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goldrushenthusiast · 6 months
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this is tumblr right? the place where we banded together to be weird and not care about social expectations? to not care about social judgement or status symbols? so explain to me why the HELL we are using tags that don’t correspond with the post.
“it’s not that deep” it IS. I don’t want to be scrolling through my favorite character’s tag (especially the female ones!!) and finding random other people in the fandom instead. My one exception is art, SOMETIMES, because I get why you’d want more people to see it. And honestly, I can make exceptions.
But a text post? Your conversation is this;
Remus: I like waffles
Sirius: same
So why the hell is your post filled to the BRIM with #dorcasmeadowes and #marymacdonald and #evanrosier and #lilyevans and #literally anything else but waffles, wolfstar, Remus & Sirius, or marauders
Like STOP. your life will not be affected by how many notes you get on a text post!! if it’s anything else, go all out, but if it’s not get the hell off my feed thanks
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bluedalahorse · 19 days
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Beep beep sick girl feeling sorry for herself
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I don’t want to stop anyone from liking what they like (that’s a dick move after all) but I genuinely wish sometimes that I’d been born in the parallel universe where YR fandom was more focused on The Main Five in a well-rounded way, and not so much The Main Two + Omar and Edvin’s celebrity careers.
Like nothing against Omar and Edvin or people liking them, because they’re talented and fun for the people who like them, but I’m just not terribly interested in them at all outside of their characters. I recognize that they are objectively attractive but I do not feel personal aesthetic attraction to them. And posts about their careers exist way more than do posts about Felice, Sara, and August as characters. Or maybe there’s people I need to follow that I’m not following.
I did block Omar and Edvin’s tags. And that has been super helpful as far as curating my experience. But basically I scroll and see a bunch of blanked out posts tagged with their names every day, whereas I see almost nothing about the other three. Sometimes it feels like there is no YR fandom on my dash at all! And it doesn’t normally get to me when I’m busy and not sick, but I’ve spent the past five days almost entirely in isolation, in immense physical discomfort, looking for the comfort of a fandom that a lot of other fans seem to have found but I can’t quite find for myself.
I guess I do see more August stuff than I expect. But there was this brief period after season 3 where people wanted to explore him complexly… and now I’m seeing him get flattened into a boring villain again. I mean there’s still plenty of people who like him complex. But I yearn for more of it. I crave the nuance! And maybe I crave a little bit of redemption fic because I’m fucking trash, okay?
I suspect the universe is punishing me for my past fandom sins of a. only paying attention to Les Amis de l’ABC when I was more active in Les Mis fandom and b. rolling my eyes at anyone who shipped hetships, back when I was a silly teenager. Maybe I can endure this if I accept it as karmic punishment.
But also I am sick and yearn for fandom comfort.
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konigceo · 4 months
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honestly I have a love/hate relationship with lying abt my age to look at smut. On the one hand I really don’t like lying to people and I feel guilty sometimes even though I know this is like the least harmful reason I could be lying abt my age online (esp if I never actually tell anyone- what someone doesn’t know can’t hurt them!) but on the other hand it is so fucking funny to see all of these blogs plaster ‘MDNI’ all over and expect that to actually DO anything??? You really think anyone who actually wants to read smut will look at those banners and go ‘aww shucks! Guess I’d better move on’ instead of ‘I’m gonna perceive every post tagged with mdni on purpose because fuck you’? Clearly you have never met a teenager, or a horny person, or a horny teenager for that matter!!!!
In conclusion I literally do not care if ppl lie abt their age online as long as they’re taking care of themselves and aren’t. Yknow. Grooming people. In fact at this point I consider lying about your age online for any reason to be a quintessential teenage experience at this point
honestly bc there were so many mdni blogs, i got frustrated and it drove me to make my own blog !!! and i'm really really happy that people like my blog and use it as a safe space !! but still idk it's a really difficult topic to discuss, bc on one hand being exposed to nsfw content as a child (9-10) is bad, i would know, but on the other hand, stigmatizing and shaming teens that are reading/writing smut and overall being rude to them doesn't help either so idk. i think the best way to end this is to be respectful and nice to everyone and if you don't like someone move on and block them. also very off topic but people who put "mdni" then interact with me is just ????? i'm really surprised people still do that esp with all the drama there was last year 😭
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What do you think about people who use the Jikook tag to announce they no longer believe in Jikook as a ship? Or who post opinions such as no longer believing their friendship is special? I’m sort of torn because on one hand the tag isn’t technically a place for only pro-ship opinions, but on the other hand I thought it was general knowledge that most people use it to seek out positive content (and I don’t mean only pro-shipping, just positive content about whichever duo even in a platonic manner).
I just find it odd someone would feel the need to announce their personal, negative opinion about a ship publicly in a ship tag (especially if they go on to then complain in said ship tag about any negative response they receive). I also don’t understand why they thought their unprompted opinion was worth sharing in the first place when it seems like something only their friends and followers would really care about. It almost comes off a bit… self-important? Or maybe I’m just overly conscious of how I use tags and most people don’t think like this? I don’t think it helps that a lot of these posts carry an air of superiority where they paint themselves as more rational and objective than shippers… and it feels almost intentionally antagonistic to then purposefully post it in a place full of them.
Do you think my opinion is unfair or oversensitive? Am I wrong about how people use the tag and am I underestimating the demand for critical shipping content? Is it too controlling or unfair to criticize or judge a person for posting debunking/negative posts about a ship and their overall bond in their ship tag? Does this mentality negatively contribute to the toxicity of shippers and the overall hive-mind mentality of requiring each other to 100% believe said ship is real? Would it discourage or push away people who don’t believe in the ship but still enjoy and positively contribute to shipping spaces?
It’s obvious who I’m talking about if you go into the tag and I hate gossiping about other bloggers (and have absolutely nothing against them and hope people leave them alone if they don’t like their posts) so I don’t expect you to post this. But if you ever feel like writing about any of this, because it’s something I’ve seen multiple people do, I’d love to know your thoughts. I really like your stance on anti-shippers so I’d be curious to know your opinions on things like tag etiquette and the phenomenon of people needing to publicly announce when they no longer believe in a ship.
I know some people like to have an outlet to express their doubts on a ship being real or not and that’s valid, obviously there's a demand for spaces like that, and the tag doesn’t belong to just one group of people… but as someone who doesn’t even have a strong opinion on the nature of Jikook’s relationship, I still feel like it’s an odd way to spend your time when you could just have fun enjoying them without having to commit to thinking they’re romantic or not. And spamming a space people use to seek out positive content with your negative, cynical (and sometimes equally biased takes) just feels like such a douchey thing to do. But I still can’t tell if I’m being like… a bitch about it when obviously there’s a desire for content like that, people have a right to post whatever they want, and overly zealous shippers can be just as annoying.
Sorry to go off about this in your inbox! But if you have any thoughts to share on any of this one day, I’d love to hear them!
Thanks for sending me the follow up ask with the link. I'm not reading all that rant because I don't feel like getting angry in the morning and especially over a ship of all things. I have that person blocked since the beginning, I sort of clocked what their deal was. Not that difficult to figure it out.
