#harmful stims

[spooksforsammy]

Yes. Some autistics are violent. Some autistics self harm. Some have harmful stims. Some are dangerous to self n others. Some are mean.

No we’re not all kind in sweet. No autism isn’t always easy to deal with. But you know what? We still deserve respect n kindness n we still have feelings. Yes we can be dangerous, but there’s a reason behind that even if can’t explain. Yes we can harm ourselves but usually because need stim or don’t know how else deal with emotions. Yes some mean to others because generally don’t know what nice behavior looks like or don’t understand are being mean.

How can you look at me n say we don’t still deserve support? Sorry sometimes hard deal with hard take care of hard support hard be around. Genuinely understand is hard but no reason be rude.

Assume they can understand. Can understand hurting others. Understand other ways deal with emotions. Other ways to treat people. Ways to not put others in danger. Because so many times not that don’t understand, but no way show understand.

And even if they genuinely can’t understand, still deserve respect. Kindness love being treated like have feelings because do. No matter the diagnosis still have feelings n thoughts n deserve the same respect give to the able bodies neurotypical people. Or the people with diagnosis but not as severe or bad or unbearable be around

[angelpuns]

Leo going through the horrors but the horrors are just that he had a shitt day and no one bothered to save him any cookies :/

[perplexingluciddreams]

Parents bought new replacement headphones and they came today. They are Sony xm5.

Unfortunately, I try them on and it feels BAD. I can feel the inside foam part touch my ear. Can't cope.

I get very upset and hit head hard (hurts now ☹️😠😡🤬).

Even more upset now than from other ones breaking. I know the plan for when it breaks - I have backup and I know how they feel already (even though it is not the best - I am used to it at least).

New ones is supposed to fix it make it better. And I hoped they would be great amazing even better than old ones. But it is WORSE a LOT.

At least they can send back. Dad says we will figure it out.

But now I have to deal with old backup headphones for longer. And head FUCKING hurts from hitting hard a lot.

HATE aggressive behaviours and lash out when upset. So much upset and tense hot feelings it can't stay inside body. Hate myself for it every single time.

[teleportzz]

owwww do any other autistic/neurodivergent people have good solutions to prevent hitting yourself during meltdowns? i punch and slap my thighs/hips with the full weight of my hand/fist and this time the meltdown was over something as minor as an eyelash getting in my eye. the bruises never get to heal cause this happens too often. i hear "punch a pillow" and i do that if i can but it's not like i always have a pillow on me. and i really don't want to get in the habit of breaking things because i'm worried i'll accidentally break something important when i'm not in the right frame of mind to care and then deeply regret it later. everything i see about preventing/stopping harmful stims comes from autism moms and i want to hear actually helpful advice from other autistic people.

[tomkittycat]

does anyone have tips for someone who hits things when their overwhelmed/frusterated/having a meltdown?

it’s something ive always struggled with but fail to find a solution. ive tried squeezing a stress ball and hitting a pillow but my problem is that i need something hard to hit with my hands/fists.

if anyone has any advice that would be greatly appreciated!! /gen, nf

[cyber-therian]

im concerned ive taken up teeth grinding again as a stim and im not too sure what to do about it :/ been catching myself doing it a lot lately and i havent since i was very young

[suffering-and-misery]

punching myself has no business being such a fun stim. i have a large bruise on my arm

[can-of-pringles]

Harmful stimming that I didn't realize was harmful stimming: oral stimming edition!

Using your tongue to fidget and mess with your teeth (especially when you know your teeth are specifically sensitive or have problems)

Rubbing your tongue against a rough spot on your tooth. This causes canker sores/a small wound on your tongue.

Solution? Maybe try a mouth fidget toy? I don't know I haven't used mine in a while. What I'm currently doing is eating one Zollipop daily. A Zollipop is a brand of cleansing lollipops made with xylitol that still taste good and clean teeth. Sucking on a lollipop is a good distraction for me personally.

[abandonedquishe]

Why I don't like stimming in public

(My stims are ugly as heck to watch and most of them are harmful)

The "Chinchilla sounds" are the only vocal stim I have. I don't find another way to describe them. I also have this headbutt stim where I nod forward strongly but briefly. And the chest-hitting one.

Video of what I mean with chinchilla sounds:

[spooksforsammy]

Think sometimes people forget stims not all good.

Sometimes hand flapping and rocking and stimming is problem. Sometimes do need to be stoped

Sometimes rocking includes hitting head on wall which turn into head banging for stim. Sometimes hand flapping turns into hitting wether self or others.

Sometimes using fidget turns into throwing and using to hit others.

In a way, when think of stims only want admit good ones. So when people say stims are harmful get hate and told wrong and to just shut up. But stims not only good.

Stimming can be nice and happy. But stims also include those that hurt self and others. The ones that are painful and dangerous and need intervention.

I rock and hand flap and spin to be happy. But I also head bang and hair pull and pinch and hit in attempt to stim.

Please don’t forget the harmful bad stims when talking about them. Not all good helpful no need stop

[envieluvvicixe]

it's the fact that i regonise that i'm not comfortable stimming in school if i'm completely alone / without a friend by my side and it's taking a toll because i can barely regulate myself with anything else than stimming (which i did most of the time very aggressively during the summer because the only person seeing it was my mom, which takes a toll because now i'm supressing that urge to just freely stim and jump around with strange + echolalia vocals coming out of my mouth and it's a lot for me personally) and at the end of the day i'm overwhelmed and tired as fuck.

[i-may-be-an-emu]

Does anyone know if service dogs can shut down harmful stims in autistic/adhd people?

[teleportzz]

also i almost broke the bathroom mirror during this meltdown because i punched it and literally the only reason it didn't break was because i kinda realized what i was about to do and pulled back slightly. still hit it pretty good though, and the sound was louder than i expected so it made the meltdown worse. don't think the neighbours appreciated my screaming

i love being autistic, don't get me wrong, but sometimes this shit gets tiring ngl

[canarys-call]

Hate meltdown hate sun hate stims hit self slam head stim back upset. Bad Sol bad Sol bad Sol upset !!!!!

[plaguedghosts]

They think your autism is cute and quirky until you start full blown punching yourself in the head

[lilcactusboi]

I have got to stop happy stimming by chewing on my fingers it leaves bruises :(