#not only does it cultivate and encourage good habits

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Arabian Jasmine

ARABIAN JASMINE

Arabian Jasmine flowers are king of fragrant flowers. Jasmine are of more than 200+ varieties around the world. But Arabian jasmine occupies the remarkable place for strong fragrance & layered flowers. Jasmine is belonging to genus Jasminum and family Oleraceae.

Arabian jasmine flower

This Arabian jasmine flowers are bright white, double layered, tubular, lobed oval flowers contain 9 to 10 petals has sweet & strong fragrance throughout your garden. Flowers contains two stamens with very short filaments.

Arabian jasmine plant

Like all jasmine plant varieties, this plant is perennial evergreen with thin woody branches. Arabian jasmine plants are small shrubs with lush foliage. And its climber vines reach up to the height of 25-30 cm & spreads wide 10-20 cm. Arabian jasmine plants are native to Asia, grows healthy & excellent in all climatic conditions of India.

Jasminum sambac

Arabian jasmine flower has scientific name Jasminum sambac spreads rapidly as shrub or veins with upright habits. Jasminum sambac is popularly called as “Belle of India” meaning Queen of India. Presence of Scent fragrance refreshes the mind & environment.

How to grow Arabian jasmine

Arabian jasmine plants are considered as‘megastar of garden’. This can grow well in garden areas such as home garden & terrace garden. This plant can be grown in grow bags, pots or any suitable container.

Flower farmer’s most cultivated plants are Arabian jasmine plants with high yield & it is most suitable for scent preparation purposes.

Soil

Arabian jasmine plants prefer to grow in loose, loamy, well-drained soil with some organic matter content mostly prefers to grow in acidic to slight acidic soil of pH of 4.5 to 6.9.

Sunlight

This plant requires ample of sun light i.e. is direct sun light of 4-6 hours. It can also tolerate in shade.

Temperature

Ideal temperature for Arabian jasmine plant is 85-90 degree Celsius during day time & in night time 70-80 degree Celsius.

Watering

Moderate to average water application is given. Alternate day water application but not to make the soil soggy & wet. Because overwatering may lead to root rot diseases. Avoid watering in winter seasons(November-December).

Fertilizer

Application of organic fertilizer such as vermicompost, cow manure or goat manure, Groundnut cake powder for nitrogen enhancement & to increase soil fertility.

Organic fertilizer for pest attack

Application of Neem oil, Bio-Npk, Steamed bone meal once in three months. Not to over fertilize the plants. Application of organic fertilizer given only in required quantity. Prefer to grow plants by using organic fertilizer.

Repotting

This plant does not like to grow in too large pot, because it may lead to water stagnation. Select the pot of 3-4’’and once if the plant grows large. Transfer the plants to big size pot compared to last one but most importantly not to damage the roots.

Pruning:

Prune the Arabian jasmine plants in winter, because flower blooming will be less compared to other seasons.Trim the old, diseased and matured plant parts to encourage fast growth in plants.

Harvest:

To get fresh flower yield, fully developed & unopened flower buds are hand-picked in the early morning or late evening. Probably harvesting time starts from 6 months after planting.

Life time of Jasmine plant:

Yield:

Expected average yield of about 800-900 kg of flowers per acre. In houseplant we can expect about 1kg of flower yield.

All and above grow plants good and healthy by using organic & traditional method of practices to grow plants. Go green and make our environment clean & green.

Blog compiled by : Santhionlineplants

[sugurushimura]

May I ask why you headcanon Midou as a trans woman? I always headcanonned Higuchi as trans out of all the Yotsubas (FtM though, not MtF) and I'd really like to hear your reasoning!

oh man, this is one of those headcanons that i've had for so long that it's kind of just cemented itself in my brain... the idea was actually my boyfriend @teethrotter's first, so what initially sparked it lies in his mind alone. i'm not sure if he even told me anything specifically other than "hey, i think it'd be neat if mido was a trans woman" so we tried it out for a while and it just stuck... i'm not sure when exactly that was, maybe 2016 or 2017? over 5 years for sure.

by this point, it's not even a decision i actively make, i just see mido and she registers immediately as a woman with my brain. seeing her he/him'd in canon feels wrong... although i am obviously not arguing that trans mido is even vaguely implied, she's just such a minor character that headcanoning her as a closeted trans woman doesn't change literally anything.

the headcanon does play into my own interpretation of mido pretty heavily, and it works well with how i perceive her canon personality. imo, mido is someone who is very resigned with her life. she was born into a high-status family that placed a lot of weight on her shoulders wrt being a Good Member Of Society. she went to an elite college, got a law degree, and went on to become a bigwig at the yotsuba group. she clearly excels at her job, but according to htr, she actually hates the division she works in. she's well-liked amongst her colleagues -- better than any of them except ooi, in fact -- but in turn seems to like very few of them. her social skills are quite good, but she seems... disengaged, to say the least, at the model party.

pretty much every facet of mido's life, except her fencing hobby, is spent doing things she hates and interacting with people that she dislikes. and yet she shows absolutely no signs that she's interested in changing it -- hell, she doesn't even bother speaking out against the kira murders, which seem to weigh on her conscience. of course, there's a real threat of death if she does that, but it isn't as if she simply abstains from the meetings; she's an incredibly active participant!

all this plays into the greater feeling that mido is resigned to her own misery even when she really doesn't have to be. i think she developed this tendency mainly because of her family, but eventually it became such a habit that to change now feels to her like she'd have wasted all that pain and effort. sunk-cost fallacy, you know? at times, too, i think she's prone to romanticizing her own pain in a sort of "oh, woe is me, i'm such a dutiful son and such a productive member of society, look at how much i've sacrificed for the sake of the status quo, how tragic am i..."

her gender identity, too, is a reflection of that. gender is such a fundamental part of how we perceive ourselves and others; i think it ties everything together to have mido, who is really and truly a woman, lock it up inside herself and just go along with the way she was raised to present because, even despite the misery it causes her, it would be troublesome to change it all now and would damage the image she's spent so long cultivating. besides, if she changed this now, that would open a lot of doors. what else about her life would she be happier if she changed?

my own experiences with gender are somewhat similar. there was a time when i was younger where i realized that i was a trans man, but thought it would be too much of a hassle to come out and completely change who i am publicly. i had more or less resigned myself to living the rest of my life that way, and it was only thanks to my boyfriend's encouragement that i changed my mind. i'm very glad i did, and it's probably no coincidence that i also imagined myself getting a business degree at that point in my life...

i love mido and i'd like for her to reach self-actualization, at least to some extent. in most lighthearted AUs, i default to writing her as out of the closet and fully transitioned -- albeit still working a job she hates. it's also very important to me that she comes out to shimura after the kira case. after being put through such a stressful situation and realizing that she really could have been killed (...oops), i think she realizes that, at the end of the day, she needs someone else to know. it might as well be shimura, who shows her so readily that he's been wrestling with the horror of their situation more frantically than any of them, who still shows compassion after everything they've done.

also, mido has the trans haircut. you know, the ambiguous "it's just short enough that mom won't say anything" look.

(as an aside, i think i've heard trans man higuchi brought up before! not for several years, though, and only briefly, unless i'm forgetting something. although it personally isn't a headcanon that i share, he's such an envious person and focuses his own identity so intensely on other men that i could see it being written in a very compelling way. the whole "i want him AND i want to be him" thing, however in denial he is about it, is very real... i would love to see that concept explored more! i am probably not the person to do it, though.)

[sapphicscholar]

10 Things for 2023

Thanks for the tag @trying-to-get-somewhere-real

a fic idea you want to write or read: I’m super excited to read all the fic coming out in the Hacks S3 fic event I’m organizing - there were some really fun prompts! In terms of writing? I feel like I’ve talked on here about my Hacks WIPs already, but I’m also still kicking around that Julia post-S1 fic @trying-to-get-somewhere-real mentioned, plus an Abbott Elementary Melissa/Janine fic that I wrote and scrapped and now am trying to piece back together (and thank you very much to @hashtagtheyfucked for the encouragement!) 

a place you want to go: this is gonna sound a little ridiculous, but I’m very excited about the massive climbing gym that’ll be just a 15 minute walk from my hotel at a conference I’m presenting at in Chicago haha! So much of my travel is work-related that it’s hard to really be excited about it, but my wife and I are hoping to go up to the northern part of our state this summer to see a meteor shower, so that’ll be fun! 

a book you want to read: I’m currently rereading everything I’m teaching this term + things for the dissertation, but in terms of things that are just for me, I got Sally Bellerose’s Fishwives and am very excited to delve into it when I get the time!

something fun you want to do: hiking with friends, hosting friends for brunch, and bouldering are perennial faves, and I’m hoping that we’re all able to stay healthy and relatively safe enough to have those things feel like real possibilities throughout the long, often brutal winters we get here in the midwest 

something you want to make: does fic count?? I do a lot of baking and writing, so for now, given the weather, I’ll say I’m very excited about making a big batch of an old family friend’s molasses ginger cookies! 

a habit you want to start: I’d gotten really good about running a few days a week (I have historically loathed running, but had managed to find a program this fall that let it feel fun and like a gradual enough work up into distance that I didn’t hate every second of it), but I fell out of the routine with the holidays and fellowship apps, so I’d love to re-cultivate that! 

something new you want to try: to copy the person who tagged me, I also kind of want to try cross-country skiing! We have a local park that does it all winter, and we have really good friends who’ve offered to teach my wife and I how to (and my wife has already accepted on my behalf haha). I had a terrifying experience learning to downhill ski, so I’m hoping this relatively horizontal version is the one for me! 

something you want to finish from 2022: Waterloo! Which should be by the end of the month... And longer-term, my dissertation haha! (technically the defense is looking like it’ll be a couple months into 2024, but dream big ya know) 

something you want to stop doing: oh! I do this thing where I get lovely fic comments and then I let them sit too long bc I don’t immediately respond and forget for a few weeks, then I feel horribly guilty and awkward, then I never respond. And I know it’s not, like, an obligation to do so, but I’ve made some great friends via fic comments, and I don’t want to lose that opportunity just bc it’s been a few months (or years...) 

something you want to keep doing: climbing! I got my first pretty hard V5 on the overhang today, and it’s really personally gratifying to see improvement over time through hard work and practice. I’ve also found a really nice group of people to climb with, so it’s a nice way to keep friendships going even when the semester is at its most hectic

tagging, only if you want to do it: @hashtagtheyfucked @dkc2017 @sandstonesunspear @bathtimefunduck @howmanycatsistoomany @sralinchen @warriorbard2012 @chainofclovers @shesnohack (and anyone who wants to do it!)

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Healthy Habits for Families: Instilling Well-Being in Children

In today's fast-paced world, where digital distractions are aplenty, and the demands of modern life seem unrelenting, fostering well-being in children has become more critical than ever. The foundation for a healthy and happy life is often laid during childhood, and families are responsible for instilling healthy habits that promote well-being. In this article, we will explore some essential healthy habits for families to cultivate well-being in children.

Nutrition Matters: The saying, "You are what you eat," holds, especially for growing children. Encourage a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins. Teach them the importance of portion control and limit sugary snacks and drinks. Involving children in meal planning and preparation can make them more enthusiastic about healthy eating.

Regular Physical Activity:

Promote an active lifestyle by making physical activity a family affair.

Plan outdoor activities like hiking, biking, or playing sports together.

Limit screen time and encourage activities that get kids moving.

Not only does exercise improve physical health, but it also boosts mood and reduces stress.

Adequate Sleep: Sleep is crucial for a child's growth and development. Establish a consistent bedtime routine, ensuring they get the recommended amount of sleep for their age. A well-rested child is more alert, focused, and less prone to behavioral issues.

Mindfulness and Stress Management:

Teach children the importance of managing stress and emotions from an early age.

Introduce mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, or yoga.

Encourage open communication and active listening within the family to create a supportive environment where children can express their feelings.

Limit Screen Time: Excessive screen time can harm a child's physical and mental health. Set reasonable screen time limits and create tech-free zones in the house. Encourage other activities like reading, drawing, or playing board games to stimulate creativity and social interaction.

Hydration: Make water the drink of choice for your family. Teach children about the importance of staying hydrated and avoiding sugary beverages. Keeping a reusable water bottle handy can remind everyone to drink enough water throughout the day.

Healthy Snacking: Pack nutritious snacks like cut-up fruits, yogurt, or nuts in the kitchen. Encourage children to make healthy snack choices by offering them options and explaining the benefits of good nutrition.

Regular Check-Ups: Ensure your child's health by scheduling regular check-ups with their pediatrician. Immunizations, growth tracking, and developmental assessments are essential to identify and address health concerns early on.

Family Meals: Share meals as a family as often as possible. Family meals provide quality bonding time and help children develop healthy eating habits. It's also a chance to discuss daily experiences and create a sense of belonging.

Limit Processed Foods: Reduce the consumption of processed and fast foods, often high in salt, sugar, and unhealthy fats. Instead, opt for home-cooked meals made from fresh ingredients whenever feasible.

Lead by Example: Children are more likely to adopt healthy habits if they see their parents practicing them. Be a role model by demonstrating good nutrition, regular exercise, and a positive attitude towards well-being.

Encourage Curiosity: Nurture your child's natural curiosity by encouraging them to explore new interests and hobbies. Whether it's art, music, sports, or science, supporting their passions can boost their self-esteem and sense of purpose.

Set Realistic Goals: Help children set achievable goals for their well-being. Whether aiming to eat more vegetables, exercise regularly, or manage their time better, setting realistic objectives can instill a sense of accomplishment.

Limit Overscheduling: While extracurricular activities can be beneficial, avoid overscheduling your child. Allow them time for unstructured play and downtime to relax and recharge.

Positive Reinforcement: Praise and reward your child's efforts in adopting healthy habits. Positive reinforcement can motivate them to continue making well-being a priority.

