#setting systems and goals

[tlbodine]

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[natjennie]

what's weird about the fantasy high drama is that like. it seems to me like people forget d&d is primarily a) a game you play with your friends and also b) luck based.

I mean it's fine to say that "nothing felt like a challenge" and "they just dominated everything and there weren't any stakes" but like. it's not as if they weren't up against huge threats. they lost the mall fight. the last stand was an onslaught of enemies. they fought a dozen dragons from an airship. the fights were hard. they're just really good. they've had very good dice luck in general this season and are all very high level and highly specialized. fig is gonna beat deception and performance checks. adaine's gonna figure out the arcana. riz is gonna succeed investigations. like. for some reason their strategical competence and wisely picked abilities are. a downside? a disappointment?

the thing about d&d that you need to remember is it's first and foremost a game. it's mostly random and it takes you down weird paths and you're playing to have fun with your friends. the dice are literally telling the story that it's their time, it's their year. they've struggled enough. they've trained enough. they're good at what they do. and in my post about the academic/domestic/personal stressors being the focus, d&d doesn't have any other system to work them out than rolling different skills. that's what d&d is. brennan set specific challenge levels for different tasks and the players strategized to prioritize which abilities they were strongest in. the challenges were there. and the players rose to them. they were both smart in their delegation of responsibilities and lucky with their dice rolls. of which, both are foundations of d&d.

don't mistake them being good players and getting lucky with there being no hardship. just because they smashed through the wall, that doesn't mean the wall wasn't strong. they were just stronger.

[everyillumi]

[waitineedaname]

the system possession au has had me thinking lately: how do you guys interpret the system when it comes to the two transmigrators? Do you see it as one system working with both transmigrators for the same overarching goal of Fixing The Plot, or do you see it as two distinct systems, unique to each transmigrator?

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

That one trend but it’s one increment at a time bc rejection sensitivity dysmorphia has me scared of looking like an idiot with 4 notes ahaha

50 notes & I will

drink more water (easy since I drink like none ever)

regularly post lil hydration reminders

set a new goal

[tittyinfinity]

Hey doctor I've been feeling kinda down lately. Yeah it's actually the state of the world and how I and everyone I know can't afford to live anymore haha. All I really need is the ability to get enough rest while having financial stability and living a comfortable life lol. But our government isn't allowing that to happen which suuuuucks. so. being medicated is my only option unfortunately haha. Which meds will allow me to numb my thoughts about the world out so I can continue to be a good worker under capitalism? Yeah yeah I basically just need to be able to ignore the descent into fascism haha

[quietwingsinthesky]

this is why i love the dark!fryes au because you really only have to make one change for it to work: instead of jacob wrecking london while evie’s back is turned, evie watches, goes ‘:( oh noooooo. how awful. who could have predicted jacob would do such a thing. anyway since it’s all been burned to the ground, the right thing to do is to replace the previous system with assassin money and manpower :) for the good of the people.’ and then she points at another person/industry for jacob to destroy and does it all over again.

[gunslinginnhogtyin]

Im going to spend most of my day sorting through replies, adding to queue, and drawing. I may be slow for a few days because I’m wanting to organize my vast amount of drafts kdjdjdj

[meowdei]

I change my vision depending on the selfship tbh

[hopesandmountains]

I think one of the key things for any relationship is to discover what your needs are.

Because otherwise you’re going to try and meet those needs in ways that aren’t entirely conscious to you.

Everybody has a need for passion, love, understanding, physical closeness etc. but we all find different ways of meeting that need.

And the most straightforward answer is to find a relationship.

However for those of us with emotional trauma it’s not really always easy or straightforward to find and build a relationship. And honestly that’s not always the priority for everybody anyhow.

The need for passion, love, and intensity can outweigh the need for a long lasting connection, especially when dealing with people who are suffering from trauma or living a life where they constantly feel anxious or overwhelmed.

And of course because a long lasting and intimate connection with someone else can just be a scary thing, especially when trauma or other factors have left you unsure about your connection with yourself.

However the thing is, the solution is not really looking for a causal relationship either. If your need is true passion and investment, whether you admit it to themselves or not, you are placing actual stakes on how things are going to work out and you would be personally hurt if you ever if you were to feel used like just another causal fling.

This is especially true with those who have attachment issues or abandonment issues, because unlike securely attached people who can just walk away, unresolved attachment issues can latch you onto someone even if you hardly know them.

So realizing it or not, it is kind of like a gamble that either things will just work out together in the long run, or that by the time the relationship runs it’s course, that having that passion love and understanding will have left you in a more resourced place where you will not only be able to handle the emotions of separating, but will also be left in a more emotionally secure place that is better then where you started.

And that’s not entirely untrue. Having someone compassionate who truly cares about you can really help you boost your mental health, and if you really work at it while you have those additional resources they are giving you through their care, you can heal yourself and build that emotionally security from within.

But really the therapist answer would be to look for friends, social supports, healthy communities, groups you belong to etc. to use as additional resources to help you heal and build that emotionally security.

