#pro recovery para

[still-a-bastard]

Pro recovery is an anti para movement pushing to erase paraphilic attractions. Stop saying you’re pro para and pro recovery unless you change recovery’s context from “recovery from paraphilias” to “recovery from trauma induced by paramisia” or something.

[kyowuin]

if you think that having a paraphilic disorder makes u automatically a bad/terrible person me and all the folks who have a paraphilic disorder have the right to cover your house with toilet paper

[rose-courts03]

I just saw something where it said (rq + para talk)

‘… pro/comp-c/neu/anti recovery paraphiles… fuck off or get blocked’ just say you hate paraphiles in general. Just say you can’t handle kink.

Also like wdym pro recovery fuck off they are trying to get better and in a lot of cases get rid of their attraction? Genuinely what is your logic. I feel like I must have pro recovery wrong in my head bc why wouldn’t you want someone to heal?

[dhddmods]

Part 1 of our new "stop demonizing neurodivergence" series!

Everyone is free to use these designs on shirts, stickers, pins, whatever they'd like, as long as they are using it for inclusive purposes! Just don't claim it as your own, please.

Take this as a reminder to use words correctly and avoid spreading negative stereotypes about neurodivergence. Especially when speaking about abusers and politicians. Don't conflate abuse or fascism with neurodivergent traits.

There is no such thing as an "evil disorder."

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The sociopathy & psychopathy design uses the hypoempathy flag colors by @neopronouns. The one with the orange brain is meant to represent a person with low empathy, with the question mark symbolizing how they do not connect to the other person's feelings, and the heart dialogue shows they are still being kind despite not understanding. The one with the blue brain is meant to represent a person with typical or high empathy, with the line connecting their brain to the other person's brain.

The narcissism design uses narcissus flowers (daffodils). Narcissus flowers were named after Narcissus, who in some versions of the myth turned into a flower out of despair of his reflection never being able to give him the affection he desires. The smiling mask represents the confident/affectionate facade, while the person crying represents how they are suffering internally.

The paraphillic disorder design uses the sunset para symbol by @a-hydrangea-named-acti, representing anti-contact & pro-recovery for paraphilic disorders. The upside down heart represents paraphilic attraction itself, and how it goes against the norm of typical attraction.

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Gender and sex are spectrums

Nobody chooses their sex or gender

Intersex people exist

A-specs unite

Attraction is individual, not societal

Queerness is natural

Racial equality matters

All disabilities matter

Support all neurodivergence

[pararecovery]

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[radqfirstsprinkle]

i might be anti recovery towards paras.

liek.

obviously things that can be recovered from do what you want

but if its not something that can be recovered from, do not try to recover. it will not help you.

paraphilia for example, yeah you can work on the issues surrounding it, from my experience i have calmed down paraphilic disorders to a point i would consider them just regular paraphilia now, but if you are not disordered do not try to get rid of it. it will only make you worse. self hatred has only been proven to make you want to do it more and i've seen it happen myself on multiple ends.

you cannot cure attraction

end of story.

and i feel like such a bad person because of this opinion since anti-recovery is always shown as a bad thing in the para community, but like in reality its not curable, professionals know they cannot cure it, if they cannot i doubt you can

hope to feel better and learn to cope so you can live happily and without (non-consentually) harming anyone, dont try to force a part of you out just because you feel its the "moral" thing to do

[aaaaaaaaaaa13478]

hear me out

clayorel but it’s orel as an adult and Orel just doing the most vile things to older Clay. Like….genuinely. Orel seems perfectly normal and well adjusted until you see him when he’s “visiting” Clay. Afghjsgiffgoghojouj

[thecherubprince]

dude having "dni (paraphila)" in your dni is such weird behavior. you cant control a paraphilia?? its not something you can control?? like my man thats like putting "dni borderline" or something.

"oh, dude, but- but but they mean offenders! they mean people who openly fetishize their paraphilia!" then put fetishizers and offenders in the dni. its that simple not to demonize people with paraphilia

-atari 🪡 (he/him)

[warithalshaytan]

Anti recovery nodumophilia

The flag that I based this off of is here.

Flag templates here.

[udontfwplusheslikeidobro]

plushum

Plushophilia =/= bestiality. Plushies are not real animals, they’re objects. Bestiality is bad.

plushophilia =/= radqueer. Pro para doesn’t mean pro raping children animals and corpses and pro ableism. Pro contact is bad.

plushum =/= lgbtq. Objectumsexuality is not an lgbtq sexuality. Sexuality is about gender. LGBTQ is ok but it’s not plushum.

plushum=/= property defacement. We are not going to steal other people’s plushies and suck their faces off.

