#groovygurlthoughts

[groovybeachgurl]

sending positive energy towards everyone except for:

people who use adhd meds as a party drug, thus perpetuating the stigma that people who actually need adhd meds to function are just drug seeking which, as a result, makes it nearly impossible to get them without having to jump through multiple hoops.

people who think that having adhd is “omg so quirky 🤪” please for the love of everything just stop.

mosquitos.

[groovybeachgurl]

for anyone who thinks that adhd is some fun little thing where you just forget things sometimes and are hyper, here is what completing a household task (let’s say, for example, this task is to wash my laundry) looks like in my brain:

*sees laundry hamper overflowing* ok, i should probably wash my clothes, but first i have to…

take my laundry out of the hamper

transfer it to a basket

pick up the dirty clothes that spilled onto the floor

transfer those to the basket as well

pick up the basket

walk down the stairs

walk to the laundry room with the basket, past the kitchen

oh no! there are dishes in the sink, i better get to those now so i don’t forget *puts down laundry basket* let’s see, i have to…

open the dishwasher

see if there are clean dishes inside (usually there are)

take clean dishes out

put each dish away one by one

rinse each dish in the sink, then put it in the dishwasher

put dishwasher detergent pod into dishwasher

put rinse aid into dishwasher

close dishwasher

choose wash settings

start the dishwasher

wow! that took a lot of time, now i’m kind of hungry *forgets about the laundry basket’s existence and walks right past it*

HOURS LATER

*in bed* i feel like i’m forgetting something… oh well, must not be important!

thus, the cycle restarts.

doesn’t that sound exhausting? having to map out an entire list of steps just to complete one task? now imagine that your brain just does this automatically, it’s not even a conscious decision!

the mental toll is excruciating and we can’t even stop it from happening.

so, no, adhd is not just “sometimes forgetting things” or “being hyper” - adhd is a perpetual state of being unable to functionally execute and complete tasks without significant mental planning and labor.

[groovybeachgurl]

this might just be a me thing but does anyone else struggle to like. open their mail because they’re afraid of being in trouble??

is this common amongst other neurodivergent people???

help??!?

[groovybeachgurl]

my biggest tip to anyone with executive dysfunction trying to get homework/work done:

sit on a chair or bench in a boring space to do it! (example: a kitchen island)

i used to swear that i could only do my homework sitting on the couch, or in bed.

what i didn’t realize was that sitting in a space with a lot of distractions, while sitting on something comfortable, made completing my work take twice as long.

why? because my brain associated those spaces with relaxation and an escape from school/work.

so, after getting so frustrated with the amount of time it took to do my work, i experimented by doing it at my kitchen island instead.

and guess what?

IT TOOK ME HALF AS LONG TO FINISH!

without any distractions, i was able to focus all of my attention towards my work.

and although this may seem like an “obvious” thing to do, i am sharing this tip because it’s something i wish i had been told instead of taking 23 years to figure out on my own.

so if i can be that person to someone here, then my goal has been accomplished.

[groovybeachgurl]

someone clap for me i just paid a bill without crying.

[groovybeachgurl]

if you’re ever trying to explain to someone what having adhd is like, just tell them that your brain is a bee trapped in a jar.

[groovybeachgurl]

today my adhd allowed me to shower which means that i will be doing absolutely nothing for the rest of the day.

[groovybeachgurl]

my flavor of adhd is the one where i can spin a cow in my head but i can't make it stop which causes me to panic.

like i am being so serious rn a spinning cow in my head causes me anxiety

??!?

[groovybeachgurl]

i once heard a theory somewhere that people with adhd never fully developed object permanency in childhood, hence the reason we lose/misplace and forget things so easily. which makes a lot of sense to me? idk i just thought it was interesting!

[groovybeachgurl]

is organization a new hyperfixation or is it the dopamine from shopping online for organization products?

[groovybeachgurl]

sorry for being MIA i forget that i exist sometimes.