#dad-isms

[sleazyjanet]

woe's hollow

[mrdaddyskool]

2 days before my 51st birthday.

As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God.~Psalm:42:1

As the deer penteth for the water, so my soul longeth after thee. David was seeking after the Lord, even though he was distressed and angry.

I came to know the Lord in 1994, when I was crying and catastrophising in an overseas training exercise. I asked that He helped me overcome a difficult period, and He did.

In work, I do have many situations of stress, but I had depended on my own strengths.

I had started to ask if I can have a girlfriend and wife, and I seeked my own while waiting. In 2002, He allowed me to have union with a lovely lady called Christyne. We went on to have 3 lovely children.

I had continued to study after ITE, as my elder sister helped me to appeal to polytechnic through mp. I was happily earning a meagre salary as a technician and was angry with my sister. However, in hindsight, she had helped me significantly as I begin to enjoy studying and become discipline. I later received my Diploma in Electrical Engineering, and soon after, got a Bachelor in Engineering Management. In 2012, I did a Postgraduate Diploma in Social Work. God had help me through many of my good and difficult periods in my studies, and relationships with peers and teachers.

My divorce in 2019 originated from work stress and negligent to my ex-wife needs. I was a workaholic, and have much fears and anxieties. Taking care of 3 children need financing, and work stress in student care and later social work took up time and energy, and me and ex-wife drifted apart.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

God helped me navigated the next 4 years, the consequences of negligent to my ex-wife emotional and psychological needs. I was an angry and negligent husband, and no excuses can sugarcoat the truth. It impacted my children, and I do regret how much it hurt them.

Nights of staying awake, drinking and feeling grief and guilt. God sent angels, through Edward, Simon, Bak Chim, Adrian and breathrens from Duranno Father School. My dad allowed me lodging, mum sent me daily text messages of love and encouragement. Social workers from Care Corner Ctr for Coparenting, ex-colleagues from Sheng Hong Fsc, especially my ex-supervisor, Ai Lin, and Yin Ying, regularly checked in on me. Church brothers Sien Moon and Matthew too call me regularly. God was there, in my darkest days, waiting for His wayward prodigal son to see the light.

Family theraphy talks about family definition, characteristics, and identified 4 major stressors in a family:

- Death

- Divorce

- Disease

- Disasters

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

~Psalm 46:1

After, during and after my divorce, God is always there. He did not leave me behind. He led me to read His word, fellowship with His people, hear His Psalms, proverbs and songs, see His creations of strengths of people who see hope, and find joy, love and mercy. Praise the Lord, oh my soul, worship His Holy name.He is my refuge and strength.

I pray that I will be faithful, not only in good times, but also in challenging times. May I be a good steward, and may many seek to hear His Gospel and truth. Semper fidelis.

[2oul2ilver]

I love Arven. Why does he talk like this xD

[dragons1re]

Started reading Witch Hat Atelier today. This is what I’ve got so far:

Is this anything??

[tboyquackity]

also cq and cfoosh are friends idegaf. they tried to take shit out for lnv5 but true oracles know he rocked work him? he helped when charlie was gooped and cq was one strong breeze away from dying all gross and bloody and greasy and he stayed around helping him. he met up w cdrm who asked him to sell cq out and he didn't? he knows the position cq is in bcs HE'S BEEN THAT GUY. he used to be someone who did a lot of bad shit and tried to change so why not extend that hand to someone who was changed into doing bad shit....does anyone care abt me

[fisheadz]

Answered a request for a SWTD + ISM crossover and, I’ve thought about it before, but not in much detail. And so, I present to you, the detail! (more or less :/):

The events of swtd would take place around the same time as the events of ism. Like, as Desmond’s in the CU, Caz is going through it on the rig.

They escape around the same time as well, with @milestonekestrel ‘s (so sorry for the @) Caz survives AU occurring in correspondence to the everybody lives AU. (If that’s alright of course :O)

Desmond goes back to working as a therapist, in part so he can help monitor the remaining effects of Agent Rainbow, as Lucas, Rosemary, and the rest of the gang do their own parts in helping everyone heal from the event (whether the people affected are aware or not).