In conclusion, instilling well-being in children is a lifelong endeavor that starts within the family. By embracing healthy habits and creating a supportive environment, parents can set their children on a path to physical and emotional well-being. Consistency, patience, and leading by example are crucial to cultivating these habits. As a family, prioritize well-being and watch your children grow into happy, healthy individuals equipped to navigate life's challenges with resilience and positivity.

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BWLW’s 21 Day Brisk Walking Challenge

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BWLW’s 21 Day Brisk Walking Challenge

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Experts say that it only takes 21 days to form a new habit, so this means that in 21 days you could go take an old habit and break it or you can acquire a new habit- preferably a positive one! For those of you interested in health and fitness, this is some handy information that will serve you well. You CAN develop a healthy fitness and/or health habit within 21 days to benefit you in so many ways! Does this sound too easy? Do you think you could do it? In 21 days? I challenge you to take the next 21 days to start or re-start your weight loss journey by cultivating a new workout habit: Brisk walking.

It’s a fact: brisk walking can help you get in shape and lose weight. You don’t have to hit the gym or join an aerobics class in order to burn calories necessary for weight loss. For many of you who are just beginning your journey, walking is the perfect match. In fact, University of Pittsburgh researchers assert that those who walk for 30 to 60 minutes per day were likely to lose weight even if they changed nothing else in their lifestyle habits.* Plus, walking is something that you can do for free. You can walk around your neighborhood, in nature, on a treadmill in the gym, at the mall, on trails, at a track and more. There are even walking DVDs that you can use at home. No excuses.

The key is to be sure that you are walking at a fast pace or what many call “brisk walking”.  Basically, this is not about strolling or walking slow.  You want to walk at a fast pace and you can pump your arms for even more affect. This might not sound like much, but you could burn up to 200 calories each time you brisk walk 30 minutes, so if you do this every day, you’ll have burned 1,400 calories by the end of one week.  With 5 days a week minimum, you could burn in the range of 1000 calories per week.* If you really watch your eating habits on top of this, you’ll be good to go!

21 Day Walking Challenge – July 9-29, 2023 (Free Tracking Calendar Below!)

If you’ve been waiting to start your weight loss journey because you don’t know where to start, I’d like you to do something for me. Make a commitment to take 21 days to change things up. Make a commitment for 21 days to eat healthier and walk briskly for at least 30 minutes, at least 5 days per week until you reach 21 days. You don’t have to become a vegan, but I do want you to encourage you to introduce healthy foods such as fruits and vegetables into your diet on a daily basis and eliminate some unhealthy foods (junk foods, foods with little nutritional value).

I also want you to find a family member, co-worker or friend to commit to doing this with you. It will make it easier to partner with someone in this endeavor. For 21 days, Commit to do something different. Commit to become healthier and get moving. If you need motivation, get some. Read the stories of others who have gone from unhealthy and overweight to healthy and slender, listen to motivational speakers and invite your friends to encourage you. Get recipe books that have healthy recipes and try your hand at cooking lighter meals. Heck, you might even want to form a neighborhood walking party!

I believe that anyone can eat healthier with a firm commitment to change and most everyone can get out and walk consistently. I believe that in 21 days you will develop healthier patterns that will continue on past that 21 day mark. You will prove to yourself that you can change and live a healthy lifestyle. Begin today. Take the 21 day brisk walking challenge.

You may want to purchase a few things to help you track your efforts and to get the most out of this challenge.

This is a self-guided challenge. Check-in and share your progress in our Facebook Group! Leave a comment below and let us know when you plan to start your 21 days of brisk walking and where you plan to walk. 

Download our free tracking calendar.

Post about your 21 Day Challenge using the hashtag #BWLW so that we can find your posts.

Now, you might say to yourself, “Walking…will that really work?”  Well, I say “You’ve got to start somewhere!”

Do you realize that most New Year’s Resolutions are made with the pledge to eat healthier, exercise, and lose weight? It is probably not a shocker that within one month of making those resolutions that efforts subside and people continue on with their unhealthy lifestyle.  They say they want to eat healthier and exercise, but are not willing to pay the price.

Committing to the simple lifestyle change of walking for 30 minutes, 5 days a week could help you make progress on that weight loss resolution you made months ago.

It is easier to eat unhealthy foods. Most people opt to grab cookies over celery and a Big Mac over tofu salad. It is also easier to sit around the house rather than to get out and walk or engage in some form of exercise on a daily basis. But easy does not get you very far. Easy gets you gaining pounds and feeling sluggish.

Many people get it that exercise and healthy food is important, but we don’t want to really commit to changing our lifestyle. There is a saying, “When the pain gets great enough, you’ll do something different.” What that means is that when you get sick and tired of feeling sluggish and carrying those extra pounds, you’ll do something different.  Will you have to reach a point of no return or experience a crisis before you change? What will it take for you to get motivated and really make a commitment to doing something different to get the results that you want? Walking is a great way for anyone to get started.  Take a chance and get moving for 21 days.

*Reference: www.active.com/walking/articles/forget-the-gym-why-a-brisk-walk-is-a-really-great-workout Calories: Intensity of your workouts, age, weight, body fat vs. muscle, health and other factors will impact calorie burn so these are estimates. You can invest in a fitness tracker, like Polar watch or FitBit for a better idea of how many calories you’re burnin

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What Impact Do Schools Have on Your Children's Future?

Raising a family can be both an exciting and daunting prospect, especially when it comes to planning for your children's future. As parents, you want your kids to have access to the best educational opportunities available to set them up for success later in life.

Coimbatore is one of the best cities when it comes to education. It has some of the best CBSE schools in the country, including the esteemed SSVMSchool of Excellence. These centres of learning are highly sought-after and stand out among the best CBSE schools in Coimbatore for2023-24. But why exactly is it so important to find a world-class school for your children? What impact does your choice of school have on their future?

Promotes interests, develops habits, and cultivates skills

The value of a high-quality school cannot be overstated. Not only does it provide academic training, but it also lets your children discover their true interests, hone their abilities, and foster creative thinking. A good school encourages exploration outside the traditional methodologies, allowing children to find new hobbies and build healthy habits that will benefit them later in life.

Social learning and interaction

What makes school life so invaluable is the social learning, interaction, and collaboration with other children in a safe environment. Schools provide an excellent platform for kids to learn how to interact with peers and build healthy relationships that stay until adulthood.

Shapes the future

It is commonly said that “your school shapes your future,” and this couldn’t be truer. A good school will teach children to reason, think critically, manage their stress, and, best of all, give them a sense of direction for their future. With access to the best CBSE schools in Coimbatore this 2023-24 academic year, you can give your kids the best opportunity to succeed as adults.

The importance of good schools is undeniable, so choosing the right one should be a priority for every parent. The education your children receive today is the foundation of their future success. Take the time to find an educational institution that can give them a head start not only in academics but also in the real world beyond school.

About the company:

SSVM School of Excellence is recognised as the best CBSE School in Coimbatore, SSVM School of Excellence stands distinguished by their high standards, vigorously pursuing them by nurturing enthusiasm for a holistic learning experience. Their environment has a unique blend of broad socio-economic and cultural mix that aids in students and teachers successfully achieving academic excellence that is fuelled by a strong unwavering commitment.

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Howard stark birthday readings

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August 15, 1917

CONSOLIDATED ROYAL COMMAND

- PERSONALITY TRAITS OF THIS DAY -

COMMANDING

DECISIVE

EXPANSIVE

COMMANDING

HEROIC

CREATIVE

EMPATHIC

FINANCIALLY ASTUTE

CARING OVERAGGRESSIVE

INSENSITIVE

DICTATORIAL

SELFISH

INSENSITIVE

RUTHLESS

OVERLY STRUCTURED

MISERLY

The Day of Royal Command

Traits...

COMMANDING

DECISIVE

EXPANSIVE

OVERAGGRESSIVE

INSENSITIVE

Meditation...

Love involves acceptance of the inexorability of Law

Advice...

Your place cannot be first in every line; learn to cooperate with your fellow human beings.

Beware of an excessive desire for control and adoration.

Listen carefully to what people say when they try to explain their feelings.

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Personality of this day...

    The commanding personages born on August 15 are born leaders. Their expansive, royal approach betokens a lifestyle which does not admit of miserliness, selfishness or commonness. Those born on this day are not overly concerned with petty details, choosing instead to focus on the broad line, the big show. Presenting a regal and noble face to the world is essential to them, and they will do what is necessary to preserve their dignity. Those born on this day can often be found at the head of a family, business or social group and are indeed most comfortable when they are in the seat of power.

    Many born on August 15 are not aware of their imperial nature, though to those close to them it is often all too apparent. Women born on August 15 must be worshiped and adored. Their house is their palace, their husband a king, their children princes and princesses. Men born on this day seek to command others, on a financial, social or family level, and as such must be obeyed without question. Those born on this day whose personalities display large doses of kindness and acceptance, affection and warmth, are indeed unusual and highly evolved souls. For the most part, however, these last-mentioned qualities are not basic to the August 15 character, but must be cultivated and encouraged.

    This is not to say that August 15 people are inherently ruthless or unkind. It is just that their powerful and golden leonine energy sweeps away everything before it, overwhelming as a mighty wave that doesn’t ask permission of ships or shells. It is a great challenge for August 15 people to keep their surplus energy under control and to develop the fine art of discrimination and attention to detail. They must also learn to deal with each individual they meet on a personal level—to listen, be sympathetic and try to understand their point of view.

    The heavy expectations August 15 people place on themselves and others may also be a problem. Children of August 15 people can feel great pressure to succeed, either consciously or unconsciously, and mates can well buckle under the strain of rigorous standards.

    Those born on this day must learn real teamwork, subjugating their strong egos to the interests of the group. Because any cramping of their independent, free-wheeling style is generally met with stubborn resistance, they must be appealed to with tact and care. Inside they are often quite soft and sentimental, loving admiration and affection of all sorts. If one can keep on their good side, one may never see the tyrant that dwells within. Generally the “lion” or “lioness” is happy when well fed emotionally.

Health...

    The expansive attitude August 15 people display toward the world often includes all sorts of lavish tastes. This can cause health problems when eating habits know no bounds. Not only obesity but cardiovascular problems can result from a diet overrich in delicious sugars and fats. An effort should be made to restrict the harmful elements of such a diet without eliminating the enjoyment (through healthy food choices). Regular, quite vigorous exercise is recommended: from horseback riding to competitive sports or full-scale aerobics. (Those who are inactive should, of course, gradually work to such a level and not overdo it.) An ongoing sexual relationship is a big plus. All in all, the passion for life is there but August 15 leonine instincts must be tamed a bit if those born on this day are to live a long and happy life.

Numerology...

    Those born on the 15th day of the month are ruled by the number 6 (1+5=6), and by the planet Venus. Those ruled by the number 6 tend to be charismatic and even inspire worship in others, complementing the above-mentioned capacity of August 15 people to offer leadership. Since Leo is ruled by the Sun, August 15 people tend to be Sun-Venus types—aggressive socially and in matters of love.

Archetype...

    The 15th card of the Major Arcana, The Devil, indicates a fear/desire dynamic working where sexual attraction, irrationality and passion are concerned. The Devil holds us slave through our need for security and money; he represents our base nature grasping for security; he controls us through the irreconcilable differences which exist in our male/female nature. The positive side of this card is sexual attraction and the expression of passionate desires. But the card reminds us that although we are bound to our bodies, our spirits are free to soar.

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The Week of Leadership

Traits of this week...

COMMANDING

HEROIC

CREATIVE

DICTATORIAL

SELFISH

INSENSITIVE

Advice...

Try to tone down your demanding and commanding side.

Hold the mirror up to yourself as well—examine your motivations carefully.

Battle to keep the combatant in you more peaceful.

Take some distance from yourself.

Admitting weakness can also be a sign of strength.

Personality of this week...

    Those born during the Week of Leadership often assume a commanding role in their family and social or work group. They have highly developed instincts to lead, but not necessarily to dominate or to rule; it is simply that action comes naturally to these dynamic individuals. They are also good planners, well capable of organizing an effective plan of attack and seeing it through. Building an effective team is essential to their continued success, and learning to delegate authority is key to stopping them from shouldering unrealistic burdens alone, which can result in burnout or breakdown.

    Both men and women born during this week have a heroic view of themselves. Aggressive, they know what they want and how to get it. They may lack consideration for the wishes of others, arousing antagonism and getting them in trouble, particularly since they are not, in fact, insensitive to what others are feeling but may choose to ignore what they know and follow their own desires. By occasionally riding roughshod over the emotions of those in their lives, they arouse resentment, fear and anger. But they may also inspire tremendous loyalty, respect and love in others, so much so that their acquaintances and friends often overlook the more selfish elements of their character.

    These people have an overwhelming faith in their own abilities. In extreme cases they see themselves as infallible, and seek to project a godlike demeanor. Obvious problems may result from this egotistical stance, not the least of these being the loss of faith that can be engendered in their children, mates and co-workers when they get tripped up. The fall from grace that inevitably follows may result in deep disillusionment; this can impair the relationship permanently, but it can also lead to a more realistic view of their personality.

    Careerwise, they specialize in breathing new life into an ailing business or social or family group. Their prodigious energy and single-mindedness may be just what is needed to get things back on track. These folks must see their endeavors bear fruit. Watching their restructuring and its implementation bloom is enormously satisfying to them; conversely, seeing their efforts fail is usually intolerable. Because they are not easily approached on an emotional level, striving shoulder to shoulder with them in such endeavors may be an effective means of getting close to them. Such working relationships may create deep ties of mutual feeling, which sometimes last a lifetime.

    If they are to ground their self-image and bring themselves into closer everyday contact with others, it may be important for them to share quite menial tasks. In particular, they will earn greater respect from family members if they shoulder ordinary, everyday responsibilities at home on a daily basis. A refusal or inability to “lower” themselves to this human level may result in tensions, frustrations and arguments. More balanced ones will avoid such needless difficulties by getting their chores done quickly and efficiently, with little fuss, thus freeing themselves up for what they view as more important endeavors.

