#of which I am a survivor

[malewifealucard]

What I’ve been thinking is that Sinners is a movie made by and for black people, tightly and deliberately rooted in our shared history and culture. Nonblack viewers are metaphorically just guests at the juke joint from out of town. It’s like, “welcome, enjoy yourselves, but be respectful”. Therefore nb people being in the space of fandom in this case can make what is a safe space for us into one that is not..here due to it being flooded by indulgent oppressed x oppressor slop as they said.

After watching the film twice, the romantic vibes (presumably nonblack) people are insisting on between Remmick and Sammie certainly never once read to me. Doesn’t even compute to me.

For that genre of nonblack viewer they decontextualize and view the film with the perspectives they are used to — which may be totally, inherently out of line with the black experiences. Sometimes removing something from its context is not only offensive, it is fundamentally inappropriate.

I don’t have a “right” answer about this or particular opinion about what needs to done, these are observations and reflecting on my own feelings of discomfort witnessing this trend.

No white Sinners watchers, Remmick didn't want Sammie because he was in love with him

YOU (YOU!!!) just fetishize Black men and Oppressor x Oppressed relationships

You did not get the historical context of the movie

yall would ship a slave and his master as long as one of them were white

stop cosigning Black Media especially when you don't understand Black hardships and struggles through out REAL life history

[son-of-avraham]

I've been doing a lot of reflection as of late, especially after this past class.

This past class was about the Torah and Tanakh in general, and the way the rabbi talked about the commandments (specifically the ten commandments) has made me really reflect on how I interpret them, specifically the fifth commandment, or honoring your mother and father.

This is a commandment I have wrestled with for a long time - in fact, it brought me away from g-d at multiple times. I was severely abused when I was incredibly young by my mother, and I used to feel insulted at the implication that I were to honor her while she got to live a better life. It was hypocritical, in my eyes.

But this rabbi surmised that this particular commandment was because parenthood is an act of creation, something that is like the g-d from which we come from. My realization is this: I don't think we're necessarily meant to take even these commandments literally.

I this particular commandment is more of a call to honor creation - creation is a gift, and like any gift, many people simply will not like it and will discard it. The person who abused me created me, but she did not honor creation. She didn't honor me, but I can still honor it.

I have started to honor creation much more. I'm too young, too unstable, not mature enough to be a father (though I fantasize about it), but I create all the time. I create relationships, I create with my hands through crochet. I create memories, I create my world. And I can honor who I am and where I came from that made me who I am. I've been learning one of the mother tongues of my family (Italian, since part of my family originates there) and it was judaism that inspired me to do this.

I don't think g-d wants me to honor my abuser. I think He wants me to remember the Holy action of creation. When I am a father, that act of creation will be Holy, and indeed, I am already joyful about the thought.

I have seen many people struggle with this particular commandment, but I think this perspective helps me personally. I don't think I ever have to forgive my abusers (plural), and I don't think I am commanded to simply because they happened to be family. I am commanded to recognize the holy, to elevate the mundane. In doing so, I will remember g-d. Through creation, I honor g-d and everything he has done for us, for me, and for our collective people.

[yakool-foolio]

I will always be standing by my words that Eito is the reaping of what humanity has sown. His tragic existence morphing into weaponizing his fear and hatred is the consequence of society's actions long before he was even born. Since the primary reason he hates humanity is because of his acknowledgement of humans building their history upon violence and death, his beliefs cannot be shaken or swayed easily. He is the embodiment of cruel punishment that humanity is trying to run from after causing World Death. He is all of humanity's Pyramid Head.

It's absolutely upsetting that it has to be that way, but he was born into the role of a necessary evil when the Earth couldn't take care of the problem itself. It hurts so bad, but if it wasn't him, it was going to be somebody else taking up the mantle eventually. A shame it had to be someone who would've had so much genuine love in his heart if it weren't for that curse.

[animatedjen]

Thinking about Traitor Inquisitorius Pt 4

[lunarfied]

i love taivan but you guys cannot be upset when people say they don’t like how a black characters storyline is heavily tied to a white characters

why can’t tai’s storyline, especially in the adult timeline, be her own? why did simone, another black character, have to get into a horrible accident for them to push taivan into the spotlight? andddd what about sammy??

you can love them but please acknowledge the way taissa’s character is being treated as another black character tied into a white character’s storyline. it’s tiring, we had a beautiful family with taissa in the adult timeline which was so compelling to a lot of us all for that to get pushed to the sideline FOR taivan’s development

not to mention the way (some of) y’all treat the poc characters… yeah yeah. let’s talk about that.

[assblastergaster]

as much as i completely understand the shauna haters, we HAVE forgotten what happened in s2. to compare her to natalie—who is by and large an angel despite what happened to her—she is not a perfect victim. she's shitty, mean, and vindictive. . .but the worst thing that can happen to ANYONE happened to her and I'm not talking about jackie. it's easy to move on from it bc it was intentionally made to "go away" (the YJs knew dwelling on it was not an option), but Shauna's baby dying and her delusion making her believe (for even just a second) that her teammates had eaten him is what drives the story.

i'm not trying to get at a trauma olympics type thing here w/ a reference to natalie, but we should recognize that shauna was only a shitty best friend/wife before her baby brutally died—she is not evil for evil's sake. she's been experiencing a severe mental health episode for half a year, and it gets worse as it approaches the anniversary of her son's death, as they find someone she compartmentalized as complicit in his death.

it was only after that that she became violent and vengeful. it's why she allowed melissa to cling on to her. it's why mari ran away and found coach. it's why she wanted to hunt coach, and then condemn him to death, and then force him to live with "what he had done." it's why she couldn't ever have a healthy relationship. it's why she tried to force natalie to see what she'd been going through, only to drive her away to seek safety instead.

