I feel like people are conflating continuing the joke with invading their privacy… like no one is stalking them or sneaking pictures or bothering their friends and family asking about them we’re just continuing their joke that they set up within our fandom space. Which is exactly as we should be doing imo
yeah exactly. like i think when outsiders dont understand that we are in on the bit that makes some sense, but when it's PHANNIES especially phannies who joined post coming out???? it seems strange.
oh i didnt really explain why this kinda behavior is homophobic as well. (disclaimer: me calling an action homophobic is not the same as me calling an individual homophobic.) a lot of ppl use pj and sophie as a direct comparison straight couple example. pj has only directly called sophie his girlfriend once, and it was in the context reading someone's poorly written article about him lmao. otherwise, its known that they met in uni, have lived together since then, have worked on nearly every kickthepj project together, and generally their on screen energy is really sweet and funny. they also have a cat together and call themselves a family. it's not a stretch to say they're together in the slightest. in fact, it is just natural to assume so.
BUT when dnp who are now publicly out, have been very open about how much they mean to each other, have lived together since dan was in uni, have worked on nearly every project together (even in solo projects the other would help out behind the scenes), have a clear on camera chemistry together, had co-parented a fish, a pigeon, and several houseplants and possibly plan to get a dog or other pet in the future... suddenly it's wrong to assume anything.
i understand the fear that may come from having been in the phandom since when they were closeted and it was much harder to talk about it without seeming like youre aligned with stalkers or ppl who harassed their families or dnp themselves to reveal more information, but thats not the case anymore, and ESPECIALLY if you discovered them post-gay, it's such a flimsy argument to say anyone is breaching privacy in that way.
now there are still some like unspoken basic decency and boundary rules. you probably shouldnt be @'ing them in your smutfics or even your pretty innocent theories about them being super duper in gay love. dnp themselves understand that if they aren't being @ tagged in something, it's probably not meant for them to see, and even acknowledged that in the twitter memes video. but us talking about it in our own spaces, especially on tumblr where they arent on as much but also on twitter BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT THEYRE NOT MEANT TO SEE IT, is not the same as being like hey @/danielhowell @/amazingphil do you fuck nasty i gotta know if you fuck nasty. (but even if i were to do that, i feel like its very clearly a joke lmao)
so like just dont worry about it, if you still personally dont like seeing ppl talk abt this stuff regardless, you can mute and block people, you can blacklist tags, you can curate your own experience to fit your needs and you dont need to harass other people into suiting your needs.
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thinking about how Harper loves making the pc (and possibly others) into happy little unaware patients that are subconsciously sluts since all of his pills and treatments decrease awareness and increase control but then there's obviously everything else he has people do under hypnosis
So just imagining him doing all the fucked up stuff he does and erasing your memory afterwards like normal but eventually when you come to therapy you start telling him about these weird dreams you're having about a mysterious figure doing things you don't understand to you and he realizes you're just having dreams about all the shit he does when you're hypnotized and so then it becomes VERY important for you to tell him about these dreams in as much detail as possible with your cute little confused innocent face that doesn't know what any of it means while he's absolutely cranking it under his desk
"A-And how did it feel to you? Be as thorough as possible..."
"It... gave me a weird feeling in my stomach. And my body felt really hot-... Dr. Harper? Are you okay?"
"Hm? I'm fine, keep going..."
"But your face is all flushed and your breathing is kinda... A-And you're shaking! Your arm especially-"
"Do the dreams make you feel uncomfortable at all?"
You pause for a moment, despite your concern.
"They... didn't at first, not even a little bit. But now something feels a little weird about them. I can't really put my finger on why."
He hums in feigned thought at your response. He was trying not to let his eyes linger on your face for too long, but god, you were so cute like this.
"Maybe your treatment wasn't the most effective. I believe some exposure therapy might help... We can start today. One moment."
You look at him expectantly, nodding in acknowledgement. His cheeks start to flush a little again.
"Now I want you to watch what I'm doing... and not look away. Get close and take in every detail..."
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