The Caz survives AU happens as normal (though things might change depending on if the thing with Billy, Addair, Finlay, all that stuff, happens here). At one point, they end up in America (for whatever reason), in Washington, and, of course, Milton Haven.

Caz is still not doing so great, even with Suze’s (and maybe Billy’s) help, and so, after hearing about Dr. Wales from one of his other patients (in other words, one of the gang figuring out that something’s Not Right with the new guy in town and trying to send him Desmond’s way via his clearly worried partner), Suze gets Caz to give the man a call and see about scheduling an appointment.

And so, Caz ends up in Desmond’s office, and decides, what the hell right? Everybody in town already thinks he’s nuts so why not play into it? It’s not like there aren’t any weirdos in town already, like that lighthouse keeper who talks to shadows, or the girl with long hair who keeps staring at him, and getting mad when he stares back.

Caz tells Desmond everything, and I mean everything. That morning, in the canteen. Getting fired. The helipad, and the drill hitting something. Raffs in the bell, Finlay telling him about Gibbo, his brief encounter with the man, or what was left of him. He talks about the Infected, how they seemed to talk like themselves, knew things only they did, like Addair’s kids, or Trots’ lover on the mainland. He talks about all of it, expecting to be laughed out of the office, or sent away to some looney bin with all the other crazy people who rave on about the monsters of their friends, and colorful goop that twisted their vision, and seeing their dead friends in the corners of their eyes years afterwards.

What he didn’t expect, was a look of sympathy and understanding. For his therapist to call someone mid-session, and for that someone to be over in less than 5 minutes, and bring along the Park Ranger that everybody says is a lunatic.

That someone’s name is Rosemary, a scientist, and the Park Ranger is Lucas, a veteran that’s experienced something very, unsettlingly similar back during his time in the war. They ask him a shite load of questions, like, what did these monsters say (nonsense ramblings), what color was the thing that did all of it (every color, really), what did the monsters look like (they looked… I… w-why am I being interrogated? Who are you?! And who the fuck is that creepy purple cunt in the corner!? He’s - it’s - he’s mocking me!).

Eventually, after a lot of not-explaining and promises of more answers, he goes with them to their base of operations (Lucas’ cabin) to discuss the matter further. The burst of confidence Caz had when he’d gone to Desmond’s office that morning has left him, and he doesn’t really want to recount the details of what happened in the rig. Lucas, Rosemary, Desmond, and the seemingly random people they keep calling seem reluctant to talk about whatever the hell they went through as well. Apparently the government is involved somewhere?

By all accounts, their situations seem to be the same, more or less. Apparently, Lucas had been infected by the thing years and years ago, and Desmond had recently been through his own adventure with it. With his limited information, Caz is able to deduce that Rosemary wasn’t infected, but she’s been working around the Shape for years, until a few years ago. The people they’re calling have all had their own encounters with it.

And suddenly, Caz (and maybe Suze and maybe Billy) isn’t alone in this. There’s a whole group of survivors - hell, a whole town, even if they aren’t aware of it, and they know how to deal with it, to an extent. They’re all infected, this whole damn town is infected, and they’re all more or less going about their normal lives, almost unaffected. At least, the majority of people are almost unaffected.

Desmond, Lucas, the lighthouse keeper Allen, the weird girl Virginia, and an angry, lowkey parental man, Max, they’re all working to mitigate the effects of the Shape in the townsfolk. At least, that’s what Caz has gathered from their half-conversations and their very specific questions.

On the flip side, holy shit, Meyer was a lot more widespread than they thought. Not even Rosemary knew about this, and she was the head researcher at one point! And the poor man’s crew, all killed in an experiment gone horribly wrong (or right, if you ask Meyer, probably). Lucas relates to him with the loss of his platoon and the disbelief from those around him, Desmond relates to him with the long, near hopeless fight for his mind.

