#dottyistired

[fungii]

the fact that you've been like, the lone cabayomi prophet for OVER A DECADE is INSANE, thank you for bringing others into the light

KJDSKJFA I COULDN'T POSSIBLY BE THE ONLY ONE FOR ALL THAT TIME.....but likely the most annoying for sure

[dottyistired]

thinking idly about the twisting of consent language re: DNIs. seen so many posts like "ewwww my moot turned out to be a secret proshipper!! yeah they kept it private but they DISRESPECTED MY BOUNDARIES!! i feel so VIOLATED!!"

and realizing it reminds me of being bullied as if i had cooties as a kid. "ew don't touch that, dotty touched that!! don't talk to her!!!"

i wonder how many bullies in schools are using boundary-talk now to justify isolating and excluding people. "omg that freak tried to talk to me. i found out she liked (x thing). soooo traumatizing"

all positive or neutral interactions you had with the person are somehow discolored by the knowledge of the fiction that person consumes or is fine with other people consuming, which they never brought up with you. that's not boundaries. unless that person is being a bigot or a predator, what they do for leisure in private has nothing to do with you, and sure as hell isn't trauma.

i'm not going to make distasteful comparisons to any kind of systematic oppression here, it's definitely nowhere near equivalent. but it makes you a bully and an unpleasant person imo. yes, even if you don't harass people! mass exclusion and social isolation when the person is doing no tangible harm is a form of bullying, more common than straight up insults and violence, which is why so many anti-bullying mesaures in schools fail imo because it's near-impossible to prove and discipline a negative action.

being a jerk is fine with many people, i've found, as long as it isn't outright bigotry. but dressing up your fragile virtue signaling that you're not one of the Bad Gross People as a self-defensive measure will make me roll my eyes everytime. anyone who's been labeled as The Weird Kid knows what you're doing.

[samioli]

btw for all those who love the Applebee’s fic, you can thank my now-girlfriend @dottyistired because she is the one who bugged me encouraged me to write narumitsu fucking at an applebee’s

whether thats a blessing or a curse, the world may never know...

[musashi]

hi! my gf (dottyistired) and i just finished watching your fran video! it was FANTASTIC! I'll be honest and say that while I liked fran already before, I didn't really think too deeply about her, but you've definitely changed that! You brought up so many points that made me contemplate things at a much more intensive level, and the video was excellently made in general. Well done!

WOWZERS!!!!!!! thank you so much! Is this a good time to tell u I love ur writing hahahah (still haven't gotten around to commenting on Flame oops. Brain bad)

This means the world to me 😭 that's exactly what I hoped! I wanted to change minds on those who didn't like her and make those who did like her like her even more hahaha. I'm so so happy, thank you again so much!!! Both of u but I'm clapping and cheering at Dotty on discord pff

Big big love 💖

[bonelessenthusiast]

my girlfriend called me her blorbo so I’ll be thinking about that all pride month

@dottyistired

[princefado]

Tagged by both @ziskandra and @haljathefangirlcat, the goobers ;) thank you for the tag!

Ten fandoms / Ten characters / Ten tags

The Bartimaeus Sequence - Nathaniel Underwood

Ace Attorney - You can't make me pick Gumshoe or Edgeworth over the other I love them BOTH EQUALLY

Sailor Moon - Meiou Setsuna/Sailor Pluto

JoJo's Bizarre Adventure - Robert E. O. Speedwagon

Vocaloid - Kamui Gakupo

Lupin III - Zenigata Koichi

Sarazanmai - Reo and Mabu do not separate.

Cardcaptor Sakura - Tsukishiro Yukito (probably, but it depends on the day, I love the entire main cast)

Re-Animator (1989) - Herbert West

She-Ra and the Princesses of Power - Hordak

Tagging:

@roavaldamjong, @ultraviolet-ink, @forkflinger, @jamesbranwen, @justicecaballer, @dottyistired, @espionagis, @zephuckyr, @chokopoppo, @woobyrubes, @eldritchsexual

[crispywisp]

HELP

PLEASE OMFG

[kazu-goro]

it's always cum this and cum that with y'all. why don't y'all work on graduating cum laude 🙄

HELP

[thethiefandtheairbender]

(1/2) is it okay to not like maiko but stan mai? i like both characters but everytime they were together i just personally found them really dislikable people, save for the "you miscalculated" scene. plus i wanted mai to have an arc outside zuko where she overcomes her apathy (aka emotional suppression developed in response to her traumatic upbringing). maybe she doesn't want tom tom to have to grow up in the world the fn is creating, forced to stifle his feelings and opinions like her.

