#but it's not impossible!!!

[canongf]

Whenever I try to join the selfship community I find it so hard because it feels that almost Everyone already know each other plus whenever I try to ask people about their ships they are really happy to do so but no one does the same for me, and I also feel like no one cares about my ship compared to the ones that their friends have which makes sense but it’s so demoralizing and at this point I’d rather just celebrate my ships on my own rather because even promo posts don’t work 😔 the community is supposed to be friendly and accepting to others and filled with close bonds that anyone can have but i can’t find the same experience for me :’)

i'm sorry that your experience hasn't been what you hoped it'd be!!!

finding your place can be hard sometimes. it can take a while. it can be disappointing and discouraging. but it won't always be that way!!! you can still find your place!!!

even if it feels like everyone already knows each other, they can still know you too.

something that can be helpful is to start sorta small. it is completely understandable to look at the community as a whole and want support from the community as a whole, but the community is really just a lot of very different people and a lot of very different friends! and because everyone's so different, it can end up being a wide search. so try to start small! start with one friend!

"but liv, making one friend isn't working." making friends isn't always a quick and easy thing, and maybe it isn't working right now! but it doesn't mean it'll never work! sending asks about ships is a great way to start, you're doing great! and i know it sucks when you show interest and that interest isn't returned, and i know it makes you not want to ever do it again. but sometimes it's really, really worth it. sometimes you just gotta keep trying.

sometimes it takes several asks or interactions from someone for me to realize "oh! hey! i like them and want to talk to them!" and it's not because i don't care, it's just because sometimes i'm in my head and it doesn't occur to me! sometimes people have stuff goin' on and they don't think about it. sometimes people forget, sometimes people are overwhelmed, sometimes people are scared. but i know that you're not alone in this feeling, i know there are people that feel like they're on the outside looking in too. so i know that there are people you will connect with when you find each other.

and then! when you start small! it can be easier to make another friend, and another friend, and another friend. you'll get to know them and they'll get to know you. you'll talk about ships. and slowly but surely you'll be able to find your own little circle in the self shipping circle.

be patient with yourself. it's okay to get upset, it's okay to feel disappointed and discouraged, it's okay to feel lonely. it's not a failure on anybody's part and it doesn't mean you're unwanted. it happens sometimes. it's okay if you need to take breaks. and while you're finding your place, try not to lose the reason you fell in love with self shipping in the first place. there is nothing wrong with wanting a community, wanting friends, wanting validation, just try not to let the search for it take away all your happiness!!!

[copepods]

crazy how 4 hours of work will literally take up my entire 15+ hour day. who allowed this

[daily-crabbys]

This Friday's meme is: the perfect being

[cruelnemothesis]

[areawest]

[catmask]

when u go to write a mentally ill person in ur story you are presented two options. the first option is to write your mental illness realistically as you actually experience it with all the ups and downs and people who are like you will resonate with it and feel seen. except every person who reads instagram infographics on mental health that uses the phrase narcicisst for anyone who does anything that crosses them and unironically call themself a dark empath will call you scary and tell you that youre demonizing mentally ill people

the second option is to lie and write inspiration porn for those people to get hard to

[apassingbird]

when i say i wish people started using the reblog button more i don't mean it in a 'i want more notes' kind of way i mean it in a 'i want to read about your thoughts on this particular thing' and 'i want to have conversations in the tags' and 'i want this to feel like a community again and not like any of those boring social media platforms where artists are content creators and interactions never goes beyond a like'

[los-plantalones]

reblog to share some mint with your followers. just don't let it escape containment, okay?

Edit as if 6/17: Y’ALL FAILED ME

[bisclavaret]

a day late to my 6 years on t anniversary ✨🏳️‍⚧️ a short comic about looking back

[lazylittledragon]

more of karlach's coffee shop which isn't just an excuse to draw more shadowlach

[adjit]

I think we need to get more comfortable with the idea that sometimes shitty, racist, homophobic, bigoted people are still incredibly talented.

I feel like every time I see a post addressing someone’s shitty behavior the post also takes the time to mention that they’re not even good at [x] anyway. And that’s just not always true? Equating being good at a skill as being morally good is just not necessary. Someone can be a fantastic writer, can have a beautiful singing voice, can create breathtaking artwork, and still be a horrible person.

I know part of this is probably just the instinct to dislike everything about a person when you dislike them, but I also think this mindset leads to people defending creatives way past where they should, because if bad people create bad art, then if this person creates art that I like and resonates with me, then they can’t be a bad person!

And you know. That’s just not true. Those two things are simply completely unconnected and I think it’d be healthier if we all started disconnecting them in our heads.

[tioraidh-tux]

mfw the divorce is inevitable

[cryptocism]

"just as I did, in 1983."

you'd never know my favourite parts of the show are the fucked up insane bits when my first instinct is to draw the cheesiest thing imaginable

[petricorah]

continuing my trend of drawing sleeping zuko for my birthday [ids in alt]

bonus sketches below the cut bc i thought they were funny--

[emeryleewho]

People on here are always like "fuck capitalism, why can't things be weird anymore" and then write up a whole dissertation about how the biggest IPs need to change to be weirder.

Like, you are so close. You are so close to getting the point. "Big" IPs *can only exist because they are normal*. They will *never* be weird. They will *never* do what you want. Go find some smaller IPs. Bring back discovery. Bring back never having heard of a book before you buy it. Bring back watching obscure anime online that none of your friends know about. Bring back trying new things, even if they're bad or cheaply made. That is how you get *weird*.