I also understand why you have all these questions and it's perfectly valid. There is no single answer though. We do need to be careful to not transform online spaces in echo chambers, but the solution to that is not being antagonistic either. In some cases, that's clearly the purpose and you can see it in the username, usage of tags, how it's targeted and so on. We all end up knowing how things work on the platforms we mostly use.
Healthy conversations surrounding ships and shipping spaces should take place. But that space needs to be created in a way that feels inclusive and not exclusionary. It's one thing to want to talk about all aspects of a ship, what clicks to you or not while being open minded about it (phrasing and tone are an indication of that) and another is to purposefully want to spread an agenda. Not just this blogger you're referring to, but also others that I've seen throughout my time here. There is no conversation taking place, it's an invitation for like-minded people and thus creating their own echo chamber in which arguments in favor of the ship are dismissed. Ultimately, all what people want is to share their opinion and for others to approve it. There is no real conversation, just the illusion of it and somehow the lie is more prevalent in anti-shipping spaces in which so called rational, anti-delusional thinking is a sign of superiority, just like you pointed it out.
I don't think we can/should control what is being posted in a tag. Perhaps there's an established etiquette that I'm not aware of, but looking at it that way can perhaps be harmful in the long run. Nevertheless, I also don't believe that flooding a tag with mostly negative takes is the right way to go. Perhaps there should be a separate one for anti-shipping discourse or keeping it in-house.
It's also a personal choice at the end of the day. People can write whatever they want on their blog. I know that in my case, when I know that I write something that obviously has potential to upset/anger fans of a ship/person, I choose not to tag the name because I know nothing productive will come out of it and it will only lead to a confrontation. Which is ultimately a waste of time.
Having very strong opinions over a k-pop ship to the point of preaching it's realness or the opposite, its lack of romantic nature, is not something that can have moral superiority attached to it. Regardless of each side, I don't think most of the people actually know the private lives of these idols so perhaps being more chill about it should be the way to go.
I've said this numerous times, but as much as shipping is villainized as opposed to supporting or even anti-shipping, it is (or should be) ultimately a fandom practice that can be fun, without necessarily getting too deep into it or a reason for conflict. It's in our hands the way we behave and what we write.
And perhaps not being complete assholes about it helps.
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boqvistsbabe · 4 months
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Update!!!!!!!!
Hey Y’all!!
Here is the start of hopefully monthly updates. I know in my last update I said I was going to be more consistently here and active. Obviously, that didn’t happen lol. Trying to hold myself to that rn. So this is probably going to be the format for all of my update posts, just so they are easier to follow.
Refresh:
So I am almost completely done with the blog refresh. I think all that is left is updating links and getting some other posts (ex: theme days) made/redone. Most of that got put on the back burner due to how long they were going to take lol. But hopefully, over Spring Break, I’ll be able to get those done (no promises, another thing I’m trying to do, is be more realistic about what I want to get done by when so). 
Writing/Other Content:
Ik I said I’d write more. Once again didn’t really happen. Well, I have written a decent bit, but never finished anything. There is one fic that I am going to try and work on after this week (midterms lol) and have someone look over it (the first time I’ve had a beta reader, look at me go lol). Like the blog as a whole, I am trying to organize my writing, like requests and my ideas and what is going out when etc. (@ any of the other writers if you have any suggestions of what to/where to organize my stuff so it doesn’t get all confusing and mixed up you should def let me know). Speaking of requests, I am going to try and do at least two requests a month. That doesn’t sound like a lot but for me, that feels like something I can realistically do. I will be doing old requests first because even though they are years old at this point, I liked the ideas so I genuinely want to write them. I am still going to be accepting new requests (esp because sometimes that helps spark creativity/help with writer’s block so feel free to send in any ideas!!) but I will try to get those older ones done first. As for any other content (playlists, moodboards, IG edits, drawings, etc.) I am also taking requests for those so feel free to send in any of those requests too. 
Another Blog?!
As of rn the second hockey blog has not been “released”. I want to catch up on things for this blog before I throw that into the mix and try to grow that as well. I am hoping to add that sometime this summer. Also, I do technically have a sideblog already (@samistheman) which is normally where I reblog random things, and I don’t really have tags for that blog I just kinda willy-nilly reblog there (it used to be mostly PJO stuff but now that’s kind of here because of how much of it there is lol).
Life Update:
College is a lot rn. I’m doing 17 credit hours and tbh do not know what possessed me to do that. At first, I was doing pretty good, but now not so much. Like I said earlier I have midterms this week. If y’all didn’t know this, I’m shit at taking tests so not doing great rn. Thankfully one of my classes ends on Sunday so at least I don’t have to worry about that. I’ve had a lot going on in my personal life recently that is impacting a lot so trying to navigate that as well. I am moving out in May, which is yes months from now but there is still a lot that I need to do beforehand. Anyway, I’m going to a college hockey game on Thursday and I am super excited. I haven’t been able to go to a game since October. Also little fun update, I’m going on a weekend (work) trip to Boston. Super excited for that. I’ll be getting to go to a Celtics game and a Red Sox game (I’m a Royals girlie tho). I’ve never been to an NBA game so that’s for sure gonna be really cool. I’ve been to many MLB games before but this will be my first at a different stadium. Anyway, I think that is it for this update. Hope y’all are doing well!!
As usual, if y’all ever want to talk dms/inbox are open <3
I am going to tag some moots, I am totally forgetting some people so I am sorry for that (if y'all could reblog that would be amazing)
@2manytabsopen @krugstrash @jimmystrudel @andreburakozy @sidneycrosbyhoe @fallinallincurls @timstuetzle @typical-simplelove @ilyasorokinn @drei-mrssvechii
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reversesymmetry · 1 year
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Mephisto master post!
I figured I’d make a pinned post with quick info and shit about me, and where to find all my stuff since I’m solely posting the majority of my writing and shit on AO3 now for formatting and my own spoons.
If you want, you can buy me a ko-fi here to help with expenses. Please read the post there as that’s currently standing!
So hi there, I’m Owen. You can call me that, or Mephisto, either one, or any other nickname that tickles your fancy. I write, shitpost, and occasionally doodle, mostly surrounding the Ghost universe.
Hard rules:
Minors DO NOT INTERACT.
I am so deathly serious about this. This is not a space for you. It will not be a space for you until you’re an adult. Ideally, everyone will have their age in their bio but I understand not everyone really wants to do that. This is for my protection. And yeah, I’m an asshole about it, but I have to put me first.
RP blogs: be normal please.
Just please don’t. I’d prefer you just make your own content. You can like and reblog stuff but don’t turn anything I post into an RP thread. I have issues with internet RP communities so I’d just like to be left out of it if possible. Thanks.
You can find me here on Ao3. Currently I only have one ongoing work that isn’t on a permanent hiatus
You can find my HCs here. Anything not marked as ‘defunct hc’ is something that I would consider to be canon in a piece of writing.
I sometimes post short blurbs on here that aren’t long enough to go on Ao3. You can find them here.
I’m always willing to take prompts or ideas on for short writing! You can always send those to me via ask. I also love seeing other people’s writing or HCs, so feel free to send that my way too, or tag me! Please note that I DO practice discretion when it comes to prompts, so if I don’t write your prompt particularly, don’t take it too hard! I promise it’s not you, it’s just what I’m in the mood for. If you send me something and it hasn’t been responded to, that means I’m either working on it, or I want to do the prompt but I have either writer’s block or am busy at the time of receipt. I try to reply to everyone!