Plushophilia =/= abuse. We are not abusing our plushies. No one knows what “hurts” these things more than the people who own them. We love them and respect their wants and needs.

it’s okay to be a plushum 💗🧸

[fern-club-creations]

Flag for anti-contact pro-recovery paraphiles!!! :3

(Disclaimer: I do not support pro-contact/anti-recovery paraphiles. It is a harmful disorder that should not be treated lightly and should cause distress. I do not support giving into the thoughts that I, as a paraphile, have, nor do I find the thoughts enjoyable)

[kissflowers]

You support WHAT.

In case it wasn't clear, I support pedophile recovery. That shouldn't be a phrase that makes you recoil in disgust. Pedophiles deserve medical help without judgment. It's not logical or true to assume that all pedophiles have, or will offend

By demonising people minding their own business, you're making recovery much harder for them. That's not what you want

[straitjaqket]

recovery is boundless baby

[pararecovery]

Tips for Coping with Paraphilic Disorders

I wrote this for anyone who needs help coping with sexual thoughts/feelings/urges that bring them distress or harm. If you don't know what paraphilias or paraphilic disorders are, you can learn about that on this other post!

I'm not a professional, just a person with who has a paraphilic disorder. I made this drawing from my own experiences and therapy. I hope it helps you even a tiny bit. 🫂

🧡 First off, I want to say that having a paraphilic disorder does NOT make you a bad person. Your thoughts and feelings =/= your actions! You cannot control that you get feelings, but you can control what you do about them. The fact that you're looking at this list means you're already making positive steps!

💙 Trying to stop yourself from thinking/feeling a certain way tends to make you think/feel it more. The best thing you can do for yourself when having distressing thoughts/feelings is to try to acknowledge that you're having them without any shame or judgement. I know that can be easier said than done. Practicing with nicer thoughts/feelings first can help!

🧡 Please talk to someone. It's so important to have someone who can listen to you without judgement and provide support. If you don't have anyone to talk to, my inbox is always open!

💙 When you're fantasizing in a way you don't want to, try changing just one thing about the fantasy. It's okay if it's only a small change, like changing the color of someone's hair. Just try to make steps towards creating a less distressing fantasy. It'll get easier over time to create more changes. Sometimes your fantasy will return to how it was originally and that's okay. Any effort you make is progress.

🧡Add a new ending to your fantasies. Add in an aftercare scene where it turns out everything was a consensual roleplay, or the characters turn out to have shapeshifting or healing powers, or a director yells "CUT!" to reveal that it was all actors doing a scene.

💙 An exercise I've done when distressed by a paraphilia is to imagine the object of my arousal as something I am protecting, instead. Imagine yourself defending them from harm and sending them away to a safer place.

🧡 If you're concerned about the kind of porn you're looking at, try to walk yourself back to porn that's more clearly fantasy or roleplay. For example, if you're reading stories about rape, try stories about CNC instead. Try animations instead of live action, or fiction/art instead of videos.

💙 Look into grounding techniques and intrusive thought management skills to see if any of them work for you. They can be incredibly helpful.

🧡 Self harm doesn't look like just one thing. It can go hand-and-hand with paraphilic disorder. Some examples could be masturbating to the point of hurting yourself, unsafe solo or partnered play, and looking at porn that emotionally harms you. Please look into safe alternatives to self harm and also learn about HARM MINIMIZATION!

💙 If you're in any friend groups or communities that talk about paraphilias, please make sure that they're healthy for you and not encouraging you to harm yourself or others. Here's a tool for evaluating how toxic a group is. Here's also a guide on protecting yourself from online harassment.

🧡 I cannot stress enough how important it is to educate yourself on healthy boundaries & consent -- even if you think you already know everything! Here's a great guide to start with. Also, if you have any interest in having kinky sex, PLEASE read The New Topping Book or The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy. They are essential.

💙 Lastly, a few extra resources:

Suicide Hotlines & Crisis Helplines

Get Self Help - free self help resources

Therapy Worksheets - free self help worksheets

Online Communities for Survivors - support for SA survivors

Stop It Now UK / Stop It Now USA - preventing CSA

[aspec-carnifist]

A lot of you call yourselves pro or choice recovery because you think it vibes and are rather ignorant of the history of its usage.

(I do think there might be some merit in recontextualizing “pro recovery” as a term and distancing it from medicalizing paraphilias or pro conversion therapy sentiment, but again, I find that most users call themselves pro recovery because of vibes).