    Their creativity often runs high. Although they are capable of selfishness and narrowness in their personal dealings, in their careers their imagination, philosophical perspective, and wide range of expression often result in artistic, financial and social creations of a very high order. Many of their friends, acquaintances and co-workers, in fact, are not really so much enamored of the person themselves as they are drawn to the aura surrounding them and the work they produce.

    Other strong personalities inevitably clash with these folks, and relationships with them are likely to be stormy affairs unless the other party is willing to compromise or back down. But the more clever, and devious, of their partners and mates know exactly how to soothe this savage lion or lioness. These people are not unaware of their charisma, and consequently come to value the constant love and appreciation of that very special person. In fact, they may not actually be at all aggressive toward those they love. As long as they are honored and respected, they will be generous and kind, even to a fault: they will often refuse to see anything wrong in the behavior of a favored family member, a trait that can make them quite unrealistic. Having a thoroughly spoiled mate or child is their trademark. In love, they are subject to sudden, explosive, violent and passionate displays of emotion. Their feelings are capable of smoldering under the surface for a long period only to break out unexpectedly and volcanically.

    Those involved in love affairs with those born during the Week of Leadership may appreciate their searing intensity and almost total involvement, but at the same time may have difficulty with their often overbearing, combative and unforgiving attitudes. In personal relationships, although faithful up to a point, they are not particularly long-suffering, and will not hesitate to break things off if they are wounded or see little hope for the future. Coming to feel that they apply a double standard to their relationships, their partners, angry and disgusted, may rudely drop them, which can amaze the more unaware of them since they imagine things are going well. Indeed, such persons may show little interest in seeing things from the other person’s point of view.

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The Way of Consolidation

Traits of this way...

EMPATHIC

FINANCIALLY ASTUTE

CARING

RUTHLESS

OVERLY STRUCTURED

MISERLY

Suggestions...

Develop a philosophy of life.

Know that what you feel one moment may change the next.

Create a sense of balance and wholeness within yourself and in your environment.

Remember to nourish your soul by giving it what it needs.

Their goal...

TO CREATE A FIRM INTERNAL STRUCTURE AND IDENTITY

They must release...

THE NEED TO BE MOTHERED

Their reward...

THE JOY OF A STRONG SENSE OF SELF

Their balance point...

SELF & OTHER

Personality of this way...

    Those born during the Way of Consolidation must secure their sense of self and learn to stand firm in who they are. They must learn to be more grounded, operate from a core of strength, deal resolutely with their emotions, and toughen their egos in order to be fully in charge of their lives. Coming from a place of deep empathy and sensitivity, they may find themselves buffeted by the winds of feeling, their own as well as that of others. In fact, so impressionable and psychic are they that, like mirrors or pools, they reflect the feelings of those closest to them. Moreover, since they don’t have a clear understanding of who they are to begin with, it is easy for them to confuse their own feelings or personality traits with those of others. Driven by an innate desire to please and a corresponding fear of rejection, it is common for them to become what others need them to be. Consequently, chameleon-like, their personality will adapt itself to that of anyone they spend much time with. They must come to some conclusions about who they are, how they interact with others, and who exactly they want to be. Furthermore, they must then pull it all together in an act of consolidating who they are into a healthier whole. Above all, they must learn how to know their true self, how to nurture it, and how to defend it.

    Obviously, their key challenge is to learn how to establish and maintain psychological and psychic boundaries, thereby building, brick by brick and wall by wall, a firmer ego structure. Setting boundaries requires knowing and understanding one’s own wants and needs and not confusing them with those of others. Moreover, a psychic boundary can protect against emotional vampires, those who spread their own energies around while drawing energy from others. Cultivating the ability to know when others are infringing on one’s rights or territory and, more than anything else, to say no, is crucial. Instead of looking at others to find out what they themselves should be, they will successfully go to meetings, appointments, and other encounters with a clear sense of who they are and what they want. In plain terms, if they can learn to be more guarded or detached, perhaps even sometimes a little emotionally cold, they will make progress; if not, they will continue to flounder until they learn to muster a tougher brand of objectivity. Here, being a ruler implies learning to rule the fortress of self.

    These individuals must work steadily to develop self-understanding and a more philosophical view of life such that the drama and intensity of their emotional lives becomes more muted and no longer threatens to swamp their sense of self. They must continuously and relentlessly cut away counterproductive tendencies and patterns, particularly that of sinking back into the shifting sands of feeling. Through self­understanding, they can build a strong base from which they can then better operate in the world and which will help them to stay in balance both emotionally and psychologically. It is important, however, for these individuals to not “throw the baby out with the bathwater”; that is, they should not try to excise their unique talent for feeling deeply with both compassion and empathy from their core nature. Repression of emotion is not the goal.

    In establishing a firm identity for themselves, they will have to learn to identify and fearlessly express what they really believe and feel, sticking to their guns and refusing to vacillate when challenged. Taking responsibility for one’s own feelings and being honest about them will lead to their learning more straightforward approaches to having their feelings acknowledged or honored. Their background is often such that emotional blackmail or manipulation is second nature to them. Here is a pattern that must be dealt with ruthlessly. They tend to seek out people who will nurture them in a motherly fashion. Often, subconsciously, they mother others out of a feeling that they will be mothered in return. This often leads to disappointment and anger when their own needs are not met.

    Developing the ability to nurture themselves is crucial for them, as is the recognition that it is not up to others to fulfill their emotional needs. Once such inner work is accomplished, they will find that they are uniquely gifted at parenting—having clear boundaries and a choice in the matter—and bringing out the best in others. This talent can be applied not only to raising children but to managing others within a company or a team to create a product or service. Alternatively, in the service sector, their sensitivity can evolve into concern such that they become unusually capable of championing the causes of those less fortunate than themselves.

    Part of their life journey may involve channeling their sensitivity into artistic expression. By redirecting it into a physical form and structuring it via the development of a skill or craft, they may be able to operate in more practical terms. Usually, creativity can be both a method of managing feelings and an eloquent form of expression. Understanding will occur by virtue of the fact that creating art can be an act of detachment and objectivity.

    Ultimately, whether in business, the arts, or service, they are promised great career success. Implicit is a focus on the creation of structure, not just within individuals but also in the outer world. Once they have created a firm strong sense of self and determined what they want, they may be unstoppable. Combining their strong intuitive and psychic ability with their tremendous capacity to get things done, those who evolve successfully are sure to make their mark on the world. Though they may never become so ruthless that they strive to rise to the top of the corporate ladder, their projects will always achieve results. They possess a certain financial astuteness, and they will put this talent to good use—once their judgment is no longer clouded by their emotions.

    As they evolve toward greater inner strength, family members and old friends may become alarmed as they witness them transform from “nice” to “tough”; feeling particularly threatened will be those who were able to manipulate such individuals in the past. Considerable pressure can be exerted by family members during the vulnerable times in which such a metamorphosis is taking place, and a struggle, of internecine proportions, may take place, particularly if a parent or old friend is determined to continue to control the other person’s life.

    The best kinds of people for them to spend time with are other strong­minded, independent people who will strengthen their ego-building process. And despite becoming stronger in their sense of self, they will still need to find a special someone to whom they can expose their more sensitive side. Thus, the choice of a partner is crucial and particularly difficult since their discrimination in this area is not good. Tending to be ruled by emotion and, in love, falling back into codependency, they will usually make a few disastrous choices before ultimately finding the right partner. More conscious or evolved friends, those who do not judge or take advantage and who understand the wonderfully broad palette of human psychology, are best for them. Ideally, their friends will point out their excesses and encourage these sensitive people to stand up for themselves.

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The Path of Consolidated Leadership

The Week of Leadership

travelling

The Way of Consolidation

Their fulfillment...

FEELING THEMSELVES TO BE THE MASTER OF THEIR DESTINY

Their challenge...

REINING IN THEIR EGO AS THEY DEVELOP A SOLID SENSE OF SELF

Personality of this configuration...

    Wonderful planners and strategists, those born during the Week of Leadership are likely to flourish travelling the Way of Consolidation, providing they do not scatter their energies in personal touchiness, emotional hyperbole, or simple selfishness. Here their natural sensitivity and empathy are likely to inform a highly developed creative sense, which can result in artistic expressions and endeavors of truly universal import. The key to their success, however, will be the development of greater objectivity and the wider philosophical perspective that will come with the ability to remove themselves from unduly emotionally demanding people or situations. Yet with the great strength, love of hard work, and emotional sensitivity that are the gifts of this path, Week of Leadership people are likely to find wonderful fulfillment.

Notable...

    FEELING THEMSELVES TO BE THE MASTER OF THEIR DESTINY

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The Month of the Commander

Their motto...

I Create

Personality of this month...

    The Month of the Commander is the fifth month of the Personology year, representing the radiant creative forces of the individual which light up the world around it; here, powerful energies are fully under control. Those born during the Month of the Commander symbolize the need of the ego to make its mark on the world. Ambition, power and self-confidence are their hallmarks and they are often well respected by their peers.

    These people represent fully realized expression through powerful and directed action. They like to lead, and expect others to follow with due deference. However, sharing and warmth are important to them as well. The sunny nature of this month demands enjoyment, satisfaction and harmony. On the other hand, they do not hesitate to give battle to the forces of injustice, oppression and darkness whenever called upon to do so.

    People born during the Month of the Commander transmute protective, empathic and sensitive energies into service–oriented, discriminating and analytical ones.

    Their personality can be likened to a mature adult bringing the full force of their personality to bear on the world. They love to make their presence felt through the grand gesture. They dislike meanness and pettiness and prefer to overlook anything which they consider unworthy of their attention. Big-hearted, these folks generally give a lot or not at all. Sometimes receiving the gifts from others can be difficult for them.

    Those born this month not only tend to operate on their own terms but generally display the strength to refuse an offer which is not acceptable and the steadfastness necessary to stick to their decision. In keeping with their code of honor, they generally pay off when they lose a bet or fail in an investment, and expect others to do the same. To them, the given word is the law.

    These people love to be admired, not only for their physical appearance but also for what they do. Being placed on a pedestal by others does not bother them in the least. Often natural leaders, they will revel in exemplifying the best traits of the group they represent—whether family, social or political. Yet most of them prefer accomplishing tasks without fanfare, wishing to convey a highly confident, secure image.

    Their home is their castle. Those born during the Month of the Commander must be proud of where they live, and when happy with their living arrangements, enjoy nothing more than sharing hospitality with others. Their faithfulness is legendary—they will defend. family, friends and mates to the last drop of blood if necessary. Yet fixed attitudes and attachments to outworn arrangements can also stand in the way of their growth.

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The Season of Development

Their mode of thought...

DEVELOPERS

Result- and reward-oriented, these folks need to pick the vegetables and fruits they grow, but also eat them too.

Concepts of this season...

Magic, Oscillation, Exposure

Their motto...

I Feel, I Create, I Serve

Elements of this season...

Water, Fire, Earth

Personality of this season...

    The summer solstice usually occurs on June 21st in the northern hemisphere (this date marks the beginning of summer in the northern hemisphere, but in the southern hemisphere summer begins on December 21st). At this magical time, days are longer and nights shorter than at any other time of the year. As summer wears on, however, the days shorten and the nights lengthen. Summer is the second quarter, or 90° degree segment, of the yearly cycle. It extends from the summer solstice to the fall equinox.

    Summer is traditionally the period in which the new life of springtime grows to maturity. Temperatures are at their warmest during this period, and most of animal life experiences lazy afternoons when it is too hot for much movement. This is traditionally the time for vacations, for taking off from work to enjoy all kinds of outdoor activities. School is out, and more young people are thus active and about in the mornings. Colorful flowers and blossoms abound. All the fullness and abundance of nature is revealed. The rhythm of life in this quadrant is slower and more sensual, but diets tend to be lighter, and clothing freer. Life is in many respects easier in summer than at any other time of the year.

    Generally speaking, those born in the summertime have more measured responses than those born in the spring and, although enthusiastic, are more critical. Their energies are perhaps a bit less focused on initiating projects and more on bringing them to fruition. Summertime people tend to be a mixture of introvert and extrovert, but feelings now play a more important role in coloring their lives. Empathic urges to help and become involved with others are strong during this period. Summertime people often experience an emotional interaction not only with people but with their work and environment.

    Summertime people may not display an overwhelming need to bring their contributions out in the world. Many hidden characteristics develop at this time, and being appreciated is not always the most important thing. Rather than placing their freedom and independence above all else, summertime people are prepared to serve others and also to invest time in them. Summertime people need to be needed.

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[tea-withnofixinsplease]

It's been what, two years? And I can still safely say that the Fabulous App was the best investment I ever made in terms of my mental health.

Once again, to stress, I do not spend money on ANYTHING for my phone. If the app isn't free, it doesn't exist. I would rather risk the virus infested depths of davy jone's putlocker than spend a dollar on a youtube movie rental

But Fabulous? Worth. Every. Penny.

[robininthelabyrinth]

for the prompts: NMJ/JC - Everyone with a functioning brain cell can see that JC just needs someone to tell him he’s doing a good job. And if WWX isn’t stepping up? Well, NMJ definitely will. (Preferably smut and/or fluff) Thank you! ❤️

Compliments - ao3

It started in anger, out of spite.

Traditionally, the world took this to be a bad thing, but in all honesty the vast majority of projects in the Nie sect were started that way – they inherited fiery tempers and spiteful personalities from their ancestors along with their saber cultivation traditions – and it didn’t always turn out badly. There were any number of buildings, techniques, or technological innovations in the Unclean Realm that had started life as a furious fuck you to someone and only turned into something worthwhile about halfway through, once the person involved had calmed down enough to think about what they were doing, realize they were already committed, and then shrug and carry on forward because there was no point in stopping a charge midway.

What Nie Mingjue meant was: there was precedent.