There are a few things I won’t write. These will be under the cut because some of them are triggering topics. This list is always subject to change (probably not be removed from but stuff may be added) so always check if you’re unsure.
If anything on this post is unclear or you have questions, please let me know and I’ll be happy to answer them and correct/add to this post!
I have a couple of OCs that get mentioned on occasion in my writing:
Cardinal Fabian Cromwell— he handles event planning, finances, and PR for the Ministry as a whole (the band has their own staff for that, he just handles the church side). He can be finicky and a bit rude at times, but he doesn’t mean to be. He’s “Terzo’s husband” in any HC posts that I write. He has a huge heart, you just have to be willing to do a little digging to get to it.
Salem— Fabian’s assistant and the true youngest Emeritus brother (though he doesn’t know that). He’s half human, half quintessence ghoul, but was raised by the ghouls in the Abbey given that at the time, ghoul and human relations were forbidden. This has since changed, but at the time he was born, Nihil knew he would be executed, and he was given to the ghouls to raise. He can be found doing fetch quests and other side missions throughout the church offices.
Meadow— an ftm earth/fire hybrid ghoul. He can usually be found assisting setup and tear down at shows. In some verses he’s Swiss’s mate and in others he’s Mountain’s, it just kind of depends on my mood. He’s very shy and rarely speaks up. He was originally summoned as a scribe, but was shuffled around to the band. He’s far too afraid of crowds to be on stage, despite the fact that he would make a skilled multighoul with the band, so he works behind the scenes instead.
I will not write:
R*pe/SA scenes, or anything surrounding that, unless it is far back in a character’s past and is being discussed as a past event.
“Hard kinks”. I’m asexual and struggle writing intimate scenes unless the planets align and bless me with the inspiration. That being said if you just want something simple on the smut scale, I’ll be willing to hold onto it until the mood strikes to write it.
Any kind of -ism or -phobia, unless it is a past event that is being discussed. I also, as a white person, am not the person to be writing and discussing traumas and experiences of people of color. There might be hints of homophobia or transphobia as past events a character has suffered, as I am part of the LGBT community and those communities are ones I specifically belong to, but I’m not comfortable writing about the experiences of a group that I will never be part of and will never know the struggles of.
Abuse of any kind, unless it’s a past event, etc, etc.
XReader. I just can’t do it. No offense to those who write it but I just can’t. If you are a Ko-Fi donor, this rule doesn’t apply!
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sforsus · 1 year
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Info for this blog. I recommend reading it.
—Introducing myself-
Hiya! I’m Spoot! I’m the one who runs this blog, I’m a fumbling 18 year old who likes art. And appreciates writing, sadly however not all this art and not all this appreciation i can show on main. As being Suspicious on main is never a good idea-(Don’t do it it’s not worth it-).
This is a side account so I don’t have a posting schedule unlike my main that has one, so do NOT expect a solid posting schedule, but DO expect at least one or two posts a week.
—Why I make art:
•I make art to help me love myself, wether that be with my dysphoria or just not feeling well. And me being a trans-masc individual(you can see where this is going) there will be many many men(and sometimes women) here! In many many situations, for lewd eyes to enjoy in their entirety- you will be subjected too my fantasies so you’re walking into this willingly-. I’ll post from whatever fandom I’d like here as well, it won’t all be Submas.
•I also make art to cope with every day struggles, like depression and anxiety/ADHD, so on so on. So anything I deem too adult too post on main will also go here, that includes Vent art.
•I finally make art like this to practice anatomy, being nakey isn’t always sexual, or sad, sometimes it’s just beautiful. I’ll be posting anatomy practices of the nakey verity I do here as well. Like I said being nakey isn’t inherently sexual, but I will be putting it here anyway. Because I don’t want to put it on main.
-Fandom?
-Submas
-Pokémon
(Will add more if need be)
—What tags do I use?:
List of tags and what they’re for👇 (I may use multiple of these on one post, so make sure to block a tag of mine if that content is something you don’t want to see from me. Like my vent art, so on.)(Don’t worry about memorizing these or anything, I’m serious, I just love being overly organized-)
•#SForSus , General tag that I will be putting on all my posts. To make them easily found and recognizable as mine(You might wanna include this tag if you’re reblogging something of mine, entirely up to you.)
•#SForSpread , My reblog tag I use when reblogging materiel I did not make <3
•#SForSweaty , Explicitly sexual content. Aka content that I’ve made or reposted that is inherently sexual.
•#SForShowy , Nakey things that is not supposed to be sexualized. Either made for appreciation, used in vent art, or for anatomy practice.
•#SForSorrow , Vent art/posts from me.
||Fandom tags/others||
•#SForSubmas , Submas posts <3
•#SForSelf , posts of self insert things
•#SForSelfMade , oc posts <3
—Big No No’s and yes yes’s
Yes yes I will/accept:
•Asks in my ask box
•ideas for future posts
•Always tag my posts correctly using the tags I have listed.
•include trigger warnings, content warnings when needed.
•try my hardest to be respectful, honest and kind to everyone.
No no I will not/not accept:
•Allow anyone under the age of 18 onto this blog, anyone who doesn’t have their age in their bio And follows me will be blocked as well without question.
•Allow BlankShippers/Incest/Rape/(Blantant and Genuine)Homophobia/Transphobia/Racism/Sexism anywhere near me. If I find you are engaging in these behaviors, I will block you without hesitation.
-Closing thoughts
I hope that you enjoy your stay here! If you’d like you can check out my other art on my main. I won’t be even alluding too this tumblr on my main, as I want to keep these separate from each other.
But other than that!
-Introducing the regards, Spootie boi!
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I Can’t See Myself
So this post is going to be a ramble and a ride. Keep going at your own risk. I know maybe one of two of you have seen a version of this post before, but I also know at least one of you hasn’t. And I’m feeling it again. If I still had the old blog, maybe I’d be reblogging it with a bunch of tags, but instead I’m reposting it with edits.
I don’t feel the immediate desperation about writer’s block like I did in April and May of this year. It felt uncomfortable and even a little anxiety inducing for a while though. I’d say at least 6 months…probably longer. It was by far the longest I’ve had that feeling of, ‘Maybe I can’t do it at all anymore…maybe it’s never going to come back…maybe it’s just gone,’ without something shaking loose and getting better. I mean…that’s in a virtual lifetime of creating things. I’ve made up stories in my head my whole life that I can remember…but I just couldn’t do it for a year and a half. And it freaked me out a little. Part of that is the obvious creator angst that maybe a piece of me has disappeared or permanently malfunctioned or something. And part of it I’ve whined written about before in the post I’ll put up right next to this one, and my post ‘Next’. Maybe I’m not worth anything if I can’t produce something new for other people to consume.  Maybe I’m invisible if I can’t make something new and current all the time for other people to see. I dunno. It’s been a rough ride here for me the past year-ish to be honest. And while the shit I have bitched wrote about regarding writer’s block in the past is definitely bothering me and weighing on me, the biggest problem with the fiction drought is that I’m hurting and I can’t find a way to alleviate it, because I can’t see myself.
