#often comorbid

[aropride]

i feel like people use adhd to mean “mild autism.” it is not that

[yourfaveisintersex]

Heather McNamara from Heathers (1989) is intersex, and her variations are Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia (CAH) and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) with vulvar hypospadias!

[creekfiend]

Hello! If this is intrusive please feel free to ignore completely.

I was just wondering if you feel comfortable sharing what type of sleep disorder you have, since the way you described your dreams in those tags is like, the exact way I’ve always dreamed (oh my god FUCK those false awakenings where you’re aware you’re trying to wake up and failing again and again)

Regardless of whether or not you answer, wishing you a very nice day!

I actually don't know specifically bc I haven't had a full sleep study but it's either narcolepsy or idiopathic hypersomnia. and to be honest I'm not entirely clear on why those are two different diagnoses to begin with lol

[swedishjazz]

My favorite story that sounds like I'm making it up for notes is that one time I went to a gynaecologist for a checkup and left with an (unqualified) autism diagnosis

[autumnoakes]

daily reminder that neurodiversity and neurodivergence include so many more disorders than just autism and ADHD 💜

[townofcrosshollow]

Was talking to my partner about BPD and I mentioned that BPD and DID have almost exactly the same symptoms and they were like "What no that's not true" so I looked it up and the first thing I see is a person with DID complaining about the DSM because BPD and DID have almost exactly the same symptoms

[skylarkblue]

i got diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis and bursitis today. this wasn't super unexpected, nor is it unwelcome - i get to try a new medication for the pain, and we're discussing the possibility of steroid injections in the future, both of which could my life changing for me.

but, i don't know.

i've never had a doctor take me seriously before. i've never had a doctor keep hunting until we had an answer before. i'm used to being dismissed, or having my symptom severity downplayed because it makes a doctor feel better. i'm used to things being blamed on my weight.

...you know, the rheumatologist was examining my hands, and she said to me, "You see here, around your knuckles? That's swelling. That's why they look like that."

and I said, "Are you sure? That's what they always look like."

and she said, "Yes, because they're always swollen."

and I looked down at my hands, and I went, "Oh. I thought they just looked like that because I got fat."

Because that's what the last specialist said.

[ionlycareaboutyou]

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[musicaltrash]

"normalize this, normalize that" normalize emotional lability? psuedobulbar affect?

it's great that we're normalizing the widespread things but I didn't realize what was wrong with me until a few years ago. I had no friends because of it. and then I was so depressed and mastered hiding emotions that it didn't even show up, and people finally wanted to be friends with me. they only liked me when I stopped feeling emotive at all.

I don't expect y'all to know and research every condition possible, but at least treat people kindly if you don't know what's going on. that kid at school who has trouble expressing emotions in a normal way? they're not a "crybaby" or "too emotional." that coworker who struggles with regulating their feelings, and either shows too much or too little? there's a reason.

I don't ask for reblogs but for the love of god just be kind to people so they don't have fucked up lives and think that they're the problem.

[semiotomatics]

it appears i may have tmj disorder

[heavencasteel420]

Cattiness below:

I might be willing to give R*nance a chance if I could swing a cat without hitting a fic where (a) Jonathan is villainized in really hamfisted, OOC ways that I’d find off-putting even if I didn’t like him and (b) the author is just super-enamored with Steve and he’s always there.

[momett]

transID people fascinate me. like i lost an entire week of time only to find out i split twice within that period and even though i'm back i'm still dealing with the headaches and DPDR. is this a fucking game to y'all? is this fun? is this desirable?

[majjiktricks]

initial appointment at psychiatry office, lady wants me to do more tests but thinks i probably have adhd AND autism ✌️

[cookiekobold]

#oh that is a very good explanation for us non-ADHD-havers#so would meeting or appointments early in the morning be better?

At least for me that helps, yes. I try to make any doctors appointments and similar important things in the mornings.

Not too early though, or I can't sleep because I worry to much about sleeping through my alarm. Generally about 2-3 hours after I plan to wake up works for me. So about 9-10 am, since my partner has to get up at 7:30 and I try to keep the same sleep schedule.

I see a lot of people joking about the adhd thing of "I have a appointment/phone call at 3pm, guess I won't do anything all day!"

But no one seems to make the connection that it's a time blindness thing. One of the symptoms of ADHD is not having a good and accurate sense of time. And not doing stuff prior to an event with a hard deadline is an obvious coping mechanism for that.

Can I go to the store? It's 10am and the appointment is at 3pm. How long does going to the store take? An hour? Three hours? Five hours? I DON'T KNOW!

I get anxious trying to do things before appointments because I'm aware that I don't know how long those things take, and that if I think I do, I may be very wrong. Too often I've been like "hey I can walk to the corner store and grab a drink, that'll take like 15 minutes!" and then an hour later I get back and whoops my rice has burnt.

Plus there's also the fact that ADHD people know that motivation and focus is a two-edged sword.

Like, let's say you decide to play a video game. You've got time, you can pause/save whenever, so this should be a perfect fit to make good use of your waiting-time. So you start playing and WHOOPS you get really focused for some reason today (because people with ADHD do not get to pick when their brain decides to focus) and the next time you look at the clock it's 2:49 and you haven't showered or dressed and the appointment is 30 minutes away. Fuck. (you could have set an alarm, but now you're asking people with the forgetting-things-and-time-ignoring condition to remember it set alarms)

And with motivation, it can be almost worse. Instead of playing a game, you so something useful or creative. You clean your room or fix your plumbing or write a story or draw a picture. And suddenly it's great. Your brain is firing on all cylinders. You've got all the motivation you can ask for, and you are FLYING. the ideas are brilliant, your hands are nimble, you're getting stuff done you've been putting off for weeks or months. And then the alarm goes off. Time to go to your appointment. Fuck.

You drive there, your brain still full of ideas and plans. But by the time you get back, the motivation is gone. You may still have the ideas but you don't have the drive to write them down. You can't force yourself to do it. Your sink is still in pieces. Your room is half-cleaned, and you have to shove all the sorted clothes into one big bin just so you have somewhere to sleep. You've left things half finished again, in a cycle that has been repeating your whole fucking life. It seems sometimes that nothing ever gets finished.

So next time you don't even start. There's not time. You've been burnt too many times. Why add another half-completed project to your pile of shame?

My point is that people seem to be going "lol I can't do anything all day if I have an appointment at 3pm" like this is a quirky "oh I'm so scatterbrained!" weirdness they alone have, and not a major complication of a disabling mental illness.

(and that's not even getting into the secondary effects. If you know that having an appointment ruins your whole damn day, you're going to avoid them. Even when it's things like "going to that party" or "meeting your friends for a drink/game" or "going to a movie with that cute girl from your math class". Things you should enjoy. Things that'd help you be social. Things that make you feel human.)

[starmagnets]

pots is so funny to me bc it’s like. it’s smth that really affects my day to day life but also i can reduce the severity of symptoms by eating a pickle.

[sugaploom]

not to be a killjoy but does anyone else get annoyed at the co-opting of specifically autistic experiences to adhd lol. saw justice sensitivity be listed as an adhd trait on one of those annoying adhd facebook pages and felt my eye twitch