#perfection is a lie

[iloveyou-writers]

Making mistakes, doing things "wrong," not writing perfectly... none of it makes you a "bad writer." It makes you human.

Learn from the mistakes, don't tear yourself down over them or you'll be less likely to learn and get better and more likely to give up.

[random-xpressions]

I have thorns too, but that's not what roses are known for...

Random Xpressions

[lonelyflower01]

Academic Validation

100 %

I finally had acheived perfection.

I was never expected to be the prettiest, the funniest or even the most interesting person in a room.

But now, I was expected to be the smartest.

I was finally good at something,

I was going to make my family and friends proud.

100 %

Countless hours of lectures, math problems, essays and homework.

Tears staining most pages,

Countless sleepless nights,

But all goes unnoticed.

Anyways, to attain perfection, this is expected.

100 %

Friends scoff when they hear my grades.

Family doesn’t even ask to see them anymore.

Anything other than that sucks, right?

90 %

I can’t help but feeling like I’ve let down every expectation.

“You’re overreacting, this isn’t even bad”

Yet, I feel like I have failed

My friends,

My family,

But mostly myself.

Because once you’ve reached the top, the only way back is down.

***

At first, having perfect grades was enjoyable. I had finally learned that it was possible not to hate every aspect about myself. I was going to be able to prove to the world that I was maybe a chubby, loner weirdo, but at least I was smart.

But then the pressure came. I can’t really explain it, but even though it is not explicitly inquired, it is omnipresent. That pressure broke me. Not only because it came with an overbearing mix of a performance anxiety and perfectionism, but also because my self worth was now dictated by my performance on the academic level. Any time I did not overacheive, I felt like a complete failure. It didn’t matter what grade I got or what my friends or family would say in order to confort me, because I thought to myself that even in what I considered to be my strongest suit, I still wasn’t enough.

[escalierssansfin]

You don't have to be perfect,

You are yourself,

That's what I like about you.

You are special.

💜

[llittletingoddess]

New James edit today or no James at all for a week.

Told ya I hate being Virgo...

[buggachat]

something so fucked up about Chat Noir’s whole deal is that he is in a lot of ways Adrien playing a character. Like Adrien picked up his miraculous and was told he’d be a superhero so he was like “ok, time to act like a superhero!” and he lets himself have fun w it and play up the role and let loose and kind of just allow himself to be silly and goofy and have fun and for once in his life not care about performing Perfection™.

But. But none of the other characters KNOW THAT. So everyone just sees Chat Noir and is like “look at this guy’s ego. He’s so full of himself. Surely it’d be fair to knock him down a few pegs” without being aware of how few pegs he actually HAS. He’s like the “insecure character who overcompensates in ego” trope except he’s really not doing it unironically, he’s just having a fun LARP pretending to have self worth in his off-hours but nobody else is on the same page about it being a game and he refuses to tell them. He just dramatically pouts about it and lets them laugh and pretends like he’s not internalizing it and it is almost 3 am and my brain forced me to write this instead of sleeping I’m gonna take a melatonin

[inquisitive-me-47]

Body shaming

Ever seen someone and laughed about how big or small Thier features of the body look .

Well I have done it

At that time I figured out it was funny till people started laughing about me too .

I felt so insecure about everything that I just couldn't stand naked with light on.

My body to me was so gross ugly.

I wore clothes to hide those features in body that I didn't like ,even changed how I walked so people want realise them .

Sooner I came to realise everybody in my school did that change Thier walking style so it would seem they had bigger butts .

Funny thing is during the COVID 19 pandemic everything changed I started loving my body .

I felt more emporwed about it .

Thanks to my friend who kept telling how everyone laughed at her because everything about her was smaller than peers .

She felt devasted at first and was so close to book an appointment to get bigger ass.

When she was booking the appointment she came across a advert about body empowerment and just decided to try it .

whenever she was in a room she would switch on the light throw the towel and stand in the mirror.

Take a Piece of paper and just write everything she loved about her body .

Well I tried it and it was wierd at first but as I did it more I just loved everything about my body .

All I got say is it's your body and if you cut or tear so that you can make some useless people who are also insecure about thier own bodies and want you to feel like them .

Then you are being stupid and that will be you greatest mistake ever.

Beauty standard change everyday.and how you look is perfect .

you guys should totally listen to Melanie Martinez Mrs potato head .

Mealnie martinez is one of the reason I feel empowered about my body and will never change anything about it .

Am not saying my body is better than the rest it's isn't it can never be because perfect is overrated and there is no perfection .

This is coming from a hand of a perfectionist believe it

[nadzhosny2]

Why being perfect is a load of rubbish

Perfect. The most destructive word in the English language. Everyone wants to achieve it, to have it, to BE it and when that doesn’t happen, disappointment, shame and despair start to take over. Eroding at our self-esteem little by little until we become something we don’t even recognise. I loathe perfection with every fibre of my being. Not hate, LOATHE.

