#others not be treated with such empathy

[tea-cat-arts]

Shen Yuan getting transported into pidw isn't "the system punishing him for being a lazy internet hater," but instead representative of "step 1 of the creative process: getting so mad at something you decide to go write your own fucking book" in this essay I will

[districtscare]

yes i am the biggest advocate of surrogate father haymitch & adopted daughter katniss but like. they're so Awful. they've not got a mother/daughter relationship, they've got that father/daughter relationship where the dad is both reaching for a connection and rejecting the thing that he made because she's too much like him, too close to what he is and far away from it because of her potential and the daughter rejects because she doesn't understand him. understanding him is understanding herself. caring for him is caring for herself. and then she's awful to him because she doesn't understand and doesn't want to understand. and he's rejectful of her because she's got so many traits that are for the worse and not for the better. their similarities don't hurt nearly as much as what their differencee impale them with. it will always be what katniss could be (haymitch), and what haymitch prevented/could've been (katniss.)

[borntogayz]

I’m fully supportive of drivers talking about their mental health and that includes Lando!!! but remember that Lewis and Max have also spoken out with their struggles… Lando is not doing anything revolutionary or singular.

Many of the drivers have talked about their nerves, mental health, eating disorders, etc but just because it wasn’t in a presser or a video’d interview doesn’t mean they never spoke out. Marks book! Maxs’ documentary/show!

I’d love for formula 1 to give these drivers a better and more supportive platform to speak out on these issues but for the most part the opinions and personal issues of drivers are mainly shared in their own content. It’s good that lando is outward with his struggles but at the same time let’s remember that other drivers also face the same or similar challenges.

[lesboylycan]

"i only support pwASPD/NPD if they choose to recover" lol good to know that you're not worth thinking about. we've done everything we need to do to be at least somewhat happy with ourselves. we're going to actively choose not to try and "improve" anything else if it isn't killing us, and you're a big part of the reason why 👍

telling us you only care about us if we choose to "recover" only makes us not want to recover. especially since we know the only recovery that matters to you is the recovery that makes us look like a persotypical. you don't care about pwASPD/NPD, you only care about fixing us. kiss my ass.

[isa-ah]

We both were chosen by this destiny…

Why did it have to be us?

[uncanny-tranny]

In discussions about mental health, I am so tired of the only voices mattering being other people or other people who do not deal with a condition/disorder or a specific situation.

"Here's how I deal with loved ones with [x] condition!"

"If you do [y] because of [x mental health reason], you're selfish and everybody who loves you is having their lives made harder by you!"

"If your symptoms are [z], you're gross, and you deserve no sympathy for struggling"

I understand to an extent why people do this, but holy hell, as somebody who struggles and struggles often, the last thing any of us need to be told is that we're a burden that others have to carry. And it's terrible how everybody else's feelings but ours matter - even if we are the ones most affected by our condition or situation.

If you are dealing with issues surrounding your mental health and well-being, know that everything above isn't true; you are worthy of patience, understanding, kindness, and love. You are worthy of being listened to without judgment. You don't have to apologize or "make up" for who you are or what you struggle with.

[stanielman]

Finally suffering through season four of The Umbrella Academy and while I have many complaints and frustrations, my biggest is one that I've had for the entire show and that's how everyone treats Klaus' addiction issues.

These season especially, we see him sober and proud and absolutely paranoid into slipping back to the old way. I'm well aware that getting his power back doesn't immediately throw himself into old habits, but to him it absolutely does because having powers means subjecting himself to non-stop psychosis which he can only subside with drugs and alcohol.

So the fact that he is petrified of relapsing, not a single one of them try to keep an eye on him, try to help him. No wonder he relapsed in probably the most heartbreaking scene of the show, and that's so far just been met with frustration from Allison and her promise to leave him to mess up on his own.

I understand having a rocky relationship with a family member with substance abuse issues, I absolutely understand now wanting to be around them or having them be around your child, I understand not wanting to pick them up off their ass over and over again, but it's just so crazy to me that they all have the ability to recognize that he has an addiction and see how hard he worked to be sober and not try to do anything to prevent losing him again. Not show any care that they're losing him

[bellamysgriffin]

i think one thing you need to remember when you think everyone hates you is that most people are honestly not thinking about you they are almost always thinking about themselves. you know, like you are

[f-imaginings]

Hello! I’ve been reading Knowing me, knowing you for like 2 weeks already, I just finished chapter 38 and I gotta say… this is one of the best (if not THE best) fanfic I’ve ever read, and I’ve been reading fics since 2016. I’m obsessed with bill and ford and the way you characterize them is flawless.