Eventually Caz goes home, tells Suze (and maybe Billy) everything (her reaction depends on how far into the Caz survives AU this is), and keeps in touch with the gang (reluctantly). He continues to go to therapy, which, despite the new revelations, is actually helping. Slowly, but it’s helping. Suze (and maybe Billy) are ecstatic, because Caz is getting help and making friends (also slowly). Until the Shape comes knocking once more.

Things change a lot here, depending on where I go with this. Is the Shape really connected with Agent Rainbow and vise versa, or are they separate, yet similar things? Is this farther into the Caz survives AU, or is it not? Either way, someone is getting stuck in the CU, and people are gonna get Infected. Caz and the others are going to have to fight the Shape (again), and they’re also going to have to fight Agent Rainbow (again). And people are going to get hurt.

Bonus points if ghost Finlay is here, and can see and interact with Desmond’s Agent Rainbow. Extra bonus points if Caz can also see him, and Desmond can see Finlay (though that’s mostly if we’re going the "Shape and AR are connected" route). Finlay and AR are always at each other’s throats, and it’s funny (though if AR is "good" or not, is up for debate. Really depends on your definition of "good".).

Even MORE bonus points if Fin and Tonia become support animal besties. Tonia would absolutely hate the pupper at first, but eventually warms up to him. In the CU, she’s just complaining to Desmond about Fin, and Desmond is like okay please let me focus on not going insane during my visit here.

Mega post from me, but oh my cheese mold this is fun to think about. Back when SWTD was just something I half-watched Eddie play on yt, I thought about an AU where it’s the ISM crew going through it on the rig, but now that I’m in the SWTD fandom, having it as a crossover is so fun.

I wanna make more fanart of this, oh man I really do. I usually hate putting my blorbos from separate universes in the same space, but like, an exception can be made here for this.

[gctchella]

gotta add my alastor here.. he's entirely pilot-based in personality and looks (with my tweaks). i'll see what i can do to make him mash up with the series plotline.

[bobbinalong]

I assume Steph never temporarily "dies" in the "keeps the baby AU" but does she ever become Robin? I figure it goes way differently if it does happen cause her relationship with Tim and Bruce is way different but id be interested in knowing what you're thinking about that arc

I have actually been thinking about how I wanna deal with Steph's continued vigilante-ing in this AU, because, like. Ya can't just leave a baby alone. But I also can't see her giving it up completely. For the first few months I think it'd mostly be a lot of "Mom, I'm going out with Tim, can you watch Allie for a few hours?" and she does go out with Tim, just, well, as Spoiler.

For the Robin thing I'd have to re-read that arc properly, which I do not currently have the brainpower to do, but I did go over the wiki, and I'd think there'd just be. Less drama around everything? If Jack finds out Tim's Robin in this AU, I think Tim might suggest Steph to Bruce himself as a replacement. They're more secure in their relationship; Tim revealed his identity himself, he spends a lot of time at the Browns and their parents know each other. He's basically step-parenting her kid, not that he's fully aware of that yet.

I also kinda like the idea of a dual-Robin situation? Like, Steph still wants to be a vigilante but she's also very aware of the dangers that brings with it, much more so now than before she became a mom, and Tim's like, maybe you should go out with Batman and me more, then, not fly solo as much. And she's like, it's Batman and Robin, not Batman and Robin and Spoiler, and he goes I'll put in a good word for you, and from there things just fall into place. Batman and Robin (lucky break) and Robin (picked up from the street). Bruce is ecstatic (not).

And she definitely doesn't die in this AU. For one because War Games sucks, for another because while she is still a teenager and she does still stupid and impulsive shit, she is not risking her life for Batman's approval. As much as she'd maybe want to. Again, there's a baby waiting for her at home.

And those are all my thoughts for now, but feel always free to send me more asks.

[torkelson]

god forbid a guy may feel differently about how he exposed his grief a certain way especially that publicly,,, not to mention he still thinks about what his mom would think about it and says "i'll never know" and again it's the never ending cycle,,, idk tho whatever

[hum-suffer]

Love how everyone who knows me knows i love flowers

[cdroloisms]

hi can i ask how Briar and Silas get involved in the coparent au?