I’ve revealed this privately to a couple of friends in the past, and I think I may have answered some old blog prompt 5 years ago about journaling or something by saying that writing clarifies things for me, and I don’t really journal, but I do write essays on the blog and *I write fiction.* And writing fiction is therapeutic for me in this very strange but real way. I can’t see MYSELF out of a bad patch. I’ve never been able to do that. I need somebody to come rescue me (which J often does, and some close friends do sometimes too, and I am very grateful for them every day for this and many other reasons). BUT I almost always can see SOMEBODY ELSE out of a bad patch. This is a simultaneous honor and danger for me, because there are people who turn to me fairly easily and readily to help them deal with their bad shit once they know me a little. (I probably cried 10 times watching Encanto. Seriously.) They know I’ll listen. They know I don’t normally get Mean and Judgy about things. And they learn over time, normally, that if they ask me (they almost always have to ask me, because I’VE learned to not offer it without being asked…it takes a borderline or maybe even an actual emergent situation for me to just go in guns blazing), I’ll give them honest advice. I can almost always see a way out, and I like doing that…I like searching for the way out and I really like actually finding one. For SOMEBODY ELSE. (So if you’re a person who has ever been all, ‘Hey Walrus? Um…can you see a way out here?’ Don’t feel bad. I know I linked that song there, but my surface pressure always comes from the inside and explodes out; it doesn’t crush me from the outside.) So in this odd way, fiction is a tool for me. If I’m in a jam or feeling shitty and I don’t want to burden turn to J or a friend about my shit, I’d just make up somebody who was kinda like me and give them a problem that was kinda like mine and then I’d push them out of it. I could see myself through other people…imaginary people. When I had a friend reading through the things I’ve already created, I could see myself a bit in the old stuff, and it helped me get to a place where I did produce something new really pretty fast in August. I got reconnected with some pieces of myself I’d never felt good about writing about before. But now that friend has turned out to be fictional, even though they and I are both real people, and I can’t see myself in the old stuff anymore. And now I’m back to a place where I can’t see myself. Like…at all.
And now I’m going to do an abrupt shift to pandemic media consumption. I’m an American, and I’m a pronounced introvert with moderate to severe agoraphobia on a NON pandemic living day. Like…I’ve ALWAYS hated the fucking grocery store if you get what I’m saying. I’d honestly just stay in my house all the time if given the choice anyway. But that’s still not super good for me, and I’ve found that out in more ways that I’m comfortable with this year. Writer’s block is part of it, but another part of it which seems dumb on the surface but is looking and feeling very real now is that I’ve run out of media to consume without leaving my house. I appreciated people who have recommended new shows and new music and new things to read to me because honestly? The well is pretty dry at this point. I’ve found myself several times in the past 6 months scrolling through a streaming service, trolling for anything new, and saying to myself, ‘Seen it, seen it, seen it, will definitely trigger anxiety which is why I skipped it the last pass, seen it, seen it, seen it three times, seen it probably 20 times since 1990, will make me cry and who fucking needs THAT right now, seen it…’ And I watched a lot of shows I’d have otherwise not tried at all, because they were someone else’s favorites. That was fun at the time, but honestly...they weren’t my cup of tea. I enjoyed doing it, but I think I just mostly enjoyed being there to see someone else’s joy, which has always been awesome for me. So being American, you know what DOES show up new all the time? True crime shit. Oh here’s a new podcast/docuseries/docudrama/episode of 12 year old series about murder/marital infidelity/graft/fraud/catfishing/mass abuse scandals and coverups/cults. So J and I have (unfortunately?) consumed a lot of this kind of shit in the past year or two. Like…A LOT. And we find ourselves often listening or watching (or even reading) this stuff and I hear myself say this phrase to J at least twice a week: ‘I can’t see myself…<believing that person/going to another place with that person/marrying that person/dating that person/being friends with that person/doing business with that person/falling for that line/tolerating that behavior/ever treating a person like that/being violent in that situation/whatever>…’ But the important part of that is ‘I can’t see myself.’ And maybe the reason I can’t see myself doing any of the shit anybody on any of this ‘real’ media has done or is doing is because no one else sees me either. Maybe I really am invisible unless I’m producing something new for other people to consume and that’s current and pleasing or at least entertaining for other people to see. There’s this weird little wrinkle in the podcasts in particular where the podcast host/moderator has people who know the victim/survivor/main protagonist in the story describe that person for the audience to know them better. I’m not sure anyone could do that for me if I was ever murdered. Maybe not even J. He’s not all that great with words, to be honest. And I find myself wondering, ‘Does anybody actually see me? Could anyone describe me for Tiffany Reese or Keith Morrison?’ Maybe not. I can’t even see myself.
And then there’s this piece of every one of the abuse/murder ones at least where someone’s mom/sister/best friend/adult child/coworkers call law enforcement to report a problem. Something is wrong; I haven’t heard from <important person> in <amount of time, but this amount of time ranges from 1 hour later than I expected to see/hear from them and they aren’t answering their phone to a couple of days or weeks>, so they are either seriously injured, kidnapped, or dead. Go do something about it.’ So then I think if my kid was away at college or living his own life and something had happened to J? No one would ever notice I was gone. Even the most important connections I have in my life beyond that? No one would think anything bad had happened because they didn’t hear from me for weeks….months…years. Unless I was producing something new for them to consume; making something current and pleasing/entertaining for them to see. I don’t reach out to people unless I think I have something new or pleasing or entertaining or all of that for them to see and/or consume. I never have. Because I can’t see myself without it.
I don’t want anyone who actually reads this to think I’m having like a potential self harm episode coming up or anything, because I’m not. I promise. But I am really having a real hard time seeing myself right now. Or at least seeing myself in a good, positive way. Hearing someone you’ve become close to tell you all the things you’d worked for years to no longer believe about yourself and use as the words to beat yourself up with and accuse you of the very things past abusers told you about yourself over and over again reverses a lot of forward self esteem and seeing yourself progress. I can feel that I’ve lost ground in those areas. Everything I thought this person was helping me with has kind of been destroyed in the past month. The writing maybe wasn’t good; maybe I’m not good at it like I’d finally started to believe from other people telling me so. I’m actually not a good friend; not a good mom; not a good person, like I’d started to accept at least occasionally might be true when J or A or my son said it. Maybe I really can’t connect to other people in a real way; maybe I really am invisible; maybe I really am worthless if I can’t be of service. 
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nerves-nebula · 3 years
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Hi going through you art tag and Im seeing the "home hunter au" and Im seeing bits and pieces so I'm wondering if you could explain it for me please?
i mean all the posts about it are tagged "home hunter au" Still it's kinda disorganized, and there's a lot of "home hunter block party" stuff that’s kind of unrelated gunking up the tag now, so yeah sure I'll do a quick summary.
Home Hunter AU: This AU takes place some time after Eclipse lake. The basics are that Hunter pisses off Belos really badly and has to run away, obtaining an injury during the fight. So, typical stuff for a runaway AU. The main point of mine though is that I don’t think Hunter is close enough to the owl house crew to want to like, stay at their place. To me it seems more likely that he’d strike out on his own. I think he’d have trouble trusting them, and even if he did trust them, the idea that he has to rely on someone for food and shelter and all that stuff, after having JUST been run out of his previous home, is terrifying.