(2/2) maybe she develops a hobby/passion that under the fn is disallowed. "i don't care about anything...except this guy" just doesn't do it for me, esp since she always had that exception for zuko since she was a kid so she didn't change much. i like kataang btw so it isn't some "get zuko free for katara" bs. anti maikos never wanna discuss these specific things and shit on mai (and aang) bc it's just about zutara.

of course it is! i would argue that through the course of the show mai does overcome her more outwardly apathetic nature in a lot of ways - but that’s mostly through her relationship with zuko. i also think mai makes it clear that, in some ways, she does care about some things other than zuko. she does care about herself and gets indignant towards him on her own behalf & despite being in abusive relationships with azula and her parents, mai knows how she does want to be treated and will stand up for herself in relationships where it feels safe to do so, which is impressive. she also defends ty lee on a number of occasions and it’s clear that they have a strong relationship. we learn a fair bit about her family: a governor father, her mother’s view on their political situation, a baby brother, and a revered uncle. she also does have some loyalty to her country, as she says to zuko, “save it? you’re betraying your country” when she reads his letter and learns he’s going to join the avatar. 

mai’s arc with zuko isn’t “i care about this guy more than anything”. because you’re right, mai in many ways already knew how much she cared about zuko. what her arc actually leads to is mai being able to express that and fully stand up to her primary abuser (azula) because of the love she feels for him, the conviction and trust she has that he’s not doing the wrong thing, and she finds a healthy support system (at first ty lee, and then the gaang in the epilogue) on the other side.

i also think it can be important to remove a sense of self sometimes, too. like, would i want a relationship like mai and zuko’s? no. does that mean they’re dislikable? no. some of their best moments are with each other. zuko awkwardly trying to woo her a bit, them enjoying each other’s company and being physically affectionate with cuddling, clearly one of them cares enough about art to get a portrait done, mai’s dry humour and also how she holds zuko accountable, zuko’s confidence in her own abilities: “trust me, she doesn’t [need protection].” 

Like I’ve said before, I recommend my meta here to anyone who loves Maiko or, really, to anyone who loves Mai. It may be able to change your mind. Maybe not. 

All that being said, while I don’t follow the comics, Mai is given an arc outside Zuko regarding wanting Tom-Tom to be raised differently, her family’s political stances, another love interest, and much more. But for the timeline ATLA was following of like, nine months or less in all of the characters’ lives, I think Mai’s arc within the timespan of the show itself was beautiful and perfectly suited.

[bravepaladinsedits]

you may as well make "don't request klance we won't do it" your blog title bc people are so thickheaded 😂

True story lol, but on the other hand it’s not their fault since many people doesn’t know we hate Klance and all that, plus the ship is hugely overrated so they think everyone ships it :/

[headspacedad]

dottyistired replied to your post: Do you think it's still acceptable to be a lady...

highkey this is…pretty heartbreaking, that women in this fandom are legit Afraid of…liking a fictional character. the demonization of women enjoying canon mlm characters, especially (gasp) liking them romantically, is screwed up. it’s nothing like chasing after an actual gay man, and particularly in shiro’s case, the door is left open for bisexual interpretation. go wild anon! life is short!!

I worry sometimes about younger fans coming into fandom for the first time and tumblr is their only example of what being a fan is.  There’s a lot of good, sensible content on here but its very easy to end up in some seriously unhealthy corners where people will tell you that’s The Way Things Are.   Shiro is an incredibly attractive man, both the way he’s physically drawn and even more importantly, in heart and action and approach.   There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to him no matter who you are.  All anyone should tell anon regarding their interest - is that they have very good taste.

[curiosity-killed]

dottyistired replied to your photo “I’m just really weak for Allura being associated with dawn motifs...”

aaaaa she looks so perfect and gorgeous in pinks+purples

:D !!!

[samioli]

for the ask game:

✿ did anything major change when you started writing [fic] to when you finished?

(thank you!)

I would say, for 'the bee's knees' i went from like, a goofy love to hate to love relationship with it. my lovely gf @dottyistired was the first one to joke about wrightworth fucking in an applebees, and i was like NO! but then i was like wait... so yeah its been up and down, Lol!

Thanks for the ask!

fic ask game

[ptw30]

i think the lack of any comments from shiro in the handbook is actually an artifact of an earlier draft of the story where he died/was stuck in the black lion forever/became kosmo. matt and even sam holt have write-in sections on their pages. shiro is spoken of entirely in past tense by the others, except in a small section on his page where they mention he was transferred into the new clone body. i'm guessing that was a last minute edit.

And a great observation for Shiro’s page! :D

[princesseblade]

hating lularry is shallura/lotura solidarity

[coolspacequips]

dottyistired replied to your post “I LOVE she-ra and I would totally follow ur she-ra blog..... Bow x sea...”

every shance turned into a bowhawk stan and i love it i love how predictable we are

omG @dottyistired thats so funny afojweifjaw i didnt even know that was happening lmao, i guess great minds think alike??