I won’t even lie I’m not the person to ask but hey @cgogs UR GUYS

[ybcpatrick]

i've got sweet child o' mine stuck in my head. which would be fine if i knew any of the fucking words despite having heard it a bajillion times since the day i was born

[prvtocol]

[sporkberries]

Solid Snake the type of guy to stand like this while watching tv

[mielmoto]

BOLD what your muse can do. Italic means more or less. REPOST, don’t reblog.

bake a cake from scratch | ride a horse | drive a submarine | speak a second language | dance | catch a fish | play an instrument | throw a punch | build a deck | ice skate | unclog a drain | program a computer | change a flat tire | fire a gun | sew | juggle | play poker | paint | fly a kite | sculpt | write poetry | change a diaper | sing | shoot a bow and arrow | ride a bike | swim | sail a boat | do a backflip | play chess | give cpr | pitch a tent | flirt | stitch a wound | read palms | use chopsticks | write in cursive/calligraphy | use an electric drill | braid hair | make a campfire | make a mixed drink | do sudoku puzzles | wrap a gift | give a good massage | jump-start a car | roll their tongue | magic tricks | yoga | tie a tie | skip a rock | shuffle a deck of cards | read morse code | pick a lock

[fisheadz]

Y’know what I just realized?

In my daydreaming of Desmond’s backstory (since we don’t get any clues, I can have free rein here), I have inadvertently created a few OCs. And I’m only just now realizing that. Like an idiot.

Enough coherence. Now I will go forth with the rambling.

I like giving characters with no backstory a group of friends that are all sad in their own way. And Desmond is no exception.

I hc that him and Magdalena were friends way longer than they were dating (she says that they were together for 4 years, if my memory serves me right). But it took them a little while to build up to "friends", and eventually lovers. But how does he know her in the first place?

Well, that starts with a boy named… Desmond. Another boy in our Desmond’s freshman class. Let’s call him Des2. Des1, our boy, was a lonely kid, and Des2, ALSO being a lonely kid, decides that he’s gonna be besties with Des1. At first Des1 is against this, but Des2 has a way with being awesome, and they end up being really good friends, all through high school (and the following years as well, ofc).

They do the age-old trope of sitting alone together in the cafeteria for their freshman year, but when the next year rolls around, a couple other students join their class. Tabitha and Daniel, a pair of twins who keep to themselves, mostly. And so Des2 decides that, that just won’t do! Cos ofc he does. And he befriends them too. Tabitha can be a bit blunt and rude at times, without really knowing, and Daniel has his own mental demons to work through, but they all end up as good friends. Inseparable, one might say.

The next year, Orville joins their class, and this time HE’S the one who worms his way into the group with his charisma and affinity for calculus (and love for helping others with said calculus). And so now we have 5.

Until Magdalena transfers from the next town over. She’s an… acquired taste, for sure. Loud and boisterous, a million different things going on at any time, be it band or gardening or whatever she takes interest in. And the others are like “hmm idk man she seems kinda annoying frfr ngl..” and Des2 just was not having it. Magdalena liked to get in peoples faces, and she liked making friends. She and Des2 are like two peas in a classroom! And so they make quick friends.

Again, they others weren’t too sure about her, but with the combined efforts of her and Des2, they warm up to her fine enough. The only outliers are Des1 and Tabitha, for differing reasons.

Des1 has had enough changes that year (up for interpretation atm) and thinks that Magdalena is just too much right now. Tabitha has developed a feeling or two for Des2, and thinks that Magdalena is getting a bit too close to Des2, even though she and Des2 have been friends for years, and Magdalena is just some new bitch who likes the bass.

Eventually they graduate, and Orville moves away soon after for college. It’s a tearful goodbye, because he was a good friend to them all, especially Magdalena, cos he knows what it’s like to have people not like you because you’re just too fun, but it’s his dream college, and they’re not going to take this away from him. So he leaves, and it’s back to 5.