I also use this AU to explore a lot of Hunters unresolved trauma, conflicting feelings (mostly about Belos, the nature of his friendships with the owl house crew, and his issues with self worth), and meandering personal goals. He planned to return to Belos, but after being unable to find anything good enough to give Belos to warrant his return he instead decided to research wild magic, telling himself he’d return once he figured it all out and had some ideas for curing Belos’ curse. After a while though, and a lot of conversations with Luz and Eda and Amity and the others, he kind of doesn’t want to return anymore. And though he doesn’t say it out loud, he kind of hopes Belos has forgotten about him. But that’s conflicting, because he desperately wants Belos to need and love him. That’s how it is with your abusers sometimes, though.
Anyway, Belos is looking for him, and mostly just wants to have his nephew “safe” under his control again, but we’ll get to that later haha
oh yeah and Hunter is definitely trans too, just cause I feel like it. But I haven’t really addressed that yet in like, a comic or anything.
Home Hunter Block Party: this is really just me having fun and goofing around. almost entirely pencil sketches. Mostly just people asking me to draw funny shit. It’s not really related to the main AU other than that Hunter lives in the woods due to the same situation, but none of the stuff that happens in the block party universe is part of the main Home Hunter AU.
There’s a lot of other stuff that happens in the AU, but it’s all over a bunch of posts and comics, so, I’d encourage you to just search through the tag chronologically to make sense of it. 
Hope his helped and wasn’t too wordy or difficult to understand. I’m not really proof reading it, it’s too long and I have homework I should get to lmao.
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One of the central characters in a fantasy story I'm writing has torture as part of her backstory. She was captured by an evil race, and one individual in particular put her through a "training" regime designed to turn her into a useful/trustworthy slave. Specifically the goals of the training were:
- destroy her sense of self / agency
- overwrite her ingrained response of healing herself when injured (she has magical healing powers)
- an affectionate or worshipful disposition towards her captors
- immediate obedience to any command
I feel like both physical and psychological torture / mental conditioning are probably appropriate, though I'm leaning away from including sexual abuse. I honestly don't know much about torture at all and the only things that come to mind as producing a result similar to what I'm looking for are the Game of Thrones torture sequence and the use of obdience collars in the Codex Alera book series. The latter is very interesting to me because it is a magical device that inflicts pain in reaction to disobedience but also inflicts pleasure to reward obedience.
I guess I'm just wondering if you have any advice for what kinds of methods would be good to include in a process designed to produce obedience, rather than torture for its own sake or to extract information, as well as if there are any common pitfalls I should try to avoid in writing about such a thing.
The training itself won't be in the book, but I need to be familiar with it for backstory purposes because later in the story this character encounters her torturer again, and is subjected to some further abuse before she finally overcomes her fear and kills him.
Alright well I’m going to be straight up with you: the scenario you’ve presented is a very common torture apologist trope. It’s incredibly unrealistic. And it’s unrealistic in ways that support torture by claiming it can be ‘useful’.
 Which probably means that you’re new to the blog and haven’t heard me give this talk before. That’s OK, we all learn sometime and it’s not my intention to shame you for the fact you’re not as obsessed with this stuff as I am or couldn’t afford to shell out for the books.
 Torture does not produce obedience. The best evidence we have right now suggests it encourages active resistance.
 If you got a lot of your inspiration from Game of Thrones then frankly I’m not surprised you came up with apologia. The torture in that series is incredibly badly handled. And a big part of the point of running this blog is that most people are getting their information on torture from shows like that. Which happens because the research is inaccessible and hasn’t been popularised the way fictional tropes (sometimes fictional tropes literally started by torturers) have been popularised.
 The important thing is what you choose to do now.
 I’m going to break down the problems here and make some suggestions for what you could do instead.
 Firstly: there is no torture or abuse that will guarantee obedience. Pain does not make people meek or compliant or willing to follow commands.
 Torture survivors are not broken.
 They are not ‘controlled’ by their torturers and the suggestion that they are is used in the real world to bar real survivors from treatment. It is also used to bar them from entering safe countries and to argue that they shouldn’t be allowed visas or passports.
 The best statistics we have for any sort of compliance under torture come from analysis of historical French data where torture was used to try and force confessions (something we know torture can sometimes do).
 The ‘success’ rate averaged at 10%. Under torture 90% of people will not comply long enough to sign their name.
 Secondly: torture does not and can not ‘make’ a victim feel ‘worshipful’ towards their torturer. The suggestion is kind of like asking if someone can tap dance immediately after removing the bones from their legs.
 Torturers have no control over a victim’s emotions. They have no control over their symptoms. They have no control over their beliefs.
 And there is no such thing as a torture that can change someone’s mind in a way torturers can control.
 Once again, this fictional trope is used by politicians and the media to justify marginalising real torture survivors.
 I have read hundreds, possibly thousands, of accounts from torture survivors. I’ve read historic and modern accounts. I’ve read accounts from all sort of people from all over the globe. I have never seen a survivor say anything positive about their torturers. I have never seen anything close to toleration.
 A lot of survivors are blisteringly angry at their torturers. A lot of them feel overwhelming levels of spite and some report literally putting themselves at risk of death in order to spite their torturers. And yes, a lot of them are afraid too. None of these emotions are mutually exclusive.
 Affection is impossible. We are not wired that way.
 Thirdly: I understand that ‘evil races’ are a long standing fantasy trope but it would be remiss of me if I didn’t mention the racism inherent in that idea. That some people are ‘born bad’.
 I’d strongly suggest you look up the Black, Indian and First Nations people that I know are on this site critiquing these kinds of fantasy tropes. Because they will be able to explain it better then I can.
 Fourthly: the term ‘psychological torture’ is a pretty common dog whistle for torture apologia.
 Most of the time tortures that people dub ‘psychological’ are things with real, physical effects that lead to lasting injury and death. They just don’t tend to leave obvious external scars. I use Rejali’s term ‘clean torture’ for these techniques. Researchers distinguish them from scarring tortures because they are harder to detect and prove in court.
 The majority of survivors today will have experienced clean torture. They will have no obvious physical scars. But they will still be disabled. They’re ‘just’ less likely to see any form of justice for it.
 Fifthly: torture is a terrible training method because it decreases a person’s ability to learn.
 Torture causes memory problems. It also often causes lasting physical injuries that make performing basic tasks more difficult. And it causes a lot of serious psychological problems which make performing basic tasks more difficult.
 A trained person who was never tortured will always out perform someone whose training involved torture.
 I probably sound quite angry here.
 I write fantasy and I also write about torture a lot. But I can’t imagine that it’s just flavour for a fantasy world or some artefact of the past. Torture is a real, present threat in the country that I grew up in. If I was to return now I could, literally, be tortured and executed.
 If you want to include torture in your world, in your story then you are committing to telling someone else’s story. You are representing an incredibly marginalised group of people and you are presenting that representation to a third group, one that has never had contact with real torture survivors.
 Are you comfortable with the idea of telling your peers that survivors are still controlled by ‘the enemy’? That they’re passive? That they don’t have the capacity to make their own decisions?
