursts into tears.

• Darry is shocked but quickly reacts doing her best to comfort pony even though these types of situations make her unbearably uncomfortable.

• Once pony finally calms down they talk, a lot

• she reveals that the tension Pony had been feeling in the weeks leading up to Darry’s coming out was just her trying to figure out the best way to do it

• it’s the seventies and Darry is completely disconnected from the queer community and so she has no way of putting words to how she feels other then that she doesn’t feel any genuine connection to masculinity but she doesn’t want to be a woman either she just wants to be herself

• Pony kind of understand but not completely, but that’s okay bc they love each other despite their differences, insecurity’s and quirks

• Darry tells Pony that she’d love to meet his boyfriend, and Pony does his best to use Darry’s preferred pronouns when they’re alone and even uses his own limited knowledge of the local queer community to help Darry find people she can better relate to

[fantastic-mr-corvid]

1, 4 and 19 for Celia and Cecio (and if you think anyone else would be fun to answer!)

ooh tyyy! exelent questions [this got longgg. warning for mentions of Conficcare & Ramettos homophobic & transphobic mum]

1, What memory would your OC rather just forget?

Celia:

Hmm. this ones hard, memories tend to be integral to Celia- the good the bad and the ugly, and are so often nessasery to her & her knowledge of other people that she wouldn't want to forget them for fear of losing understanding. the things that have caused her the most pain to remember are also memories she needs to remember, needs to be aware of the pain.

there are too many memories of her friends faces grieving her actions to count, but she needs to remember them all to remember the consequences of her choices. It hurts deep inside every time she failed Cecio, every time she hurt him, but she needs to remember to learn. she hates remembering who her mother was in the least few months of her life, no longer able to act strong for her children, but Celia would never lose a second of memory of her mother just to ease that pain.

the things Celia would rather forget, memories she deems unnecessary, are so stretched out over time an in so many little pieces that no one memory would rid her of the pain.

Cecio:

There's too many to count. like Celia, he would not get rid of the precious memories he has of his mother, but hes not as cautious with her about needing to remember the lessons learned from his worst mistakes and life moments. still, he spends enough time obscuring those memories.

the moment he would be most tempted to forget would be the look on Celia's face when he threw away his chance at a future. the moment[s] he most often wishes he could erase from his memory were all the times he believed in the good of the world.

sometimes, after Celia is dead and buried, he wishes he could forget everything, or even just kill his emotions, so he wouldn't feel so beholden to Rametto and Amelia and their futures & successes, wishes he could take the money and run instead of watching these kids [and oh god his sister and her friends were just kids] take what Celia spent her whole life building and working towards and being better than her.

but at the same time he knows he would hate himself, that for all it hurts he loves seeing these brats [only three years younger than him] continue and surpass his sister, using what she gave them, and reaching new heights with how they make it their own.

Conficcare:

Conficcare wishes he could forget one night when he was very young, dangerously ill with a fever, and his mum sung all though the night to try and calm him, and in between told him how she wished he would grow up and have the freedom and security to be whoever he wanted to be.

His mother is deeply homophobic & transphobic and he hates this memory for humanizing her to him, and for her hypocrisy. he knows deep down shes scared of how differences are treated and how hard it is to be different, and is uneducated, but for all he can personally resent her for how she tried to dissuade him from being queer 'for his own good, think of what the neighbors would say about our family' he cannot forgive her for how she was starting to say the same things to a young Rametto- and for all Rametto hates Conficcare from taking them away from the rest of the family and minimizing their contact with their own mother- Conficcare was ultimately proven right when Rametto reached out behind their brothers back and was greeted with nothing but vile transphobia and bigotry from their mother.

he hates that it happened, even as he knows Rametto deserved to make his own choice, and even more he hates that he understands his mother and her motivations- or at least how she justified it to herself- and wishes he could just see her a a miserable old bigoted bitch and not a complicated person

Those got long! quickfire round!

