#public speaking is scary

[alabasterfuchs]

Somebody please tell me that it's okay that I memorised my three minute speech by heart right now. I feel like a failure for not using bullet points to speak freely but having whole sentences in my mind. I feel like an actor not an advocate of my team.

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

[moonshynecybin]

the tax evasion tears which are actually the injury tears which are actually the control freak about his image tears

[yardsards]

"i dunno, i don't think i have social anxiety or anything, i'm just awkward. like, i can do public speaking with no problem so long as i have a script, it's just that certain weird things make me nervous. it's fine, i just make it sound worse than it is when talking to my therapists." <=guy whose gut feelings are frequently convinced that basically everyone wants to beat him with hammers

[scarycranegame]

sometimes even just someone following you feels like them involving you in their weird fucked up personal drama

[starbuck]

the fact that i enjoy talking in front of other people and gain energy and mental peace from running large group events is so fucking funny and truly the world’s biggest plot twist.

[cha1cedony]

I love that Discord has the ability to be so cozy and close-knit, but I hate that it’s so blocked off from the rest of the internet. And you can’t lurk; you HAVE to be active (or at least active enough to get in in the first place). Ahem anyway. you should invite me to your Discord servers.

🌀 Oooooo you want to invite me to your extremely niche DnDads Discord servers so bad ooooooooooooooooooooo 🌀

…or send me an anonymous ask about my favorite uhhhhhhh? mustelid or something. Ask me for good Lieder on a specific theme.. I’ve been listening to them all day. Maybe this shouldn’t be on my fandom blog???? It has been derailed ANYWAY idk I’m just feeling antsy and rambly hi 😁 How are you HAHA

[apollos-boyfriend]

in better news. i’m now just thinking about how cool crumb’s main sonas are and the gimmick they embody/story they tell

[mdddante]

SO UHHH IA GANG.... HOW WE FEELING ABOUT THIS

[neprezi]

I have a sockpuppet facebook account I use for various purposes and one time I said something along the lines of "Oh my name isn't actually jane that's just what I call myself on here" in DMs and within minutes my account was banned

[lcpmon]

Love molding fanon into something more interesting and not one layered

lngo falling into a "caretaker" role with 3mmet? Yeah because the two were left to look after each other as kids due to busy and often away parents, not because 3mmet can't take care of himself. lngo looks after everyone under his care

3mmet having a bit of an inferiority complex? Yeah, because he was often berated by his parents, adults and even other kids when he was "too intense" (displaying ADHD and autism symptoms) in his youth and often compared to lngo's good behaviour, not because hes bothered by the lack of public attention he gets in their job. He doesn't even blame lngo for it and would never get upset at him about it

[interestinnggg]

Hinata definitely cries during the presentation. Or when needed to take phone calls. Or when ordering in a restaurant.

You can't tell she didn't ask someone else to do all of those above. She's probably scared of embarrassment.

[phantoids]

head in hands at this point i'm just fucking logging off. my dash is just all of this holy shit.

[lovethatlaiduslow]

Had to make a speech in front of 5 kagillion people and I did in fact almost die of fright

[basaltbutch]

oh you know what. remembered i was partially raised by dogs. that might explain some things about me.

[bleachbleachbleach]

Actually, to continue my tl;dr tags on the “do you leave anything on fanfic” poll, another reason I am personally a Comment Believer is because I like having a sense of what my relationship to someone is. (“Like” probably isn’t strong enough a word here.) I don’t actually enjoy Tumblr as a platform; it’s a “well, this is the best offer on tap, so I’ll suffer” platform. My issue is that I don’t get a lot out of faceless parallel play and sometimes I actively dislike it, because I find interacting with people (or non-interacting but cohabitating, as the case may be) when the relationship is unclear to be painful. I want to know, if we have shared interests, in what specific ways do we share them? What is the cadence of our dialogue? What kinds of communication are welcome? Do I have a sense of how you will receive X if I say it, would you be interested in hearing Y? I like having social cues! And context! Because otherwise my default anxious assumption is that people do not like me and wish I weren’t talking to them (though ofc sometimes I also think this in spite of all social cues and/or context to the contrary; so it goes).

Anyway, this is related to being a Comment Believer because even if I read something written by a complete stranger, commenting is all the things we usually say about why comments (which I also very much believe), but they are also my way of offering as much information about an interaction (in this case, with a fic) as possible. It’s like, okay, here’s my cards on the table, here’s what I meant when I clicked the Kudos button. Even if this is the only interaction we ever have, reader to writer, this is how I received this thing you made. That’s what I want to be able to feel like I’ve done. It helps my peace of mind.