 Are you comfortable knowing that the popularity of this message keeps millions of genocide survivors in refugee camps, blocked from citizenship, aid and safety?
 I understand feeling attached to a story and a character. And I understand that this information is hard to find. Hell I’m probably going to end up with the only English copy of one of the pivotal textbooks because I’m shelling out to get it translated.
 You say you want to write a torture survivor. With respect I don’t think you know what a torture survivor looks like.
 I think the most helpful, and kindest, thing I can do here is describe what torture does to people. Because I can’t tell you whether that’s something you want to write. I could try and rebuild this scenario for you (and if you decide you’re interested in that after reading all of this and all the links then I suggest looking through the blog tags for ICURE, torture as training, Black Widow and Overwatch.) But I think you need to decide whether you actually want to write a torture survivor first.
 Here’s a post on the most common torture apologia tropes.
 Here’s the post on the types of memory problems torture commonly causes. I strongly recommend picking at least one.
 Remember that this would never go away. Improvement and recovery in torture survivors means learning to live with symptoms. The symptoms themselves are permanent.
 It’s a hundred different alarms set up on their phone to try and make up for the forgetfulness that makes them miss appointments. It’s the little bottle of perfume in their pocket to bring themselves back to reality when they get intrusive memories at work.
 Here’s a post on the other common symptoms.
 You want something in the range of 3-5 of those, though more are likely if your character is held for years. Each of them should be severe. Every single symptom should have a large, negative, impact on the character’s daily life.
 Do you know anyone with chronic pain? It warps their world. Work can become impossible. Basic household tasks like getting dressed, cooking, cleaning the dishes are done through gritted teeth or not at all. Hobbies and ‘fun’ activities dwindle as they struggle to find a way to do them that doesn’t hurt. Interaction with other people, even loved ones, can easily become barbed.
 Because the pain makes everything more difficult. It means everything takes more energy, more effort. Which means that things fall by the wayside, whether that’s by a pile of mouldering dishes in the sink or snapping at a child. It means tears and the social judgement that follows them. It means the world narrowing as it gets harder to go out.
 Do you see what I mean? Every part of life.
 That’s an example for one symptom. You need to work out at least four. Then figure out how they interact. Then figure out what the character can do to make her life better.
 With chronic pain that can mean painkillers but it’s always more then that. It’s re-learning how to do things; how to put on trousers without aggravating the bad knee, how to sew with one hand. It means learning to cut down on what they do and it means learning a new sort of flexibility; accepting that there are days when the pain is too much.
 It can mean having the same conversation about disability over and over again. With family, with friends, with colleagues. ‘I can’t do that.’ ‘I can do that sometimes but not always.’ ‘That will hurt me.’ ‘I can’t use that chair.’ ‘I can’t get my arms that high above my shoulders.’ ‘I need help with this.’
 And that sometimes means learning a kind of patience that is really barely held back rage. Or perhaps I’m projecting a little with this last one.
 If you’ve never met a torture survivor, if you’ve never looked at a survivor’s work, then all this is difficult. You’re trying to imagine something from first principals with nothing to fall back on.
 So let’s bring some survivors into the discussion here. Some reality.
 Who’s listened to Fela? How about Bobi Wine?
 Fela Kuti was the father of modern Afro beats music. He was tortured multiple times and during one attack, which destroyed his home, his mother was murdered by the military. When he got out of jail Fela marched her funeral procession past the biggest barracks in Nigeria’s biggest city. He wrote two songs about this attack and he doubled down on his opposition to the military government.
 Fela’s music started causing riots.
 You can read what I have to say about him here. You can listen to his music on youtube.
 Here’s an interview with Bobi Wine, which was conducted shortly after he was tortured in Uganda. He talked about how he was determined to go back and continue fighting. Which he did. He even ran against the president.
 I’ve also got a short piece on Searle who was a cartoonist captured by the Japanese during World War 2. His drawings of what happened in To the Kwai and Back are worth seeing. Especially if you want to write atrocities on this scale. They will show you the scale and how to focus on the small, human elements despite that overwhelming scale.
 Alleg’s The Question is pretty much a must, it’s one of the most thorough accounts from the Franco-Algerian war.
 Monroe’s A Darkling Plain is also a must, it’s a series of interviews with survivors of various different conflicts and atrocities. Some are torture survivors. Some are not. It is essential reading because it shows the variety in survivors as well as giving a sense of their lives beyond the symptoms.
 Finally Amnesty International has literally hundreds of interviews and studies available for free online.
 The most important decision for any story with regards to torture is whether it should be there at all.
 So much of this topic is intimidating and so much of it is difficult to write. Not just in the ‘oh this is horribly effecting’ sense but in the ‘I have twelve things to juggle in this simple scene’ sense.
 Ask yourself what torture adds to this character and this story. What does this backstory actually give this character?
 Because if the point is to have her vulnerable and then ultimately triumphing violently over her attackers I don’t think you want a torture scenario. You could get the same thing from a bad guy trying to drug her and having the kidnapping fail when she fights him off, clumsy but effective nonetheless.
 And she could still come out of something like that traumatised.
 Right now I really don’t see this adding anything but torture apologia to your story.
 Handling torture well in a story means accepting that it can’t be the same story without it. It means watching the characters and narrative warp under the weight of it. It means lasting effects, for all the characters and for the world itself.
 I believe you are capable of writing that if you want to, pet. But this ain’t it.
Edit: I’m having trouble seeing the beginning of the answer here. Can anyone let me know if there are formatting issues again please? The first word in the htmal is ‘Alright’ but what I’m seeing on tumblr starts 8 paragraphs in.
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Tw// sexual harassment, saesang, sexualizing a minor, stalking
If you haven’t seen @taeyongslilkitty warning post, I suggest you go check it out and spread awareness. I took a screenshot of a part of it, so I can break it down and give everyone here a lesson on how it is WRONG.
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This particular part turned my stomach. Her user says “got7 noona” and her name for her tumblr is “Dani noona” which makes me believe she’s older, probably mid twenties or around there. (Update: she’s in her 30’s ;-;). I’m 18 for those who don’t know, but I don’t think I’d put hyung/oppa in my name because I’m still so young.
That being said, you can see in the original posters account that he’s only SEVENTEEN. For her to say to a MINOR “hey I’ll blow you if you eat me out” makes me feel sick.
I don’t know her actual age, as I said earlier I’m judging by what I can see from her, but that’s not okay. And ofc, you can see the comment made about Haechan. He is 21 internationally, so I’m not too annoyed with it? He is of legal consent age in Korea, so it doesn’t count as sexualizing a minor even if he is still young.
What really also bothers me, is you can tell that the original poster (idk the beans name 🥺) is not comfortable and never once does she seem to care about that, which is why I tag sexual harassment.
In fact, another person who reblogged the original post came forward and said that she had made sexual advances towards them without checking to see if that would be okay. She asked them if they rp, and then immediately upon hearing yes jumped into full on sexting them. That’s NOT okay. (She also then stalked the group of people this was from-)
(I want to say more but tbh I have speech issues and that does sometimes translate through text- idk don’t question it-)
A lot of people already called out the fact she’s full on delusional and I do completely agree. When I went to block her she made quite the guilt tripping apology to them- it was uh- yeah it was bad. And it really truly seemed like she believed she wasn’t really in the wrong, nor did she realize her actions at all. And it’s sad.