I have one request of you: could you please tell me if I can expect lighter side of their relationship/them working together/being kinda happy (?) together in the remaining 20 chapters? The angst is perfectly written but I feel emotionally drained because of it as this fic is what I mostly think about lately😭

I hope you’re able to answer my question (I don’t mind light spoilers) and I wish u the best day!!!

I guess it depends on what you consider light and happy. this definitely isn't a fluffy fic, nor should the ship be relatively fluffy considering the source material, but I like to think there are lots of moments past chapter 34 that demonstrate the fun side of the pairing, particularly throughout the portal adventures, and my goal with the ending is to leave it somewhat hopeful and open ended. There is a bunch of comedy scattered throughout and I want to do each character arc justice, since this is probably more of a character driven fic than simply a ship fic.

This also comes back around to canon which includes weirdmaggedon so more bad stuff does happen to both of them but the point of the fic is to highlight each characters flaws and similarities. That might not mean the future is all sunshine and lollipops for both of them, but hey that's what the spin off will be for, to explore how at each intersection of things going wrong, what would need to change for things to go right.

I'm glad you're enjoying it so far! Just wait til you get to the lottocron 9 chapter, or Ford's adventures in the m dimension! Plus they do eventually go on a library date (though I can't say it's entirely free from angst haha)

[guinevereslancelot]

decided to leave my job and i'm gonna fr gonna cryyyyy

[tea-cat-arts]

You know what, I've read enough fanfic. I'm confiscating Madame Yu from you guys

Free my girl- she did the things she's being accused of, but not as frequently or severely as the fandom pretends, her actions are being taken out of context, and her depth is being reduced to that of a Colleen Hoover antagonist

[isawthismeme]

[anthromimicry]

the duality of misao being one of the few psychiatrists in arkham that has actually made progress with some of their patients and treats them like human beings, but also someone who does a complete 180° later + EATS her patients and gaslights people who ask about them into thinking they were never committed there is currently making me go feral. like girlll why are you like this JSJSJ

[cosmics-beings]

being a starscream fan is always difficult because you have to navigate interacting with people who completely pacify him and excuse all his actions and paint him as a innocent person who can't be held accountable for the shit he does. and going as far as saying you excuse abuse if you try to hold him accountable for how he treats others. nevermind the fact that u yourself are an abuse victim and you wanna look at him multifaceted and you know, not excuse his abusive actions toward others.

but at the same time, you also have to navigate people who absolutely HATE him, and will act like they don't and claim they just see him critically, when most of their content is bashing him for his abuse, excusing it, saying he's an awful person and getting mad at people for seeing him as a victim or wanting him to have better. literally saying he deserves what happens to him. ike a lot of people will flat out slander him, while uplifting characters who are worse than him, will say that starscream doesn't deserve redemption, or saying that anyone who wants better for him is excusing him or worse, going out of their way just to be extremely unfair and critical to him.

it's difficult because i love starscream and i do see him critically. but it's hard being around people who will just pacify his actions, and then try to go to someone so you can have indepth convos about him only to realize that 'oh, this person actually hates starscream, they haven't said anything remotely positive about him'.

[uncanny-tranny]

I think the thing about the way people conceptualize empathy is... when you're interacting with other people, they are going through things that, which you may empathize with, you won't always understand, partially because you're two different people, but also because not all situations are 1:1 copy-pastes that are easy to understand.

This isn't saying that empathy is useless, but that acknowledging when you relate personally to somebody and yet also recognizing that this is their struggle is important. When people pretended to empathize with me, it made me feel like I was being placated to. I felt like people were only trying to shut me up by saying that they, personally, "get it," when I knew they didn't. I just don't want people replicating that because they genuinely do want to help the people in their lives.

[chicago-geniza]

Heard someone use the neologism "noblesse goblige" (noblesse oblige for goblins) and physically felt it burrowing into my brain through my ear