Its mere definition pisses me off, “being completely free of fault or defect, having no mistake or flaw.” I had fallen prey to the disease of wanting to be perfect when I was younger. I wanted to be the perfect daughter, the perfect sister, the perfect friend, the perfect girlfriend, the perfect student. I wanted to have the perfect body, the perfect hair, the perfect personality. I thought if I was perfect in everything, I would be happy and everyone would love me. But it’s a very cruel trick.

We have been made to believe that we can never be truly happy unless everything in our life is perfect; the perfect job, perfect house, perfect spouse, perfect car, perfect clothes, perfect faces. It took me several years and several failed attempts at perfection to realise how ridiculous this was. The idea that something or someone with flaws and faults was unworthy. I have only two words for this: FUCK THAT. {If there are any children reading this, kindly quote this article when your mum asks you where you learnt to swear. Thanks. ;)}

Having faults and flaws means being different, unique. A breath of fresh air in a stifling room where there is no change or imagination. Why be perfect and be stuck in stagnation? Always remaining the same, never moving forward or trying to do or be something else. Never trying to be better than we were before, not for others but for ourselves, to see what else we’re capable of and be good at, just for the sake of it. Never trying new things and new experiences. Being perfect means being frozen and I can’t think of anything worse. This is the reason for my loathing.

Trying to be perfect forces us to take on too much, to be impatient, angry, hostile and competitive. News flash people, human beings were never meant to be perfect! If we were, we wouldn’t be able to make mistakes and if we weren’t able to make mistakes, we wouldn’t be able to change and if we can’t change, we are not living.

Do you even want a “perfect” body or face? Honestly, I don’t think that putting in the effort for abs is worth it for me. I would rather play Assassin’s Creed and binge-watch Supernatural.

A perfect face? Every blemish, freckle and spot on your face is a mark that sets you apart from everyone else, something that is so uniquely you and you want to trade it for a face that is plain? For those with acne struggles, that is completely understandable and you are excused. Women used to draw spots on their faces in the 18th century because it was considered the height of beauty. Marilyn Monroe and Cindy Crawford inspired the same.

Family life: Do you care about one another? Make each other laugh, give support whenever needed? Then you checked off the main points. If not, that’s what you should be trying to fix.

Relationship: Relationships can’t be perfect if they are to last longer than 6 months and if you think yours is, then you are lying to yourself and to your partner. Let’s be honest with each other, darling. If Pique can cheat on FREAKING SHAKIRA, there is no such thing as perfect.

Social life: You might be serious about being a great friend/ person in general, but no one is immune from social ups and downs including loneliness, social burnout, FOMO, friendship drama, etc. The mistakes we make are what help guide us to being those great friends and people.

Character: There may be some times when you have displayed tremendous courage, kindness, absolutely non-selfish service and that’s great. Well done you, continue doing so. On the other hand, there will be times when you will stumble; act selfishly, say or do the wrong thing but that doesn’t make you a terrible human being. Life isn’t all sunshine, rainbows and skittles.

Now, if you’re counting, that’s every part of a person’s life and it doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be happy. The only things in my life that I want to be perfect are my bed and internet connection, screw everything else.

[plinkpoink]

really mad that i can’t excel at everything i try for the first time

[ehprybylski]

Practice

Sure, this isn't entirely about writing but it's not not about writing either. Today I spent some time working with my watercolor paints because I'm learning how to use them effectively. I'm trying different techniques and so on. It's fun.

Practice is necessary for art. You learn your tools, what you like, what you need to work on. It gives you a chance to try things you might not otherwise share with anybody. Things like that are really important.

Too often we expect ourselves to be great out of the box. To be perfect without practicing. Without taking time to learn. Obviously that doesn't work. We can't be perfect without being imperfect for a long time. And even then we won't be perfect; we'll just be better.

I'm not an amazing painter. I'm not the best there is. I'm still learning, and I'm still enjoying the process.

Treat everything else the same way. Writing included. Take time to just... do the thing for fun and learn about it. Don't expect yourself to do more than you can.

[curvybottoms]

[noodles-and-tea]

I think I was supposed to be a hobbit

[futuristichedge]

[apathyfairy]

last year i found a wii at goodwill for 25 dollars and it came with everything except a wiimote but it was in such good condition i was like hell yeah ill take it how hard can it be to find a wiimote. the answer is it's nearly impossible to find them at thrift stores now so i've spent like 8 months looking for ones in thrift stores but there wasn't a single one and then online but i just couldn't bring myself to spend 30 dollars on one single wiimote so i waited so. patiently. and then 2 weeks ago i finally found one at goodwill for 9 dollars but it was absolutely disgusting and the battery cover was missing and the compartment was all corroded so i put it back and regretted it the whole week but then this last weekend i went to savers and there was an absolutely perfect wiimote just sitting there with no corrosion and a jacket and the wrist strap and motion plus and the nunchuck was there too and i got it all for 10 dollars so the moral of the story is that sometimes things seem right for you in the moment but you have to recognize that they aren't and leave them behind so the things that are meant for you will in fact find you when the time is right. peace and love <3

[duodamsel]

[oroori-fr]

baby boy. baby.