4, When scared, does your OC fight, flee, freeze or fawn?

Celia: changed over time, freeze then fawn then fight. now its back to freeze but in a cooler more mature way [totally] [well more of a right lets calculate exactly what i can do]

Cecio: Fawn. suck up that he is. though try as he might to fawn his instinctive reaction is to fight but hes managed to change it

19, How does your OC behave when enraged?

Celia: so Celia gets scarily calm then lashes out really quickly. she just goes still, speaks very noticeable carefully, then some line is crossed and faster than you can blink shes punched/kicked someone. effectively she thinks out all her options then acts, going from 0 to 100 almost instantly

Cecio: he has a massive temper- its at odds with his charming act but anger is the emotion hes the worst at processing

[luckyladylily]

honestly im with you here. i think that mangaka is just clearly working things out and isn't making any sweeping generalizations about trans people, just talking about their own experience in language that some people might not agree with (personally I just read the afterword and it looks fine to me), and it feels a bit harsh to bash on them when they're just trying to navigate these hard confusing feelings

I mean this isn't really a discussion in the real world, this is one of the most Tumblr things I've ever seen. Demily is a trans woman who got to transition young and in one of the most supportive countries in the world and has had a near perfect transition and grew up on Tumblr learning about trans issues and the correct way to speak about them. Of course she doesn't understand what many trans people have gone through. I mean, she responded by saying something about "having the guts to go through with it", as if transitioning is merely a matter of personal courage. The fact that she can even say that shows an astounding level of ignorance of the trans community outside of her own experience. She is essentially accusing this guy of transphobia but wow, maybe look in the mirror.

And yeah, the part she posted as an example of what she had a problem with absolutely isn't a problem, which you think it would be if she is trying to highlight what she considers bad behavior? You would think that she would highlight a particularly egregious part, but... no, not at all. they even specify in that part how it is their own experience using words like "my", "me", "I", "myself" and such. It is really hard to see sweeping generalizations in statements where the author so consistently and repeatedly refers to themselves.

But even if they were like she said, that's how a lot of pre transition people think. Like I said, they have not sorted it all out yet. Are we really in the business of insulting people trying to work towards a better understanding of their own pain because their words were not politically correct enough in expressing that pain? Is that what is important here?

Honestly I think she read it, it made her feel shitty and dysphoric and she lashed out and said something ignorant. She saw something that made her feel bad or angry and she assumed then that the thing was bad. It's an easy mistake to make, it was just a particularly unfortunate case.

Now the other thing that someone else, not demily, responded to that was that this kind of questioning should not be done publicly because it might make others feel bad. *That* is an astoundingly ignorant and transphobic thing to say. This is the kind of shit that gets you kicked out of real world trans groups and the only reason it flies here is because trans tumblr is extremely warped.

On the individual level, how are people supposed to get help if they always bottle up these feelings? People will say seek help in private, but that alone betrays an incredible level of ignorance and advantage that they think help is so easily found. No to mention, how are these people supposed to know that what they are saying is wrong if they don't understand and have the issue sorted out in their head? It's putting the cart before the horse in an incredibly stupid and obvious way. It is a special kind of trans issue ignorance, where young people who have had so many resources and advantages when it comes to knowledge simply cannot fathom that others didn't have those advantages, and it is rampant among young tumblr trans people. It is victim blaming, condemning the trans victim of a society or environment that censors trans related information for not knowing that information. It is ignorant and transphobic to hold trans people to an impossible standard when talking about their own feelings.

Second, the real argument they make here is that this stuff existing in public is a disinformation hazard for trans people. As if a single drop of the voice of a trans person talking about their own pain could ever make a difference in the ocean of anti trans everything drowning our society. It's insignificant at worst in the face of everything else in society, and this is what we as a trans community are here for! To educate, spread the information, make sure others can see what is real past all the propaganda. Adding a drop to the ocean wont matter, and I still don't concede that people expressing their pain in this way are doing so.

