#masculinity is so fragile

[thevillainsfangirl]

There are some ships that you just know would be 100% canon if they were an M/F ship, and that's mainly what pisses people off the most in these situations.

It isn't just about the ship; it's also very much about the homophobia (whether the creators know it or not) that is preventing the ship from being canon when they otherwise would be.

(Addition.)

[brodyfoxxsmassivetits]

laur and their strange creature thing

[wolves-in-the-world]

the thing about eliot spencer as a character, right. the thing about him.

(and as always your mileage may vary on my analyses so if we disagree that's cool actually)

is that he is in fact a somewhat emotionally constipated idiot who is occasionally sensitive about his perceived masculinity and gets defensive about emotional intimacy around other men (largely hardison, who's much more comfortable expressing affection and embracing a softer kind of masculinity), but eliot displays enough emotional awareness and sensitivity and respect for women etc etc that anyone who's been subjected to that era of television will put on rose-tinted glasses without even looking twice.

(and he is, don't get me wrong, incredibly emotionally aware for a professionally punchy guy with enough trauma to sink the titanic. it still startles me to see.)

on top of which we have the layers and the accessories and the excellent hair with the secret braids and the way he barely has an ego and he's good with kids and protective of his team without taking it too far, and some of us never stood a fucking chance.

[relapsednhornygirl]

rando in my dms: girl

rando in my dms: do you have a vibrator

me, used to calling my besties "girl" "girlie" and "girliepop": omg girlie i dont but i wish 😔👊

rando in my dms: *deactivates his account*

[pawfulofwaffles]

Nhnhnhn holidays

It’s very snowy, Eddie better be careful delivering mail…

(In the first picture, since it’s hard to read, Frank is saying “Happy Hanukkah” and Howdy is saying “Merry Christmas” and their exclamations are colliding, so they just go with “Happy Holidays” instead)

[alaskan-wallflower]

steve’s always been kind of hush hush about his home life. part of him is ashamed to admit he probably gets hit by his dad or yelled at. he’s being a baby anyway. he’s supposed to be stoic and cool. he’s not supposed to cry over a little bumping around from his old man. so he pushes it down and doesn’t tell anyone. until they’re about twelve or thirteen and soda just sees him on the curb outside his house for the first time he thinks ever. he’s got a black eye and a visible handprint on his cheek, though he’s holding a slab of frozen meat he managed to snag before running out. he’s never really told soda the whole story…shoot, the whole reason they became friends in the first place was because they were two “troubled” young boys who were usually having to stay in for recess together because of soda’s not understood impulsivity and steve’s anger issues, but nobody knew where those anger issues came from.

he just breaks down before soda can say anything and gets up to run off before soda grabs a hold of his shoulder to get him to stay and wait and just talk a minute…and he does. by hid he tells him everything. the messy divorce, how he became a cheap prize between his parents because both of them wanted custody over him, the abuse from his dad, the constant hitting and luring back with the promise of money and maybe a home cooked meal…something that certainly wouldn’t have been able to cover or make up for the years of emotional ahd physical abuse…

and everything just makes sense. steve’s anger. his unwillingness to show the slightest bit of negative-or as he dubbed it, “weak” emotions. the way he’d usually try to buy soda dinner or something after a heated argument. it all clicks. and all soda can do is hold in his own tears as his normally emotionally “well put together” friend breaks down in his arms

[huginsmemory]

I think whats so compelling about Sanji is that he's so terribly self conscious about being masculine that anything that performs masculinity better than him (ie, Zoro, obliviously, minus the women-fucking part), or skews masculinity, is a threat to him. Which makes him rampantly homophobic and transphobic. And as he also believes masculinity needs to be focused around being horny for women makes him also rampantly misogynistic cause he can't actually see women past them being a sexual object. Anyways it all culminates in you the audience being fairly certain that this man cannot be straight due to this terribly obvious fragility around his masculinity, and that if he ever got dicked down, it might solve all these issues.

[gasstationpopcorn]

can kris stop chopping off his hair like someone heeds to say to his face that longer style simply suits him so so much better, it frames his face beautifully. "kris stop wasting your potential 2025" intervention

[autogeneity]

so I have these eccentricities of habit-formation/behaviour-change/etc, right -- where small, incremental changes don't work, and large, identity-defining changes through inflexible rules work better. this works well when it works. but it works through rigidity, and consequently is brittle. it can falter in the face of the uncertainties and inconsistencies of the real world.

this has been especially troublesome with the intermittent illness. if I am inconsistent enough, it chips away at the critical element of being able to believe I am [person with trait]. and it is difficult to build back, with the difficulty of starting small. I need a dramatic disproof! that I can hang everything off until the next time it all falls apart.

and "softer" rules don't work for me, because as mentioned in the rules post, if I can negotiate it, I probably will, and in fact not only that but I will probably get stuck on that with decision paralysis. it has to be non-negotiable.

so now I am working on a way of reframing small, actionable steps into an identity-defining change. I am aiming for identity as "person who shows up", and then, later, "person who finishes what they start".

in practical terms this isn't actually any different to "walk 5 minutes every day", but it perhaps applies a different motivational mechanism to do so. not an "I am doing something small" but rather an "I am building something large" -- I am not building the fitness in tiny steps; I am actually taking fairly modest steps towards building the type of person who shows up no matter what. and importantly, not a "letting myself off easy".

I think this is also possibly a way of approaching the building fortitude against being sick thing.

[your-unfriendlyghost]

does your design of Dallas have black nail polish on

It has, once I think, in the “Dally’s scared of dogs” comic. Idk why I did that, as it doesn’t seem very Dally tbh- I’m like 90% sure I mentioned that in the tags of that post :,)

we’ll say the in-universe explanation is that he lost a bet with Sylvia or something and had to paint them lol

[celtrist]

I love how you draw Alastor with the dark patches on his skin/fur. Although I feel bad for him being forced into outfits he's not comfortable in, I have to agree with Charlie that he looks super cute in that dress!

Tis the burden he bears being attractive: people wanting to put him in outfits he'd 100% not be cool with wearing.

[euphiibabyy]

I need to kiss him with a lipstick that smears easily so it can transfer to his lips and he can leave kiss marks all over my neck I wanna kiss him till both our mouths look so red like we drank each other's blood

[edgepunk]

"what happened to the re/yl/o fandom?" they're writing those misogynistic aggressively hetero books that list off fanfic tropes instead of writing a proper plot summary

[gothicrepetitions]

This is so funny, I guess we’re just saying stuff now

[peachyhoolagan]

I can’t even put it into words how much of a girls girl ezra is. Like he is ONE OF THE GIRLS

[kneworder]

like look I don’t really want to use different pronouns but I do feel so incredibly alienated from the idea of womanhood like all of the time and have picked up this weird fascination and almost longing for aspects of masculinity and I have no idea whether this says more about my gender identity or how shit sucks so bad to be a woman rn. like is it just me or is the definition of what it means to be a real socially acceptable woman shrinking again.