He liked to think it started with Jiang Fengmian, but if Nie Mingjue was being honest with himself, it started back in the Unclean Realm when Nie Huaisang had told him, quite casually over dinner, that he thought that the female cultivator in his class was very pretty and that he’d be happy to marry her.

“Uh,” Nie Mingjue had said, very intelligently. “Huaisang, you’re seven.”

Nie Huaisang had not seen the problem. Instead, he explained very forthrightly that it was only right that he start thinking early on about his marriage, as getting married and having children would be his great contribution to the sect on account of being useless good-for-nothing unfit for anything else –

“Wait,” Nie Mingjue said. “Who told you that?!”

Nie Huaisang claimed he had deduced it.

Nie Mingjue claimed that Nie Huaisang was full of bullshit, and also that he wasn’t good-for-nothing even if he wasn’t good at saber, and anyway even if he was a total good-for-nothing he was still Nie Mingjue’s good-for-nothing and no one had better say a single damn word against him or Nie Mingjue would bite them.

“I meant stab them!” he explained, far too late; Nie Huaisang was already rolling around laughing to the point of tears. “I have a saber. I can stab people! I’m actually very scary, you know!”

Nie Huaisang hadn’t believed him one bit and had carried on, seemingly at peace and forgetting everything, but Nie Mingjue had gone seeking advice from all of his elders and counselors and the more dependable senior disciples of his sect, abruptly terrified that he was permanently damaging Nie Huaisang by raising him the wrong way or something. Didn’t children need encouragement at that age? Weren’t they all young and tender peaches liable to be bruised at the slightest glance or young sprouts that needed to be sheltered from the harsh wind lest they grow up crooked?

Everyone assured him that children were hardier than they appeared, flexible and capable of bouncing back from just about anything. He'd pressed, though, pointing out that even the most flexible wood would eventually form a crack in the face of a vicious hurricane, and in the end they'd admitted that it was better to avoid applying too much pressure at too young an age, that a child squeezed too hard or not hard enough might develop neuroses that would hinder them in the future.

They mostly tried not to look at him when they said that, presumably thinking to themselves that Nie Mingjue was little more than a child himself and had already been subject to the worst pressures possible, which would undoubtedly result in who knows what future issues, but he hadn’t paid that part any mind. As far as he was concerned, his life was already a loss – he had sworn to take revenge for his father, to make that ancient monster Wen Ruohan pay with his life for what he had done and furthermore he'd sworn to pay back the blood debt in full before any of that burden passed to Nie Huaisang.

Letting Nie Huaisang grow up happy – that was what mattered.

Letting him be insulted when Nie Mingjue wasn’t looking played no part in that plan. If Nie Huaisang were going to be insulted, let it be by outsiders who he wouldn’t need to care about! Within their Nie sect, at minimum, he should be doted upon and honored, or else those responsible would have to explain themselves to Nie Mingjue.

Those dark thoughts still lingering in his mind, he had gone to the Lotus Pier for a discussion conference, and that, perhaps, was where it really started.

Rumor had already made the entire cultivation world aware that Jiang Fengmian had found the orphaned son of Cangse Sanren and Wei Changze, and that he had taken him into his home as his ward, allowing him to become a Jiang sect disciple – treating him almost as one of the family, even. That much was known, so it didn’t come as much of a surprise when Jiang Fengmian proudly introduced him or even more proudly showed him off, praising him to the high heavens.

What did come as a surprise was how little he praised his own son standing beside him, despite them being only a few days apart in age. It was as if Jiang Fengmian had simply forgotten that such a creature existed, much less that he had himself contributed to its spawning, and the constant looks of hope – invariably crushed – the child sent him made it clear that the present situation had been going on for some time.

Fuck you, Nie Mingjue thought, seeing red, seeing instead Nie Huaisang in his failed saber classes, struggling so desperately to keep up with the rest even though his body wouldn’t allow for it, being told he was useless and a good-for-nothing and fit for nothing but marriage. Fuck you, Jiang Fengmian.

He couldn’t say that, of course.

So instead he said, “Excellent stance,” to the child, who'd received the courtesy name Wanyin but seemed to be universally called Jiang Cheng. “Do you know the others in the set?”

Jiang Cheng, staring at him, very slowly nodded, and demonstrated them.

“Absolutely perfect,” Nie Mingjue said loudly, drawing attention to himself with his over-loud voice that everyone would automatically forgive on account on him being both a Nie and a young man. “You can see how hard you’ve worked at it, and it has paid off handsomely. You are very lucky in your son, Sect Leader Jiang.”

“…thank you,” Jiang Fengmian said, a little bemused at being interrupted. He’d been talking yet again about Wei Wuxian’s brilliance at picking up the sword again after years of living on the streets without practice, even though at the moment the smiling boy's admittedly impressive skills were still largely wild and undisciplined.

Nie Mingjue nodded, and said: “When exactly did you say the opening festivities would be starting?”

Jiang Fengmian had clearly forgotten about that in his enthusiasm, so he quickly hurried back to the actual subject at hand and the discussion conference was started in earnest.

It was almost enough to allow Nie Mingjue to forget the matter and put it behind him.

Or, it would have been, if only Jiang Fengmian hadn’t continued to insert praise for Wei Wuxian at every possible instance – it was as if he were the man’s first-born son, rather than another person’s child.

Irritated beyond belief, Nie Mingjue started complimenting Jiang Cheng every time Jiang Fengmian said something nice about Wei Wuxian, and he made sure to keep his compliments accurate: he was a hard worker, dedicated and sincere, thoughtful, clever, not overly arrogant…

“Wei Wuxian came up with his own ideas for a sword style already,” Jiang Fengmian claimed at one point. “You can see him on the training ground now, practicing it – take a look!”

Nie Mingjue picked up a stone and flicked it over with his fingers, making Wei Wuxian jump half a chi into the air and nearly fall on his ass.

“Weak foundation, and he over-commits,” he analyzed dryly, because it was true, and because no one else was saying it. He didn't make it any harsher than it had to be: he had nothing against the boy himself, of course; it was only that he knew from experience that it was much easier to be the one being complimented than the one not. “He’s got his head so high in the clouds that his feet are barely touching the ground – the weakest fierce corpse would knock him flat as a pancake with a childish style like that. He’d be better off sticking with orthodox or he’ll end up in real trouble one day.”

“Sect Leader Nie, really,” Jiang Fengmian said disapprovingly. “He’s only nine.”

“Old enough to pick up bad habits,” Nie Mingjue retorted. “Your son’s the same age and he’s as steady as a rock. If Jiang Cheng keeps going as he is, he’ll have a strong enough base to outlast the fiercest storm.”

“A rock has no imagination,” Jiang Fengmian said, and was he actually arguing that his son was inferior? Out loud, in front of outsiders? Did the man have no shame? “Mingjue, you’re young, but you must know that my Jiang sect prizes freedom and creativity as the highest virtue –”

“Would you rather build a house using a firework or a foundation stone?” Nie Mingjue asked, doing his best not to outwardly bristle at the condescendingly intimate use of his name by someone who might be technically his elder but legally his equal. “Tell me, Fengmian, does your Jiang sect’s acclaimed ‘freedom’ only allow for people to be as fluid as the river and not as steady as the earth?”

Jiang Fengmian faltered, clearly not knowing how to answer that.

Nie Mingjue raised his hands in a sarcastic salute: “As the leader of a sect whose style is based on a grounded foundation, I would be very happy if you would educate me in your wisdom. No doubt my peers would benefit as well.”

Perhaps it was at that point that Jiang Fengmian realized that his words could be misinterpreted as an insult to all the sects whose styles were less free-flowing than the Jiang – just about all of them except for maybe the Lan and their subsidiary sects, given their preference for techniques modeled on the wind over the water – and moreover that this was a discussion conference, where every word was political, and that a great deal of people were glaring balefully at him. He hastily moved the conversation onwards, and left the subject of his sons for another day.

Later that evening, Madame Yu came over to where Nie Mingjue was nursing a bowl of very fine wine that he didn’t especially feel like consuming. Before he could start worrying about the Purple Spider’s intentions, she said, voice stiff, “Your words regarding my son are too kind. His skills are still inferior; he has a great deal of progress yet to be made.”

“He’s only nine,” Nie Mingjue said, feeling mortified that she’d noticed his little temper tantrum, which he had belatedly realized was probably extremely obvious. “Anyway, I wasn't lying. He has a good foundation; he’ll be a fearsome cultivator one day, there’s no doubt. I only said what I saw.”

“You didn’t comment about Wei Wuxian,” she said. “You must have noticed his genius.”

“Geniuses don’t need to be praised overmuch,” Nie Mingjue said. He himself had been termed a genius by his teachers, and he’d hated every single moment of it – couldn’t he just be good at things without having people fall all over themselves to compliment him? He’d enjoyed it at the start, but after a while it had started to wear on him; he was expected to be a genius in all things, and being simply ordinary was suddenly seen as failing. “It’s the ones that have to work hard that do, or else they’ll be discouraged…comparing someone to another person’s child works as a spur to a certain extent, but after a while it loses its potency as a tool.”

Your husband is a fucking idiot, he didn’t say. It’s his own son! How could he speak like that about him? Shouldn’t he be holding him in his palms like a gentle flame, protecting him from the wind and rain? How can he bear to scold his son when he hasn't shown that the scolding is meant for his benefit?

“Perhaps,” Madame Yu said, but it was clear on her face that she wasn’t about to start taking parenting advice from a half-grown sprout like Nie Mingjue. “Nevertheless, your words were kind.”

She swept away after that, much to his relief. He shook his head and daydreamed about a magic tool that would make this whole nightmarish experience go by that much quicker.

In the end, it went by at the same speed it always did. It could have ended there, but Nie Mingjue kept up the habit of blatantly complimenting Jiang Cheng in future sect conferences as well, if only because it clearly irritated Jiang Fengmian – less because Nie Mingjue was praising his son and more because it was so obviously meant as an indirect critique of Jiang Fengmian’s skills as a parent or sect leader, and moreover it reminded all the other sects of that unfortunate interchange and made them less inclined to listen to him – and of course, because, well, once you’ve started a charge, you had to finish it even if you came to your senses about halfway through.

He made sure to keep it proportionate, of course, since there was nothing worse than false praise. He didn’t really mean anything by it, other than the half-formed thought that someone ought to be doing it – that the boy should know that someone looked at him and Wei Wuxian and remembered to praise him first. Nie Mingjue praised Wei Wuxian too, of course, since the boy often deserved it; it was only that he made a particular point not to forget about Jiang Cheng, either.

(He also made sure the other sect leaders saw how well the technique could be used to fluster Jiang Fengmian, an intrusion into his personal life that could be masked in perfect politeness, and several of them picked up the same tact, though less consistently than Nie Mingjue – Sect Leaders Jin and Wen, naturally, always looking for a weakness, but interestingly enough also Lan Qiren, who was normally above such petty maneuvers. Possibly he was actually just complimenting Jiang Cheng because he sincerely approved of him.)

He didn’t think much of it.

Nie Mingjue didn’t think much of it during the other discussion conferences, or when he came to the Cloud Recesses to pick up Nie Huaisang, who had – amazingly – actually managed to pass this time, although the expression on Lan Qiren’s face suggested the pass might have more to do with the other sect leader’s desire to never see Nie Huaisang haunt his classroom ever again.

“You know what, don’t tell me. Tell me….hm…how did Jiang Wanyin do?” Nie Mingjue asked, hand over his eyes as if it could forestall the headache. “He’s a bright boy, and knows how to put his mind to something when he wants. Tell me about him instead, it’ll be less depressing.”

“He’s very bright,” Lan Qiren agreed. “Very thoughtful, and very thorough. He sometimes errs towards conservatism out of fear of giving the wrong answer, but that’s just a matter of confidence; his thinking is very good. He’s very clear-sighted as long as the matter is logical, rather than emotional.”

“No surprise,” Nie Mingjue grunted. “He’ll be a sect leader worthy of respect, in his time.”

When he’s rid of that father of his dragging him down, he thought ungraciously, and he saw Lan Qiren bob his head in a sharp nod of unspoken agreement.

“All right,” he said. “I’m adequately fortified now. Tell me about Huaisang.”

Lan Qiren gave him a look of profound sympathy.

It wasn’t until much later, during the Sunshot Campaign, that it was first called to his attention – by Jiang Cheng himself, oddly enough.

“Why do you keep doing that?” he hissed, having stayed behind after one of their meetings.

Nie Mingjue blinked at him. “Doing – what?”

“You – you said – about me…!”

Nie Mingjue tried to recall what he’d said during the meeting just now. “That you – were doing an excellent job while facing much higher level of obstacles than everyone else?” he hazarded, because he had said something like that. “Or was it the bit about how if any of them had needed to rebuild their sect and fight at the same time, we’d all be doomed because they couldn’t multitask for shit?”

Yeah, it was probably that one.

“I didn’t mean any offense by referencing what happened to your sect,” he said, hoping to explain. “It was only –”

“I didn’t take offense,” Jiang Cheng mumbled. “It’s fine. I mean, it’s not fine, but – it happened, everyone knows that it happened, not talking about it isn’t going to make it not have happened. That’s not what I meant…why do you keep saying such nice things about me?”

Nie Mingjue blinked at him. “Because they’re true?”

Jiang Cheng’s cheeks flushed red. “You’ve always said nice things about me. Ever since I was a little kid – every time you saw me, at the discussion conferences, or the Cloud Recesses, or even in your letters to my father…”

He had in fact done that.

“I just want to know why. Is it – my father’s not around, you can’t be doing it just to piss him off, even though I know that was part of it. Why me?”

Nie Mingjue coughed a little, having not realized that Jiang Cheng had noticed. Or possibly even overheard, in regards to the Cloud Recesses. “I’m sure you’re familiar with the concept of the other person’s child,” he said, and Jiang Cheng nodded his head sharply, clearly thinking of Wei Wuxian. “You’re Huaisang’s.”

