#i guess yuck

[bobbinalong]

bruce didn't take the cowl off even in steph's final moments. not even then did he trust her with his face. he didn't give leslie any way to contact steph's mother, either -- presumably because the writers forgot she even had one or didn't think anyone would care. but i remember and i care. so in her final moments, steph was with a man in a mask whose lack of trust in her messed with her head and ruined her life, still begging to be acknowledged by him, to be called worthy, to be called real. and she deserved her mother to hold her hand or tim but bruce deserves to sit with that moment the rest of his life.

[willkimurashat]

Like, you know it’s bad when the free outfit is better looking than the paid outfit😔

[weirdcultstuff]

Today’s therapy topic:

In the face of an unacceptable reality, it is normal for your brain to try to come up with explanations and solutions.

One of the available explanations/solutions is to consider it morally superior to have experienced the unacceptable reality.

It’s an available explanation/solution, but please beware: it’s a trap.

[mintacle]

So, you've seen the words "anti" and "proshipper" thrown around in people's bios and "batc*st dni" on people's posts. Maybe you want to know what all the fuss is about, maybe you have a particular opinion about all this fuss. In any case, this informative post is for you.

Using Samantha Aburime's paper "the cult structure of the american anti", I'm going to explain the issue.

First of all what is an anti even? It's a term people use to self-identify within fandoms. As the name anti implies, they mainly identify with being against things.

Which leads us to our problem of the anti mentality.

Most antis are minors or under 24. People who left the anti community have explained their experiences in the following manners:

Maybe you have felt the pressure to join in anti behavior as well. If any of the following feelings are familiar to you, then you are experiencing anti indoctrination:

If the shame and guilt instilled in anti members isn't bad enough, there are more consequences for the targets of the antis. In the batman fandom these are blogs that may or may not describe themselves as proship, meaning they ship characters that are (adoptive) members of the wayne family (Bruce Wayne, Dick Grayson, Jason Todd, Tim Drake and Damian Wayne) with one another.

Essentially: this is how anti action works:

Examples of dehumanization and harrasement which are very commonly practised among antis:

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And threats of violence:

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Beyond the aggresive nature of the anti mentality, the problem is that the people it targets are overwhelmingly vulnerable minorities.

And I have often seen antis justifying their harrasement by explaining that they are themselves queer or non-caucasian, which is an example of moral licencing and does not actually excuse targetting other minorities or people of the same minority as you.

So what do antis specifically do? The anti community of the batman fandom will often throw around accusations of incest ("batc*st") and pedophilia.

Let us examine those three concepts, disinformation, virtue signaling and legitimate abuse.

We can find disinformation in the prectise of denying reasonable arguments for tolerance of proshipping. An anti will not engage in any attempt to understand why people ship something they find morally apprehensible. They will label proshippers as degenarates, thereby misrepresenting who it is they are targeting. Furthermore they will misrespresent the amount of influence that proshippers yave on influencing people.

Virtue signaling describes the practise of labelling things as problematic without delivering reasonable arguments for doing so and instead using strong emotional language to explain their judgement:

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Virtue signaling also represents the practise of self-describing the anti as morally pure and the "enemy", the proshipper as morally degenerate.

Both disinformation and virtue signaling allow for legitimate abuse. Depersonifying and villifying the opponent gives the anti a feeling of being legitimized in their abuse.

For followers of my blog, I would like to raise awareness of this side of anti culture. Emotional and shame-inducing language can easily sway us. I plead my case for reasonable and distanced evaluation of what you see online. Condemning pedophilia and incest will seem perfectly natural on face value, which is why it is so hare to understand that often time what is labbelled as such is misrepresented, and really all the time the anti myth will equate preference of fiction to beliefs of real life morality (see first image)

To finish my informational post, I leave you with one last essential quote from Samantha Aburime's paper:

"The anti movement perpetuates archaic systems of judgement based on personal disgust and region-specific morality, punishing powerless people for their fannish interests and tainting their online communities. Their work does nothing to dismantle harmful systematic institutions; rather, it embraces them, even going so far as to actively harm and destroy members of their own community."

Read the full paper here. It's very interesting and a not too long read.

https://journal.transformativeworks.org/index.php/twc/article/view/2147/2829

[batwynn]

I just had this intense dream that I made the choice to draw only a specific (kind of a dead fandom) ship because it made me so happy to draw and it was self care and I woke up like:

I never even liked that ship when it was popular what the actual fuck, brain?? 😭

[ilonacho]

pompeii bastille fills me with such longing for days that are long gone

[b-blushes]

also i am going to the dr tomorrow so please can you send some spare good vibes my way if you have them thank you

[honeynclove]

making a new oc her name is either sandalphon or metatron which… isn’t as cunty as I was planning but…..

[alvfr]

my only regret about the wedding I attended last night was how I almost started arguing with a girl because she gushed about how much she loved season 4 of stranger things and after I voiced my disbelief she clarified that it held a special place in her heart and then I realized she was an Eddie-girl and I mean yeah sometimes storytelling comes second when you love a character can’t argue with that

I mean i can relate. I love teen wolf and it’s not because it’s good ya know

[jester-pip]

wdym.. I totally didn’t give in to the urge to draw humans again…

okay listen it’s because I saw an art style that I liked :P

(I kinda don’t like some of these drawings but 👍)

This might not last long, but I’m not making any promises.