I'm not even going to entertain the statement that it is disrespectful to trans women who have already transitioned. That's just nonsense.

Finally, on the community level, there is a ton of value in these feelings put out there uncensored, less than ideal language intact, is because there are many other trans people right now who feel the same way but think they are the only one. They don't identify with the common stated trans experience of "I always knew" or "I felt something was wrong since I was a child". Trans experiences differ wildly and censoring one of the types of trans experiences because we find the language unpleasant is inexcusable.

Not to mention the historical value of having this kind of trans experience laid out so plainly and in such an enduring form.

The whole thing is just extremely online nonsense and highlights how ignorant a trans person can be of trans issues outside of their own frame of reference.

[bittersweetblasphemy]

hey sorry you're sick bud. what's your oc with the most tragic backstory? vs an oc with a relatively chill past?

the most tragic? woof that's a tough one. and i'm gonna use it as an opportunity to infodump about a lot of OCs lol

most of my characters have at least some level of trauma. i mean just going through my works (and not touching reader characters):

your First Mate in LLTQ comes from a species known for stealing people away to use as brood queens and where said Queens are usually not consenting, then was sent off to perpetuate that same cycle completely alone for the first time in his life. one has to wonder what he went through to decide your consent actually mattered to him.

Hulo was once a human man whose literal humanity was slowly stripped from his soul and eaten over the course of decades

David's no-contact with his family. mom was neglectful from the beginning and cares more about his half-siblings than him. step-dad is some ex-military jackoff who thinks he's a loser who will never amount to anything. doesn't have many memories of his bio dad who just up and left when he was three

Brizeth and Colovan i won't say much about bc i'm actually going to talk about this in the next chapter for B&D. what i will say is that their childhood was fucked up but also a completely normal childhood for demons like them, so is it really that tragic? 🤔 (and bc im sure people's minds are going there, no, there is no CSA involved despite them being concubi)

Adrian is a fallen angel whose anger got his wings ripped off

Hector watched his first love die

Malak is the bastard child of a palace concubine who very conveniently isn't around anymore so you do the math

Tuq left his herd to live completely on his own due to rampant transphobia

Sasha got his scars from attempted murder via arson by homophobic wannabe monster hunters who were hoping to kill him and Theodore

Viktor's big sister, who he looked up to, was killed by a werewolf hunter

the imps in QR paint a pretty clear picture of the hell (literally and figuratively) they'd lived through before being taken in by Horace

where do i even start with Arro? [1][2][3][4]

but ultimately if i had to pick, i think i'd pick Gage. they were kidnapped and sold into forced sex work where all of their memories of their prior life were completely wiped, effectively factory reset, and they frequently deal with trauma by just erasing memories they can't handle. this includes deleting any knowledge of entire people and friendships because they were either killed or committed suicide, and Gage would rather forget than deal with the pain of missing them.

and while they may not have those direct traumatic memories haunting them, they're perfectly aware of the gaps in their memory and what they mean, which just strikes me as particularly sad.

Chill backstories? I mean,

Willow had a normal childhood and learned her love of gardening from her mom and dad, who she has a good relationship with

Marius came from a decently well off family and just liked having sex enough to make a profession of it

Ahlex grew up in a world with UBI, Universal Healthcare, and where there's always plenty of food and fresh water to go around, so despite being raised by his single disabled mother, he had a pretty easy time growing up

Marble and Button were childhood friends that fell in love as they got older

ignoring the tragedy that led to his current position as Malak's guard, Bic had a great childhood and was being mentored to be a clan storyteller, which is a very highly respected position in goblin clan hierarchy

Nina lived a comfortable life with her mother and father, who taught her the art of monster hunting and also impressed upon her the importance of the honor code she still lives by.

anyone else who i haven't listed either has their chill backstories at least alluded to in their fic (like Melia), or i just haven't given them a backstory yet