“Me?” Jiang Cheng seemed unduly vulnerable when he asked. “You compare him – to me?”

“It’s amazing he tolerated you at the Cloud Recesses,” Nie Mingjue said with a sigh. In fact, his brother had all but declared war on Jiang Cheng in absentia on account of all Nie Mingjue’s comments, only for his first letter home from the Cloud Recesses that year to be I see why you like him! He’s cute! A perfect match for you! because he’d apparently decided that Nie Mingjue had a crush on the boy.

Which he certainly hadn’t – at least not when he’d been that age, anyway. Jiang Cheng had grown up to embody every single one of the compliments Nie Mingjue had paid him when he’d been younger, especially with the maturity and natural aura of command that came to him after his personal tragedy.

“But why…you knew Wei Wuxian about as well as you knew me.”

Nie Mingjue snorted. “And that would have helped Huaisang how, exactly? If I wanted to compare him with someone who picked things up the first time they saw it, I wouldn’t need to go outside the Nie sect for that – I was also considered a genius when I was young. It’s no failing to be born without a vast and unending natural talent; Huaisang’s issue has always been his unwillingness to put in the effort.”

Jiang Cheng stared at him.

“Anyway, your father was so blinded by his adoration for Wei Wuxian that he overlooked your merits, which are different but no less impressive,” Nie Mingjue added. “As someone who was trying to figure out how to raise a child, it irritated me; I thought someone ought to make it clear to you that you were seen.”

“Yes,” Jiang Cheng said, his voice strangely hoarse. “Yes, you – you succeeded.”

He paused for a moment, meeting Nie Mingjue’s eyes intently, and then abruptly said, “I’ll be leaving,” and dashed out.

Nie Mingjue wasn’t entirely sure if that meant he should stop or not. Jiang Cheng had said he wasn’t offended…anyway, it was a fixed habit by now. He’d been doing it for over half his life! He couldn’t stop that easily! It would be like trying to stop his temper, or a charge – there was nothing for it.

Jiang Cheng would just have to live with a few compliments.

“Wow, you’re an idiot,” Nie Huaisang said when he told him about the incident, months later while he was lying in bed, recovering from the disaster that had been the end of the war. “I’ll fix this.”

“Fix what?”

“I’m going to tell him you’re dying,” Nie Huaisang decided.

“You’re going to do what?!”

“Stay in bed, da-ge! Doctor’s orders!”

The Nie sect chief doctor was an extremely terrifying person. Nie Mingjue stayed in bed.

Some time later, Jiang Cheng stormed in, face pale.

“Huaisang’s a rotten liar and I’m going to be fine,” Nie Mingjue said at once.

Jiang Cheng stopped mid-storm, and abruptly deflated. “Really?”

“Really. I would’ve stopped him, but I’m stuck in bed for the moment.”

Jiang Cheng took a seat next to him. “That sounds serious. You shouldn’t underestimate war wounds, especially given your sect’s tendency towards qi deviations...”

“Compassionate as well,” Nie Mingjue teased. “I’ll have to add that to the rotation of compliments.”

Jiang Cheng flushed red. “You’re…planning on continuing?”

“For the rest of my life, however short it might be,” Nie Mingjue said, because he was an honest person, even when it was inconvenient. He was going to explain about the habit, and the concept of stopping mid-charge, but he didn’t manage to start before Jiang Cheng grabbed him by the collar and pulled him up into a kiss.

After that, he figured that maybe explaining that part of it wasn’t necessary. He might be slow on the uptake, but he wasn’t actually stupid.

[astrowithkaro]

hi, could you do august 15, please?

Language Of Birthdays: August 15 - Leo

The Day Of Royal Command

The commanding personages born on August 15 are born leaders. Their expansive, royal approach betokens a lifestyle which does not admit of miserliness, selfishness or commonness. Those born on this day are not overly concerned with petty details, choosing instead to focus on the broad line, the big show. Presenting a regal and noble face to the world is essential to them, and they will do what is necessary to preserve their dignity. Those born on this day can often be found at the head of a family, business or social group and are indeed most comfortable when they are in the seat of power.

Many born on August 15 are not aware of their imperial nature, though to those close to them it is often all too apparent. Women born on August 15 must be worshiped and adored. Their house is their palace, their husband a king, their children princes and princesses. Men born on this day seek to command others, on a financial, social or family level, and as such must be obeyed without question. Those born on this day whose personalities display large doses of kindness and acceptance, affection and warmth, are indeed unusual and highly evolved souls. For the most part, however, these last-mentioned qualities are not basic to the August 15 character, but must be cultivated and encouraged.

This is not to say that August 15 people are inherently ruthless or unkind. It is just that their powerful and golden leonine energy sweeps away everything before it, overwhelming as a mighty wave that doesn't ask permission of ships or shells. It is a great challenge for August 15 people to keep their surplus energy under control and to develop the fine art of discrimination and attention to detail. They must also learn to deal with each individual they meet on a personal level—to listen, be sympathetic and try to understand their point of view.

The heavy expectations August 15 people place on themselves and others may also be a problem. Children of August 15 people can feel great pressure to succeed, either consciously or unconsciously, and mates can well buckle under the strain of rigorous standards.

Those born on this day must learn real teamwork, subjugating their strong egos to the interests of the group. Because any cramping of their independent, free-wheeling style is generally met with stubborn resistance, they must be appealed to with tact and care. Inside they are often quite soft and sentimental, loving admiration and affection of all sorts. If one can keep on their good side, one may never see the tyrant that dwells within. Generally the "lion" or "lioness" is happy when well fed emotionally.

Strengths:

Commanding

Decisive

Expansive

Weaknesses:

Insensitive

Over-aggressive

Advice

The expansive attitude August 15 people display toward the world often includes all sorts of lavish tastes. This can cause health problems when eating habits know no bounds. Not only obesity but cardiovascular problems can result from a diet over-rich in delicious sugars and fats. An effort should be made to restrict the harmful elements of such a diet without eliminating the enjoyment (through healthy food choices). Regular, quite vigorous exercise is recommended: from horseback riding to competitive sports or full-scale aerobics. (Those who are inactive should, of course, gradually work to such a level and not overdo it.) An ongoing sexual relationship is a big plus. All in all, the passion for life is there but August 15 leonine instincts must be tamed a bit if those born on this day are to live a long and happy life.

Your place cannot be first in every line; learn to cooperate with your fellow human beings

Beware of an excessive desire for control and adoration

Listen carefully to what people say when they try to explain their feelings

[vrishchikawrites]

Could I have a prompt? 🥺🥺 So WWX is taking bath in the Cold Pond to heal from the wounds by the discipline paddle (which I assume he was punished being clothed in his Black robe or in his Gusu Lan disciple robes or Head disciple Jiangs robes whichever fits). Before going to CR, wwx is whipped by mdm yu and LWJ notices wwx’s raw red scars and many scars across his back kinda overlapping and not yet being healed because maybe MDM yu sealed his core or something. LWJ, or with LXC saw WWX’s many crisscrossing scars and realize they’re still raw and kinda risking for infection because when mdm yu unseals his spiritual energy before going to CR, WWX never thought of healing it. Cue LWJ and LXC gets horrified and ask WWX why he had many scars on his back (or other parts of his body can also be included!) no pressure 💕 I love your writing! ❤️❤️

Anyway, it is set during the period in which WWX studies at CR. Lån Qiren, who is obviously not eyeing Wei Wuxian just in case the boy creates some trouble ends up realizing that he is too non chalant about  not eating (because the food there is for rabbits) and WWX is like "Oh, yeah. Nah its fine, I've been worse".

This one has trigger warnings for child abuse, negligence, and issues related to eating habits. Keep that in mind before proceeding. Nothing graphic, but I wanted to warn nonetheless.

I've merged two prompts here.

Please remember that prompts are closed. Also, remember I do not write self-deprication. All prompts that require WWX to have low self-esteem are not going to be written, apologies but the subject is very uncomfortable for me and I don't believe it is canon accurate anyways.

On to the prompt fill.

"That Wei child is entirely too careless." 

Lan Qiren closes his eyes and prays for patience. That boy has been a menace ever since he stepped into Cloud Recesses. Brilliant but wily and mischievous with absolutely no regard for rules. 

"What has he done?" He asks gruffly, reading over the reports from the kitchen staff. Cloud Recesses always monitors the food intake of their guests to make sure everyone is well-fed and no one is consuming more than their due. It wouldn't do for young cultivators to fall ill in their care, after all. 

The primary healer, a matron of some age, had brought the reports instead of the kitchen manager, which was quite unusual, "He forgets meals. Goes without food for days. Survives on small bits of fruit."

Xichen, who has been working on his own reports, raises his head and looks concerned. 

Lan Qiren crosses his arms, feeling a growing sense of ire, "He dislikes our meals." He's not the first one to skip meals because he considers them 'bland' and 'boring'. It's likely the child has been sneaking down to Caiyi town to have more extravagant meals. 

"I checked with our ward team. When he goes days without eating, he doesn't make any trips to Caiyi town either."

Lan Qiren pauses and studies her. Lan Mingyun nods curtly, "When I first noticed this behavior, I immediately put him on my list." Her list of children with food-related issues, he assumes, "His eating habits are very erratic, erratic enough that I wish to assign one of our senior disciples to keep an eye on him."

"You're that worried?" Lan Xichen asks in surprise while Lan Qiren frowns. It isn't unusual to do so but he wonders if it is really necessary.

"As far as I know, the child lived on the streets for quite a few years," She says and Lan Qiren narrows his eyes, inwardly reprimanding himself. He had forgotten about that aspect of Wei Wuxian's history, "The link between early childhood trauma and behavioural problems are well known to us."

Lan Xichen frowns, "I'll ask Wangji to keep an eye on him."

He glances at his nephew sharply, "Why Wangji?" He demands because surely someone else would be better.

"From what I understand, Wei-gongzi will not welcome an assigned senior. He seems to be someone who brushes injuries or illnesses off. He likes Wangji and will be more willing to accept his company."

While the argument is reasonable, Lan Qiren is loath to involve his precious nephew in this. He's already so bothered by the boy. 

But.

He thinks of Wei Wuxian with his sharp eyes and lingering smile and nods. 

---

Wangji listens to Xichen patiently even as his fingers curl into fists under his sleeves. 

He doesn't like Wei Wuxian. The boy is too disruptive, too bold, too distracting-

Too beautiful.

He doesn't like him, but that doesn't mean he's content to ignore his well-being. When Xichen asks him to keep an eye on Wei Ying's eating habits and general behavior, Wangji agrees. 

It will be taxing for him, but he agrees.  

What he doesn't anticipate is… everything that follows. When he starts consciously looking for them, the signs are alarming. Wei Ying doesn't just skip meals whenever he gets too distracted, he picks at the food even when he is eating. While Wangji is comforted to know the boy frequently seeks something richly flavored at Caiyi Town, he doesn't do it often enough to compensate.

There are also some concerning behaviors in the Jiang contingent. Upon closer inspection, it is clear that while Wei Ying does break the rules, the other Jiang Sect disciples are often complicit. Including Jiang Wanyin. 

They not only let their da-shixiong take the blame for all of their actions, but also encourage it. Wei Ying seems disconcertingly accustomed to it. He makes a scene while being punished but seems alright within an hour. 

Jiang Wanyin encourages mischief and reprimands him in turns. 

Wangji doesn't understand this.

"Xiongzhang, I am concerned," Xichen looks up from his tea, his attention immediately on Wangji, unwavering and comforting, "Wei Ying," He takes a moment to form his thoughts, "I am uncertain. I believe he is in an unsafe environment."

Xichen sets his tea aside, "How so?"

"I happened upon a conversation," He grimaces because it is eavesdropping even if his intentions are noble, "Jiang Wanyin and Nie Huaisang requested and encouraged him to get alcohol into Cloud Recesses. When he complained about the punishment, Jiang Wanyin said 'at least, it wasn't Zidian'."

His brother sucks in a sharp breath, "Zidian? Madam Yu? Spiritual weapon? A high-grade weapon typically used against enemies?"

Wangji dips his head. 

"I'll ask uncle to stop assigning corporal punishments." Lan Xichen says, "They won't have the desired effect in any case and we don't want to damage him permanently. Tomorrow, ask him to practice Cultivation in the Cold Pond as punishment."

Wangji nods, "I'll assign Jiang Wanyin and Nie Huaisang proper punishment as well."

"Wait until we have a better grasp on the situation." Xichen says solemnly, "If we act too quickly, things will escalate and may cause more harm to Wei-gongzi."

Wangji is reluctant because his sense of justice is not satisfied. He remembers how the Jiang disciples encouraged Wei Ying to accept punishment on their behalf. And then to know Jiang Wanyin was also complicit…

"We must approach this cautiously, Wangji."

He nods.

---

Red, irritated, scarred.

Wangji swallows as he sees the state of Wei Ying's back as the Jiang disciple steps into the Cold Pond. There are so many whip scars on his back, so many that have barely begun to heal, that he feels nauseous. 

"Wei Ying," He struggles to keep his tone neutral, "Your back." He cannot imagine the agony that Wei Ying would've suffered when he took more punishment on it the other day. 

Wei Ying glances at him and grins, "Aiya, Lan Zhan, is that concern I see on your pretty face?" He asks, spinning around eagerly, "Concern for little old me?"

His back is out of sight and the way Wei Wuxian is leaning towards him is meant to distract and fluster.

Wangji… suddenly understands. Wei Ying is naturally playful and mischievous, but he uses his personality for disguise and manipulation as well. Not maliciously, but in a way that harms him.

"Wei Ying," Wangji refuses to be moved. There is a significant shift in his mind. He no longer feels annoyed by the person before him. If anything, he feels furious. 

He feels protective.

"Wei Ying, your back."

The Jiang disciple shrugs, "Punishment, you know how it is." 