Des2 starts to withdraw a bit, worrying everyone, most of all Tabitha. Between his dad being diagnosed with a - potentially hereditary - illness that year, and Orville leaving town, he’s not doing so hot. Eventually, after everyone gets a bit too pushy (out of concern, ofc), he snaps. He HATES being a he. And he HATES being called Desmond. (“Uh, no offense Desmond”). Turns out, Des2 has been having some revelations about himself - or rather, herself. And thus, Erica was born.

Does this change how Tabitha feels? Nope. Still super down bad. Like, she’s SIMPING simping, harder than ever. Turns out this was a big year for self-discovery. Daniel, too, is beginning to have some rather gay thoughts, and for Desmond no less… who is none the wiser, because at this point in his life, Des has the emotional intelligence of a tennis racket. Magdalena decides to start exploring her own sexuality, and quickly comes to the conclusion that she’s pansexual.

And then, a couple years later, after Tabitha and Erica finally got together (without the former’s homophonic parent’s knowledge, obviously), tragedy strikes. They get a call from a friend of Orville’s. Orville died, some way or another. Break-in gone wrong, car accident maybe. Either way, it’s devastating news for them all. Especially Magdalena, who was closest to him. And so, with Tabitha trying to comfort Daniel, who’s… really not in the best headspace rn, and Erica struggling with her dad and his hospital bills, it’s up to Desmond to help her through her grief.

And surprisingly, it turns out good! Once they start hanging out together more outside of hangouts with their other friends, it turns out that they have a lot in common. They both like music, they both like stringed instruments, they both like stupid sci-fi movies, they both like… uh… music… okay they don’t have A LOT a lot of stuff they both like, but that’s okay! They still end up being better friends than ever!

(Ignore Daniel seeing them getting closer and spiraling further, thinking that Desmond would never love him, even though that’s not really true.)

And so life moves on. Even with an Orville-shaped hole in their weekly routine and their hearts, they heal and they bond even more. Once she and Erica get together, Tabitha warms up to Magdalena quickly, and they become great friends. Erica’s dad is beginning to show signs of recovery! Daniel’s mental health is better than it has been in a long time! Desmond is getting to live his life outside of his parent’s expectations! They smoke weed on weekends, they go camping every so often, they throw parties for literally every conceivable reason just because they love each other’s company! They live their lives!

Of course, the high can’t last forever. Erica’s dad’s health takes a turn for the worse, and while she’s grieving, Daniel starts spiraling again. And to top things off, Daniel and Tabitha’s parents find out about Tabitha’s relationship, and Daniel’s sexuality. It… it goes bad. Very bad. Their parent’s air everything - their sexualities, their bad history, their mental issues, all of it - out in front of god and everyone. It fucks up their reputation, and while Tabitha and Erica leave town for a couple weeks for everything to cool off, Daniel stays for work, and to try and fix the situation.

It doesn’t work. Everyone other than, like, 4 people seem to hate him, and with Desmond and Magdalena getting closer than ever, he doesn’t see any way out of this mess. And so, Daniel walks into the woods one day, and doesn’t ever walk back out.

Once Tabitha gets the news, she’s hysterical. Inconsolable. And for a while, they’re all worried that she’ll follow in her brother’s footsteps. She believes that it’s her fault, for leaving him when everything’s gone to shit, for not checking on him more often, for not bringing up her concerns for his mental state sooner, for their parent’s finding out about everything in the first place. She blames herself.

It’s a bad year for everyone. First Orville, then Erica’s dad, and now Daniel. It seems hopeless for a while. Magdalena leaves town, running off with a few others to start a band. And so, it’s just Erica, Tabitha and Desmond for a long time.

And so, in the midst of the tragedy, and after he finds out about how Daniel felt through a letter that he left him before killing himself, Desmond decides, fuck it. His parents want him to be a doctor? So be it. He applies for med school, gets accepted, and the rest is blurry. Desmond throws himself into his studies, Magdalena keeps radio silent, and Tabitha and Erica try and live a quiet life.