I just want to say this, it’s okay to say no, it’s okay to say stop, it’s okay to make your feelings clear if people try to pull this shit on you. It’s okay to call them out as well. It’s terrifying, and it’s hard, trust me I know. But it isn’t your fault if you do, you aren’t the bad guy, you did nothing wrong. I say this, because seeing one of the rebloggers say they felt bad for making an excuse instead of saying something else because they were scared broke my heart.
As I said I was really mostly commenting on that section, and I wish I was able to get myself to say more in the matter, but my brain doesn’t want to connect well so this is what I got.
Friendly reminder, stuff like this is SERIOUS and it DOES happen in this community, so make sure to watch out for each other and help each other. And if you’re going through this, just know, you aren’t alone.
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“I googled it” “I don’t know who the artist is” THEN DON’T USE IT.  Wanna know somethin else? IF YOU CLICK THE IMAGE YOU’RE LOOKING AT IT HAS A LINK YOU KNOW.
Also REVERSE IMAGE SEARCH
Thank you for coming to my Fex talk. --------
Posted this on Twitter but I’m going to bring it here as well. I want to make this train/trend go on about our experiences with art theft. I know us speaking out won’t stop art theft as that is a very impossible mission, but I’m hoping that this will come across people unaware the damage they cause by simply using an art piece with no proper credit given, permissions asked, or not showing resources on the art.
I want artists to have fun with this little side project on drawing out their experiences with their oc’s/persona’s of art theft. Or maybe if you have yet to experience someone stealing your art, draw your support of being against the idea of art theft - it would be much helpful. Hash tag the piece #voArtists and/or #VoiceOfArtists. (I just realized today that #voArtists also stands for Voice Over Artists WHEEZE but I’m going to still roll with it. I already tried dodging VOA becauses that stood for Voice of America dlosahgiusdhg) I hope this gets messages spread around about art theft as many of us artists are tired of it happening. Just saw a friend’s art get taken when it had a large signature of their name on the bottom and it was simply cropped out in their edit with no credit given.  The excuse we got was “Oh I didn’t know who the artist was when I found it” but used it anyways. I say again. If you don’t give credit, research the image’s original source, reverse image search, or even care to mention that the piece is not yours in description you do not use it as it doesn’t belong to you
I’ve had my drawings found on the internet and even one of my characters trying to be sold and I’ve even gotten “Oh well its on google” or “But its on the internet which means I have the right to use it”  Me being the artist of course answers “Me being the owner and creator of the image I did not give you permission to use my property” And of course they proceed to argue the fact that its online and free to use.  Worst part is, is that it is very difficult to get our art taken down upon request to that art thief. Sometimes we are ignored, blocked, or even told off then blocked. Those are the fun ones :) Some places don’t have proper reports to assist us in cases of art theft. Tik Tok’s report system is dog shite. You try to report property theft they ask for your full personal information and proceeds to say “You give us permission to share this with the other party” that is not ok. Gonna stop here before I keep ranting and rambling haha, apologies.  But please do help support this and spread the word. I’d like to see stories out there and I’m even checking these hash tags to see art that’s been made on this and stories being told. 
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Mod post. Apparently it needs to be clarified, because some people have misinterpreted things. Sometime bad things happen in stories because conflict is part of the story. I don’t condone the bad things. I do not admire the bad things. I do not romanticise or enjoy the bad things. It is a part of the story for the characters to overcome. Sometimes the bad thing happens in the story because I am dealing with my own feelings about something similar. I am processing my own pain with a ‘safer’ version of a story I’ve lived, and I know how the story will end in my version and I look forward to the catharsis of an ending better than the one I got. I don’t owe you an explanation for what I am dealing with. I will of course put content warnings where needed, or add them when asked if I missed some. I understand that, for readers, the happy ending feels far away because I can only work on updating so much. I am trying to go faster, but I have limits.
I have joked about enjoying ‘duck suffering’ but I do not. I thought the term alone was enough of a hint it was a joke - it sounds flippant and ridiculous. Teal is a self-insert - I'd like them to get better and succeed. I pour a lot of myself into them. I need to set up the odds they’re fighting against so that their success makes narrative sense. That is how stories work. The main thing I enjoy is that others sympathise with my characters and are invested in the story I’d like to tell. I don’t always want to blubber about how much I appreciate people who appreciate my story - that can be awkward, especially when it gets repetitive. So instead I joke that I enjoy ‘duck suffering’ and shrug it off. Let’s be honest, even as a self-insert Teal is a fictional character and they do not, can not care about this joke. If you don’t like the joke, let me know and I can stop making it. It doesn’t actually matter to me more than a real persons’ comfort, I’m pretty flexible if you talk to me about these things. I just tend to dismiss this kind of thing with humour where I can.
I deliberately do not draw/depict acts of violence much beyond adult characters being held by their shirt/neck. I don’t want to draw more than that. It’s unpleasant and uncomfortable. But I also am not looking to write Care Bears - I want a story that has conflict. IIRC Avengers Infinity War is PG-13 and has similar levels of violence? Am open to correction - exact ratings are difficult and may change from country to country. If you would like fluff, great! There are other blogs who can cater to you! I am happy for you to block me (block my main too if you don’t want me seeing you in tags) and move on. I’m not really keen on being labelled as some monster for writing a story where abuse happens, as if I approve of abuse. You get that that is deliberately misleading and shitty, right? 
So far the most physically violent part of my story was an abuse victim (Teal) finally attacking their abuser (Resh). The most detailed (written, not drawn) act of violence was an act of self-defence and retaliation. I am not luxuriating in Teal’s pain, I am explaining it (broadly/vaguely) so when Teal gets their revenge that revenge makes sense. I don’t know how to be more clear with my intent than that. If you really still think I’m doing this because I’m a creep, I have to believe that’s because you decided I am one and don’t actually care past that decision. If that’s the case block me, leave me alone. 
I’m sorry you have triggers and subjects that upset you. So do I. I cannot fix those for you, no matter how squeaky-clean I make my story. I (once again) encourage you to read the content/trigger warnings in my pinned and above the readmores for darker posts. The pinned warnings are newer (added before darker elements arose) but it is very helpful. I am trying to give you all the tools you need to avoid these triggers - but you have to maintain your space and monitor the content you take in, too. There is no point ignoring the warnings, looking at content that upsets you, and then getting angry at me. It helps no one.
I wish you peace. Take care of yourself, and try to not see the world so black and white.
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also, this is the same anon that sent the (´∀`)♡ face... i just started posting some sfw blurbs and headcanons but i want to post more spicy things bc thats mostly what i read LMAFJKFNKDJ but i was wondering if u have any tips for new writers? were u scared of posting nsfw stuff at first?
hello (´∀`*)♡ anon!
first of all you already took the hardest step which is posting your writing in the first place! so as corny as it sounds never undermine that achievement because it’s really cool!
secondly i still consider myself a new writer to a certain extent? i’ve still got a lot to learn! but i will try my very best to tell you some tips that help me :)
okay so…
#1
no matter how niche you think the character you write for is. no matter how “weird” you think the trope or kink your writing for is.
someone will be into it! there are so many people in this community so almost always you’ll find someone who likes the same things as you!
note:
sometimes other writers & readers will also read your work even if they aren’t strictly “into” what you’re writing
(i know i do it! and honestly it’s opened my eyes to some things that i’m very much into! as well as helped me realize some things make me uncomfortable! other times it’s just fun to read and support my friends!!)