"For what?" He demands, catching Wei Ying's elbow and turning him around. The willingness to touch him stuns Wei Ying momentarily, enough for Wangji to get a good look at the brutal devastation written on Wei Ying's back. 

Wei Ying clears his throat and shrugs, "It's more of a preemptive punishment? Madam Yu knew I would cause trouble here, of course." He chuckles.

"Preemptive punishment?" He asks softly, the very notion troubling him. 

Wei Ying shrugs again but doesn't attempt to explain when it is clear Wangji isn't willing to indulge him.

"Wei Ying,"

"Lan Zhan," Wei Ying starts to move towards the shore, "Don't worry about things that don't concern you. Your head will forever be burdened if you do."

Wangji feels something in him recoil at such a blunt dismissal. 

"Doesn't concern me? How can it not concern me?" He wants to ask but is unable to. 

Wei Ying has made him very uncomfortable with his forward personality and near constant teasing, but Wangji has seen the genuine offer of friendship underneath it all. 

He has always spurned it. 

As Wei Ying climbs onto the shore, his wounds red against his naturally pale skin, Wangji makes a decision, "Would you not feel concerned if it were me?" He asks but he already knows the answer.

He already knows this man enough.

"Of course," Wei Ying says and shrugs on his robes, hiding a wince but unable to help his body's reaction to pain, "But you and I are different." He glances over his shoulder at Wangji, "I consider you my friend," He says, "But you don't consider me yours."

His breath stills at the acceptance in Wei Ying's tone.

"And that's alright." The Jiang disciple waves and walks away, "Don't worry too much, Lan Zhan. This one isn't weak. The wounds will heal within a few days."

---

"The facts are these - Wei-gongzi is punished preemptively with Zidian, often enough that there are deep scars on his back," Lan Xichen explains, "I assume it is his Golden Core keeping him from sustaining permanent damage."

Lan Qiren is still bristling at the very thought of preemptive punishment. What a ridiculous notion! Of course, the child doesn't care about rules and upsetting people! He has already been punished enough to excuse everything but outright treason.  

How is such a method effective? How does it correct a child's misbehavior? 

"The Jiang Sect disciples are accustomed to their da-shixiong being punished in their stead. They actively encourage it. Jiang Wanyin has asked Wei-gongzi to sneak in alcohol. And he refused to come forward when Wei-gongzi was punished." Xichen takes a deep breath, "I believe any lingering issues he may have because of his early days as a street orphan-"

"Are ignored," Lan Qiren concludes grimly, "It is no wonder the child has such strong cultivation. He is facing strife constantly."

"Is there a way to rescue him?" Wangji asks after being grimly silent for the entire meeting, "Get him away from the Jiang Sect?"

Lan Qiren eyes him, "Wangji, the situation is complicated. He's still the Jiang Head Disciple and sects don't just part with their high ranking disciples."

Xichen smiles sympathetically, "We'll find a way to pressure Jiang-zongzhu into taking action. He'll lose face if the other Sects know how his lady is treating their Head Disciple." He shakes his head at Wangji's expression, "Let us think about it. Meanwhile, you just need to be there for your friend, Wangji."

Lan Qiren arches a brow, "Friend? Wangji, I thought you disliked the boy."

Wangji purses his lips, a stubborn light entering his eyes, "Wei Ying is my friend." He insists, resolve lining his every word. 

He looks at Xichen, who just looked amused, "According to Wei-gongzi, he considers Wangji a friend and will be very concerned if Wangji was in a similar situation," He huffs, "But Wangji doesn't consider Wei-gongzi his friend, so there's no need for Wangji to worry."

Lan Qiren closes his eyes and rubs his forehead in an uncharacteristic display of frustration, "That boy is a singular menace."

---

Wangji pursues friendship with all the dedication in his being. He learns to cook savory dishes and gives them to Wei Ying every day. Wei Ying, unable and utterly unwilling to deny, eats it all. 

He glares the Jiang disciples into submission whenever they attempt to draw Wei Ying into mischief. The Jiang Head Disciple is fully exempt from corporal punishment. Instead, he spends hours in the library either copying rules, rewriting classics, or transcribing Buddhist texts. 

All of these activities prove to be much more effective punishments.

Meanwhile, Lan Qiren attends a Discussion Conference and has word with Jiang Fengmian. 

The response is a gentle order from the Jiang-zongzhu for Wei Ying. He asks his disciple to remain in Cloud Recesses for Musical Cultivation training. He also mentions it is time for Jiang Wanyin to take up Head Disciple responsibilities and learn true leadership. 

Wei Ying eyes the smiling Lan Xichen and impassive Lan Qiren sharply but doesn't say anything.

In two years time, the distance between Wei Ying and the Jiang Sect grows. The distance between Wei Ying and Lan Zhan ceases to exist. 

Just like that, Wei Wuxian's destiny changes.

[husbandohunter]

hello! could i please request a fic where the reader isnt confident in their own looks and albedo helps them gain confidence with his sketches?? sorry i dont have very good ideas so you can change it around if you like-

feel free to ignore though ^^

True Beauty [Albedo x Reader]

Synopsis: To the eyes of an artist, there is no such thing as the unsightly.

Genre: Fluff

(A/n): Oh nonnie don't apologize, there is no such thing as bad ideas. This is ART (haha i derived the theme from your ask to this story) oh btw I did both narrative and bullet >.> Wordcount_0.8k

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 • Albedo wouldn't notice how insecure you are with your appearance, frankly he's too busy since they're not what attracted him to you in the first place. 

• (Consider he isn't aware of his OWN attractiveness. This man draws hilichurls for a hobby. Needless to say, appearance is merely just a physical form when his mission is to discover much deeper meanings.)

• But he is very observant. Albedo notices how you'd grab a mirror every 2 minutes and checking if your hair was out of place. Or watching you constantly powdering your face with makeup. It makes him feel….anxious. Like there is something wrong.

• Soon you tell him why and he's just so confused. As much as you both know he doesn't get the concept of appearance, Albedo still dislikes the bad habits you cultivated through your insecurities.

"Starlight, please refrain using these cosmetics from now on, I fear that it may irritate your skin."

• He's not good with emotions thus the only methods Albedo familiarizes himself with are acts of service. Provides alternative remedies such as a soft lotion made of Cryo slime condensates. Women often adorn themselves with precious jewels to feel pretty, uses his alchemy to create multiple for you to wear. Maybe you need some encouragement, a boost of morale. So…why is it that you don't believe him when he says "you look lovely today"