[fishyvamp]

Imagine a medieval!AU where Princess!reader is betrothed to King Macmillan. He's cold and distant to you and the only one who seems to show you the slightest sympathy is Sir Ojomo the knight tasked with your safety. He's the one taking you to all your dress fittings, he's the one who listens as you complain that your betrothed seems too busy with the Captain of the guards to even speak with you. That pesky man always glued by the kings side.

Sir Ojomo knows something you don't and he hates the king for it. The king will never love you no matter how much he tries, but this marriage will always be one of convenience and politics. You will produce his heir, but once a son is born he will likely never touch you again.

Though what Phillip hates the most is how he finds himself craving the company of the future queen. He hates how his mind is filled your laughs and corny jokes. He hates that when he closes his eyes at night his dreams are filled with nothing but your naked form and the way it would look glowing under the moonlight. He is a traitor to the crown for even having these dreams. For having these visions of the woman who belongs to his dearest friend the king.

[deservedgrace]

cult jokes are a symptom of and contribute to the simultaneous sensationalizing of cults (cults are all dark cloaks and animal sacrifices and devil worship and group suicide and despicable/unhinged beliefs) and diminishing of cults ("uwu come join my CULT XD we're gonna make cookies and WORSHIP SATAN teehee"), but i'm realizing how they go so hand-in-hand with the mindset of "only ~stupid/evil/crazy/etc.~ people could possibly join a cult. if it were me i would simply not fall for cult propaganda."

the diminishing part means that people don't take you seriously if you say you're an ex cult member or talk about your experiences in a cult or believe you are a current victim of a cult, because cults are just silly little groups that have weird beliefs but are otherwise innocuous. the sensationalizing part means people will also not take you seriously because if it was Actually a cult cult, that does harm and has evil beliefs, you should've known better because any reasonable person would have seen through it. the other side of "only an [xyz] person joins a cult" is "i am not an [xyz] person so i will never join a cult or be victim to propaganda and other cult tactics." the other side of "if it were me i would simply not fall for propaganda" is "someone falling for propaganda is fully a choice and a personal failing on their part." and combined they make: if you were [xyz] enough to join a cult and fall for propaganda, that means you deserved it.

people who would never make jokes about any other kind of abuse but feel perfectly fine making cult jokes used to kind of baffle me, because why is joking about personal abuse a problem but large-scale/group abuse is fine? why is it suddenly funny when you're the one that wants to perpetuate the abuse? but if your belief around cults is: "your experience wasn't that bad [diminishing], and if it was that bad [sensationalizing] it was your own fault and personal failing [i would simply not fall for propaganda], which means you deserved what you went through [only stupid/evil/crazy/etc people join cults]" and you don't understand how cults or cult tactics work, cult survivors/victims probably feel like a fair target for jokes (they are not, to be clear).

[tabbytabbytabby]

Can't wish it all away

Word Count: 1,397 words

Rating: Teen and Up

Warning: Major Character Death

Fandom: 9-1-1

Relationship: Evan "Buck" Buckley/Tommy Kinard

Tags: Season/Series 08, Episode: s08e15 Lab Rats (9-1-1 TV), Canonical Character Death, Grief/Mourning, Evan "Buck" Buckley Needs A Hug, Tommy Kinard Takes Care of Evan "Buck" Buckley, Tommy Kinard Loves Evan "Buck" Buckley, Emotional Hurt/Comfort, Angst, Mentioned Bobby Nash

Summary: In the aftermath of the lab, Buck works through his grief. But he doesn't have to do it alone.

Read on AO3

For the Survivors Guilt space for @badthingshappenbingo. Card under the cut.

[altschmerzes]

to the surprise of utterly no one, already have a concept for a fic for the pitt (cribbing one of my fave grey’s anatomy scenes and doing that to trinity santos) (end scene of the bomb episode two parter with meredith, cristina, and izzie, If You Know You Know)

[underdogarts]

December 23, 2024.

(TW: childhood physical / sexual abuse, flashing images and colors)

So, I’m posting this here first because of my small following relative to everywhere else, and it’s the least terrifying option 😅 But after this Christmas I went no contact with my family because of what I have deemed The Incident. After that, 18 years of memories flooded my head of just how bad my childhood was at the hands of them and my peers. I guess I hope for this to resonate with someone and let them know they’re not alone like I thought I was.

[neccturtle]

lazy huntress drawing lol

[notmoreflippingelves]

It's dawned on me suddenly

And for no obvious reason

That I can't go on

Living as I am.

[qcomicsy]

Marvel writer: Then Wade get involved with monsters! And–

Me:

[lilyharvord]

I am once again playing Jedi Fallen Order and I am once again blissfully happy to be playing a very fun game, but also FURIOUS that I gotta watch some red headed boy with sassy lil comebacks running around with a double bladed lightsaber with a little droid on his shoulder and know that he is NOT in fact, Ben Skywalker. 😤

[lichqueenlibrarian]

There’s… a lot going on here.