And in fairness, the way society is set up doesn’t really make it easy to build a social support group and it’s not always a bad idea to just get to know someone and see where things naturally go.

But it can be more reckless and unsafe. By putting heavy emphasis on passion too early on in a relationship, your risk opening up yourself to someone toxic or not good for you or in the worst case outright abusive.

And this is why it’s important to know your needs, because if you try and meet them in a way that feels familiar to your childhood trauma, it can be a recipe for disaster if you are unconsciously trying to recreate an unsafe environment.

So regardless of what you do I emphasis learning more about yourself, slowing things down, and seeing how you feel at each step. See if past traumas get brought up, if attachment issues start acting up, if what you are feeling is limerence or true connection, if you are considering your own needs in the relationship, if you are voicing those needs in a healthy manner, if you are staying true to yourself or if you are “fawning”.

And it’s not that I want to scare people off from finding connections or meeting new people, I just think it’s really important to understand your needs in a way that you can confident in yourself and confident enough in the relationship to move forward.

And confident enough to objectively consider losing the relationship, confident enough to objectively decide what kind of relationship it is that you want (considering your own needs and not someone else’s), and confident to walk away if that is what is best for you.

So try and volunteer somewhere, join clubs, slowly let yourself be more social to be build that social safety net, and yes please take risks. At some point you will have to address your own vulnerability and that means risking yourself.

And this post is already a lot so the last thing I will stress is just how important it is to understand your own vulnerability so you don’t unintentionally make yourself more vulnerable than you intend to. A lot times when people aren’t comfortable being vulnerable but want to try to be, they can overextend and be more vulnerable than they intend to. And here’s a good video to learn about that.

[the-blue-phantom]

really funny opening trackbear today and getting a banner saying they now allow you to import nanowrimo projects/data. cant imagine what led to that happening

[gachaparadise]

[coolprincessworld]

How I stay motivated through College

Of course it can be hard staying motivated through college, especially when those midterms come by and finals being around the corner but that doesn’t mean you should dread college. In fact you should remain motivated and I’m going to explain exactly how to do that! College only gets draining if you allow it to. The truth is you can make college feel like the best part about your day. There’s several ways to start this journey, but it’s not difficult. When I first started college I came into it with the same mindset as almost everyone else, however that changed fairly quickly. Here’s a set of things that I started to do to start romanticizing, staying motivated, and loving college!

 I started to realize that I focused a lot better when I had a neat and tidy place to study at, whether that was at my local coffee shop, or on my desk (after I cleaned it). This makes me feel more productive and motivated overall. Now I know that when we take several classes we think we have no time left in our days, but one thing that has changed my life is setting goals for myself & creating a schedule, whether that’s on the notes app, or in my planner. I keep a digital planner and a paper planner on me at all times and this helps me check things off my to-do lists, trust me when I tell you it’s the BEST feeling ever physically crossing out a task you needed to get done. Although we may feel super overwhelmed with the amount of homework we may get sometimes, it's very important to TAKE BREAKS. Don’t burn yourself out because that’ll only lead you to dreading anything school related. One thing that I focus on when I have lengthy assignments is taking breathing breaks. Now I know this may sound silly but trust me when I say it’s a game changer, stopping for 5 minutes won’t put you too behind, if anything it’s better to take breaks in between. With this being said, it’s important to celebrate your accomplishments! Believe me when I tell you that any accomplishment is a win, and should be celebrated. After any accomplishment I want you to remind yourself that you did it and give yourself a pat on the back. No one will ever be as excited for your own accomplishments more than yourself (I know we all feel excited about little accomplishments in our minds, so why not express them out loud)! Next thing I wanted to note is dress up. I am a strong believer of looking good, feeling good! Don't let the fear of being the only one dressing up for school stop you, I promise no one will care and it’ll benefit you the most! Buy a cute/fresh outfit, do your hair, decorate your bag, etc. This is probably one of my favorite things about college, going back to school shopping and getting new things (yes it keeps me going)! Lastly, focus on your “why”. Remind yourself why you're here and why you're dedicated to finish school. Manifest that dream job that you WILL get after college, and remind yourself that getting up to go to school in the morning is all for a bigger purpose in your life. You’re doing this for a reason, and you’re going to be a rockstar in any career path that you choose!

[lil-oreo-crumbles]

You know back when the AU was a comic, I was able to gloss over so much of the politics of Mewni Creek I was not well equipped to handle and focus instead on the relationships and bonds that were important to the story going forward and explain the new governmental system of this combined world after it had been established and the masses calmed long down.

But now? Now that it’s a fic? Now that I have to essentially re-start the Ovelia establishment and better flesh out her blossoming friendships and connections to the main cast?

I’ve really gotta buckle down and write the politics and post-Cleaved chaos don’t I.

Man…

[wittyno]

Courts number one goal is not justice, it’s to make the least amount of work for itself.

[mynamesdrstuff]

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