• He thinks of many ways to cure your anxiety, but so far none of them have been effective. Though the chief alchemist will never leave problems as they are. Especially when it comes to your own well-being. 

~~~~~~

If one were to gaze at the world through the eyes of an artist, all they can see is the beauty that carries within.

Within the cracks of ancient ruins as the buildings from old civilizations have long been forgotten. Within the barren wastelands where no life, not even a flower, could bear witness to it's cruel environment. Within the scars hidden deep in human hearts and marring the surface of their fragile skin. Yet despite it all, the artist believes that everything was still so beautiful.

"Are you sure about this?"

And you were no different from his philosophy.

"I don't see the problem. Hold still, you're fidgeting too much," Albedo remarks. He kept himself in a perfect stance with one clipboard balanced between his folded arm. Albedo was in complete focus, silent as if he wasn't there to begin with. The only noises heard were the satisfying strokes coming from his pencil tip and the harmonious sounds of nature sung by the birds and leaves rustling against the wind. 

It flies past your face. You felt strange. So often have you've been covering your skin using powder and pigment that when without them, you immediately thought a part of you was missing. Being this exposed to the naked eye, like having no clothes worn, you couldn't help but shiver when the breeze hits you again.

Though the man called your lover didn't simply leave you as it is. He came to you, asked you, would not take an answer any less than a 'yes'. He tucked a cecilia behind your ear and placed a garland atop of your head, handing you a bouquet to hold before instructing you to sit down as he carries away into his own work of art. Albedo shows his affection in subtle ways being a subtle man himself. Though, as small as they may be, you knew for certain that their meaning was much deeper than what they appear. 

"I'm kind of curious, what is it that you see Albedo? What do you see in me?"

Albedo knew the answer, he always does. Finalizing the last of his detail he tells you the truth, "As alchemist, we strive to create the perfect replica using the basis of life's very core."

You sweatdropped, "…Uh-huh," Where is he getting at?

"Allow me to demonstrate," he takes out a thin branch of a leyline, "Awakening life, breathing new life into fallen leaves. All of this is a process gone through understanding the fundementals derived from organic forms."

"….."

"However we can never capture the same essence of something created naturally," he lets the branch fade away from his fingertips, reducing to nothing but golden dust. Albedo spoke in a tone that was almost distant. His eyes far away, "It's impossible."

You watched the alchemist rise from his stool while making his way to your side. A homunculus and a human. He sat on the soft grass, adjusting himself to a more comfortable position, "Do you believe me now, Starlight?"

Taking the clipboard out of his grasp, you marvelled at his artwork.

"You are your true essence, something no one can take away from you, not even my drawings. To me, that is what I find the most beautiful."

[steveezekiel]

ABSTAIN FROM EVERY FORM OF EVIL

14. "Now we exhort [encourage] you, brethren, to warn those who are unruly [insubordinate, disorderly, or idle], comfort the fainthearted, uphold the o, be patient with all.

15. See that no one renders evil for evil to anyone, but always pursue what is good both for yourselves and for all.

16. Rejoice always,

17. pray without ceasing,

18. in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

19. Do not quench the Spirit.

20. Do not despise prophecies.

21. Test all things; hold fast what is good.

22. Abstain from every form of evil."

1 Thessalonians 5:14-22 (NKJV)

• Apostle Paul in his first letter or epistle to the Thessalonians, he gave some admonitions in the concluding remarks:

- He exhorted them to warn those who are unruly, insubordinate, disobedient, who refused to obey orders or show respect for their leaders (1 Thessalonians 5:14).

- Those who did not accept the authority of their leaders, and those who are idle, such had stopped working and were waiting for the coming of the Lord!

- There are people in the body of Christ today who have listened to a wrong doctrine or teaching that makes them unruly, insubordinate, and would not submit or respect the integrity of the Word of God (1 Timothy 4:1,2; 2 Timothy 4:3,4).

- They twisted the Word and argue blindly—and what they hold on to are not found in the Word of God.

15. "...as also our beloved brother Paul, according to the wisdom given to him, has written to you,

16. as also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things hard to understand, which UNTAUGHT AND UNSTABLE PEOPLE TWIST TO THEIR OWN DESTRUCTION, AS THEY DO ALSO THE REST OF THE SCRIPTURES."

2 Peter 3:16,17 (NKJV)

• He also admonishes that no one should render evil for evil, but every believer should pursue good always, both for themselves and for all (1 Thessalonians 5:15).

Some believers only think of themselves, they are not mindful of others, if they have their way, get what they want, they do not mind IF other believers suffered—they just want to get their desires satisfied.

3. "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

4. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."

Philippians 2:3,4 (NKJV)

• One out of other things mentioned is that believers should rejoice always, they should not allow anything to steal their Joy (1 Thessalonians 5:16).

Believers can rejoice in tribulations, and should rejoice in tribulations (James 1:2).

Of course you are not rejoicing for whatever predicament, but you are rejoicing because you have a God who is able to help and deliver from whatever the problem.

• Believers should always pray without ceasing. Prayer is a dialogue. We should cultivate the habit of conversing with God as we go about our daily activities (1 Thessalonians 5:17).

Conversational prayers should be the Norm for a believer who wants intimacy with God.

• If you know God holds the reins of your life, you will not be fretful about whatever happens, you will learn to thank God in every situation, thus: " in everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you" (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

• Some of the Thessalonians started doubting and despising prophecies, they wanted to quench the Spirit; thus they were admonished not to: "Do not quench the Spirit. Do not despise prophecies (1 Thessalonians 5:18,20).

The fact that we have those who go about with false prophecies does not mean there are no believers or ministers with genuine prophecies.

Some even say there are no prophets again, that the gift of prophecy and the office of the prophet are done away, that there are no prophets in the body of Christ again.

They usually substantiate their points with this Scripture:

8. "Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

9. For we know in part and we prophecy in part.

10. But when that which is perfect [complete] has come, then that which is in part will be done away."

1 Corinthians 13:8-10 (NKJV)

- The above passage of the Bible talks about the things that will happen when Jesus comes to gather the saints.

At that time we would not need prophecies again, we would not need to speak in tongues again, tongues will cease, and we would not need knowledge again, everything will be known to us, there would be no need for special knowledge.

But for now prophecy is still needed, likewise tongues and knowledge, no one has ceased out of them.

- They claimed that since we have the Bible, the written Word, prophecy has ceased.

It is a fallacy, and a ruse, trick of the devil to deceive those who do not have understanding of the Bible!

The question is, HAS knowledge vanished away? If knowledge has not vanished away, thus, prophecy has not ceased—because they are listed together.

Although there are false prophets who give false prophecies, but the solution or antidote given by Apostle Paul in that same passage is: "Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil" (1 Thessalonians 5:21,22).

The devil is a counterfeiter, the fact that you have a counterfeit does not mean you should do away with the real or genuine.

14. "And no wonder! For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light.

15. Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also transform themselves into ministers of righteousness, whose end will be according to their works."

2 Corinthians 11:14,15 (NKJV)

• Know the truth of the Word of God, and walk in the light of the truth you know.

It is the knowledge of the truth, the Word, that sets free, and that will not make you a victim of fake prophecies: "And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).

When you know the Truth, no one would be able to bamboozle, confuse and trick you with fake prophecies.

• Every believer should keep away from sin, that is, evil.

Sins have been made cheap, you need discipline and determination to keep away from them—especially sin of immorality, that is, sexual sin.

- Lying and unfaithfulness is also rampant even in the church.

In fact, if you are truthful, some people think you are daft or stupid: "Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds" (Colossians 3:9).

• However, the Scripture says:

"Nevertheless the solid foundation of God stand, having this seal: "the Lord knows who are His," and, "LET EVERYONE WHO NAMES THE NAME OF CHRIST DEPART FROM INIQUITY."

2 Timothy 2:19 (NKJV)

• You will not fail in Jesus' name.

Peace!

[delightfullyatomicfest]

John interviewed in Melody Maker part 3

MELODY MAKER DECEMBER 20 1969 - 

FROM ALL THE publicity, welcome and unwelcome, that they have received during their two years together, John and Yoko Lennon might seem to have little or no private life together. In fact, they appear wilfully to present their joint life to the public, for that most altruistic and most misunderstood reason: to set a good example. 

John has said in the past that he’d like them to be remembered as the Romeo and Juliet of the age, and when he says that I don’t believe he’s being egotistical. In fact the Lennons may, in a left-handed sort of way, be doing the establishment a favour - by bringing marriage back into fashion. 

Like anybody else, they do have a more private side to their life, and John comments, “There’s nothing I like more than to get home at the end of the day and sit next to Yoko and say, ‘Well, we’re together at last.’ Although we may have been holding hands all day, it’s not the same when we’re working or talking to the press. We feel a hundred miles apart by comparison.” 

It’s obvious that they have changed each other, the change in John being more noticeable because we knew more of his earlier self. But how did meeting John change Yoko ’s life? 

“He’s changed everything in a sense that I was a very lonely person before I met him,” she says. “Most people in the world are very lonely, that’s the biggest problem, and because of their loneliness they become suspicious. And the reason we’re lonely is because we can’t communicate enough from the various complexes we have and from the various social habits we’ve created. We become very inhibited, but when I met John I started to open up a little, through love, you know, and that’s the greatest thing that happened to me yet. 

“There are various facets to my life and my personality, and I never met anybody else who could understand me. We understand each other so well, and I’m not lonely any more - which is a shocking experience, really. 

Also, through loneliness or something, I was starting to become a very firm and strong ego. .. but that’s melting away, and it’s very nice.” 

On the other side of the coin, how does John feel Yoko has changed him? 

“Exactly the same, of course. I was lonely, and didn’t have full communication with anybody and it took a bit of adjusting. She rediscovered or cultivated the thing that existed in me before I left Liverpool, maybe, and recultivated the natural John Lennon that had been lost in the Beatles thing and the worldwide thing. She encouraged me to be myself, because it was me that she fell in love with, not the Beatles or whatever I was. 

“When you get sidetracked you believe it, and when you’re in the dark you believe it. She came and reminded me that there was light, and when you remember there’s light you don’t want to get back in the dark again. That’s what she did for me.” 

Yoko : “But you know I didn’t do it intentionally or anything. It’s the falling-in-love bit: you start to see all sorts of things that you don’t see if you’re not in love. I found that he has all these qualities that he was hiding away. Even in a practical sense, music-wise, he was doing all sorts of freaky things at home, just recording it on a cassette or something, but not really showing it publicly. Publicly he was doing The Beatles’ things. But he showed me all these cassettes and things and I said, ‘Why don’t you produce these as records? ’ 

“I performed the role of a mirror in a way. He was doing all those things anyway - I didn’t suggest them. It was there - and that goes for his drawing, paintings, and poetry too - especially his drawings. He’s got a stack of beautiful drawings at home, and this one series he did is going to be produced as sort of lithograph. They’re not like his cartoons - they’re another kind of drawing. I think they’re better than Picasso .” 

“She’s biased,” said John happily. 

“You’ll see them next year,” continued Yoko. “And those things were always there in John- they just came out, but artists do need encouragement. We’re always together, like 24 hours of the day. At the beginning, when we were less sure and we were still the previous us, once in awhile when John was recording I’d go shopping on the King’s Road or something -now we couldn’t conceive of that. 

“People say that if you’re together 24 hours a day for two years you must get sick and tired of each other, but it’s the contrary,” asserted Yoko. 

“We got so addicted to that situation that we miss each other more. It’s a very strange scene.” 

John: “Somebody said, ‘Won’t you get so reliant on each other that you can’t manage without each other?’ and we said yes! The only thing that could split us is death, and we have to face that. . . and we don’t even believe we’ll be split then, if we work on it. Our only worry in the world is that we die together, otherwise even if it’s only three minutes later it’s going to be hell. I couldn’t bear three minutes of it. 

“Most marriages have a little pretence going on, and we thought, ‘Are we going to have to pretend that we’re happy together because we daren’t say that we want to be apart?’ But that doesn’t happen. When two of you are together, man and wife, there’s nothing that can touch you. You have the power of two people, you have the protection - you don’t need the society or the room or the uniform or the gun, because you have the power of two minds, which is a pretty powerful thing.” 

A major part of most marriages is childbearing. John and Yoko have one child each by their previous. How important do they think a child will be to their relationship? 

“We’re not even sure that we want children/’ said John. “We’re that jealous. But if God or whoever gives us a child we’ll accept it. Maybe we’d like two or three. But even then we have to consider: is a child going to interfere between us? How can we look after a child and be together 24 hours a day?” 

Yoko : “It’s not fair to the child, maybe, because we are so close. The child will be somebody that will be saying ‘hello’ once in awhile.” 

John: “Obviously it’ll probably be different if we have one, because all the times she’s pregnant we consider it. We’re full into it, wanting a child, but when you lose it and you get over the pain then you consider whether you wanted the child. Now maybe we had that in the back of our minds all along, and that’s why she lost it. We don’t really know whether we want one or not. If she gets pregnant we’ll want one, but I’d like her not to be pregnant for a bit - she’s been pregnant since I met her! 

“I’d like her to stay slim for ayear and then maybe have one. But we don’t fancy birth pills, because I don’t trust them and anything else is out of the question ( laughs ) because it’s inconvenient. We’re not like that - we try to act naturally at all times. That’s one of our problems, besides death. It’s in God’s hands.” 

Richard Williams 

[attack-on-kiwi]

I wanted to make sure before i asked- soo ^-^

Would you be willing to do the fluff alphabet for Porco? Honestly i don't see many fics of him! Pf course it's entirely up to you! :)

I’m glad I get to pay tribute to him on his birthday(11/11) :)

Porco Galliard:

A ctivities - What do they like to do with their s/o? How do they spend their free time with them?

Spending time together in general is highly valued by Porco. He doesn’t get too much free time, so any time he’s able to splice maong his family and his s/o is important to him. When they’re together, he wants to make the most of it, but he’s tired from his excursions. This means the two usually get a meal or his s/o accompanies him while he tries to sleep. The feeling of their fingers raking through his short hair has become something of a guilty pleasure for him.

When he’s got the energy, Porco lets them drag him around the marketplace so they can run errands. He enjoys the domesticity of it. If they can enjoy a calm boat ride, he’s going to plan a small picnic for them.

B eauty - What do they admire about their s/o? What do they think is beautiful about them?

Their loyalty and perseverance is what draws his to them. Porco is in awe of their stubbornness to stay with him, their stubbornness to get their work done, and their stubbornness to believe that there’s more to life than the violence that wrecks the land. The way they find joy in the little things and how they want to share those little loves with him is more entrancing than it should be. 

On a physical standpoint, he thinks their hands are beautiful. It’s cheesy, but the way their fingers are shaped to lock with his in such a perfect way only justifies that they were made for one another. He’s always pressing small kisses to them as he bids them farewell or lulls them to sleep. It’s not uncommon that Porco will mindlessly stroke across their palms just to take in the dips and curves of each line.

C omfort - How would they help their s/o when they feel down/have a panic attack etc.?

Hugs. Porco needs to keep his mouth shut because he knows he’s going to make it worse. He relies on holding his s/o tightly, engulfing them in his arms. No matter their size, they always feel so tiny and fragile in his arms. He’ll kiss the top of their heads and rock them. He doesn’t care how long he needs to stay there--he won’t let go until he’s sure they’ve calmed down. 

He’ll try to talk to them about what upset them when he believes they can speak and tries to get to the bottom of the issue. It frustrates him to no end that he can’t do more than he should be able to.

D reams - How do they picture their future with their s/o?

He tries not to picture a future because of his ticking clock, but he can’t help but fantasize about hwat life would be if the two got married. What if they worked together? Or had kids? What if they traveled the world once he was granted permission and everything was safe? Thoughts like these keep Porco from losing his mind during the notably difficult times. 

E qual - Are they the dominant one in the relationship, or rather passive?

At first, Porco is rather passive, letting his s/o guide him in how they like to maneuver through a relationship. However, as he gets used to them and their habits, he starts taking initiative and cultivates a dominant streak. He enjoys the looks of surprise his s/o gives him as he starts really asserting himself, which inspires him to take charge more often. 

He does let his s/o take charge if they want to. There's something about being told what to do or how to behave that ignites a mischievous fire in him, and, hey, it makes for some really good entertainment on his part. 

F ight - Would they be easy to forgive their s/o? How are they fighting?

Oh, man. Porco is ruthless when he and his s/o fight. He doesn’t hold back and can say some pretty upsetting stuff, and if the situation is dire enough, he will violently jab at their insecurities. It only hits him after, and the regret sits deep in his stomach, making him feel like he’ll throw up. He’s always ready for his s/o to leave him during these fights, and he’ll steel himself. He’s stubborn, and believes he’s in the right, which causes problems in the relationship. 

If he’s in it for the long term, he’s willing to try and be more compassionate, though, it’s a long journey. He doesn’t even care about grudges, honestly, he just wants to be right. Unless his s/o or he have their loyalty questioned, his main priority is winning. 

G ratitude - How grateful are they in general? Are they aware of what their s/o is doing for them?

Porco has his qualms with the relationship. One one hand, he’s ecstatic about someone wanting to be with him even though he’s rough around the edges, but on the other hand, he feels selfish for getting into a relationship when he and his s/o are aware of what will happen to a warrior at the end of their ‘term’. He gives his s/o outs and is always shocked at their resilience to his doubts. His s.o promising that they’ll deal with the grief when it comes and that they want to enjoy his love while they can brings him to tears more often than he’d admit (of course, he’s in the privacy of his quarters during these moments). He has no way of expressing how grateful he is in reality, so he uses whatever perks he has to make their life secure and enjoyable, even thinking in the long term about how to get them a home in a safer area or how he can send a portion of the funds that go to his family to his s/o once he’s finished.