#2
don’t write for anyone but yourself! it will just make you resent writing and that’s the last thing anyone wants!
#3
don’t be afraid to set boundaries. and don’t be afraid to block people if they are making you feel uncomfortable. consent is necessary and important, even online.
#4
try to make some friends! i know that’s easier said than done and as a shy person those are like the worst words i could ever possibly hear lmao
but honestly almost everyone on here is just as eager to make friends and mutuals as you are!
if that seems nerve racking feel free to start with me! no pressure of course, but i’d love to support you so don’t hesitate to shoot me a message or ask <3
#5
be nice and be respectful.
no one likes people who think they’re “too cool for this”. we are literally writing sex stories about superhero’s, get over yourself.
don’t be a “omg i’m soooo mean 🤪” type of person. because you are not a baddie you��re just an asshole!!
also respect the fact that even if you don’t write rpf (real person fan fiction) to a certain extent real people are going to be involved! not all directors are as fan-fiction loving as Chloé Zhao! and some of them are required by contract to NOT read fics because it can interfere with things and cause legal issues!
@/neil-gaiman (author of coralline, sandman, good omens, ect.) has a post about this where he explains it better than I do lol! it’s pinned on his account 👍 i’m not tagging him because he has expressed that he doesn’t want to be tagged in fics, so even though i don’t write for any of his characters i still wanna respect that decision.
also you never know how actors are going to react so don’t try to shove it in their faces? because they’re real people!
it’s not even that actors or writers or directors hate fan fics and want them completely eradicated. some people just aren’t into it and that deserves to be respected!
#6
write even if you think no one’s reading and write even if you’re only getting 10 likes <3
i remember how happy i was when i hit 30 followers!! lmao i bought myself a cupcake and everything!
so always celebrate the little things and HAVE FUN BABY!!!
reach out if you need anything, i like to think i’m a pretty nice person to talk to? and i love making new friends :D
okay bye!
xoxo,
allie🕊
p.s.
always tag your work! especially if it’s 18+ and especially if it’s dark!!
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Ooc: intro post (what the colours are and stuff).
If you want to interact I’d advise reading.
Please don’t use italics and bold text if you’re going to interact, I have dyslexia and struggle reading when italics and bold fonts are used.
I block blank blogs.
So I think it goes without saying that this is a role play blog. Ran by Koschei (@missyshortformissilelancher). I’m just gonna answer some questions I’ve had before.
If you don’t like the mention of: murder, death, cannibalism, swearing, fighting, anything like that, this probably isn’t a blog you’d like.
What do the different colours mean?
Black- Missy (she/they)
Green- Mars, Missy’s snake (they/them)
Purple- Zero, human (they/them/he)
Blue- Mark, TARDIS(he/they/it)
Blue without font- Doctor (usually he/they but sometimes she/they)
Why does Missy often refer to herself as the Master?
They are literally the same person, I know she calls herself Missy, but saying the Master just sounds better sometimes.
When is this, isn’t Missy dead (sadly)?
Between series 9 and 10. Lots of eu stuff with her will be mentioned tho so sorry for spoilers.
You spelt (whatever word I spelt wrong) wrong.
I’m dyslexic, that happens a lot. I don’t know the different between there and their (despite being my own pronouns) and to and too so sorry if it confuses you.
Can I interact?
Sure, why not. Aslong as you’re not a bigot. If you want to just send an ask or reblog something or something. I won’t do really long ones involving me writing lots (and if you write really long ones with descriptions I’ll just read the dialogue) because I really struggle reading due to dyslexic.
Mars???????
:)-<
No, who’s Mars?
Snek.
That doesn’t help.
I get that a lot. (Mars is a snake Missy accidentally adopted when they wanted an omelet.)
How does wanting an omelet end up in a snake?
Wanting an omelet- getting an egg- the egg hatches- it’s a snake- you can’t make an omelet anymore- you now have a snake.
Who’s Zero?
Zero is one of my ocs. They are basically Missy’s companion, they are 16 and live in Whitby (no they’re not a vampire (yet)). They do swear a lot but that’s because I don’t see enough teen characters who do and that confuses me as teens swear.
How did Missy get a companion?
She ended up getting trapped in Whitby and became an English teacher so they would have access to the schools DT department where there were tools to fix her TARDIS. In Missy’s Form was Zero and (much like 12 with Bill) she saw there gay energy and sort of adopted them.
Why an English teacher? She gives off physics vibes.
I was watching Chilling Adventures of Sabrina and we like, ye she passes the vibe check. (It was that or history because of bad education).
Missy’s husband/spouse/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend?
Ye, I ship thoschei, it’s canon here.
Why does Missy not like being called Koschei?
As a trans person, I know it’s painful being called by a name you don’t go by anymore so she doesn’t like it (I see the irony with it being my name).
Why is this post so long?
I’m not good at condensing things.
Poundland?
I’m British, most things I mention will be British. Poundland’s just good (so is Yorkshire tea, fight me).
Do you like Missy or something?
Yes.
You didn’t answer my ask.
If it’s on annon, I may not have seen it.
Why does Mars refer to Missy as Mum and Ren?
Because Missy is Mars’ parent. I also don’t see enough people use non binary terms for things like this so Mars uses the female and enby ones.
Some of the stuff Missy says feels like it comes from the TARDIS wiki.
Fun that. It’s as if I haven’t got through all of classic who and the eu yet so just read some of the wiki pages when I don’t know something.
Not much of this is tagged.
Ye, I forget.
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Hi! I’m Nyx and I’m looking for a character nonnie.
My preferred characters would be Tony Stark, Wanda Maximoff, Natasha Romanoff, Steve Rogers, or another C. Evans character.
If that’s something you might be interested in please read on below 🥰
Mod must (and I cannot stress this enough) be 18+!!! I’m incredibly uncomfortable with interacting with minors, especially in this capacity so please please please DNI if you are a minor. Thank you.
I am hoping to find someone willing to interact with me daily! (I fully understand everyone has a life outside of Tumblr so I don’t expect to talk all day!!!)
Asks or dm’s are okay!
If anyone doesn’t wanna see these posts (which I fully understand) I’m going to tag them as #nyxsnonnie so please feel free to block that tag!
SFW and NSFW (i will tag all NSFW posts !!!)
I am looking for some companionship because I’m lonely and sometimes I need a little encouragement. I’d love to be able to form a relationship with my nonnie! Just being there for each other and having some sweet and sometimes smutty times 🥺
I’d love someone who wants to watch movies, play games, be silly and have fun but also someone who also is comfortable in more of a caregiver role. I have both physical and mental chronic illnesses. Communication is very important to me so I would absolutely be willing to talk about boundaries before anything begins. I want to be there for my nonnie as much as they’re there for me.
Tagging some moots/friends to please help spread the word:
@dadplease @nony-bear @tumblin-theworldaway @purple-babygirl
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