Until, Magdalena returns, a couple years later! She’s dyed her hair red and is delivering a note for her ex girlfriend’s family, telling them to fuck off. She’s in high spirits!… which crumbles once she sees how everyones drifted apart. And so, just like Orville so, so long ago, it’s up to her to bring everyone together again.

It could’ve gone smoother, for sure, but she eventually makes progress! With Desmond at least. Tabby and Erica just want to live their lesbian dream away from everyone, and so Magdalena respects that and lets them be. And now, it’s just Desmond and Magdalena, the former working himself to death trying to get his phd. He feels obligated to do so; for Daniel. For his friends. He refuses to lose anyone else because he missed the signs.

It’s a rough few years, after that. They’re both burdened by everything that’s happened. But Magdalena refuses to run away again. And eventually, Desmond gets his medical license, and starts working to become a therapist, something that he ends up excelling at. Magdalena turns to her old hobbies, and after some work, opens up a flower shop. Neither of them give up music, but it’s put on a back burner.

And it goes like that! After a little while longer, Desmond and Magdalena get together! And they date happily for those 4 years, until the events of the game occur. With Desmond increasingly paranoid and stressed, the town slowly falling into madness, and herself beginning to fall into the effects of agent rainbow, Magdalena runs again, skipping town like she did all those years ago. She meets back up with some old band mates, sad-fucks her ex a whole bunch, and the rest is history… for the moment, that is.

The game happens, and after that, Desmond and Lucas get together. And first a couple years, they live happily for the most part. Without the lingering effects from the chemical, the residual trauma from the events that took place, and the general EVERYTHINGness going on, it’s a good life.

And then, Desmond gets a letter. A wedding invitation, from none other than Tabby and Erica, who he hasn’t heard from in years. Lo and behold, Magdalena got a letter too.

Turns out, Erica has developed the same illness as her dad had, and while treatment is going much, much better for her, she and Tabby just don’t want to risk it. So, they’re getting married, and they’re inviting their old friends because, as much as they loved their little life of just each other, they really miss them. It’s emotional, of course.

They’ve all heard of what happened in Milton Haven, or at least what was released by the press, and they know that Desmond was involved, even though it was never said that he was, because this seems like the kind of thing that he’d be unlucky enough to get tangled up in. And they’re also very interested in his new boyfriend, who’s very much done with wearing a suit, even after just 10 minutes. So, Desmond tells them everything, and they all have a good time teasing him for the silliest things, and drinking cheap wine and smoking some weed. It’s almost just like when they were young. Even though they’re not there, they can feel Orville and Daniel right beside them.

After the wedding, Desmond and Magdalena get a moment to talk. She confesses that she regrets running again, and Desmond says that he’s glad she got away from the chaos while she could. They both screwed up, even with the chemical involved. They loved each other, but it just wasn’t going to work forever. And so, they leave on a good note, numbers exchanged and promises to attend her next show made. (She also teases him a bunch when she finds out about Lucas. Good-natured, obviously. She’s very happy for him.)

(Erica overcomes her illness and she and Tabby live happily ever after with their kid, who they name Danny.)

(Also Tabby’s parents die in a freak accident. For funsies.)

And there’s my spontaneous mini fic of a backstory + a little bit of frontstory as well. That’s a thing, right? Right.

All of this is highly self-indulgent, if you couldn’t tell. This backstory changes from time to time, as I think of increasingly stupid possibilities for whatever he’s been through that’s so bad that he, a therapist, doesn’t think a therapist could help with it, but this is the general gist of it, ig.

I have so many headcanons for Desmond and Magdalena, like that he didn’t like cats at all before Tonia, or that he’s a retired stoner, or that she hates being called by nicknames, but those can come at a later date. It’s 3am, and I’m not even going to go back and fix any grammar fuck-ups, I’m so tired.

I wanna draw these guys, especially Orville, Tabitha and Magdalena cos I have them envisioned already, but those, and more elaboration on whatever I typed in my haze of longing to get this out, can come some other time. For now, Fish retires to sleep.