H onesty - Do they have secrets they hide from their s/o? Or do they share everything?

Porco is pretty cut and dry. He doesn’t do anything that needs to be kept a secret, and aside from warrior and military information, he’s transparent with his s/o. Now, he won’t go out of his way to share every single thought of his, but if his s/o asks him questions, he’s more than happy to answer. He’s never pondered whether he’s honest to his s/o or not. It comes naturally to him, and he just hopes he’s doing the whole communication thing correctly. Honest as he is, he’s just as blunt. His s/o must be prepared for some harsh truths if they pry.

Porco will ask questions, as well. He does his best to make sure his s/o has nothing heavy on their mind. Sadly, he’s not the best at articulating himself in an emotionally vulnerable situation. He will ask them how they’re doing multiple times a day just to give them the green light that they can share with him if and when they want to.

I nspiration - Did their s/o change them somehow, or the other way around? Like trying out new things or helped them overcome personal problems?

The biggest way his s/o changed him is by encouraging him to be free with himself. Porco may seem rather arrogant, and he is, but he is also a stickler for the rules. His s/o reminds him it’s okay to think for himself and to do things just for the hell of it. He won’t always have the answer, and that’s nothing to be scared of. He learns he can share burdens and pain without fear of being ridiculed, and that’s one of the most important lessons his s/o has taught him. 

J ealousy - Do they get jealous easily? How do they deal with it?

Porco says he’s not the jealous type, but catch him calling out anyone who so much as breathes at a different wavelength around his s/o. He will be quick to act and gets extremely protective, even if his s/o could knock the assailant onto their ass.

K iss - Are they a good kisser? What was the first kiss like?

Porco’s kisses range from being shy and sweet to desperate and erratic. It all depends on his mood. Usually, he’s composed and likes to give his s/o cheeky kisses that he leans into, holding their entire being against him. He knows this makes them dizzy and loves to take advantage. Other times, he’s on an adrenaline rush and needs to see his s/o as soon as he can. The possibility of losing them or not seeing another day becomes much too apparent after battles, and he wants to ravish his s/o while he can. He does get a little embarrassed by his behavior if they bring it up later.

His first kiss was nothing phenomenal. It was after he asked if they wanted to be his partner, and he just followed the motions, bringing them in for a simple, sweet kiss. His lips are softer than one would expect, so it was all too easy to melt against him in the moment. Even now, it feels surreal. 

L ove Confession - How would they confess to their s/o?

Porco’s confession is abrupt. He comes home from the battlefield in the evening to find his s/o had left him a letter, telling him they were thinking of him and have been hoping for his safe return. “Safe” he scoffs to himself and folds the letter into the inner pocket of his jacket. Without really understanding why, he finds himself quickly pacing down the streets until he gets to his s/o’s residence. As soon as they’re in front of him, he doesn’t give them a chance to welcome him home as he grabs them by their arms and leaves them dazed with a rough kiss. He’d pull back and sternly glare at them, though, they know he’s not mad--he’s thinking. When he finally says what’s on his mind, they’re all too relieved that it’s a confession and not a signal to end the relationship. He ends up staying the night, and when the realization of what he said dawns on him, he’s going to try sleeping with his back to them. It doesn’t take much for his s/o to coax him to turn around. In fact, all it takes is them echoing the words back to him.

M arriage - Do they want to get married? How do they propose? What would the marriage be like?

He entertains the idea of bonding with someone for life, but unfortunately, his fate as a titan shifter holds him back from thinking too much on it. He doesn’t want to get his hopes up, and much less, get his s/o’s hopes up. In the end, he’s aware he’s going to have to leave his s/o, and being with them at all has already locked in the fact that they’re going to be devastated over what’s to come. Porco doesn’t want to hurt them more than he will.

When Porco thinks about marriage, he thinks about his s/o and him waking up in the early afternoon, chatting over tea, and getting ready for a day of lazing about. He sees his brother, though he shouldn’t, coming over sometimes to tell the two to wake up since all they do is sleep daylight away. He wants two kids running around. Maybe one is shy and the other is outgoing. They’re best friends. He knows his s/o would look sweet with them. He wants to hold all three of them in his solid embrace and whisper ghost stories to them only to get swatted by his s/o for terrorizing the children. If you ever see Porco grinning to himself, he’s probably thinking of that.

N icknames - What do they call their s/o?

Ooh, Porco thinks nicknames are SO stupid, so no he definitely won’t be calling his s/o “Babe”, or “Baby”, or “Lame-ass dork” nope!! And don’t expect him to whisper little sweet nothings at night, calling them “Beloved”, or “Darling” as they fall asleep just so he can experience how the words would sound as they roll of his tongue! Nope! Porco would NEVER!! 

(all of that was a joke, for those of you who have a hard time getting sarcasm over text. He calls them all that :) )

O n Cloud Nine - What are they like when they are in love? Is it obvious for others? How do they express their feelings?

Actually the cutest. Porco acts all big and unbothered, but seeing his s/o turns him into a puppy. He’ll follow them around as they run errands and ask if they want him to carry their stuff. He always insists on paying--it’s a pride thing for him. Don’t worry too much, with his warrior salary, he’s able to afford your basics. His way of showing love is to help his s/o in any way he can and to build them up. Porco is sensitive with them and tries not to be a huge dick, but that passive-aggressive behavior can rear its ugly head at time. 

One way to tell he’s in love is that he won’t be too pessimistic around his s/o. There’s a glint of hope as he speaks to them, and he’s always got a hint of a joyous smile on his face. It’s hard for him to pretend to be angry around them, so imagine the scene other’s who see him on a daily basis are treated to as they witness Porco displaying human kindness. Unfathomable.

P DA - Are they upfront about their relationship? Do they brag with their s/o in front of others? Or are they rather shy to kiss etc. when others are watching?

Porco’s the guys that just says, “Man, fuck all of you. I miss my s/o, I’m leaving.” And that’s how most people find out the two are in a relationship. If they’re with people he’s comfortable with, he’ll have an art around their shoulders and pull them closer. Aside from that, public displays are limited. 

Q uirk - Some random ability they have that’s beneficial in a relationship.

Porco is so goddamn confrontational and outspoken, which can be bad at times, but honestly, it makes for great entertainment. Seeing him call people out and come up with insults that his s/o would never have thought up in their lifetime is truly one of the most educational experiences they have ever had. Though they do feel bad for Porco’s victims, they find the entire display funny, and when they’re upset they just remember Porco calling someone out. It’s also fun for them to quote these outbursts and watch Porco feign ignorance and hide from them.

R omance - How romantic are they? What would they do to make their s/o happy? Cliché or rather creative?

He tries, he really does… his execution can be sloppy since he gets excited about the entire thing. His skills are limited as he’s got a barren idea of how to be romantic in the first place. It’s important to him that his s/o doesn’t make too much fun of him as he figures all of this out. It’s easy to fluster him, and any romantic gestures will leave him speechless. He does take his s/o by example and will try to give them gifts every now and then or sneak them off for an early morning or late evening date. Strolls in the marketplace where he indulges the two on ice cream or a particular sweet come and go as they can. Again, he has no baseline for romantic displays, so he’s learning as he goes. 

S upport - Are they helping their s/o achieve their goals? Do they believe in them?

Porco holds his loved ones to high standards. If his s/o has a goal, he’s going to make sure they’re serious about it. He can sometimes get more excited about them reaching any milestones than they are for themselves. He’s their biggest fan, and that comes with the price of tough love. He’s not going to pull strings or coddle them. He truly believes if they want to get something done, they will, and he’ll be there to act as their support whenever they need him. 

T hrill - Do they need to try out new things to spice out your relationship? Or do they prefer a certain routine?

Yes! He loves trying out new foods and activities! Especially the ones he doesn’t get to have or do very often in Liberio. He’s always looking for something to share with his s/o, and he will drag them into a small adventure at a moment’s notice. 

In an intimate sense, he’s apprehensive to try out something new, especially if it involves potentially hurting his s/o, so it’s up to his s/o to bring up anything they want to try. Most times, he’s receptive and willing to do something at least once. 

U nderstanding - How good do they know their partner? Are they empathetic?

At first, it’s hard for Porco to get to know his s.o. It’s likely they’re his first partner, and it’s not like intimate relationships have a guidebook. He’s never sure what he wants to ask his s/o and sometimes his words get jumbled and come out much more rude than he anticipated. As he gets used to the motions of a relationship, he encourages them to talk to him. He wants to be a safe space for them, and it always makes his heart full when his s/o confides to him during vulnerable times. He knows most things about them, from their childhood to their favorite type of officials to make fun of. 

Porco tries- he really does- but empathy doesn’t come easy to him. He’s stuck in his ways and that makes it difficult to see a situation from another’s point of view. He tries his best not to get snippy at his s/o, but there are times where he can’t help but lash out because he thinks their problem can’t really be THAT bad, can it? (He does have a slight guilty conscious when it comes to his s/o, though, so he will feel like shit and try to figure out how to approach them without setting off a beast, lol).

V alue - How important is the relationship to them? What is it’s worth in comparison to other things in their life?

Porco’s relationship means more than his life to him. Sure, he’s got his mission as a warrior, but he justifies fighting hard as a way to protect his loved ones and eradicate the world of devils who want to see his people burn. He takes his relationship seriously, especially since he IS a warrior, and he’s on a clock. To be his s/o means he’s acknowledged he has strong feelings and that he’s willing to at least have some hope in a better world by risking his s/o’s happiness. He knows they’ll be hurt when he’s gone, so it really takes a lot for him to get with his s/o. This means that the two work hard for one another, and Porco won’t be spitting bull shit at them. He doesn’t have many things that mean much to him, so it’s natural for his s/o to rank pretty high in his priorities.

W ild Card - A random Fluff Headcanon.

Porco! Cannot! Take! Compliments! 

His face will be blank for a few seconds and once he realizes what his s/o said, he’ll start heating up as he denies their claims. It’s a sure fire way of getting him to sputter off excuses and tell his s/o to stop messing with him. He presses his knuckles to his cheeks, hoping that his hands are cold enough to soothe the fluster in his face. It’s one of the cutest ways to see him, and he’ll be a little grumpy for the rest of the day. Grumpy Porco means Pouty Porco, so his s/o is going to have fun teasing him about it.

X OXO - Are they very affectionate? Do they love to kiss and cuddle?

Porco takes every opportunity he can to hold his s/o. It’s an unspoken taboo to display too much affection in public where he’s from, so in the beginning, he was shy. His s/o made his heart beat too fast and his hands would get clammy, so he tried to keep his distance. With some encouragement, Porco learned he rather enjoys being cuddled. Yes, he loves to be held and it’s comforting. Relaxing in their embrace helps him sort out his thoughts and calm down from a day of deliberating over whatever the next move against Paradis is.

As he gets used to affection, Porco is number one in constricting his s/o by the waist or laying on top of them so that they have a few more minutes of private time before they’re separated for the day. He enjoys these little wrestling matches with them more than his s/o will never know. 

He absolutely loves kisses. His favorite is to receive a smooch on the tip of his nose. He lashes out and tells them to stop treating him like a child, but he’s going to be thinking about it all day, so please, keep on keeping on. 

Y earning - How will they cope when they’re missing their partner?

Ooh, this man is irritable beyond comprehension. Any little mishappening will set him off. Those close to him (namely, the other warriors, since he’s not exactly close to him) have adapted to this shift of his and have taken a liking to teasing him. He tries to keep to himself, but he can’t control that hot head of his which gets him into even hotter water at times if the wrong person is caught in his onslaught.

Z eal - Are they willing to go to great lengths for the relationship? If so, what kind of?

Porco’s headstrong and sure of himself in every way. His loyalty knows no bounds, so being sure that his s/o is an important figure in his life means that he’s willing to risk his life for them if need be. He’s limited to the hold of his duty as a warrior, but make no mistake-- he is going to come up with a way to get around policies to ensure his s/o is safe. He takes risks when it comes to his s/o, because he’s desperately protective of one of the few goods things he has going on in his life. 

[blackfemininity]

How do we start this journey of self- love and being enough? How do we begin being who we are actually meant to be?

Hello! Growing up, self love had always been something I’d struggled with because of the experiences I internalized during my childhood. I actually started this blog in 2018 when I was 19 to begin to learn and explore what femininity and black womanhood looks like to me outside of false projections and mentalities.

In the past year, however, I took a step back from this blog because I was battling depression and anxiety. I created this blog to help empower the black woman collective but at the time, I felt like I wasn’t in the right headspace to continue being active and creating content. I thoroughly believe in the quote, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” I had to begin a new journey of healing, growth and self discovery. In my time away, I spent a lot of time prioritizing myself and my personal healing. However, it dawned on me that self love and growth is a lifelong journey that deepens with time. By taking the time to refocus within, I am now in a better place to continue this work. I’m not a licensed mental health professional, however, I can share some insights from my own experience.

The first thing I had to do was become self-aware. I sat down with my journal and began stream-of-consciousness writing, which essentially meant that I kept writing whatever was on my mind and heart until I had nothing to say anymore. I made this a daily practice along with meditation and mindfulness. Being so immersed with social media at the time, I felt like I was deeply disconnected from myself. The purpose of these practices were to help me cultivate stillness and better understand my thoughts and emotions. In doing so, I had a better understanding of what aspects of myself I needed to further develop or discard entirely.

A lot of what I had to unpack centered around my overall experience as a young black girl. I found that as I was growing into a young woman, I still had baggage I needed to let go of. I listened to Bag Lady by Erykah Badu often, with the aim of really understanding the lyrics and implementing them. My journey of self love was mainly rooted in letting go. By letting go of my old false self, I was making space for a new, truer version of myself to come into fruition. By “false” self, I mean that who I was in the past was a result of traumatic experiences and wasn’t an accurate portrayal of who I actually am.

During this time, I began to really pay attention to the concept of metamorphosis specifically in butterflies. Caterpillars eventually get to a point in their journey where their current state no longer brings satisfaction. As a result, they take a leap of faith and undergo a period of darkness in a cocoon stage where they transform into a new, evolved being— a butterfly. This motif encouraged me to begin the work of letting go of my old, false self. Journaling was critical for me because it helped me analyze my thoughts, behaviors and habits (caterpillar stage). It also helped me identify the woman I wanted to become (butterfly stage). I knew my starting point and desired destination. So, I had to create and design a plan to help me release the old and evolve into the new (cocoon stage). I wrote down a series of questions about the woman I wanted to be: “What does she look like? What are her habits? What are her beliefs? What kind of mindset (abundance or scarcity) are her actions rooted in?” and more. I juxtaposed those answers with another series of questions about the woman I currently was: “What are my habits and routines? What are my current beliefs? What kind of mindset (abundance or scarcity) are my actions rooted in?” Seeing the answers to those questions side by side gave me clarity on what actions I needed to take moving forward.

In my cocoon stage, I had to uproot all the false beliefs and messages I had about myself and replace them with more positive, loving and kind ones. These daily affirmations became a North Star that pointed me in the direction of who I wanted to become. They became the foundation of an abundance mindset that helped me believe I could evolve. These statements guided me to cultivate positive and healthy habits and investments in my life. Everyday, I made the decision and commitment to face myself and focus on my own evolution. This meant lessening the amount of time I spent on social media and spending more time rooted within, focused on more fulfilling pastimes. If I was on social media, I filled my feed up with positive and encouraging content. I switched my mindset from, “I wish I could have xyz” (scarcity mindset) to “It is possible for me to have xyz, there’s enough for all of us” (abundance mindset). I continued to curate my black women in luxury instagram page to focus on more women who look like me living a life of abundance, positivity, love, joy, peace and opulence. I even filled my room with these pictures to create an inspiring vision for myself—to reinforce a loving, gentle message to myself: that black girls like me deserve better. This underlying belief helped me eradicate and release the old habits and thoughts that weighed me down. Gradually, as I continued to implement these newer and more positive ideas and actions, I began to evolve, from a caterpillar to a butterfly. However, my evolution isn’t over. That’s an exciting aspect about womanhood I recently discovered. We can reinvent ourselves as many times as we like. We aren’t tied down to any outside perspectives. At any moment, we can choose to refocus on ourselves; we can choose who we want to be. I am still growing, changing and evolving. Every day, I am still learning new things about myself and falling deeper in love with myself. I consciously chose to equate the false beliefs, perceptions and experiences I had in the past with dust. I affirmed myself.

To recap, to start this journey, know that there is no destination. Life isn’t linear, it’s cyclical. There are no bounds or limitations to your own self-love. As time goes on, you can evolve as many times as you desire. You can learn new things about yourself, develop your personal autonomy and navigate the things that only you can control. Shift your focus back to yourself. Become self aware and get to know yourself. Invest in a journal. Allow your self-expression to unfold within these pages. Don’t hold yourself back. Try whatever journaling method suits you whether it's stream of consciousness writing, morning pages, scripting or etc. There are many youtube videos on this subject. There’s also a good book on this topic called The New Diary by Tristine Rainer. It’s a little dated but it’s insightful. Also, take time out of your day just for you. Create a daily practice of self care even if it’s just for 10 minutes. The purpose of this is to center and ground yourself. As young adults, we often divide ourselves amongst many obligations: school, work, relationships, social media and etc. Your sacred time is for YOU. This is important because it will help you recalibrate to your own North Star and remember your personal vision for yourself and your life.

Know that these two concepts can coexist: you are enough in this present moment and you have the potential of evolving into whoever you want to become. Love yourself throughout your evolution and extend love to past versions of yourself. At any given moment, you are worthy of love, especially your own.