[small edit: I suck at drawing lighters, and I know that :D]

[b4kuch1n]

I'm not gonna screenshot it bc 1/it really doesn't matter that much and 2/the person who made the comment is a kid but: a while ago I made a comic that's supposed to be a genuine study and reinterpretation of someone else's sprite comic (made in the spirit of authenticity too - to recreate the vibes of the sprite comics from that era, iirc very specifically because it's funny) and I got a comment on that comic's post that's like "glow up"

which is a compliment obvs. and the commenter probably didn't mean anything by it, it's a common expression. but I've been trying to find a way to gracefully put that comment away ever since it appeared lol

I just very much don't want my art to be taken as trying to one-up someone else's art when that's not the piece's intention. especially when the piece that inspired my art is perceived as "low effort" or "shitpost" or stuff like that. I did mention in the tags of that post that my considering it a study is entirely genuine, and I can legitimately write pages about the cool stuff I find in it other than and inherent in the haha funneys, but that's not for you guys that's for me. I just think that approaching art competition-first like that is a miserable way to do it, and (tipping into overthinking here if the whole tiny-comment-got-stuck-in-my-brain-for-almost-a-month part hasn't given that away yet lol) I really don't want that to be the takeaway from my own art. at least generally. if I actually think the source material is trash and what I'm doing is genuinely categorically better I'd just come out and say it lmao

[queerbauten]

What's really interesting about Amanda Palmer's current both-sidesing/peace-and-loving/etc.-ing of the ethnic cleansing of Gaza is that when she went to Israel in 2013, she allegedly went on a tour lead by former IDF members aimed at exposing the evils of the occupation! Guess it wasn't super effective!!

[aerospectrum]

pleeeease im begging weeping pleading on main for memes to distract me from the lame-o news I’ve been saddled with today ;__;

[vulpinesaint]

debuting my dnd character who sees a reference to something sexual and goes “ew :|” and then sees a reference to something romantic and goes “EWWWWW.” guy who rolls his eyes at sexual references but gets green-like-nauseous with disgust at the thought of romance :)

[macherieareyoumissingme]

Favorite Songs June 2024

Don't Speak by No Doubt

Cherry Lips (Go Baby Go!) by Garbage

Good Luck Babe by Chappell Roan

Yuck by Charli XCX

Espresso by Sabrina Carpenter

360 remix with robyn and yung lean by Charli XCX

How sweet by New Jeans

4EVER by Clairo

Take me as I am by Rina Sawayama

Guess by Charli XCX

Spring breakers by Charli XCX

Lover you should have come over by Jeff Buckley

Suddenly I see by KT Tunstall

Smile by Lily Allen

Comme des Garcons (Like the Boys) by Rina Sawayama

One of your girls by Troye Sivan

Linger by The Cranberries

talk talk by Charli XCX

Cherry Colored funk by Cocteau twins

Super Graphic Ultra Modern Girl by Chappell Roan

This isn't music but I also want to mention my favorite podcast at the moment

Cocteau twinks

I would highly recommend it if you like emergency intercom and lowkey if you like heartbreak high

[asteria7fics]

Hey!

I'm a fan of the ship jock Stan and nerd Kyle.

What are your thoughts on this dynamic?

I know it's cliche, but it scratches an itch you know, and I love it when Stan also just picks up Kyle, just cause he can

You know, I actually had to think about this one.

Initially, I thought I was sort of... Indifferent? Like they aren't headcanons that particularly offend me or anything, but I do think I have some deeper thoughts on this dynamic.

I don't really subscribe to any of the boys falling into particular stereotypical archetypes, so on the surface I do think that pigeonholing any of them into one descriptor is sort of reductive. Now if we're just using 'jock' and 'nerd' as terms to present a premise, and the boys have more going for them than just these particular archetypes, then I think this dynamic can be explored in really interesting ways.

What I mean by that is that I enjoy it most when they still retain traits from the original source material.

Stan should still struggle with addiction and depression, or still have other hobbies like tabletop games, or be passionate about animals and wildlife conservation. Or all of the above, if you're feeling frisky.

Kyle should be the kind of nerd that WILL correct you when you say something slightly wrong, hit you with the 'um, actually', and not be afraid to bite someone's head off if they're being too annoying. If your nerd Kyle is meek and timid then you've lost too much of his original character I'm sorry to say.

I do also think a lot of the appeal (for some people at least, not me personally) of this dynamic comes from that good old heteronormative expectation that one member of a relationship has to be the masculine one, and one has to be the feminine one. In this case, jock characters are THE archetypal 'masculine' character in most teen-centric stories, where as a nerd character can be more ambiguous. I do typically see Kyle as physically smaller in these situations though, which does usually place him in the more 'feminine' position.

Personally, I don't love this aspect of 'yaoi' culture in general, but that's a bigger issue to unpack than with the question you've asked here haha.

Of course, ALL of these ideas can be subverted, and I think that can be a really interesting way to explore both of their characters in new ways.

Anyway, with all of that being said I do actually enjoy reading this dynamic on occasion! There is something very fun about pushing them to what many would consider to be 'opposite' situations and seeing how they still come together in the end. Love perseveres!

And anon, I do also love a good, ole fashioned Style Carry™️ (˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ ) ✧